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He Loves Only Straight Guys
Entry Feed TrackbackLast week, I met with a group of fellow gay bloggers in Gateway, Araneta Center. One of them was Rico, a lawyer. Because we were seated at the dinner table just beside each other, we had the chance to talk one-on-one. He intimated to me something that nearly made me fall off my seat. Rico falls only for straight guys. And he does not mean straight-acting, he means straight, heterosexual guys.
“That’s an oxymoron!” I was trying to explain how it is impossible for a heterosexual man to love him back 100%. “Maybe he will love you for your money, or for whatever benefits he can enjoy from you, but he cannot give you the love you deserve,” I said.
Rico did not seem to want to hear any of it, and so he explained further — that whenever a guy he is dating starts to show signs of falling in love with him, he snaps out of it. He said something like, “I desire the affection, of course as much affection I can get, but if it gets to a point that he is swinging towards loving me more than he loves his wife or girlfriend, the attraction just fades away. Parang ayoko na sa kanya.” He illustrates with an example of a guy who, while they were dating, started crying. He was expressing his dilemma that he may be more in love with Rico than his girlfriend. That made him dump the Cry Baby in a jiffy.
By this time, perhaps sensing my violent reaction to the blasphemy I was hearing from Rico, the other gay bloggers in the dinner table joined in the discussion too. Gibbs attempted to offer a rather amusing explanation, “Try to understand, Migs, Rico is a provincial lass.” According to him, that is how gays are in the rural areas — they are expected to get attracted only to straight guys, much as they are expected to be parloristas. Ang sabi ng alamat, kapag na in-love sila sa kapwa nila bakla, bubuka ang lupa at lalamunin sila ng buo. Another blogger jumps in with, “the gay-to-gay relationship is such a Western idea,” which I understood as, here gays who love men are expected to assume the role of a woman. At dahil hindi tayo babae, wa talaga! I was almost violent with all I was hearing that the whole table had to remind me, “Migs, World Peace nga di ba?”
All I wanted for Rico to realize is that he deserves to be loved 100% Everybody does! Apparently, what I was not getting was that there are gay guys who are “programmed” like Rico — preferring straight guys even in spite of the fact that they cannot reciprocate the love. How about you dear MGG readers? If you were with us in the discussion table, what would you have said?
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simple: to each his own and good luck! i’m sure makakatagpo din siya ng katapat niya.
kaso nagtataka lang ako, kung straight yung guy tapos pumatol sa kaniya – eh di hindi na straight yung guy. kasi kahit papaano meron din siyang homo tendencies. as to what degree of homo tendencies is debatable!
yun lang! nyahahahaha!
hoping to be a querida,
anton maton
anton maton at Mar 24, 07 at 11:28 am
hay naku, marami na akong na-meet na katulad ng rico na yan. umaasa sa wala.
di ko rin alam where the other blogger is coming from. am i so western that i have never considered getting involved with a straight man? i don’t think so.
i am not a woman trapped in a man’s body i am a man who happens to like other men. but i will not settle for just any man. i want someone who can love me the way i love him.
gay blogger in the closet at Mar 24, 07 at 11:33 am
wow. my eyes were opened. im from a city pero i think thats my mind setting also. pero now ive realized it. im new kasi in this “thing”. kala ko we have to play the role of a woman. thanks for opening my eyes.
escolarina at Mar 24, 07 at 12:46 pm
well..kung talagang ganun ang paniniwala nya at sa tingin naman nya ay masaya siya sa ginagawa niya kahit kung minsan nakakasakit sya…e gow!!!!…..just inform me kung makatagpo talaga siya ng tunay na lalaki na mamahalin siya ng walang kapalit…gud lak na lang ulet…..and world peace!!!!!!!
pirena at Mar 24, 07 at 12:47 pm
@ gay blogger in the closet
i am not a woman trapped in a man’s body i am a man who happens to like other men.
couldn’t have said it better myself.
Finzione at Mar 24, 07 at 12:49 pm
well… i’m more into straight guys too… eh, kaya nga dumarami na classifications ng third sex eh… so posible rin na classified na rin ang mga lalaki ngayon… ah basta! yun na yun!
Fritz at Mar 24, 07 at 1:59 pm
Naman ang topic, ang serious!
I also know some people like Rico, and we have the same sentiments about it Migs. Ang problema nga, we cant tell people kung nao dapat nila gawinsa life nila, dabah? Kung masaya sila sa gingawa nila, then we’ll just have to be happy for them.
Kagaya nga ng sinabi ni gaybloggerintheclost, im a man who happens to like men who likes men.
Dapat si Rico, pumunta sa middle east, sasaya sya rito! Ang daming straight guys (its debatable, believe me) who likes to be with guys.
Anton Maton, naghahanap ako ng querida.
Ares at Mar 24, 07 at 2:10 pm
hay naku ganyang ganyan din dito sa Tacloban… talagang mga baklush dito naghahanap ng mga straight na mga menchus… ewan ko ba… talagang provencyana talaga…
Rhap-rap at Mar 24, 07 at 2:15 pm
I pity the crybaby. It seems like Rico just toyed with his feelings. Shame.
Misterhubs.blogspot.com at Mar 24, 07 at 2:27 pm
Im with Rico..To be honest i was never attracted to gays, effems or trans…I like men who are married or has a girlfriend..i dont know..but thats how it is…btw i have never experienced giving anything to a guy just to be with me…heheheheheh
iloveBOOM at Mar 24, 07 at 2:56 pm
i’m just like rico. i only fall for straight guys, but don’t really beg the heavens for the guy to love me back. actually, natatakot ako pag medyo over na yung attention na ibinibigay sa akin. andun yung feeling na i don’t deserve it, na nakokonsensya ako na he could be turning gay, too, because of my actions/affections towards him. minsan, sobrang mahal ko yung guy na wini-wish ko na magkaroon sya ng happy family and all, and i’d be pretty contented to be the ninang of his kids.
i’m happy to show a guy how much i care for him, pero minsan syempre naiisip ko pa rin, parang this isn’t enough. ewan, magulo ako. masokista. gaga. martyr. whatevahyahwannacallit. yun yun.
effie at Mar 24, 07 at 3:20 pm
I think it is clear that Rico does not really desire love or relationship with anyone, that is why he prefers “straight” men. He knows that they can never trully love him back, so what could be safer. Rico is in fact afraid to love or to be loved – maybe it is just sex that he is after. What is sad though is that to say that straight men are more desirable than gay men smacks of internalized homophobia. However, the human mind is often more complex for most people to understand. If you combine sexual orientation, sexual preferences, sexual fantasies, childhood experiences and cultural norms – the possible combinations of behavior can be very large indeed.
