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One of the many great things I really enjoy when I started having this blog is receiving emails from readers. I get several everyday, and I tell you however busy I get, I always make it a point to open my email inbox, and excitedly go through emails from MGG readers.

For this post, I picked one email exchange. The email is from Seth, a father of two kids, each from a different woman. He asks, “Am I gay?” This is pretty long, but rather interesting. Read on.

(Below is the exact email sent by Seth to me…)

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my name’s seth..
i don’t know how to start…
mainly im here hoping you have the answer to this question…
kung ano ba talaga ako…?

im really confused…

im 21 years old.. dalawa na anak.. from two different woman..
i’ve always been known as a chick boy, chick magnet. and other similar stuff…
and talaga i love women.. and i probably wont be able to live without them…

pero somehow i get attracted to men…
lalo na if they are more attractive than me.. im not really bad my self btw…


all i remember.. that i started having this kind of feeling when i was in 2nd year college… pinasali ako ng prof ko dati sa parang contest… interschool na beauty pageant…

i was attracted sa isang fellow contestant… i felt weird kasi alam ko straight ako… later i got to know him better… and the feeling just got worst.. i wanted to get inside his pants.. talagang gusto ko na sapakin sarili ko at hindi ko na maintindihan nararamdaman ko.. sabi ko probably just the tequila i had…

later sa contest… fortunately nanalo nman ako.. he came to me.. congratulated me at kung pede ko daw cya samahan… didn’t know wer pero sama nman ako… and the rest was of the story was my first time “experience” with a guy…

since then… i get attracted to men… pero ang totoo four times palang akong nagkaroon ng sexual experience with another guy…

and this is probably the reason….

’twas my second experience with a guy when i tried to go as far as sucking.. and getting nailed in the ass… pero it wasn’t very pleasant for me… i was even near beating the guy after sticking his thing in me…

after nung experience na yun.. i said to myself.. hindi nman cguro ako bakla talaga coz.. if i was.. na enjoy ko sana yun…

pero still… hindi parin nawawala yung fact na attracted parin ako sa men…. ewan ko pero i enjoy so much watching another guy s*cking me.. tsaka yung thought na im f*cking a guy…

im trying my best to stay away from having sexual experiences with guys again… kasi naaawa lng ako sa nagiging partner ko… like nung last time… he gave me a bj.. i f*cked him in the ass… after… he was obviously expecting me to do something in return.. wala nman akong ginawa kundi nagbihis at umalis…

i don’t think its fair kung ganon..

when i’m making love to a woman.. i make sure na i give her pleasure… at hindi sarili ko lng iniisip… i think that’s how sex should be…

ewan ko bah… sometimes im thinking mental defect na ata tong akin…. sobra na ko maniac… do you think i’m gay? or do you think i just need profesional help…

my email’s quite long… sorry…
sorry din if somehow medyo offensive email ko..
lalo na sa paraan ko ng pagkwekwento…

i’ll be happy to hear an answer from you soon…

btw… i have a gay friend who recommended you to me..
sabi nya better to ask you than go to a sex therapist or something…

salamat ng marami…

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hi seth…

first of all, i’m not a therapist 🙂 consider me a friend who wants to help.

alam mo, marami na akong nakausap na katulad mo. i too went through a similar process. hindi madali, talagang nakakalito to the point na mafu-frustrate ka. masuwerte ka na that you have a friend who you can talk to about this (i assume, alam nung gay friend mo about your confusion.) when i was confused before, wala akong masabihan. i even know one guy who committed suicide because of this. kaya unahan na kita — be strong, and look forward to that great happiness you will experience once you find your true self.

you ask, “do you think i’m gay?” — and i answer that: hindi importante kung ano ang sagot ko. ang importante, kung ano ang sagot mo. pero kung pipilitin mo ako sumagot, i would bluntly say, based on what you have shared, yes you probably are. the next question is, ano ba ang ibig sabihin ng gay? mahabang talakayan yan, pero the short answer is — maraming klase ng gay. sa karamihan ng tao, ang gay eh yung mga parlorista na nagsusuot pambabae. pero isang klase lang ng gay yung ganun. marami pa tayo, iba’t ibang uri, hugis, itsura, pananalita, galaw, etc.

pag-isipan mo muna ang mga ito. kuwentuhan mo pa ako. baka mas marami pa akong ma-share din sa iyo next time.


