Comments on: To Chat or Not To Chat http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/ I say again, "World Peace!" Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:48:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: noel http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-124750 noel Tue, 02 Jun 2009 10:44:18 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-124750 ang hirap maging isang bakla. bakit? ang hirap makakita ng isang partner for short term lang. ang hirap lalake ang pinagkaloob sa iyo kaso babae naman ang panloob. i try to fall inlove to a girl but hindi nagtagal kala ko madali lang gusto ko kase magkaanak para may mag aalaga sa akin pagtanda kaso hindi pala madali mas lalo pang lumalala nakasakit pa ako ng isang feeling. kaya kung may nakilala na kayo na alam nyo sya na para sayo wag mo nang papakawalan. angel_noel_2000@yahoo.com ang hirap maging isang bakla. bakit? ang hirap makakita ng isang partner for short term lang. ang hirap lalake ang pinagkaloob sa iyo kaso babae naman ang panloob. i try to fall inlove to a girl but hindi nagtagal kala ko madali lang gusto ko kase magkaanak para may mag aalaga sa akin pagtanda kaso hindi pala madali mas lalo pang lumalala nakasakit pa ako ng isang feeling. kaya kung may nakilala na kayo na alam nyo sya na para sayo wag mo nang papakawalan.

angel_noel_2000@yahoo.com

]]> By: Dita http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-106372 Dita Fri, 14 Nov 2008 23:15:21 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-106372 Bottomline : DO YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER? 

There’s nothing wrong with chatting and visiting gay sites so long as you have your limits. And these limits are known by both partners and that both agree and abide by it.  Hindi maiiwasan talaga kahit pagbaliktarin mo man ang mundo.

Dun sa mga may partners na talaga namang kaakit-akit sa mata ng lahat, unang-una, dapat secure sa sarili ang partner nito. Otherwise its doomed from the start. Lalo pa’t kung high-maintenence and very busy ang social calendar. 

Ang pinakamahirap na kalaban ng isang relasyon lalo sa mga gays ang TEMPTATION. Kung ang foundation ng relationship is built on TRUST, nothing can go wrong. You can be open so long as there is trust. kung papayagan mo sya mag-chat, trust that he never develops more than friendships and acquiantances. A little flirting is normal. Ginagawa yan ng bf ko. The first time, kakaselos tlaga. But then nakilala ko syang ganon and have proven he’s all bark and no bite. Just tell him that there is really no need to give out numbers and personal stuff than you have to. Kasi pag binigay ang number, madali nang makipag-set ng eye-ball and you will never really know what happens pag nagkita na. That’s a different story altogether. Hindi na excuse yung mga nahihiya sa mga kasama sa gym etc. Kung mag-develop ng “friendships” sa mga gym ngayon lalo na sa FF (and you know what I mean), meron nang malicious intent lalo’t kapag nagpalitan na ng nos. Kung talagang wala sa partner ang mga txts and calls, fine, pero para dun sa mga nag-ttxt and tumatawag, iba ang dating nun. He becomes a challenge. Sooner or later, pag may makulit na hindi nya kayang tanggihan, bibigay yan. So, giving out nos in general is a no-no. 

]]> By: Little Fish http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-100509 Little Fish Fri, 19 Sep 2008 08:50:53 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-100509 Ang tanong: Lahat ba ng chatting leads to sex...este, leads to being unfaithful? Lahat ba ng eb leads to sex? I do believe, that people who visited chatrooms are either enjoying themselves and having fun with friends. Anything goes in the chatroom and it is all a minds-game....Am I too naive of whats really going on....in a chatroom??????? Confused na me????? Ang tanong:

Lahat ba ng chatting leads to sex…este, leads to being unfaithful?
Lahat ba ng eb leads to sex?

I do believe, that people who visited chatrooms are either enjoying themselves and having fun with friends. Anything goes in the chatroom and it is all a minds-game….Am I too naive of whats really going on….in a chatroom???????

