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1. #113  Chico M.

   

   Francis,
   The best thing u shud do is to face ur fear! Be true to urself bcoz that is the time that u can breathe naturally. Follow ur instinct.

   09/06/12 02:20

2. #112  Mike

   

   Francis, all you have to do is pray…pray and pray and pray for guidance in this kind of complicated situations.

   09/06/09 23:35

3. #111  Josh

   

   Mahirap talaga yubg ganitong situation. Minsan nga you intend not to be honest even with yourself kasi parang “sino ba yung gusto ng ganitong buhay” na sometimes you tend to question Him. I tried naman na maging itama kung mali nga ba maging ganito tayo pero ang hirap. lalo na if you have someone na alam mo masasaktan at di ka matatanggap in time na malaman nya. yan din naman ang buhay ko ngayon. hahanaphanapin pa rin kahit gusto mo tumigil. Sana lang we find ways na matanggap natin sarili natin.

   09/04/29 01:12

4. #110  Myk2ts

   

   do whatever makes you happy. follow your heart. that wont make you a lesser father to your daughter

   08/11/23 11:32

5. #109  Philip

   

   Pareho lang tayo less the money being paid. hehe

   08/10/22 03:02

6. #108  JACK

   

   OKEY LANG YUN FRANCIS

   08/10/09 16:27

7. #107  mike

   

   Tsk tsk. I think you should leave some time to yourself to figure out whichever part of gay sex you really want. If it’s the money, then there shouldn’t be confusion. But if it’s the action yada yada yada, you really should be thinking more.

   08/10/03 22:51

8. #106  tooby

   

   i don’t believe in bisexuality  its  eitheir  gay  or straight,me i know i’m  gay,pero kung gugustuhin ko pwede din ako makipag relasyon sa opposite sex…pero  gay  pa din ako..hindi ako malandi hindi out  pero tanggap ko na

   08/09/27 09:17

9. #105  Fred

   

   Go for it, have sex with a man. Walang masama dun.

   08/09/20 09:08

10. #104  trent

    

    he’s definitely gay..

    08/08/23 23:44

11. #103  ed

    

    If you find yourself in a homosexual act, having sex with the same that is, you’re enjoying it and you go looking for it, then you’re a homosexual. As for your case Francis, clearly, you’re gay. As you have admitted it in your email, you enjoy having sex with a man, you’re looking for it and you’re making the prostitution thing as an alibi…clearly, you’re gay. Embrace your sexuality and still be responsible with you kid.

    08/08/19 13:18

12. #102  Rickyboy2

    

    Wow sure he’s bi, his friendster account please!!!!

    08/08/14 20:19

13. #101  ricco

    

    it’s not that easy to come out in the open..we must know that. philippine setting is entirely different from the european countries, where they found it an’ honor’ to expose their sexuality. it takes courage to come out from your’ cavern’ and tell the world that you are a closet queen.. take your time. think.ponder. be ready for the consequences once you have decided to come out.. cheers!

    08/07/31 15:24

14. #100  Carl

    

    I think you’re only confused coz you have a wife and a child involved, had you been single, I’m sure you’ve already explored man to man sex… I have to say, my partner’s cousin is a masseur, according to him, 90% of the men who worked there are like you, gays who are just using their “work” to have sex with guys, having the perfect alibi that they’re only doing it for money…

    08/07/19 14:30

15. #99  Miggie

    

    Please send me francis’ friendster account URL. Thanks

    08/07/19 12:16

16. #98  royvi

    

    pls send me francis’ friendster accout URL…

    thanks, migs!

    08/06/22 17:35

17. #97  nick

    

    agree a bit with locomotor.
    but we have to give F the benefit of the doubt.

    08/06/19 21:58

18. #96  invertedrose

    

    be free francis!
    ps. yung pic na ginamit is a totally naked guy. meron ako, ang laki ng hawak niya. peace.

    08/06/12 21:57

19. #95  Gelai

    

    i’d like to be fair with my comment and try not to put any emotions on it.

    anyway, as i see it, you’re not actually confused, you know you really wanted to be with a woman. you’re not gay nor a bi. you said it yourself, you only had sex with a man out of your need for money, no emotions involved.

    you’ve been living with your partner for three years and yet you remain confused?!..the numberss simply don’t add.