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The next day, Seth replied … with something quite shocking, and with some more revealing details… will share it in the next posts… Abangan!

Comments (38)

  1. frank said on 19-10-2009

    Yes. You are gay.

  2. gibby_gibbs said on 28-08-2009

    you might not be a gay man, but surely you’re a bisexual man- attracted to both sexes, based from your experiences.. or should i say you’re still on the process of self confusion, or culture shock on the gay part for that matter. you might not enjoy sucking, but you’re enjoying to be sucked. and i strongly believe that any man who finds interested to have sexual contact to his fellow man, is surely not a straight guy!!C:

  3. boi mark said on 05-05-2009

    tol, isa lang masasabi ko


    marami na tayo tol, di ka nag iisa,

    di mu nmn kailangan maging baklang bakla

    madami kasing klase yun

    at saka i learned from my psych teacher

    pag natikman mo at saka masarapan ka

    hahanap ham=napin mu talaga

    kaya nga str8 guys na pumatol sa bading o sa kapwa

    malaki ang percentage na maging ganun

    discreet handsome guy out here,

    nalaman ko site na to sa friend ko sa fs

    na gay

  4. Nicolo said on 29-01-2007

    hi manila gay guy get the copy now of CLIMAX is a bookazine about men in their most sexy and provocative form an X-Ray Media Publications. Ay nakakaloka nakakanginig ng laman.

  5. andree said on 25-01-2007

    gud amm mr MGG.
    im a new reader of ur sight, and i really enjoy it.. with all the stuff you try to share, it’s so much fun..
    mr. mgg, like seth i would like to ask you about some questions regarding my sexuality..
    may i know ur e-add? tanx a lot..

  6. peterpic said on 24-01-2007

    migs thought ko lang…

    una, baka nga totoong bisexual ito. after all, gusto rin naman nya ang keps, natuto lang kumain ng meats. so maybe he’s one of the true bisexuals.

    second, feeling ko ang issue dapat ay “e ano ngayon kung gusto mong pachupa rin sa bading?” di ba to each his won naman lahat yan. but he cant seem to deal with the fact na nababaklaan sya sa sarili nya kapag ginagawa nya yon.

    kalimutan na nya yung kung ano sya. h should just do what he wants to do.

  7. Madz said on 24-01-2007

    *Homie- Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am really getting more and more interested with my topic labeling.. hehe. So you agree with me that labeling is a bad thing. hehe. Thanks for your argument.

    I really think Seth is gay. Un lang. Although im not the “Seth” type of gay, I still feel that he is one of us. At saka yung bisexual thingy na yan, I think it is somehow the result of the discrimination faced by the gay community before, and i think hanggang ngayon pa rin. Some bi’s consider themselves as such to conceal the “gayness” that they have and maybe, to deny the fact they’re gay, in other terms, to make iwas sa discrimination. Wala tayong mapatutunguhan kung ganun nga yung ibang gays. How can we solve the discrimination most gay advocates are fighting for sa country na ito kung idedeny lang natin ang pagiging gay.

    Uhm. May nabasa pa ako na-article about being bisexual pero nakalimutan ko na yung source. I just like to share it. Sabi dun. Kapag bi ka at kapag you’re having an affair with a woman, then you’re considered a heterosexual because what you do is what hetero men are doing. AT kapag bi ka and sa guy ka naman may affair, pede kang maconsider na homo since what you’re practicing is in fact a homo lifestyle. So aion. I think bisexual is just a thing that arose as gay’s response to discrimination.

    sa inyong lahat. be proud. you’re gay. i am proud na gay ako and i dont hide the gayness i have. Love being gay. hehe. enjoy as long as you’re not going beyond the fair line. and respect each other even if he is not the type of gay that you like or you prefer. the important thing is that he is also gay. haha

    continue reading Migs’ wonderful blog. hehe. sana nga may party ka migs for all of us. celebration na rin ng success ng iyong blog. hehe

  8. prock said on 24-01-2007

    personally, i hate the idea of labeling. we grew up with the concept that you should either be this or that.

    it’s ok to be ambiguous, at least you’re staying open. hehehe

  9. neon said on 24-01-2007

    i believe the freud theory. read the part 2.