There’s the power of seduction, for one. Getting a straight guy to do stuff he is not supposed to, gives a gay person a certain power over him. It is a mind game – a conquest.
Also, there’s the concept of “masculinity”. At some level there are some behavioral differences between many straight guys and many gay guys. And since gays are basically attracted to men, the thinking goes, why not chase after men who are traditional men?
These are just a couple of possible explanations about Rico’s preference. But I think he needs to ask himself if this preference is going to get him anywhere, because from the looks of it, his preference is a good recipe for a very lonely and loveless future.
Ace at Mar 24, 07 at 3:53 pm
the idea of a straight guy falling for a gay guy is so out of this world and frankly, 100% impossible. because once a straight dude falls for another guy, be it straight or otherwise, then he’s not straight anymore. it’s as simple as one plus one which most of the gay guys i know couldn’t or doesn’t want to understand. personally, i may get attracted to a straight guy but i cannot fall because i know that it is absolutely impossible. i’d love to love someone whom i know will love me back. just my two cents.
ariel at Mar 24, 07 at 4:16 pm
i agree with rico..i really love straight heterosexual guy..pareho kami ng ambisyon..hehe..anyway im a provincial lass too from leyte..i think mero yatang straight heterosexual guy namglolove sa atin na mga gays, ryt not for money or just sex..just take care of them..ako nga when i am falling inlove to guys i take care of them na parang bf ko pero at the end they dumped me..hehe..pero ok na un,,i thought bibigay rin sila sa akin..hindi pala..haha
summer at Mar 24, 07 at 5:16 pm
kawawa naman.
ap at Mar 24, 07 at 5:42 pm
i find it unusual for a gay to fall only for straight men. i mean, stop living in a world of fantasy–Heterosuality is defined as the sexual orientation or affection towards the opposite sex and when you cross the line that becomes bisexuality or homosexuality already, which has a totally different meaning.
anyway, that’s my opinion and evryone is entitle to have have one. my point here is that straight men are for straight gals only and straight men and gays just don’t mix. just like what Steve Sandvoss as aaron, in the Latter Days, said colors and whites dont mix!
am i getting a point here? hehehe. any way, again, i would like to emphasize that its just my opinion. ehhehe. world peace people!
davaweño at Mar 24, 07 at 5:48 pm
Attraction, perhaps, plays a major role in Rico’s attitude. Come on, you may not notice it, but in this site alone, when did you ever worship an openly gay man? (That is, feature an openly gay man to sexually arouse us? Wala pa, so far, ryt. I mean, even if you feature a closeted, the thing is, he’s acting straight, hence attractive.) If we play our cards right, most of us would always prefer the “straight” ones because they ooze hotness more than effeminate gays. Have you ever equate HOT to a BAKLITA?
However, I guess that we could take Rico’s claim that he’s only attracted to “straight, heterosexual guys” in a different perspective. Maybe he’s attracted to men AND/OR gay who act straight, ‘coz when he referred to a man crying as a turn-off, I’m taking it as a sign that guys that are effeminate are not his type(most of us, I presume) Deep inside us, we want a hot stud. What makes them hot is that they’re acting like real men.
james at Mar 24, 07 at 7:17 pm
yo. i haven’t said it quite enough. i am a man who loves another man.i could never ever see myself as a woman trapped in a man’s body.and i don’t think a heteroguy would fall for a gay guy. EVER.simple lang talaga at hindi ito Rocket science.opinion ko to. walang kokontra! ang saya natin!
docki at Mar 24, 07 at 9:58 pm
Nahuli yata ako sa biyahe, and somehow many of the answers here revolved around the male acting person who love another male acting person… yeah may point si pareng (para manly) james.. like me i find HOT those who exudes (tama ba 2?) masculinity & i am a male person who happens to like another male (like gayblogger)… Kanina watch ako chanel V, yung isang host na guy (d sya pinoy..di si harvey) may kasama ding VJ na girl… i told myself how lucky it is to be in the shoes of that girl just to be with that VJ… then I told my self…perhaps this is one of the reasons why there are gay guys who wants to be transformed into a woman (frm their physical to their soul)para guys will look at them as real female.. I dont know if i make sense here…
josh at Mar 25, 07 at 12:40 am
well sa totoo lang mas feel ko makipagrelasyon sa tunay na lalake. feeling babae ang pakiramdam. im happy for rico for we have the same mind setting of gay love.
iv had the same experience. it is with my straight guy bestfriend. i fell in love with him, i tried to hide my feelings, pero syempre lunabas pa rin ang truth na love ko sya. turns out pala na unti unti na rin pala sya na fall in love sakin. but wala na rin kmi.
db si zsazsa zaturnnah ganun din. si ada minamahal si dodong, but with out her/him (hehe) knowing na matagal na rin pala may gusto si dodong sa knya.
maybe sa ibang tao ang tingin nila sa mga ganitong relasyon, eh pera ang minsan ang kapalit. kung mnsan naman ung sexuality naman nung str8 guy ang in question. coz ayon dn sa iba pag ang lalake pumatol sa bakla eh bakla na rin. but still for us naman na ganito ang setting and thinking sa love, ito cguro ang fulfillment for them.
maybe we can be just be happy for those who enjoy this, pati ako. at least masasabi rin natin na they have found their perfect match. kaya im happy for rico. happy din ako sa lahat d2 sa mgg. sana lahat tayo makatagpo ng perfect match. str8 man o gay din..
mwah!
sire lee at Mar 25, 07 at 12:56 am
Dhay, kapag andoon ako sa table baka inabot tayo ng hanggang madaling araw. Not because I will spend every minute trying convince him to “feel’ differently but rather hear more of his stories and why he chooses to fall only for straight men.
Noong mas bagets pa ako, dumaan din ako sa stage na ganun: ang umiibig lang sa mga lalaking straight talaga. But like I said, DUMAAN lang ako. Hindi ako pumarada.
vince at Mar 25, 07 at 2:30 am
getting involved with a straight guy?? define “getting involved”. anything romantic and sexual would make that “straight” guy not straight. there’s no such thing as “getting involved” with a straight guy since the moment the straight guy is “involved” with u (beyond friendship), he’s not straight. and if everything stays within “friendship”, u two aren’t involved.
i guess that’s how i see it
justin at Mar 25, 07 at 3:16 am
something to add… when i said the guy won’t be “straight”, he might not be “gay” either. just definitely not “straight”. could be bi, could be something else, but definitely not “straight”.
justin at Mar 25, 07 at 3:17 am
when you say that there are some gays who acts as if he is straight…well, for me that’s plain rubbish. there’s no such thing as gays acting to be straight. Your physical self doesn’t define your sexuality. Gay’s dont have to act as if they are straight. it doesn’t work that way because there’s no such thing as a code of ethics for gay people or for straight men. you may dress like women do or like any other men but it doesn’t define your sexuality. at the end of the day, being gay is still a sexual orientation towards the same sex and not by the way you walk, dress or even talk
davaweño at Mar 25, 07 at 5:18 am
dami nyo sinasabi.. ang hahaba pa.
