Comments on: Married yet in love with bestfriend http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/ I say again, "World Peace!" Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:09:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: ewan http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-384783 ewan Thu, 04 Feb 2010 05:52:53 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-384783 i dont think your bestfriend is gay. ikaw lang.... so if you really want to save your friendship, wag ka masyadong malibog pagkasama mo siya :) i dont think your bestfriend is gay. ikaw lang….

so if you really want to save your friendship, wag ka masyadong malibog pagkasama mo siya :)

]]> By: jazz http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-266684 jazz Thu, 17 Sep 2009 18:28:13 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-266684 hey, Mr T, at this stage of your friendship, i think, no, i'm certain, your friend knows. but, he must really value your friendship that much for him to have allowed/tolerated everything that has happened so far. deeper friendships go far beyond uneasy sexual intimations, believe me. he wouldn't tell you in your face because it is preferable to lie when the truth would hurt the other person more. thus your friend loves you that much. keep pushing your luck and the rift between you two might only get worse. you also have both your families to consider(or is that lesser in importance). you're a man, you should know that the dictates of the dick is, more often than not, likely to be impulsive. look beyond that. you've got a beautiful friendship. put a little objectivity into the matter. you'd be thanking yourself in the future. and, hey, hugging is okay. but, as your friend is trying to tell you time and again, the line should be drawn somewhere. hey, Mr T, at this stage of your friendship, i think, no, i’m certain, your friend knows. but, he must really value your friendship that much for him to have allowed/tolerated everything that has happened so far. deeper friendships go far beyond uneasy sexual intimations, believe me. he wouldn’t tell you in your face because it is preferable to lie when the truth would hurt the other person more. thus your friend loves you that much. keep pushing your luck and the rift between you two might only get worse. you also have both your families to consider(or is that lesser in importance). you’re a man, you should know that the dictates of the dick is, more often than not, likely to be impulsive. look beyond that. you’ve got a beautiful friendship. put a little objectivity into the matter. you’d be thanking yourself in the future. and, hey, hugging is okay. but, as your friend is trying to tell you time and again, the line should be drawn somewhere.

]]> By: jon http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-110736 jon Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:28:50 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-110736 hey man, i say give it up. you keep pushing the envelope to the point where your desires cloud your better judgement. even if you succeed in getting him to respond sexually to you, there's too much collateral damage involved, foremost of which is your family that you profess to love and value tremendously. as you so clearly described, its always you who makes the first move and he seemed to just go along, well except with the kissing and fondling. maybe he really values your friendship too much that he tolerates the physical liberties youve been taking with him so you wont feel hurt or insulted. couldnt you treat him as your friend and give him the respect that he deserves? remember, you play with fire, you get burned and you may just singe your beloved family too. been in situations myself when i relied on my baser instincts instead of my head - regardless of what the consequences were. goes without saying, i ended up feeling really stupid and miserable. hey man, i say give it up. you keep pushing the envelope to the point where your desires cloud your better judgement. even if you succeed in getting him to respond sexually to you, there’s too much collateral damage involved, foremost of which is your family that you profess to love and value tremendously. as you so clearly described, its always you who makes the first move and he seemed to just go along, well except with the kissing and fondling. maybe he really values your friendship too much that he tolerates the physical liberties youve been taking with him so you wont feel hurt or insulted. couldnt you treat him as your friend and give him the respect that he deserves? remember, you play with fire, you get burned and you may just singe your beloved family too. been in situations myself when i relied on my baser instincts instead of my head – regardless of what the consequences were. goes without saying, i ended up feeling really stupid and miserable.

]]> By: zoe http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-110710 zoe Tue, 03 Feb 2009 04:44:24 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-110710 sssh, its like ur gay and hes not. you love and u like him more..ganayan ung current situation ko 1st love ko pa. fist kiss and firt first lahat... now best friend nlang daw kme and hes not even bi...the safe advise is keep him nalang as a friend pero masakit on ur part kce nga mahal mu at u coudnt imagine him to be with someone else lalo na if sa another guy mapunta. sssh, its like ur gay and hes not. you love and u like him more..ganayan ung current situation ko 1st love ko pa. fist kiss and firt first lahat… now best friend nlang daw kme and hes not even bi…the safe advise is keep him nalang as a friend pero masakit on ur part kce nga mahal mu at u coudnt imagine him to be with someone else lalo na if sa another guy mapunta.