    08/06/09 16:05

20. #94  locomotor

    

    i dont buy this.. i simply think that this guy is looking for gay guys who will pay him for sex.. at this point you should be able to distinguish your sexuality.. if you actually feel something for the same sex.. then your gay.. perioud.. i myself am gay and a father.. beleive me its your choice..

    08/06/04 16:21

21. #93  juan paulo

    

    hi francis..

    how are you now? how are you as a family man? just want to let you know that i admire your courage a lot to confess things about you and what you do.. you could always be responsible without sacrificing your happiness.. you have to settle things with the mother of your kid as soon as possible so that you everything will fall in the right perspective.. you have to let her understand what you are undergoing at the moment.. lastly, prayers work.. believe me..

    God bless you!

    08/05/30 15:34

22. #92  Jeremy

    

    well, there’s nothing wrong with being responsible but if and kapalit naman ng responsibility na yan ay ang happiness mo that’s a different story, later on magsisisi ka at susundin mo rin ang puso mo of what ever you want to be kasi kahit minsan pilitin natin magpakastrong at suwaying ang ating puso dahil sa consequences pag sinunod natin to in the end ang puso din ang mananalo mangyayari at mangyayari din whatever’s ment to happen, i know and you know what the right thing to do it might sound very wrong as of now because of the consequences but the longer it takes the more consequences there will be.

    good luck and ingat ka nalang tol

    08/05/27 06:23

23. #91  EDDIE Pinoy Lover

    

    DEAR FELLOW GAY MEN & BOYS, A MESSAGE TO OUR DEAR “CONFUSED FRANCIS” , Francis, I almost feel your pain, for I too was married and had many girlfriends and even fathered two adult sons, for as a Puerto Rican male I thought it was expected of me to grow and multiply. But nevertheless, I have always known my true predilection for other men since I was a Little boy! THe fact remains, we live the lives that many times others including our parents expect of us and forget tolive our Real Lives for fear of loathing and reproach. The fact remains: it is after all your life, and you should live it according to your ideas and passions to enable you to live it fully. THerefore, be true to yourself and your true calling and desires, fulfill yourself and be as happy as you can be for Life is much better spent doing the things you love the most and desire the best! Wish you luck and fortitude my dear one. Love is in the air!!!!!!

    08/05/27 05:26

24. #90  manny

    

    madali lang yan

    08/05/26 22:35

25. #89  pest

    

    set yourself free…

    08/05/26 00:11

26. #88  gerry

    

    hey, migz!

    sounds like he’s a g0y, wouldn’t you agree?

    franz,

    basahin mo post re “g0y’s”.

    08/05/18 22:50

27. #87  blake

    

    francis,

    it is ok to be confused, in a way na kaya mo siyang panindigan in the end… ako sometimes nagkakagusto din ako sa boys, lalo na if they are talagang sexually attractive… kaya dapat you must be proud of what and who you are…

    08/05/17 00:10

28. #86  frankie

    

    francis….

    it’s really confusing at first pero malalaman mo kung ano ka talaga if you keep on doing whatever makes you happy…..i myself is a little bit confused my friends are straight gay di na cla naaatract sa girl …at first i thought ganun din ako for so many yeras pro may girl na nakagrab nang attention ko i liked her kaya i hanged out with her all the time but when i met her older brother naatract din ako sa kuya nya dahil gwapo now im really confused i only do what i liked to keep the confusion out of my ming and di ko alm kung maggigym ako kasi i want to gain muscles kaso im really scared na baka pag nalaman ng mga co gymers ko na gay ako eh pagtawanan lang ako….

    08/05/10 20:34

29. #85  emman

    

    Just Find Your Happiness!!

    08/05/05 14:20

30. #84  rommel

    

    magkano ka ? hahahahha

    08/04/10 02:27

31. #83  mark

    

    thats really hard, you know what you like but you dont know why…

    08/04/03 01:40

32. #82  ako

    

    taena… daming kagaya pala d2… haha… email nyo nga ako, pra may mlabasan ako ng mga storya ko at storya nyo.. kala ko kc ako lng ang ganito. mga gwapo lng gaya ko… haha.. marami n rin ako experience sa same sex… hindi ko inisip kahit kelan basta nlang nangyari.. tinawag ako ng trabahador nmin, macho xa at may asawa.. hindi mo aakalain, ako nman bata pa noon… tpos alam nyo n siguro gnawa nya sakin… ako nman wala ako ngawa, sa loob ko nasarapan ako. tpos noon, ngkagirlfriends ako, pero pag nililibugan ako, lalake nmn ang hinahanap ko.