Isa lang masasabi ko about this..
“Kanya-kanyang trip lang yan!”
chriscapade at Mar 25, 07 at 8:39 am
sa mga katulad ni rico, na bakla pero hanap straight, dyan nag mumula ang “homophobia” within the gay community sa you previously discuss in a separate topic. sa kanila nag mumula ang negative sentiments sa katulad natin na bading na pumapatol sa kapwa bading.
in my opinion, when you love a straight guy, i handa mo na wallet mo, parang tubig yan sa isang butas na dam, tagas ng tagas.
ika nga sa above comment, i respeto natin ang trip, wag na wag lang syang mag discriminate ng kapwa bading.
mickey at Mar 25, 07 at 9:54 am
so what kind of guys do we like in this blog? aren’t most of them straight? has a feminine guy been featured in sexy photos here?
john at Mar 25, 07 at 11:05 am
m transgendered so im doomed not to be loved by a gay guy. the only chance i have is with a straigh guy who would forget my sex when i was born and accept my sex now as a reformed woman.
cliogoddess at Mar 25, 07 at 12:55 pm
i undeztand rico…..love knows no gender…..
Mimi at Mar 25, 07 at 1:07 pm
James and John have a point which is that the kind of person we always want for are straight-acting guys, and not the feminine ones, which is actually a tragic fate for most of us. Bummer. Just to add to what they said though, I often wonder why we, in the community, insist on outing closeted gays… I mean, like James pointed out, what makes a man physically and sexually attractive is the fact that he’s straight-looking or the idea that he’s straight. If we out most of the famous celebrities, don’t we take the risk that they would become unattractive afterwards after they’ve admitted that they’re gays? Like for example, Rustom Padilla, etc. What I suggest is that, let’s leave the closeted gays alone, para hindi maubos ang pinagpapantasyahan natin. =)
Brad at Mar 25, 07 at 1:53 pm
well everyone has a point talaga(point down there, ahehe). us gays are smart kaya we should be proud of our sexuality. i totally agree din naman sa mga sinasabi ng iba na ihnada mo ang wallet mo sa ganitong relatonships, given fact na un. but if it makes them happy aus na un!!!
sire lee at Mar 26, 07 at 1:15 am
i still prefer straight guys, syempre iba kasi talaga pag ang bf mo lalakeng-lalake…nga lang, as you’ve said already, ilusyon lang yun..mga ilusyonada!….
wish ko na lang sana naman in my next life girl na talaga ako..not just a girl trapped in a boy’s body..para naman maramdaman ko ring lumigaya..ay magdrama daw ba?!..haay kaloka!..
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mahaderang_tamaraw at Mar 26, 07 at 2:18 am
omg get real, if thats impossible to fall in love with a str8 guy, coz no point in day dreaming and thinking it will happen, u just going to be disappointed and please live in reality people ! not in fantasy island lol
Jayson at Mar 26, 07 at 7:12 am
Kalokah, ang dami talagang nag-react ha. (Ay, pati pala ako naki-react na. LOL!)
Mahirap talaga magsalita at mahirap iinsist ang mga gusto natin. Kung ganyan ang pakiramdam ni Rico, ang ating dalagang-bukid, hayaan na lang natin sya. Nasabi nyo na rin naman ang gusto nyong sabihin, diba?
andrew at Mar 26, 07 at 8:06 am
Ako puro straight lang nakakarelasyon at nahahada ko. Dito sa amin sa Laguna dameng nakikipag relasyon na strait ha. Pero aminin natin, ciempre gumagastos ang mga bakla to maintain the relationship. Although hindi nagtatagal mga ganitong relasyon, dahil in the end, babae pa rin ang hanap ng mga lalaki. Bakasyon na, punta kayo dito, more buking, walang allowance mga ombre. hehe
MsNinja at Mar 26, 07 at 10:24 am
Tsaka, diba, kapag nikikipag “ANO” ka lalaki mo, bababe tingin nila sa yo. Kase ang sinasabi nila, ang kinis knis mo daw, ini-L to L ka pa, pati dodo mo ginagawang sa girl. Pag hinada ka din, cguradong iba na tingin sayo non.
MsNinja at Mar 26, 07 at 10:36 am
talaga bang nakadikit na ung notion na “pag bading ka at gusto mo straight na guy probinsyana ka?”…. lol,…. pero totoo yata un, kasi ako ’syana din at mga karelaysyon ko mga straight din…. cheers to rico and all those who said otherwise…
cast at Mar 26, 07 at 11:55 am
move on people……haven’t we learned something from the famous movie Borkebak Mountain? Love is a force
of nature! That love knows no gender….do you still remember the scene where Ennis told the following to
Jack: “I aint gay.” Then Jack replied, “Me, niether…” I think they meant
that…that they really are straight
guys amid what happened the previous night…..but, and but, they couldn’t deny the very fact that they fell in
love with each other and that they felt they belong together….walang kinikilalang anumang rules and
pag-ibig…wala kahit na ano….also take the case of Arnel Ignacio and alike…one might immediately say that
what they feel or felt towards their wives is just another form of friendly love, sugar-coated by the hope that
someone would take care of them when they get old…..but this kind of thinking, I’d like to say. is too
immature….sino tayo para husgahan sila? It’s not logically impossible for them to feel romantic love towards
the opposite sex……they are genuinely gays by nature…it just so happened that, along the way, they felt
something romantic for gals…..and there’s nothing wrong with that….so in the same manner that a gay can fall
in love with a girl or that two straight cowboys can keep their affection for each other, it’s not impossible/unacceptable/ironic for a straight guy to fall in love with a gay guy…iyon lang po…
Mimi at Mar 26, 07 at 12:50 pm
Brokeback Mountain pala…xenxa na…kung may mali pa…xenxa na tlaga
Mimi at Mar 26, 07 at 12:53 pm
napaluha talaga ako habang binabasa mga comments niyo…
sa tingin ko naman we cannot blame rico for falling in love with straight guys. depende naman yun kung paano siya nagfa-fall. kung parang crush type lang i guess normal lang satin yun minsan we make extra effort pero crush ay crush lang. o baka naman nagfall siya kasi nagpaparamdam rin naman itong “straight” guy na ito.