]]> By: Restituto http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-98960 Restituto Wed, 03 Sep 2008 07:31:31 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-98960 This is just my opinion-- meron parang spectrum o level ang pagiging gay. totally out badings would be at 10, and 100% str8 would be at 1. sabihin na natin you're at level 6 and ur friend is at level 2.5. Usually everyone starts at low levels, then progresses to higher levels. I've been at low levels. (tho, ndi ako level 10 now hehe). Pero ive been at 2.5, same as your friend's. I would react the same as your friend's. Gusto nya ang ginagawa mo, the sensation, the warmth of hug, pero i kiss sa lips ng kapwa lalake, yuck, hawakan titi ko, yuck kabaklaan. "Di ako bakla no." There was a time back then, i loved my bestfriend, we had gfs, we would hug, pero pag nagigising ako him touching my dick, I would push him off, and hated him, gusto ko talaga suntukin, dahil HINDI AKO BAKLA. Meaning if he would give in to your desires, in his mind, he's one step further sa gay spectrum. Fast forward, now, If he would do the same, il just push him off, no more violent reactions. Simply because hindi ko sya type. hehehe. Pero of course love ko sya, bestfriend ko e. My advise, keep your treasures parekoy. You have your family, and your bestfriend. You might love ur bestfriend, pero nahahaluan na ng libido. Nagkataon lang, because you're married, and even religious, that ur libidos are suppressed at sya lang sa ngayon ang nag-iisang puedeng maging VENT o Outlet mo. Nahihila mo na sa isang kuarto. nahahug mo na. nakikiss mo pa paminsan minsan, abot kamay mo na titi nya. The SENSATION. Wooooow. pero don't forget the consequences after. Kunsabagay ako rin naman, i would always go for the SENSATION, sa akin, it is the definition of a good sex. But not love. This is just my opinion– meron parang spectrum o level ang pagiging gay. totally out badings would be at 10, and 100% str8 would be at 1. sabihin na natin you’re at level 6 and ur friend is at level 2.5. Usually everyone starts at low levels, then progresses to higher levels. I’ve been at low levels. (tho, ndi ako level 10 now hehe). Pero ive been at 2.5, same as your friend’s. I would react the same as your friend’s. Gusto nya ang ginagawa mo, the sensation, the warmth of hug, pero i kiss sa lips ng kapwa lalake, yuck, hawakan titi ko, yuck kabaklaan. “Di ako bakla no.” There was a time back then, i loved my bestfriend, we had gfs, we would hug, pero pag nagigising ako him touching my dick, I would push him off, and hated him, gusto ko talaga suntukin, dahil HINDI AKO BAKLA. Meaning if he would give in to your desires, in his mind, he’s one step further sa gay spectrum. Fast forward, now, If he would do the same, il just push him off, no more violent reactions. Simply because hindi ko sya type. hehehe. Pero of course love ko sya, bestfriend ko e.

My advise, keep your treasures parekoy. You have your family, and your bestfriend. You might love ur bestfriend, pero nahahaluan na ng libido. Nagkataon lang, because you’re married, and even religious, that ur libidos are suppressed at sya lang sa ngayon ang nag-iisang puedeng maging VENT o Outlet mo. Nahihila mo na sa isang kuarto. nahahug mo na. nakikiss mo pa paminsan minsan, abot kamay mo na titi nya. The SENSATION. Wooooow. pero don’t forget the consequences after. Kunsabagay ako rin naman, i would always go for the SENSATION, sa akin, it is the definition of a good sex. But not love.

]]> By: Claude http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-98195 Claude Tue, 26 Aug 2008 12:01:45 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-98195 Clearly you're gay. You are sexually attracted to you male friend. You want to have sex with him you are in love with him. Your thought may be right that he is not sexually attracted to you. He may like you as a friend, but he is just not really in to you. He can be straight...he can be gay, a closetted one at that. But the bottomline is, he is not sexually attracted to you. You yourself mentioned that he would stay on top of you but he wouldn't have a hard on. He is enjoying your company, but he does not want to have sex with you. He did once have a hard on but it was because you were fondling him...it was more of a physiological response from a stimulus. There are several things that you can do, and I am sure that you know these already. You are a matured and reasonable person. You should avoid deluding yourself in a blackhole of belief that he likes you too, atleast sexually. Clearly you’re gay. You are sexually attracted to you male friend. You want to have sex with him you are in love with him.

Your thought may be right that he is not sexually attracted to you. He may like you as a friend, but he is just not really in to you. He can be straight…he can be gay, a closetted one at that. But the bottomline is, he is not sexually attracted to you. You yourself mentioned that he would stay on top of you but he wouldn’t have a hard on. He is enjoying your company, but he does not want to have sex with you. He did once have a hard on but it was because you were fondling him…it was more of a physiological response from a stimulus.

There are several things that you can do, and I am sure that you know these already. You are a matured and reasonable person. You should avoid deluding yourself in a blackhole of belief that he likes you too, atleast sexually.