    08/03/10 16:31

33. #81  ernsthjnry

    

    lam mo pareho tau eh..
    pero d q mssbi n gay aq ksi ms attracted aq s fem eh..
    uhm..massbi q lang..
    bsta be true to yourself..
    icpin m n lang yung bgay n nkkpgpaligaya sau..
    mdli sbhin dba?pro mhrap gwin..
    s subj nmin n developmental psychology may mga adults tlaga or young adults n in that stage of their life eh sex role confused p rin sila..
    you don’t have to stay in a relationship n d kna happy..
    eto n alng siguro mssbi q..
    yun nga, be true to yourself, and always find the things that will make you happy, feel comfortable and at ease..
    remember that “regrets are forever”
    k?hope i helped..

    08/03/07 01:59

34. #80  jello

    

    ok lang yan. kung nasan ung puso muh dun ka.

    08/03/04 22:51

35. #79  joyleslie

    

    we always have a choice. Follow your instincts. It may seem hard but it’s all for the best.

    08/02/27 01:03

36. #78  mabuhayventus

    

    francis…

    the best thing you can do is to be true to your self…

    08/02/23 20:37

37. #77  someone

    

    since ur mature na, (i think), mature men delayed gratification you stated that u have a daughter so take care of her na lang and be happy

    08/02/22 00:42

38. #76  unknown

    

    Be true lang…

    08/02/20 02:01

39. #75  JOEL GANDA

    

    just be yourself and follow what your heart desires ksi dun ka lng tlaga sasaya. just free your true self and follow what you think will make you happy. francis, penge ng fs muh? G0d bless you!

    08/02/16 20:40

40. #74  jp2175

    

    Life is too short, as the cliche goes. So, the first you have to do is be true to yourself. Acceptance, my friend. Then, I’m sure it wouldn’t be that hard for you to be happy.

    08/02/13 13:05

41. #73  mykeyohann

    

    being in a state of confusion is I think one of the more normal stages in our own character formation. Its because as we grow up, we tend to develop certain personalities that are out of our “natural” influences. Nature vs Nurture as some people would say. Certain psychologists developed stages in life development that would be labelled identity vs gender roles.

    Being in a state of confusion, is I think better than to have no options at all. What I would suggest is for him to explore his options and check his choices… once e is happy…then he should go for it! K?

    I hope I helped!

    08/01/31 18:51

42. #72  jake

    

    i dont think you should be confused, or anyone having same scenario or even just a bit related. There’s nothing to be confused for the mere fact that it is already noted and universally accepted that there are individual who are bisexuals, aside from beibg gay or lesbian. Dapat nga di na issue ‘to. Accept who you are, and try to enjoy what you feel can make you happy, pero cempre dapat lagi nasa lugar tayo… dapat wala tayong nasasagasaan o nasasaktan when we’re doing something.

    08/01/23 12:47

43. #71  CuteBoy

    

    Uhm…
    Ewan ko lang ah..
    Pero parang same tayo..
    ang problem is single pa ako
    i have no experience with SEX either sa babae or lalake..
    pero naguguluhan ako..
    i like both girls and boys..
    pero naguguluhan ako

    08/01/22 14:51

44. #70  genxcop

    

    katulad na katulad mo yung nakilala ko sa chat, married with a daughter still, confused about his sexuality.. just do whatever you think will make you happy and contented..

    08/01/22 01:57

45. #69  greg

    

    I just hope this one will be posted without bias for some enlightenment. I’m gay also but I am not excluding myself. I know I am a sinner too!

    I just want to quote hustlingmind, ang advice niya kay Francis ay “pray very hard you’ll not get caught by your wife”.

    Reaction ko lang po, maling mali po yata, ibig sabihin gagawin pang konsintidor ang Diyos sa kasalanan gagawin. Kahit saang angulo, kasalanan yan! Being a homosexual is not a sin but the practice of doing it!

    Heto po ang bible verse:
    1 Corinthians 6:9-10 – “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” (NIV).