ayoko na lagyan ng label na straight o bi-curious o kung ano mang chuvaness pero sa tingin ko it happens… i’ve been with guys who were traditionally straight pero as expected it didn’t last yung pinakamatagal was a year. i had a relationship with another gay guy pero 3 months lang siya. minsan mas worthwhile na mage-end yung relationship niyo knowing na kasi may gf na siya o magpapakasal na siya kaysa dahil may bago siyang lalaki at hindi siya kagandahan hahaha…
one of them even told me… love knows no gender. basta sincere ka sa pinapakita mo wala namang masama dun. kung umabot sa point na kailangan na maglet go i will not regret it kasi i was sincere and honest.
chu chu caracas at Mar 27, 07 at 1:42 am
I’ve fallen for a so-called “straight guy” and that happened to be my boyfriend before…or i was to him, since he never was affectionate towards me…no intimate moments, no kisses, no hugs and anything you can think of that lovers do when they’re together…he was always full of crap reasons to weasel himself out of a situation and you know what?? He just used me…for personal gain…material things, mostly, since I’m not stupid enough to give him cash. It’s a shame he did that to me because I really did love him…he’s my first boyfriend and he had no idea how much he has lost…eventually, I came to a realization that when straight guys wants to be your boyfriend?? It’s either he wants something from you or he’s serious about it…I agree that everybody deserves to be loved 100% but as of now, it’s just hard for me to trust a straight guy…
zealot at Mar 27, 07 at 1:50 am
in most provinces men are BI… at eto ang mga totoong BI!!!ndi yung mga andito sa city(AS I SAID CITY!!!) na BI-yot!!!
whats nice in these provinces, is, that gays are really accepted…
jholou at Mar 27, 07 at 9:15 am
actually, i understand rico. kasi me din, i like straight guys only. di ko pa masyadong feel ang mga bi and fellow gay men… huhuhu…
sikma... at Mar 27, 07 at 10:17 am
Hey people speaking of provine & the city.. May mga naglabasan ng teaser ng new indie film na KUMPISAL (Confession) from the same director of TROIKA.. about a bi (josh ivan) in the province who had relations with a beautiful girl and a stud.. sana ako na lang siya (hehehe..josh din naman ko eh)
josh at Mar 27, 07 at 5:15 pm
Ur comparing brokeback mountain to gay guy whosse attaracted to str8 guy. oh yeah that makes sense. yeah first of all, both of them are in the closet and back before i was born. anybody can fall love anybody, but in realtity check. u just going to be disappointed so why bother putting urself in that situation.
Jayson at Mar 28, 07 at 10:59 am
Im 27.
I know I’m gay since I was a kid. During the first 26 years of my life, I never find myself falling to a gay or bisexual guy. Nandidiri ako (just me, of course).
I cant stand having sex with them (gays/bis), gusto ko ako lang yung kumikilos kahit tuod yung kapartner ko, yes I even paid for sex.
Until I met my current BF who once a straight, then became a certified bi, but now I think his preference is no longer straight, however I think he still want to have his own family (but thats another story).
Im eating my words now, I love my BF today more than any person or thing, whatever he is then and now thus I think I can now fall now to the same preference as me…
ghel at Mar 28, 07 at 4:46 pm
basta ako gustong gusto ko sa mga lalaking lalaki ang dating pero mabait at hindi umaabuso.. inaamin ko bading ako na ladlad pero di nagbibihis ng pang-girl. Gusto ko nga ring mag gym para kahit pano i look like a man pero yung kilos at pananalita at puso ko gay pa rin. Iba ang thinking ng girl at gay – that’s what i believe.. Kaya iba rin ang kaya nating maioffer sa isang tunay na lalaki. On the other hand- kapag nagtagal na sa relasyon at nafall na yung guy sau- tendencies or baka nga may pagka – moher din siya.. E wala na ako care dun.. for as long as he would stay the same guy I knew when we met at alam kong ako lang wala ng iba.. ganyan kase si jun jun.. i love you jun jun.. whaaa..
alexie at Apr 3, 07 at 11:10 am
I understand Rico because we both like straight guys only. I also understand Migs for saying that no straight men will ever love him back. They will stick only for somethng in return, more often than not — money. But I am not saying most straight guys are only after money.
I have fallen for many straight guys. I have confronted them. I expected them to despise me. They may not have given me love, but I like what they have shown me — respect and treasured friendship. They are my closest friends now because they say, I respect them. I guess that is how I’d like to keep them and I am happy with that.
As for erotic pleasures, I can really say that I do a straight guy. And I have. Paid, that is. Not having sex with another gay guy does not mean I despise other gays. It is my orientation and preference. Like what my straight friends say, respect.
john_aspen at Apr 7, 07 at 12:36 am
Gay men go for gays who have money too, partners who can help them advance their careers. Kaya ako, mas pipiliin ko nang lokohin na ako ng staight kesa lokohin ako ng kapwa ko dushka!
Tawagin nyo na akong maaisim!
Jordi at Apr 15, 07 at 5:02 am
Ako i do understand with everyone’s opinion. I’m in the situation of Rico thats why he need someone to understand him. lumaki din ako ng province and no one knows in my family na i have tendency na maging gay. i was one of a swimming team in our school during my college days at di pa rin ako bumigay despite na andami kong ka team na gwapo. pagdating ng manila at andito ako ngayon sa modeling world, ganyan din ang nararamdan ko kay rico. never pa ako nagka crush ng gay or straight acting guy. na inlove din ako sa isang straight guy na isang model. we have a good relationship as being close friends. we always go out and at gusto nya laging kami lang ang magkasama. there are times na nag jealous sa akin coz nag papa jealous ako. i did not spent money so much for him coz he doesn’t like it. lagi kaming nag aaway pero laging nagbabati after one day. sobrang nice and good looking at sobrang malakas ang appeal. sa kanyang mga ipinakita i realized when he left the country, he only need a companion who is nice and understanding. pero some of my friends, straight guys, girls and gays, talagang akala din nila na kami kasi ganon din ang feelings ko. there are times na tina tanong ko sya kung kailan kami mag sex kasi alm nya rin na wala pa ako experience makipag sex sa lalaki, at lagi nyang sagot na baka mawalan kami ng respito sa isat isa at lalo akong parang umasa dahil parang gusto nya mangyari ay platonic relationship. on that situation i never took advantage coz i wasn’t pretty sure if his feeling was the same towards me.
i always ask him if he really loves me and he always answer yeah i love you so much but as a good companion. until now we still have a communication even if he is far already. 3 times na ako umibig ng ganito pero walang nangyari kasi mahirap talaga ang straight dahil pag umibig ka may mga kapalit yan lagi na di maganda on your part. ang masasabi ko lang dapat e enjoy ni rico kung ano ang meron pero don’t expect na dont expect so much sa guy na tatagal ang relationship. may makaka encounter kang mababait na iibigin mong straight pero be careful sa mga darating sayong buhay na mag take advantage lang.
bitch at Apr 20, 07 at 2:07 am
i’d say i understood his predicament. i too would leave once the other guy falls for me. but since i wanted to be loved too, i had to change my attitude.
wrestler at May 22, 07 at 10:04 pm
I think there’s nothing provincial about your friend.