]]> By: jadalds http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-94187 jadalds Wed, 23 Jul 2008 10:32:34 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-94187 Wow!!!!! it took me hrs to read all your comments and advices....what i can say is go! go! go! go! gurl! tell him what you are and what you want with him in a way how you talk and or share stories/problems with each other. There were already some intimacies, kisses, hugs and cudlings....just be ready to accept the consequenses, who knows you might win what you want and if that happened and continues just make sure that nobody get hurts in the end. Be prepared to take all your secrets to your grave else it can be very messy...and a lot of people will get hurt and disappointed and even disgusted. you can't have the best of both worlds. ----- peace! Wow!!!!! it took me hrs to read all your comments and advices….what i can say is go! go! go! go! gurl! tell him what you are and what you want with him in a way how you talk and or share stories/problems with each other. There were already some intimacies, kisses, hugs and cudlings….just be ready to accept the consequenses, who knows you might win what you want and if that happened and continues just make sure that nobody get hurts in the end. Be prepared to take all your secrets to your grave else it can be very messy…and a lot of people will get hurt and disappointed and even disgusted. you can’t have the best of both worlds. —– peace!

]]> By: Ernest6 http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-93173 Ernest6 Fri, 11 Jul 2008 17:44:43 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-93173 im presently in the same dilemma, my bestfreind knows already that I hv feeling for him. He's straight. It's really hard when you have established a realtionship as good friends then suddenly maiinlove ka sa kanya. We're still good friends at sa akin pa rin sya nagconconfide. Pero the more nagkakasama kami, andun pa rin ang feeling ko. We are both working in the same place. It would not be fair kung iiwasan ko s'ya dahil wala naman syang kasalanan. Sa akin lang TondoManila, mas magtatagal marahil ang friendship nyo kung magiging friends na lamang kayo sa sitwasyon nyo. It's not a question of whether he is gay or not. Kung ayaw n'ya ng ganoong set-up, wag na lang.Kaya mo namang tiisin eh. We can share thoughts - solteroaqui@yahoo.com.ph im presently in the same dilemma, my bestfreind knows already that I hv feeling for him. He’s straight. It’s really hard when you have established a realtionship as good friends then suddenly maiinlove ka sa kanya. We’re still good friends at sa akin pa rin sya nagconconfide. Pero the more nagkakasama kami, andun pa rin ang feeling ko. We are both working in the same place. It would not be fair kung iiwasan ko s’ya dahil wala naman syang kasalanan. Sa akin lang TondoManila, mas magtatagal marahil ang friendship nyo kung magiging friends na lamang kayo sa sitwasyon nyo. It’s not a question of whether he is gay or not. Kung ayaw n’ya ng ganoong set-up, wag na lang.Kaya mo namang tiisin eh.
We can share thoughts – solteroaqui@yahoo.com.ph

]]> By: merlo http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-90570 merlo Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:20:07 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-90570 I do know but somehow may xperience din me though i was able to control it dahil i dont want to be open. Both of my best friend at naging kumpare were able to understand me to the point that we DID IT. We agreed afterwards that its more one sexual attractions but the friendship is to be treasured and deffirentiated. U see its a matter of being open and straight minsan kasi libog lang. I do know but somehow may xperience din me though i was able to control it dahil i dont want to be open. Both of my best friend at naging kumpare were able to understand me to the point that we DID IT. We agreed afterwards that its more one sexual attractions but the friendship is to be treasured and deffirentiated. U see its a matter of being open and straight minsan kasi libog lang.

]]> By: ric http://manilagayguy.net/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-82166 ric Fri, 02 May 2008 12:17:28 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/02/21/married-yet-in-love-with-bestfriend/#comment-82166 We cannot have everything in this world. Friends or Lovers, Family or Friend, To be open or not, To tell or not to tell. TO BE OR NOT TO BE. We cannot serve two masters. From Jesus to Shakespeare until today, it's a reality that in the end, we have to make a choice. Mula noon hanggang ngayon, human beings have to make choices and the choices we make determine our future. The one thing I ask myself and others, "Ano ba talaga ang gusto mo sa buhay?" There are many factors to consider and yet ano ba talaga ang gusto mong mangyari sa buhay mo? There can only be one goal -and we have to strive hard for that goal. I have long accepted the saying that "We cannot have our cake and eat it too." That is life, this is reality. We cannot have everything in this world. Friends or Lovers, Family or Friend, To be open or not, To tell or not to tell. TO BE OR NOT TO BE. We cannot serve two masters. From Jesus to Shakespeare until today, it’s a reality that in the end, we have to make a choice. Mula noon hanggang ngayon, human beings have to make choices and the choices we make determine our future. The one thing I ask myself and others, “Ano ba talaga ang gusto mo sa buhay?” There are many factors to consider and yet ano ba talaga ang gusto mong mangyari sa buhay mo? There can only be one goal -and we have to strive hard for that goal. I have long accepted the saying that “We cannot have our cake and eat it too.” That is life, this is reality.

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