    08/01/21 21:47

46. #68  John Tan

    

    Francis,

    I’ve encountered guys like you before. Your story and their story have common elements as I observe, that is, not knowing what they prefer. Nonetheless, I admire your openness to seek and to explore what direction you could take. I must say to you it’s not easy.

    Even those who had already chosen their path to homosexuality still experience some difficulty. After all, we’re all humans with feelings, emotions, choices and pressures that we deal everyday.

    What can you do? I guess, you ought to enjoy the sexual experience with same sex, and just keep your paternal responsibilities with your child. As for your woman, if you don’t feel any love for her then submit yourself for separation/annulment or just call it quits. How are you going to do that is your style and your style alone.

    Lastly, don’t forget to pray. Still no matter how things are going against you, you don’t surrender but pray to Him. He can help you find your way and most importantly He can keep you grounded and strong in any of the situation you will have to face.

    I hope my thoughts will help you. Hope you’ll read this. Cheers man~!~

    08/01/20 21:40

47. #67  kuku

    

    kawawa anak mo..

    08/01/19 22:28

48. #66  mark mercir

    

    look for happiness…

    08/01/14 11:36

49. #65  berdie

    

    dont’t you think it’s clear enough? what you do doesnt create a confusion, it tells more of who you are and just dont make stupid alibi… it kills all your self-worth… whatever that is… enjoy!

    can i have his freindster?…
    thanks…

    08/01/11 21:12

50. #64  liam carl

    

    life is brief, enjoy it

    08/01/02 20:47

51. #63  franz francisco

    

    majority ng mga confused men ay may mga karanasan nung bata pa na nag-trigger na maging bakla sila..siguro ganon ang case mo.

    07/12/24 01:29

52. #62  jang chul soo

    

    asus, hindi talaga ako makapaniwalang may mga taong ganito kaconfused. If you like COCK, if you like MEN, you’re gay! Tapos!

    07/12/19 02:59

53. #61  mark

    

    sarap mo francis….

    07/12/19 02:46

54. #60  kris

    

    and anong friendster nya? hehe

    07/12/19 02:29

55. #59  kris

    

    migs, do u still hav contacts with him?

    07/12/19 02:25

56. #58  lioblue

    

    hi francis. . . nu eadd mu? hehe

    07/12/18 01:06

57. #57  paul

    

    Francis,

    At the end of the day, it is the choices you make that defines you and not what you are. Like what the credo goes.. its not what you are but what you do that defines you.

    07/12/17 21:42

58. #56  kris

    

    talk to your ka-realtionship.
    kesa naman niloloko mo siya db?

    07/12/14 07:46

59. #55  luke

    

    you know there’s nothing to worry about… history repeats itself as they say… just be yourself and contribute to the 10% (featured somewhere in this site) … hehehehe…

    07/12/13 04:11

60. #54  elms

    

    i think you are gay :p

    07/12/10 16:10

61. #53  beng mahadera

    

    Francis anak kumain k maigi wag k magpalipas gutom hane, abay confusing talaga yan.

    07/11/30 01:32

62. #52  gee

    

    I emphatize with you. Pinagdaanan ko din situation mo. Sana mahanap u sarili mo.

    07/11/26 17:54

63. #51  Fade

    

    I would like to think of gender as something that is flowing, therefore I would not want to put myself under any label. Love who you want, go to bed with who you want. Francis, if you are really not happy with your marriage, recondsider. Why would you stay? Do the reasons for your staying in the marraige weigh more than your feelings of wanting to escape?

    Only you can know. Shut all the voices out and listen to your soul.

    Migs, my post is quite late, but may I ask, whatever happened to Francis?

    07/11/25 20:22

64. #50  terrence lee

    

    ” Live your life the way you want it to.”

    That’s what you should know and do…. short but meaningful…. take care!

    07/10/12 11:09

65. #49  kevin garcia

    

    i’m in the same boat that is why i symphatize with you. i really don’t know where the waves will take me

    07/10/05 15:52

66. #48  zirhc

    

    Being honest to yourself disregarding other people’s opinion on your as a very good breather for a confuse mind. I do agree with others here, search within yourself and be brave enough to face the truth. It also helpful to confide to your most trusted friend or companion, but you should be very careful because they might misjudge you. But the things is, if you hide things by yourself, people will suspect and talk about you, if you’ll be honest to them, they will talk to you either. So, the option is up to you. For me, people talking about me being an honest person to them and to myself is lot easier and stress free option.