Bka more on Zodiac pa. PISCES ba yun?
Or Psychological, more like it.
You see, there are some people who fall in love with someone the more that person seems so far from possible to love him/her.
He will keep on falling in love the more na alam niya na hindi siya mahal nung tao.
But once the person shows affection and love for him/her, all of a sudden nawawala yung love niya kc he/she wants to keep running after that person.
Pag wala na yung thrill, ayun! ala na rin yung love!
Mga ogags yung ganitong mga tao, may psychological imbalance to the max.
and most of them are Pisceans! hahahahaha
pio at Aug 5, 07 at 6:29 pm
gud day everyone.i can see that the topic is very serious. actually, ive been into that kind of thing also. may cousin, who is a gay tried me.I just want 2 ask, is it true that if once u tasted a gay, ur always looking for it?straight guys, what can u say?
leon at Aug 22, 07 at 9:40 am
ewan kay rico. pano sya makakahanap ng long time partner kung ganun ang gagawin nya? kung apatol sayo ang isang lalake pwede na syang i-category sa bi class. pero homosexuality n din yun.
whocares at Sep 5, 07 at 1:29 pm
i dont think its such a crime for gays to fall in love with “straight guys”. it depends on his orientation….aminin na natin na since bata pa tayo, we were gays na talaga and we really wanted to be a woman. kaya lang, as we grow old, daming factors and influence from other culture and people. I still go for straight guys kasi, i am a gay and i cant really find myself falling in love with a gay too. siguro di ko lang talaga kaya kasi feeling ko pareho kaming gay eh. so….the point is, i am much happier to be with straight guys kasi eveer since i was a child, girl na kasi feeling ko eh so bakit maiinlove ako sa kapwa gay na girl din yong feeling? but i have gay friends who are open to it, i am just not that open yet…..im not closing the windows though….!
rain143 at Sep 6, 07 at 2:54 am
i agree wd u rain!its not a sin nor a crime to fall for a straight guy.bcoz in the first place kaya nga tyo tinawag na bakla bcoz u get attracted to another guy not wd another gay.imagine if u fall for a gay guy hindi na bakla ang tawag sayo!anu nga ba ang dapat ang itawag sa ganun?di ba its very seldom u get attracted to gays once you know na kafatid mo pla sya sa pananampalataya?i dont want to put myself in a situation just like my friend,who has a gay lover also, na sabay nagkakagusto or nagkakacrush sa isang gwapong lalake kpag magkasama sila!immagine sasabihin nung isa ay gwapo, crush ko!at sasabihin dn nman ng lover nya ay oo nga,crush ko din!kakaloka di ba?ayoko rin mangyari sa kin ang nangyari sa friend ko na kpag wala yung isa ay lumalandi naman ung isa sa ibang bading or lalake!i wouldn’t mind my boyfriend spending his time wd his gf or wife if im not around, rather than thinking that his flirting wd another gay or guy!nakakapraning!
paul at Oct 2, 07 at 12:22 pm
straight ang bf ko… and we’ve been together for almost 2 years now, i’m 27 and he is 20.
i prefer having relationship with straight guys than having with same gender preferences coz sa first relationship ko with a bisexual, hindi ako masaya. all he wanted is sex while me, im not into it or let say not ready to do it.
sa bf ko ngayon we take it slowly. sa ngayon hanggang hug at kiss lang kami.
although minsan lumiliko sya ng landas at nambabae. the good thing is at the end of the day sakin sya umuuwi, he never take them seriously…
lahat tayo me karapatng mag-mahal at pumili ng taong mamahalin…
WilMark at Oct 11, 07 at 2:26 pm
all i can i say is that i prefer straight acting gays…anyway, i think the barrio notion really got him so deep into his bone…i think we need to be realistic in matters that pertains our sexuality and let’s open our eyes on what the world has to offer and not just live on what kind of fantasies our minds has to say…live up to reality Rico…someone may love you being in a straight mode as what you would like to have, but still he will always have a pinch of gayness as to the fact that he loves you…and if you will not compromise with that, then just be happy being single.and i know anyone can still be happy, even in incompleteness state
markmercir at Oct 12, 07 at 9:41 am
i have a friend who’s exactly like rico… he’s seriously “in-love” with his straight friend, to which the friend knows as well. somehow, he couldn’t dare take advantage of the guy, eventhough there have been many chances to do so… ayaw din daw nya, kasi ayaw nya mabastos yung guy, and it might ruin the friendship. but the thing is, if the guy suddenly shifts gears, he might get turned-off. ano yun?
worthy at Nov 24, 07 at 3:26 am
i can absolutely relate to rico. i also get attracted to and fall in love with a “straight” guy only. if he’s married or has a girlfriend then the better although not really a requirement. i can’t imagine myself having an intimate relationship with another gay because what made me “gay” is the fact that i like men over women and not another gay. on the point that “straight” guys cannot love a gay guy back; i think this is not a fair and well thought-of statement because that’s putting a person into a box and reducing his individuality (which is obviously irreducible!)does that mean that only another gay can love a gay guy? that’s the mystery of love! it knows no boundaries! do you love a person because he can reciprocate your love or because he’s willing give back what you’ve given or do you love another person because one day when you woke up your heart tells you so? although this will surely raise a lot of eyebrows and as a matter of fact my gay friend and i always debate on this issue i think that a straight guy will never loose his “straightness” or his sexuality (if he’s sure about it) even if he has or had a relationship with a gay. i mean your sexuality is your nature and innate and never dependent on what the sexual orientation of your partner. i have had 2 boyfriends and they’re straight. one is actually married and have kids. i was there when he was having a hard time with their marriage so i would say that he learned to eventually love me as a person regardless of my gender and/or sexual orientation. he still likes women and gets turned on by women but he loved me just like any other person worth loving. this is only my opinion that i would like to share with all of you.
munchierain at Nov 27, 07 at 3:53 pm
well ako sa straight lang ako na i-inlove. kc mahirap na kung sa gay din ehh…ayoko ng gay to gay rela. mas maganda kung straight to gay.. hehehe well its only my opinion lang naman…
barron at Nov 29, 07 at 10:23 am
isa lang masasabi ko. Takot sya mag-commit sa isang relasyon. yun ang bottomline dyan, thats why he prefer these kind of people, so that he can jump from one straight guy to another. yun lang
marvs at Jan 17, 08 at 4:01 pm
hello all.. hay naku nabasa ko lahat kasi break ko ngayon sa work. well if you ask me i never experienced a relationship with a guy that’s why i want to try. same ako ni rico. i prefer straight guys. one time i had a kinda sex with a bi. hay naku nandidiri ako after hahhaa.. and from then on i promised to myself that i will never do that again.