  10. jo said on 24-01-2007

    Seth, what is important is how will you answer the question AM I GAY? Regardless of all the feedbacks, bottomline, ikaw pa rin ang sasagot niyan. And when you answer that question truthfully, will you ACCEPT THAT FACT? Otherwise, it will be an endless cycle of denials and questions.

    With the facts you presented, of ‘Topping’ and ‘Bottoming’ with the same sex, the answer to your question is obvious. But, as everyone has been saying, YOU must answer that truthfully and ACCEPT that answer.

    However, it seems you aren’t bothered by your situation. You KNOW the answer but what you are looking for in MGG is SUPPORT, UNDERSTANDING, and ACCEPTANCE. At any rate, it is still YOU who will have the FINAL say on this issue.

    Don’t be confused Seth, HINDI KA NAG-IISA.

  11. chriscapade said on 24-01-2007

    pareho kami ng pinagdadaanan ni Seth..

  12. rabbit said on 24-01-2007

    i can’t wait for more of the adventures of Seth in Wonderland!

  13. zizou said on 24-01-2007

    naniniwala ba kayo dun sa theory ni sigmound freud na everyone is born nafoform lang orientation through environmental circumstances?.. kumbaga.. nature vs. nurture.. ala lang.. naisip ko lang uli after reading this post.. 🙂

  14. benzblues said on 24-01-2007

    Hi, benz here.

    This is quite interesting. I’ll be coming back to read some more.


  15. Tobal said on 24-01-2007

    OMG! I can’t wait for the next installment. Hahahah! Thanks, Migs! God bless you, Seth. :-).

    ~ Tobal.


    “80% of the population is gay…they just don’t know it yet.” ~ Will of Will & Grace

  16. vincedejesus said on 24-01-2007

    I have always believed that ‘bisexuality’ is a phase rather than a permanent stage; before you become exclusively gay, dadaanan mo muna ang katakot-takot na denial at pagpapatunay na hindi ka nga bading. Kaya maraming mga bading na may anak, kasi nga ‘pinatunayan’ nila minsan na hindi sila bading. Some guys eventually come to terms with their true selves and come out while others, sadly, choose to live their whole lives denying themselves real happiness.

    It becomes doubly-hard to accept one’s ‘homosexuality’ because of our fear of the Roman Catholic Church. Tapos andiyan pa ang society na napaka-judgemental. One would think na tanggap na ang kabadingan sa lipunan natin pero hindi pa rin — not because you see more and more gay personalities on tv or in politics that would mean tanggap na talaga ang bakla. “Okay lang na maging bakla ang kapit-bahay, pero HUWAG ang anak ko.” Double standards pa rin.

    In most parts of Europe, they dont really care which ‘box’ they fit in; whether straight, gay, bi or whatever, not really a big deal. When I was younger, I have had a sexual encounter with a dutch guy and the next day he told his dutch girlfriend about the whole thing and the girlfriend just giggled. (It was surreal, I swear.) I became close with the girl eventually, though sadly wala na ulit nangyari sa amin ng boyfriend niya. Di ko na kayang ulitin pa. This happened again with a young greek guy who told his girlfriend and then this german (pokpok ata ako noon.) That was when I realized kung gaano kalaki ang hangups nating mga Pinoy pagdating sa sex, sexuality at sexual preference. WHAT WE DO IN BED AND WHO WE DO IT WITH DOES NOT DEFINE WHO WE ARE.

    Seth, don’t wrack your brains out trying to figure if you are or if you’re not. The important thing is you respect whoever it is you’re with, have safe and passionate sex with the one you’re with and love the person you’re with.

    And whatever you discover about yourself, never listen to what other people would say. Hindi ka naman nila pinapakain, di ba?

    Sabi nga ni ZATURNNAH “Pag-ibig ko’t pagmamahal… walang kinikilalang kulay o pangalan.”

  17. chismoso said on 24-01-2007

    i hope nobody minds me putting my two cents’ worth.

    it would be easier for seth to understand that beyond the basic concept of straight and gay lie a wide spectrum of personalities. stereotyping being gay, in general, is akin to generalizing that everyone who lives in the Philippines is Filipino.