    07/09/20 17:27

67. #47  sTeff

    

    jUst aLwAys foLLow yOur hEart,
    tHen, tHere wiLL be nO dOubt iN tHe eNd!

    07/09/16 00:10

68. #46  jerry

    

    oo nga sabi dito pag nagpost ka bibigay sau acct, di naman! hmp!

    07/08/18 16:51

69. #45  cham

    

    anu po ba ang friendster account ni francis??

    07/08/16 17:39

70. #44  landsz

    

    i think u alone can tell what will make you happy.
    You can try both worlds at a time, but as i say always think of the consquences first, be ready for them and then when u r ready do it.
    But if you already have a kid by a woman, my personal up bringing would tell me to ask you to work it out with your kid’s mother. But again it is for you to decide.
    Just carefully identify your options and actions and study their consequences.
    i wish you wise judgement…
    *wink

    07/08/16 06:46

71. #43  Harry Potter

    

    tripper?

    07/08/11 16:48

72. #42  kenny

    

    .kung ano magpapaligaya sayo dun ka.speak to somebody that will understand and accept u.gudlak

    07/08/04 03:36

73. #41  fenzo

    

    ei i think u’ll just get rid of that feeling dude…stick t your family, thats my advice….

    07/07/29 13:08

74. #40  ren

    

    fran, you just hooked up by your job. lilipas din yan.

    07/07/08 02:05

75. #39  Wheng

    

    Hi Francis!

    As they say, we are given the free will–the freedom to choose and the freedom to live life to the fullest.

    In your case, you chose your path. It may be the right or wrong way. But, just always keep in mind that if there’s life, there’s still hope. Use that hope to lead you to that path you REALLY want to take.

    You can always go back and start all over again. Just make sure that when turning back, you should take all your regrets so that as you go on, you will feel relieved.

    And always remember that at the end of the day, it is you who has the power to change your life! No one can dictate you from doing things.

    07/06/01 20:08

76. #38  Hoobeewon

    

    France…

    I agree when other will say that we only live once and make it the most out of it..

    but please think what is good for your child..

    Lust will never last forever but believe that FAMILY will do..

    Maraming walang pamilya pero ikaw meron na kaya why choosing your selfish desire pa when you have a family that you can call your own..

    think about it kid..

    nasa huli ang pagsisisi…

    07/05/12 09:42

77. #37  jerry

    

    Though maybe much arguable, homosexuality is partly a choice. If I were you, and kung may pag-asa ka pang maging straight, maging straight ka nalang. Let’s accept the fact that this world exalts straights more over the non-straights. Saka kung sinasabi ong di ka naman na-aattract sa guys, technically, hindi ka naman homosexual. Siguro comparatively better lang ang naging experience mo with men than with women. Meaning baka naman yung mga nakasex mong babae ay mga tuod lang at di passionate, e ikumpara mo ba naman sa mga bading na gagawin lahat para mapasaya ang kapartner nila, di ba? Pwede rin baka may fetish kalang or baka may experience ka nung bata ka na dapat mong balikan para maexplain kung bakit mas gusto mong makipagsex sa lalaki, or better yet, para malaman mo kung bakit gusto mong nakikipagsex sa mga taong hindi ka naman attracted! Weird di yun ba? Consult a psychiatrist kaya? I’m serious! Hehehe!

    07/05/09 01:58

78. #36  Gab

    

    just believe in your self and everything will be fine! believe me that is what most of us did… but in different approaches!

    07/04/20 23:17

79. #35  Banjo

    

    You need to start with identifying what is important in your life. From ther you can now process on how you want your life to proceed.

    07/04/20 09:51

80. #34  Benjamin

    

    Once you have made the next step, I think it would be difficult to turn back. Process it really well before you decide on anyhting because whatever it is will definitely affect the life and future of your child.