well now i have a constant textmate. and he said he like me even we haven’t met yet. and he’s straight. uuwi ako ngayon march sa amin. i’ll see if ano ang gusto nya. if he just really want to use me to have those material things well i want to try it also. gusto ko ring magpaka gaga baka magiging masaya ako don. But if i’m going to have a very good career of course i won’t choose the guy. I will stick to my family. Sa kanila ko na lng ibibigay lahat ng pera ko. I think magulo ako hahaha..
but i just like to share something. i’ve read an old magazine. the author said. You’ll never have a partner unless you need it emotionally. I think, kaya single pa si Rico kasi he don’t need it emotionally as of that stage of his life. and the author also said that it’s really possible that a straight will fall in love to a gay gay. sana ako na yun hahaha…
wish me luck guys sa pag uwi ko.. hope the guys is really sincere and he’s really falling for me. kasi yun ang sinasabi nya sa txt.
ramdann at Jan 18, 08 at 12:57 pm
In the states, cross dressers and even transgendered males have a market .. and they’re usually straight. I’m sure there are guys here too in the phils that are attracted to cross-dressers but are too paranoid to admit it lang.
I say let them be. Do you think a fag can ever get it on with Mama Ricky or some crossdressin fag? I don’t think so plainly because they don’t look manly anymore.
Syempre market nyan straight na
from1fagtoanother at Jan 18, 08 at 3:37 pm
I’m known for this… mainly because I often fall for straight guys…but the most memorable and craziest part of my lovelife is when I fell for a homo. It rocked my world back then. Personally…I dont know if there’s such thing as “sa straight lang na fa fall…or sa bakla lang na fa-fall” there are no rules…no boundaries when it comes to love…one thing’s for sure…It aint something about general rule.It has something to do with how you protect yourself from getting hurt and from there eventually get your self into a situattion where you weigh whether its right for you or not. And it depends whether you give in to that or you slap youself with reality that “hey it aint happenin… marami pa jang iba!” or “ok lang yan I love him e”…Again…Its just how I see it.
blue at Feb 4, 08 at 11:37 am
hindi kaya kaso ito ng isang matinding halusinasyon? sabagay minsan nakakabulag yung tintibok ng puso, disagree lang po ako nakapag pumatol yung guy sa gay eh magiging bading na rin, pano pala pag vibrator yung trip mo? magiigng vibrator ka na rin?
miyaka sobrang chaka at Apr 27, 08 at 2:20 pm
What is an OXYMORON?
Moron na OX???
moronoxy at Apr 28, 08 at 12:16 pm
i’m so confused. how do we define a guy when he’s straight or not? with sexual preferences or registers of whom he had sex with? lemme stress what miyaka said about “a straight guy makes patol to a gay guy will become a gay guy too” is so passe. even if something gayish happens to a straight guy it also doesn’t remove the fact that he’s still attracted to gals. how about those gays who had relationship with gals?
i suggest we set aside those categories and see that Rico’s much more like the rest of us. i like straight guys too, don’t care if he won’t reciprocate because i also would prefer that he won’t. unrequited love is hard and painful, but in the long run it’s beautiful, strong and true.
however, straight guys are much better being friends. they’re so sweet and medyo bastos hahaha… they’d hug you or kiss you in no occasion. they’d even defend you when you’re in danger. hehe… well that’s for my case, effem kasi ako. i don’t wear dress but i look femme that’s all…
Anakaris at Apr 28, 08 at 11:32 pm
i gues we all just need to embrace what we want for ourselves. its our own happiness that we are talking about. all of my relationships are with gay guys but i’ve had a number of sexual relations with straight guys, most of them i paid for. but nevertheless, i enjoyed a lot.but thats just it; just sex. i cudn’t really get involved romantically with a straight guy. growing up in the countryside, i saw that openly gay men had to spend in order for their relationships to work. i mean, i dont blame them, perhaps thats what they knew and thats what they want. i respect that. so when i knew i was gay i thought to myself that this would be the kind of life i will lead in future. i thought i had no choice about this but deep inside myself, i was not convinced that this is the only option for me. luckily, when i went to college, i knew someone who “enlightened” me about gay love. i can have relationships that are pure and not rooted on money. as for sex with straight guys, i still do it. i mean i like a little adventure every now and then. however, its been a long while since i had a boyfriend. i feel that i am ready now but i shouldn’t rush it.
whatever we want to do with our lives, we just have to make sure we won’t hurt other people and most of all, we won’t hurt ourselves.
keep living, keep loving. . .
jonchoi at Nov 26, 08 at 11:54 am
sorry to say, ka-allianza ko si rico for this matter; ako rin type ko mga straight guys, kahit alam ko na hindi nila masusuklian ang pag-ibig na ibinibigay ko sa kanila. :c (kahit taga-QC ako…)
lanz at Feb 10, 09 at 5:21 am
Go Rico!! Pursue your desires. We deserve the love of a real man. It might take longer to find him, but believe me there is a straight one out there for you. Good luck.
Lester at Feb 12, 09 at 4:53 am
kalurkie ha! ang baklang pumatol sa kapwa bakla ay TOMBOY! lol. at saka pwede ba di lang pangprobinsya ang pagiging PG. yan ang isa na namang discrimination sa pagiging Syano. Sa true lang, manilagayguy, ikaw ang minority sa belief na yan and yes, westernized nga yang belief mo.
notes: (Notes daw o!)
hindi lahat ng str8 guys, pera pera lang, pwede ding sex sex lang hahaha
hindi porket pumatol sa gay ang str8 bading na..sabi nga, kung pumatol ka sa vibrator, vibrator ka na rin??! lol..
Showbiz Intriga? Get It From Boy! at Mar 10, 09 at 12:57 pm
Migs,
Good day…!!
New here and never have I thought na meron palang ganitong blog wherein you can freely and democratically expressed your emotions, fears and everything that goes when you are like we are, or whoever…..
I for one share the same “preference” of that of Rico’s. Yes, talagang mahirap. Kasi marami kang bagay na “a must” to consider.
Eversince, I prefer married straight men. Honestly, my gay friends often times telling me na “ipokrita” ako and living in “fantasies”. Pero never they have considered me as “probinsyana”, in views, for one. Kasi alam nila.
And I’ve proven them to be wrong.