    First, there are gay men and women. Women can be
    1. tomboys – women who love men but act like men
    2. butch lesbians – women who love women and want to become men
    3. lipstick lesbians – women who love women but enjoy being women
    4. bisexual women – women who love men and women

    In the same way, homosexual men have these distinctions, too.
    1. the effeminate gay guy – men who like men but act soft and swishy
    2. the “paminta” – men who like men but still act like the stereotypical men, albeit dressing much much better.
    3. the cross dressers – these are the men who like men but want to look like women
    4. the bisexual – men who like both men and women.

    Whatever category one belongs to, one still falls under the generic category “gay”, simply because he/she is not straight. Categorically speaking, a straight person only likes, loves, fantasizes about, and has sex with the opposite sex.

    In our GLTB (gay, lesbian, transsexual, and bisexual) society, it is a sad fact that so many people box each other in and would like to deny certain groups.

    Straight acting guys prefer not to be with effeminates, effeminates who claim that the straight-acting guys are just pretending, straight acting guys who claim they’re bisexual because they feel degraded if they’re labelled as gay… the list goes on.

    Whatever your preference, it’s best to accept who you are and forget about the labels.

  18. dats07 said on 23-01-2007

    …to Seth, based from your letter I believe you’re Gay, however it would be nice to stop making things more complicated, like having relationship behind your ‘girlfriend’ that would not just give bad impression to your self but for being a gay and to gay community as well…You don’t want to be cheated too , right?…now, regarding labeling, I guess all we need to do is give a Respect to those people, we all know there’s always a reason to it…
    And to Migs, I’m getting more interested in meeting you not for any reason (ehem!Ãœ) I hope you’ll arrange a party for your blog and we’re all invited to celebrate with you! ehehehehe…cheers! take care!

  19. euges said on 23-01-2007

    Ay naku ha! Seth you are a normal gay
    as in lalaki ang dating but deep inside
    kapuso ang hananp.
    I dont believe the word Bisexual fits to gays who like women, gawagawa ito ng mga bading in the 60’s ng di pa tanggap ang bading, Na tinatali pa ng mga parents ang gay patiwarik, thinking sakit ang maging gay. Seth, ibaiba lang ang anyo ng gays, noon ang tawag sa style mo Macho gay,
    Seth do what makes you happy, Sorry sa naging partner mo na di nila ma gets ang type nila sa iyo. Sya Migs paki bigay email address ko ng lumigaya lalo si Seth, Hahaha

  20. BR said on 23-01-2007

    Now its clear to me the fact that everybody as in everybody has the capacity to go a different path… we all have certain degrees of gayness… anybody knows Mig’s e-mail? thanks!

  21. aldous canapi said on 23-01-2007

    welcome to the family seth. i can’t to wait hear next epesode! i’m excited…

  22. drklght said on 23-01-2007

    hmmm .. ano kaya yung shocking detail .. hehe can’t wait!!! =D

  23. randy said on 23-01-2007

    sorry if this may sound brutal but to seth…i guess if u s*** and f*** another man whether you enjoy it or not is something that a “straight” man never does.

  24. Homie said on 23-01-2007

    Hi Madz-labeling IS insidious. Kasi, aside from promoting stereotypes and biases, it is a form of control that society exercises on us as long as we subscribe to it. I like the line from Sex and the City where Miranda describes the sexual landscape of the future as being “pansexual”. I think love and attraction has no gender and I think when we let go of it, so will our prejudices go.

  25. Homie said on 23-01-2007

    As this is not exactly a sex forum or one that advocates sin – I wonder where the preceding post gets off spreading his pious platitudes? Must have wandered in from another blog. Oh well – live and let live.

    Hi Migs – hope you can post the next installment of the letter tomorrow. I hope it’s full of sex and sinfullness. c”,)

    Best regards.

  26. Madz said on 23-01-2007

    hehe… nakakatuwa naman talaga tong blog na ito. Thanks Migs. I am one of your big fan na and your big fan’s fan na rin. I really really learned a lot to the stuffs written here. It is such an important thing to and for me to relate with other people who have the same gender preference that i have. Being gay I think is something to be proud of specially if every gay in “OUR” community knows how to respect and love not only the members of this third “amazing” world but also those people outside our own world.