    07/04/20 09:48

81. #33  summer

    

    whew..its good to be true..yep confused ka talaga sa sexuality mo nu..so i think para sa akin bisexual ka..pero what rigore said that there’s no such things as “bisexual” they are just gays who act like a man..mabuhay tayong mga bading..siyempre mahilig ka mkipagsex sa amin so obviously masarap kming mga bading ikama..hehe

    07/04/20 08:55

82. #32  rigore

    

    i really don’t believe in such thing as bisexuality. my personal opinion is that bi are actually gays who have not accepted themselves as such. but i think if some people doesn’t want to be out for their own personal reason, other gays should respect that. para bang sa mundo ng kabaklaan, not to be out is a mortal sin and some kind of hypocrisy. tayo dapat ang more compassionate to the flight of gays who wanted to be out but can’t be out for some personal reason. i am a gay guy who was out since i was 14 yrs old and after more than 20 years of being happily out, i feel for my closeted brothers(or should i say sisters), but if you think this is a better situation for you, i will respect your decision. cheers to migs for this site.mabuhay ang mga bakla!

    07/04/02 08:17

83. #31  andrei

    

    dont be afraid to come out kung talagang sure ka na sa yong pagkatao. try to determine what u want and. you are right now in a stage of confusion. pag nahanap mo na sarili mo. get out of ur shell.

    07/03/23 16:22

84. #30  cham

    

    dumadaan talaga lahat sa ganyang stage.. pero syempre kailangan dn nating subukan lahat para malaman natin kng cino talaga tayo..:) ano po ba friendster account ni francis? tnx

    07/03/23 01:24

85. #29  dennis

    

    May we know his FRIENDSTER account? Or his number perhaps? Thanks.

    07/03/04 15:47

86. #28  dennis

    

    Well, try to determine what you want – And go for it.

    07/03/04 15:45

87. #27  mike

    

    umm.. hey, Identical Crisis lang yun.. but if u wanna find out, then go ahead and try. mayb Bi curious lang talaga ka. but for me nothing wrong with it.. sige take care

    07/02/21 12:27

88. #26  Marikit Katada Natividad

    

    Hi… I am Marikit, a licensed civil engineer and taking up master degree in construction management in MAPUA Institute of Technology. I am just confused with myself. Pag nakakita ako ng mga guapo lalaki, kinakati ang “pussy ” ko at gusto ko makipagsex sa kanila. Sa isang linggo, nakasex ako ng 31 na ibat-ibang lalaki, maski ang teacher namin sa MAPUA ibinolow job ko sa sobrang libog ko sa CR. Maski ang ang mga kaklase ko, niyaya ko ng 11pm sa gym para makipagsex sa kanya. Pero di ayaw ko tlga ng lalaki, gusto ko lang sa kanila makipagsex at iblow job sila, bsta guapo at matangkad. Ksi pretty rin ako. Ewan ko ba adik tlaga ako sa lalaki..

    07/02/18 02:56

89. #25  william

    

    all i can say is that first you have to take responsibility to your daughter. next is to face your fears, apprehension etc., i guess it really is all up to you. just stay focus and don’t forget to ask for help/support from your family and people dear to you

    07/02/16 00:29

90. #24  major

    

    just follow your instincts.

    07/02/10 17:10

91. #23  Mhadz

    

    i just realized that my situation is far easier than what francis and those who are afraid of recognizing themselves as gays. I am out yet still experiencing various kinds of discrimination in our society pero i must admit, im already numb with those stuffs. Kaya I dont think hindi na problem sa akin ang discrimination. besides, my family and friends love me for who I am.

    IN your situation, i really feel the unexplainable pressure you’re feeling now. It is far more difficult than the pressure I got from the homophobic society. I have to commend you for your honesty and openness to share these dilemmas of yours here. Super super two thumbs up ako sa iyo.

    A lot of readers here already gave you very sound suggestions and thoughts. Hope you would treat all of these equally and wisely. It’s for your own good na rin naman. I just want to add the importance of experience over instruction. No matter how knowledgeable and aware you are with the ins and outs of this world, you would not learn if you yourself wont make a move. IT is on your own body the answer to your same body’s dilemma. YOUR CONFUSION. These guys who commented here shared their thoughts already and all you have to do is to deliberate each of these and choose those you think would and could really solve your crisis. There’s always a solution to a problem. You were given instructions already and all you have to do is TO APPLY these. Transform words into actions. Cliche though this may seem, ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. I really believe you can do it, you can learn a lot, and soon you’ll reach whatever your goals related to your situation are. EXPERIENCE over INSTRUCTION. That is learning.

    Count my comments in. I hope I did help you. and i hope im not that late yet to assist you.

    Aurevoir!!!