Nasabi kong mahirap kasi una, yung straight married guy ba ay willing na makipag-kaibigan sa iyo, knowing you are, a bi? Even kaibigan lang, a straight married guy would often and immediately keep his distance from you upon learning of your persona.
Pero meron. Though napakahirap makahanap, the point is MERON.
And I’ll assure Rico, may makikita siyang ganung guy katulad ng natagpuan ko.
Very much married, straight and yet naroon iyong hinahanap mo, not sexually though.
Mahirap ipaliwanag, halos 1 and a half years kami na common friends, pero alam niya na especial ang tingin ko sa kanya. Walang ano mang set-up.
Basta I let him feel na especial siya sa akin. And I made him feel na bahagi ako ng life niya. Mga pagke-care, mga paalala at kung anu-ano pa na magpapalambot sa damdamin niya para sa iyo. Sa ganung mga pagkakataon nahuhulog ang loob ng straight married guy dahil napupunan mo ang emotional needs nila na kulang sa binibigay ng wife nila.
Rico, pare, meron. Meron kang makikitang straight married men na pwede kang mahalin
but it’ll take a lot of patience and sacrifices that would blossom into a real and wonderful relationship wherein sex is, yes, your spice of life…….even once in a while.
lovethisguy218 at Mar 26, 09 at 1:53 pm
Teh, wag mong sisihin si rico .. nagmamahal lng sya! at sa nakikita ko doon sya masaya, hayaan natin sya! kaya nga nde ako naniniwala sa kasabihang “LOVE IS BLIND” nde tayo bulag, kitang kita natin lahat at dilat na dilat pa! pero pinipili lang natin ung mga gusto nating mkta sa mahal natin. khit pa sabihin ng mga friends natin na user-friendly sya .. KEBBER! Bsta mahal ko sya .. Tsuk!
pakongpasaway at Apr 2, 09 at 10:21 am
i am hopeful that indeed there are “straight” guys who will truly fall in love to PLUs. i am trying to establish a friendly relationship with this PNP applicant, i know he will be part of the PNP very soon. although he told me that what he can offer is just pure friendship and nothing more. the best thing that had happened was, he was with me during my birthday, we ate together and went to church. actually it was his idea that we go to church. that was the happiest birthday so far in my life. i was honest to him and he just smiled and said, ‘its ok you don’t like one’. hehehee!!
clemence at May 4, 09 at 1:08 pm
Yes, me, too..I only want straight guy..i dont prefer gay-gay relationship..but who knows i might change my mind..but as of now, i still go for straight guys…
bank at May 5, 09 at 1:22 am
I feel for Rico, I don’t really go for straight men but my college bestfriend is exclusively into straight men, I tested the waters, and yes I get their point, its not complicated with a straight guy actually and that’s the truth, no drama, and believe it or not, straight men tend to focus on you only and no other gay men in the bushes, why because in the first place he didn’t gave in to you because he can take an advantage of the situation or common practice in our society (which I know is a majority that’s why before I detest it) the straight-gay love story when you really get into the picture involves that blind courtship which broke both parties barriers, however I experienced it (yes this doesn’t apply to everyone) but yeah I never felt more love than those exes of mine who were top gay men, versa whatever assuming the guy role in the relationship. Okay, in my experience it was never complicated with him – the straight guy, no another generic gay boy to be worried about. Hehe and PS “Kikidlat ng rainbow kapag dalawang maya nagmahalan daw” Haha, nah not everyone is the same, my best friend is just lucky to be happy with his straight boyfriend.
Jealter at May 24, 09 at 3:24 pm
after my birthday, we met 3 more times on a casual dinner and still getting to know each other. The last time we had a dinner was when he was to go in house training for the PNP in a far away training camp. Hopefully by first week of September the trainees be allowed to use their phones and will be given a chance to go out of the camp….oh by the way, we met in bantayan island last holy week…
clemence at Aug 18, 09 at 4:07 pm
This blog could easily be mistaken to a forum. LOL, the ideas and comments are so much.
All points and comments considered before doing this comment.
I’m all with you guys/gals, I was almost to burst in tears when i was reading your comments to this blog. because here’s the thing.
I have this guy bestfriend for almost 8 years now, we’ve met way back in high school when i was a senior then. At first we don’t speak that much but I’ve had this biggest crush on him. We started great and we became friends. Day after day we meet and after school he usually go to my house and usually talk endlessly and jam with music till midnight with me. I thought it was okay at first for him to be that close to me, I was hesitant at first because I think he knew so much about me that I have to be on guard on every action i will take. Our friendship never ceases to amaze, we enabled ourselves to be with each other almost every hour of the day without even having conflicts in our opinions and beliefs. He was a best friend of my cousin, they were very close to each other and they are classmates. At first my cousin intimidated me because I think he was diverting his time to him. And as time goes by as we became closer my feeling became stronger, I thought it was impossible for me to fall for Him but sadly and unknowingly I DID, I did what was wrong in the first place but in the end proved my heart right. I fell in love with that guy, of course he doesn’t knew it at first but as we traverse on our journey with life I think he noticed some changes on the way I acted towards him. I stopped calling Him on the phone I started going out with other friends and I didn’t talk to him that much and all. That resulted from me being so bitter about my feelings I thought that I could suppress what I felt inside and just forget about Him and all the things we’ve shared with each other and all the happy times we mingled and shared with. I was wrong and I was really wrong for what I did, he questioned me every time he sees me at school or at the park. He was so confused and I really know what I did was wrong and I am guilty of being punished with that. I am guilty of not having to inform him on the situation, but if I do it may destroy our companionship moreover our relationship as close friends. And as months has gone by I started asking myself why am I making it really hard for me to love Him? I made a covenant with the Lord that I will love Him in secret, I will love him in the shades without him noticing anything about it. It was painful on my side; my heart is crushed having to see him with my girl best friend. I thought I could deal with it finally but the more I suppressed the feeling of love the more my heart speaks for itself. It nearly exploded the amount of pain and depression I am experiencing just by knowing in the back of my mind that he loves someone else. And take note it’s my girl best friend. I know it’s wrong for me to be jealous about anything because we don’t even have a relationship we’re just plain old friends and it was a sad part on my side because I wanted him for so much more than just a simple friend I wanted to be with him and put a smile on his face every waking day that God has made, though it was wrong I knew it in my mind that it keeps telling me not to love him but my heart keeps insisting to love him more and more. The jealousy inside my mind speculated that they do have a relationship that has lasted for a month and I didn’t even saw it coming. The day that a friend of mine told me that they do have a formal romantic relationship, my heart was crushed and I don’t want to shed any tear in my eyes because I think he is not worth my emotions. But something came rolling down my cheeks and I was surprised it was a heavy teardrop it fell down the ground and I felt the sudden gush of blood in my head and I’ve even heard my own heartbeat. This strong feeling of despair lead onto a sudden depression and it made me feel more insignificant, unloved, outcast, alone, and a trash. I wanted to get out of that spider’s web, that stingy and sticky web that has trapped my in misery and bitterness. I couldn’t resist his boastful wittiness and charm. He was the first guy that I have fallen in love with and I do believe that when you love someone if he/she first that has caught your heart, you’ll be coming back for more and more. Even if it cost you anything, in my case I still love him even If I hated him to death. He has this something like a charisma that keeps pulling me back even if it hurts me so badly, even if my heart explodes, even if nothing is left for me, even if everyone turned their back on me I would still love him. After six months of me not talking to them and ignoring them the pain is still there, it still lingers and brew some anger and stirs my emotions so rapidly.