    Going back to the topic, I really really love to comment on this one. Because, like what Ive said on your g0y entry before, Im working with my paper about the consequences of labeling. I know for a fact that gays are not the just the parloristas but there are a lot of gays pa of different lifestyle and preference. However, these types may result to complications that will soon be faced by the gay community. Do you guys think there are really consequences behind this gay categorization? In other terms, is labeling a bad thing?

    Hope you guys could comment on this one lalo na po kayo Migs coz i really respect and believe your answers and opinions. very strong and very gay-related opinions.

    Merci and aurevoir!!!

  27. themanwashere said on 23-01-2007

    i also agree with leo. don’t get labeled. i hate it when people try to classify me. urgh.

  28. themanwashere said on 23-01-2007

    i think everyone is a bisexual. i don’t know. pero i do believe that at one point in out lives we do get attracted to the same sex, kahit man pilitan mo straight ka or something. yup, there are so many gay forms. hehe. it’s just that most would pinoys think gays are like one form – cross dresser na parlorlista. there are so many of us. uhm, kuya/ate migs can i know your email add i’d like some advice too. hihi.

    keep smiling 🙂

  29. Little Fish said on 23-01-2007

    Hello Manila Gay Guy!
    I found this somewhere….and I’d love to share it with you and with others.


    Give up bitterness, be forgiving.
    Give up hatred, return good for evil.
    Give up negativism, be positive.
    Give up complaining, be grateful.
    Give up harsh judgment, think kind thoughts.
    Give up worry, trust Divine Providence.
    Give up discouragement, be full of hope.
    Give up anger, be more patient.
    Give up pettiness, be more mature.
    Give up gloom, enjoy the beauty around you.
    Give up jealousy, pray for trust.
    Give up gossiping, control your thoughts.
    Give up sin, turn to virtue.
    Give up sex, turn to love.

    OMG…give up sin and sex! Thats difficult!
    On second thoughts…..yeah! we can do it, if and only if we become children of God.

  30. homie said on 23-01-2007

    What is it with labels? Sabi nga ni Gore Vidal “To allow one’s self to be labeled is to allow one’s self to be enslaved.” So what if you already have kids from two different women and still like having nookie with guys – the thing is, you have to be comfortable in your own skin and not subscribe to the gender-idealizations of other people. If you think you’re straight but like guys as well, that’s for you to live with but as with all things: live in honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your partners. Yun lang.

  31. Little Fish said on 23-01-2007

    “Do what makes you happy, life is not based in the money you got and the success you’ve achieved. It’s all about being happy with who you are, who you’re with, who you’ve got, who you love and who makes your life worth living.”

    “Be more concerned with your character than with you reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

    Why bothered, if your gay, goy, bisexual or what are you?
    There are 3 thinks in life (I considered) important…..Be happy and enjoy life to the fullest. Accept the things that can be change and accept the things that cannot be change. Love unconditionally…..without asking for returns.

    Seth….and all the Seth’s out there: Love life and life will Love you.

  32. Pogi said on 23-01-2007

    you are gay seth and it’s not something that you should be ashamed of…

  33. Migs said on 23-01-2007

    hello leo… 🙂

  34. leo said on 23-01-2007

    the concept may be understandable, but still hard to accept as a reality, specially for those people who grew up with the mentality na “dalawa lang ang ginawa ni God, lalaki at babae”.

    hi migs!

  35. Migs said on 23-01-2007

    River – are not bisexuals gays too? i always thought that discussions on labels (gay, g0y, bisexual, etc.) almost always go the long, and winding route without any hope for resolution.

  36. leo said on 23-01-2007

    well, para rin naman yang lalaki o babae, iba-iba rin ang trip. may mga lalaki na hindi titira sa pw*t, may mga babae na hindi nagbbj… sa gays ganoon din, may top at may bottom, may iba rin na hindi talaga nagsusuck at hindi nagpapatira sa pw*t.

    Thing is, accept who you are, as Migs said how people would answer your question is not as important as how you would answer it. Filipinos have a certain mentality about ‘gay’ kasi kaya minsan mahirap for a person to admit that he is gay. but when you come to accept who you are, despite what it’s called, then you will somehow be happy.

  37. River said on 23-01-2007

    Is it really that hard to understand the concept of bisexuality?

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