    07/01/26 10:04

92. #22  sire lee

    

    at least totoo ka po. dont wori if u nedd someone im here for you po. email me at lea_mifurei@yahoo.com… ahehe. inuman na lang tayo poara mapagusapan natin yan ng maayos. ok., more power..

    07/01/24 17:36

93. #21  JOhn

    

    Hey man… Tough times huh? Just go with what makes you happy. Not that I am recommending you have sex with men all the time, but to make yourself responsible for all your actions, kasi in the future yu’ll blame someone what you’ve done and/or what you’ve become. Yu should start admitting to yourself that you’re queer, be it bi or gay. Once youve done that, youll feel a rush of relief na para bang u dont have to hide your who u are. Just go on with life, be a responsible parent, be a good man towards the mother of your child and tell her.

    07/01/21 16:44

94. #20  Inquisitor

    

    love yourself more and know your true self.. then show it

    07/01/07 02:52

95. #19  jo

    

    Much of the replies tell you to do what will make you happy. But, this is not a case of two matured people accepting the fact of who you are. The problem lies with the child you have. Definitely, at the child’s tender age, it would be difficult for the child to comprehend the situation.

    Love is a sacrifice. It’s your choice- your happiness to be what you want, or selfless love, sacrificing your needs for the love of others. As I mentioned in my other replies, LOVE and when it hurts, LOVE SOME MORE! Goodluck.

    06/12/30 07:07

96. #18  Kris Aquino

    

    ohh Francis…your concerns are no longer an issue nowadays..punyeta ka no? hehehe

    06/12/30 00:56

97. #17  mykz

    

    it’s really difficult to admit the truth. well, ijust simply say, just go on to what you want which will make you happy. don’t think of the things that would bother you like your true identitiy. well, it doesn’t matter anyway. that’s my principle in life. i’ll just go for everything that would make me happy.

    06/12/08 22:20

98. #16  john

    

    ey.. just a piece of advice…
    just do what makes you happy but be sure
    to keep in mind what is best for your child…

    06/11/21 05:37

99. #15  reuben

    

    i was touched with your honesty..i hope we could share more of our thoughts…email me back. txs

    06/11/20 20:42

100. #14  huge

     

     Be happy just follow what your heart desire but be good emough to use your brains.
     I like you for caring your anak.
     Past never comes back. ano ka ba do what you think will make you happy. Anything you do to improve yourself wil be your gift to God. You dont owe anyonr an explanation.

     06/11/17 01:22

101. #13  rowena

     

     I really admire you francis for your honesty and frankness. Well, pursue whatever you want in life and where ever you will find peace and happiness. Good luck and God bless. Add me in friendster as your new friend. Thanks

     06/11/08 10:21

102. #12  josh

     

     Well, just a piece of my mind. I think whatever you choose to be, you should face the consequences. mahirap talagang intindihin ang situasyon mo esp. now that you have a kid. i think i end up single ’till i die para la masaktan ibang tao.

     06/11/03 20:20

103. #11  Reg'z Tiangco

     

     we will only live once, so better enjoy. you deserve to be happy so you have to make a choice. keep smilin.

     06/11/03 17:25

104. #10  byzance

     

     Hey Francis!
     How are you, still confused? it seems that all the straight, bi’s, gays, read your letter was interested, ang you’re really interested, I think it big.
     You have to be honest to yourself, be who and what you are.
     Good luck bro.

     06/11/02 15:08

105. #9  drake

     

     i, too, am confused. i can’t accept to myself that i am gay or bi. i act straight. i sleep with girls. i’ve been in sexual encounters with men, but i’ve never had anal sex. right now, i’m in love with a friend. a straight friend, as far as i know. i sense that he’s interested in me as well, but i’m too afraid to do anything about it because i don’t want to ruin our friendship. he’s a great friend, i can’t afford to lose him. i guess what it all comes down to is to simply go ahead… take a risk. i know i’m going to confront my friend sometime soon. wether he’s going to react positively or negatively, it doesn’t matter. at least i was being true to myself. at least i found closure. what’s life without taking chances, anyway? as for you, i think you should go ahead and try hooking up with a guy. see how you like it. if you like it better than your girlfriend’s company, then it must mean you’re more interested in men than in women. which results to you being gay (or bi, if you’re still interested in having sexual relations with women). so there. there’s my piece of advice. i hope that helps.