Confused na me?????

]]> By: ed http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-96877 ed Fri, 15 Aug 2008 02:32:31 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-96877 I really think chatting in gay chatroom whether with consent or without is a form of bieng unfaithful. C'mon..let's all admit that these chatrooms were created for a main purpose of hooking up for gay sex. People do not go out and be online looking for friends. Friends will just come along in your day to day activity. You don't go look for friends on line with their naked bodies posted in their profile... I really think chatting in gay chatroom whether with consent or without is a form of bieng unfaithful.

C’mon..let’s all admit that these chatrooms were created for a main purpose of hooking up for gay sex. People do not go out and be online looking for friends. Friends will just come along in your day to day activity. You don’t go look for friends on line with their naked bodies posted in their profile…

]]> By: Fatboyslim http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-81158 Fatboyslim Mon, 28 Apr 2008 04:09:42 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-81158 But when u lie on the chatroom, that ur single and all... thats another story. If u wanna be honest about ur intentions of chatting, then u have to reveal ur real status, not lie about if u have a partner or not But when u lie on the chatroom, that ur single and all… thats another story.

If u wanna be honest about ur intentions of chatting, then u have to reveal ur real status, not lie about if u have a partner or not

]]> By: Fatboyslim http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-81157 Fatboyslim Mon, 28 Apr 2008 04:08:31 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-81157 Lets just put it this way... In a heterosexual relationship, if a guy or a girl chats while he or she is in a relationship, may problema ba tayo dun? Wala! Its just a matter of trusting ur partner and being faithful to him. Minsan kc iniisip kaagad natin na pag ang isang tao nagchchat, naghhanap na ng kapalit! Pwede naman mag chat for friendship sake! Lets just put it this way…

In a heterosexual relationship, if a guy or a girl chats while he or she is in a relationship, may problema ba tayo dun? Wala!

Its just a matter of trusting ur partner and being faithful to him. Minsan kc iniisip kaagad natin na pag ang isang tao nagchchat, naghhanap na ng kapalit!

Pwede naman mag chat for friendship sake!

]]> By: luckyclover12 http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-61656 luckyclover12 Tue, 08 Jan 2008 09:32:30 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-61656 thats whay gay relatioship never last long dahil sa ganyang "consented cheating" tayo pa naman we always dream of bieng with someone for the rest of our lives tapos di tayo makatiis not to be with someonelses. Naku ha. why not start bieng faithful. thats whay gay relatioship never last long dahil sa ganyang “consented cheating” tayo pa naman we always dream of bieng with someone for the rest of our lives tapos di tayo makatiis not to be with someonelses. Naku ha. why not start bieng faithful.

]]> By: JOsh http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-3159 JOsh Tue, 26 Dec 2006 14:04:05 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-3159 i guess the topic was about going to chatrooms even if you are in a relationship. most of the comments/replies are about their lovers indiscretion with other guys. guys they meet not only on chat... im 39 y/o with a 6 year relationship with a 31 year old, and yes i still do chat at g4m. but i know where to set limits, no SEB/EB. occasional sex show on cam yes i do. i even taught my lover how to webchat and allow him to go to g4m/yahoo/irc as well. the same with me, there are limitations. i used to think that i cannot allow sumthin like this before our relationship started. masyado rin ako idealistic before. but u guys should open your eyes to this realities. and didnt u notice, those who admit about chats are the ones in long term relationship? for u guys who think otherwise, that relationships are supposed to be strictly monogamous, you will know when you meet the person who u will stay with for keeps. i guess the topic was about going to chatrooms even if you are in a relationship. most of the comments/replies are about their lovers indiscretion with other guys. guys they meet not only on chat…
im 39 y/o with a 6 year relationship with a 31 year old, and yes i still do chat at g4m. but i know where to set limits, no SEB/EB. occasional sex show on cam yes i do.
i even taught my lover how to webchat and allow him to go to g4m/yahoo/irc as well. the same with me, there are limitations.
i used to think that i cannot allow sumthin like this before our relationship started. masyado rin ako idealistic before. but u guys should open your eyes to this realities. and didnt u notice, those who admit about chats are the ones in long term relationship?
for u guys who think otherwise, that relationships are supposed to be strictly monogamous, you will know when you meet the person who u will stay with for keeps.