I don’t know what to do with it, but then came one day my girl best friend started to show some kind of weird behaviors at school and I am not used to seeing her doing that. After a couple of days I found out that she already dropped out at school and also dropped off out of His life. Wow it came as a surprise for me I didn’t know what to expect and even doesn’t really knew how to react in that certain moment I really have what you called mixed emotions. I didn’t know if I was happy or sad or just bitter about the circumstances their going through and after they broke up He came back onto me and we started all over again.
Here I am yet again falling for this guy who has made it possible for me to fall in love with the same sex, I didn’t expect that we could get a hang of it going back to where we started. It wasn’t the same way around it’s true to say that love is sweeter the second time around. It’s safe to say that I fell in love with him so much more that I wanted to get the hang out of it but the more I break out the more I fell in. they say that opposites attract but not with me I don’t believe in that, but in some parts I do, we are the most opposite on all aspects of our personalities that’s why we stick to each other like hard glue that bond that we’ve shared something that is special I did something with him, I didn’t to others. In that way I kept him close and more importantly special to my heart. I knew all along that he has some place inside my heart that is yearning for someone who could fill in that gap inside of me. That big gap that only he could fill in that gap that never cease to satisfy that gap that kept me from going and moving on forward that gap which made me realize the true meaning of love and the word speaks for itself LOVE and nothing else. If you love you do not think of anything else you just focus on the two of you and how to make each other happy. But we never really came into a point where we two have spoken openly about our relationship with each other. We may find it strange but I know someday we will find a way to figure things and sort it out, I know it is hard for me and easy for him to ignore me that way. But I tell you honestly I noticed as we being so close I managed to see the way he felt about me. Just by the song WHY? It made me realize that he liked me all along. He sang it to me one time and he sang these verses out loud and repeatedly on my face, “I don’t want to be like your brother, I don’t want to be your best friend, I only want to be your lover when will you listen, if I told you that I want to be in your life…”
Oh my God, that phrases melted my heart away as I hear it coming out from his heartfelt voice. I wanted to hide what I feel but it keeps coming out I embraced him so tight and after that I kissed him on the forehead, I know it was wrong for me to do that but I am happy I did that one step of courage being open with him.
After that the days has gone by and he had me going on circles doesn’t know where to go or where should I lead, I called him up and asked him to stay and sleep over he then goes over to my room and laid down beside me. As the raindrops and tears have fallen at the same time I felt that rushing love again inside of my heart. And as I embrace him to sleep I noticed him coming closer and closer to me, we embraced each other tightly and I really don’t know what to think in that certain moment. That moment where I felt a love that is passionate a love that is without pretensions I really liked the moment that we’ve shared something like that. After that morning he went home without even saying goodbye and it’s really okay
with me having to know him, he is the most insensitive guy I’ve ever known. I knew I’m gonna be pushed to the curve when he doesn’t want to see me anymore I really knew it the first day I’ve known his character. But that’s not the thing that will keep me from holding back my feelings for him. He was the first guy I fell in love with and he was the first person in my entire life to make me feel Goosebumps every single time I see him. I never regret anything I did, At present we are still Best Friends and hanging in there…
Sorry for a very lengthy post. But I hope you’ve enjoyed a part of my love story.
The lesson here is that Love knows no boundaries and if you genuinely love a person you won’t hold back. Just do it. LIVE LIFE, LOVE MORE…
-jay
jay at Aug 27, 09 at 6:16 pm
Again…mas masarap ang straight men talaga…iba ang feeling…then pagseselosan mo babae talaga hindi bakla na katulad mo na shet mas manipis pa ang pag pluck o thread ng kilay nya, letseh…goodluck pala sa book manang Migs hahaha
Jealter at Jan 15, 10 at 9:23 pm
There seems to be an illusion prying within the lines of what it really means to be gay. I do not agree (disagree lovingly and world peace he he he) with one of the guys saying Rico is a provincial lass. There isn’t much of a difference between gay people, whether you’re in the province or in the city. Being gay isn’t defined by shape, size, color, location or whatever. It comes in different packages (no pun intended). Why do you think the world associates us with the color palette of the rainbow? I used to hate being tied to the rainbow, until I realized what that really meant. It’s like this, sometimes we are attracted to people whom we are not ourselves–opposites attract, so to speak. It’s easier to conclude that probably Rico was in-love with the straight guy’s ways and not really the straightness of him. Or probably (note: this is just presumption, just to prove my point) Rico is in love with the power he has over men and how he could make straight men fall for a dude. But then again, who am I to conclude about Rico–after all, gay comes in different packages. Maybe truly he is in-love. I used to feel like this. Whenever I’m up and about downtown, I would see guys whom I’d fancy and it just hurts to know that they could never be in my world. I, often, put themselves in my shoes and ask myself: “Would I even consider sleeping with a woman?” The answer would be whooping NO. Most likely, that’s how they would feel. If I can’t seem to get myself into women, who is to say they can get into men. They probably can’t. Gay people aren’t the only ones tied to the rainbow. We must realize everyone in the world is in the rainbow. Reality is, some people will always like some people and they won’t like other people. I admit I am a provincial gay lad–note lad, not lass. I am queen but I am not woman–that’s how complicated being gay is. Rico might be considered as lass and that’s alright, I’m guessing Rico is a good guy. The notion that only feminine gay people like masculine gay people is erroneous though. There’s nothing in the world I would exchange my penis for, especially a vagina. I love my penis, thank you very much. I am a masculine gay person because I find “gay masculinity” hot when paired with “gay masculinity.” Can two feminine gay people hook up? Most probably not–then again maybe there is–there’s just no knowing these things. Who knows? C’mon guys, there are masculine gay people out there who can pass as a straight person and still love you like a gay man should (The problem lies in the finding). I know I am. I can be straight as a ruler if you want me to be because that’s just who I am a masculine gay guy.
Cheers MGG, your site is a breath of fresh air.
Dave at Mar 20, 10 at 4:48 am