     06/11/02 13:54

106. #8  howard

     

     mahirap talaga.. pero sa mga ganitong bagay.. sarili mo lng talaga maaasahan mo..
     i guess you have to think it through.. thouroughly.. isipin mo effects kung aminin mo.. effect sa iyo.. asawa at anak mo… mas sasaya kaba? o mas magiging miserable?
     timbangin mo kung ano dapat maging decision mo.. THINK OF THE WORST for both situation.. tapos saan palagay mo ang maskakayanin mo at maglelead sa kaligayahan mo….its gonna be hard.. pero nasasaiyo lng talaga ang solusyon…

     06/10/31 02:12

107. #7  migs_888

     

     France,
     nothing much to say about…siguro kasi we’re on the same boat. I had a gf for 3 years pero nakipag kalas siya after I admit to her na may nangyari sa amin ng best pal ko, hirap to accpet the fact but I have to be honest. I don’t want this feeling pero I’m attracted to goodlooking guys. May nagkakagusto naman sakin both mga girls and bi’s kaya lang I don’t want to end up a gay. Gusto ko pa rin mag asawa at magkaron ng family. Di naman ako pwede ma inlove sa guy kasi who will take me seriously na staright guy din di ba? Sana bro, we can make it through, soon. Just pray that we will be guided always, be strong, and be happy always. Life is so short to be taken superficially. God bless!

     06/10/30 00:46

108. #6  sharmuta sen

     

     Well, all you need is simple lang if you are afraid coz you are a family man to come out then… go and work abroad so you can explore all the enjoyment and possibilities without your family knowing what you are doing, dami ng ganyan dito sa dubai at pag andito ka na call ka lang sa akin, give kita ng ian veneracion look alike or mas beauty pa…

     06/10/29 17:03

109. #5  Rob

     

     Be true. right. pero keep in mind that in being true to your self might not be good to others (say your wife and your kid).

     06/10/29 07:56

110. #4  hustlingmind

     

     I’m very much a married man with 6 year old kid. For me it started with my best pal since we were young. but unlike him, i am not straight, only straight acting. my best pal told me na ginagawa niya lang yun with me and nothing else and now, im into a secret relationship with same sex (not my best pal)though he’s in the states. it will all boils down to choices and acceptance. kung tanggap mo na kung ano ka, it will be okay. kung hindi naman there lies the problem. go find yourself. just dont let your wife know this. what she didnt know wont hurt her and pray very hard you’ll not get caught. Best regards!

     06/10/27 21:50

111. #3  JP

     

     Francis!
     You know what? I am like you also. I am so sad to tell you guys that I am also confused of my preferred orientation. I started doubting my gender the time I accidentally opened same sex websites while I was in high school.
     until now, no one notices my dillemma inside. Am I a bisexual or am I really gay inside?
     I initially wrote this reply to tell you that you are not alone in the problem. And i hope that one day, we will be coming out of our closet and reveal what we really are.

     06/10/27 16:14

112. #2  mcvie

     

     Francis:

     I agree with what Crimson said and will just add to that.

     “Be true to yourself.” “Know yourself.” We’ve always been told that. But we rarely are told HOW. To be honest to oneself and to know oneself, one must have the courage to face oneself–likes, dislikes, beliefs, values, etc.

     Natatakot ka sa puwedeng mangyari? Harapin mo at alamin mo. Kung magustuhan mo, at least alam mo na yun talaga ang gusto mo.

     * * * * *

     Then again, this whole letter thing might just be a bait to hook guys to your services. Sana wag naman. But I just had to mention it. Skeptical me.

     06/10/27 13:59

113. #1  Crimson

     

     Francis,

     It takes a lot of courage to really determine what you want. You say you are not happy with your existing relationship. The question is are you not happy because it is with a woman or is it because it is not planned? Which is which? Both are entirely different from each other. If you are not attracted to the same sex, why the wanting to have sex with guys? Have courage, have the guts to see things plainly and squarely. Dont mind other people yet. You have to look first within yourself. And once you are able to that, then that is the time you consider the others. I am not asking you to come out blazing like a wild fire, the only thing I am asking is, find out the truth first, as you would see it without any prejudice, and make a strong stand. Your confusion seems to stem, not from yourself, but from you ardent consideration for society. That is good, but even before you can become considerate at the needs of others, you have to be true to yourself. I am not an expert. I am just speaking my mind. I hope it helps.

     06/10/27 09:41

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