]]> By: Ghel http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-703 Ghel Fri, 10 Nov 2006 09:43:52 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-703 Actually before I met him, ganyan na yung ginagalawang mundo nya. Dati bigay ng number kung kanikanino , friendly kasi sya, super bait pa..etc.. Kasi akward naman kung di mo ibibigay number mo sa mga gymmates mo diba? I mean dati pilyo sya, but now he is committed, di daw sya manloloko (sana nga). Syempre yung mga makukulit na bis/gays eh text pa rin ng text, also di nya naman sinasabing committed na sya. Lagi ko rin syang kasama. I trust him, ayaw nya lang pinapakialaman yung phone nya. Pero minsan, out of his knowledge, I tinker with his phone, so far wala naman akong nakikitang hindi maganda... even sa sent times.. hehheh (but of course pwedeng "malinis" na). As for now, di naman na ako ganun ka insecure, I trust his words. Saka kinukwento sya sa akin yung mga tumatwag at nagtetext pag nagtatanong ako... But again, once na nahuli ko sya.. GOOD BYE!!!!! Kawalan nya rin ako. Saka syempre I keep records (like cellphone numbers ng mga suspecious texters/callers) and monitor him from time to time. So far, mukhang wala naman talaga akong dapat ikabahala.... ako lang din minsan gumagawa ng sarili kong multo.. Actually before I met him, ganyan na yung ginagalawang mundo nya. Dati bigay ng number kung kanikanino , friendly kasi sya, super bait pa..etc.. Kasi akward naman kung di mo ibibigay number mo sa mga gymmates mo diba?

I mean dati pilyo sya, but now he is committed, di daw sya manloloko (sana nga). Syempre yung mga makukulit na bis/gays eh text pa rin ng text, also di nya naman sinasabing committed na sya.

Lagi ko rin syang kasama. I trust him, ayaw nya lang pinapakialaman yung phone nya. Pero minsan, out of his knowledge, I tinker with his phone, so far wala naman akong nakikitang hindi maganda… even sa sent times.. hehheh (but of course pwedeng “malinis” na).

As for now, di naman na ako ganun ka insecure, I trust his words. Saka kinukwento sya sa akin yung mga tumatwag at nagtetext pag nagtatanong ako…

But again, once na nahuli ko sya.. GOOD BYE!!!!! Kawalan nya rin ako. Saka syempre I keep records (like cellphone numbers ng mga suspecious texters/callers) and monitor him from time to time. So far, mukhang wala naman talaga akong dapat ikabahala…. ako lang din minsan gumagawa ng sarili kong multo..

]]> By: Migs http://manilagayguy.net/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-699 Migs Fri, 10 Nov 2006 07:39:33 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2006/11/08/to-chat-or-not-to-chat/#comment-699 you are correct ghel, having a "habulin" bf is both boon and bane. now, why does your bf give out his number? and then he does not want you to tinker with his phone? i wouldn't say your suspicions are baseless. don't get me wrong, i don't want to pre-judge your bf, i'm just saying that if you feel insecure, there are some substantiating factors that back it up. lastly, trust can't just be ordered like a chickenjoy or big mac. it is earned, sometimes through long and thorny roads. you are correct ghel, having a “habulin” bf is both boon and bane. now, why does your bf give out his number? and then he does not want you to tinker with his phone? i wouldn’t say your suspicions are baseless. don’t get me wrong, i don’t want to pre-judge your bf, i’m just saying that if you feel insecure, there are some substantiating factors that back it up. lastly, trust can’t just be ordered like a chickenjoy or big mac. it is earned, sometimes through long and thorny roads.

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