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Are You Top, Bottom, or Versa?
Entry Feed Trackback“Top, Bottom, Versa?” — every gay guy who has ever hooked up with a fellow gay guy knows this line by heart. For the uninitiated, top means the penetrator (in an@l sex), bottom means the penetrated, and versa means either (thus versatile), depending on the person’s partner or mood.
You can think of these terms as labels that, at a certain perspective, can be helpful. Some people think labeling is evil (exag!) but I do think it can be helpful too. If for instance you are indeed hooking up with a fellow gay guy, how can it be easier to find out if you two are compatible in bed? In just three words you can sum up, somehow, the role you prefer to play in the next possibly exciting moments to come: top, bottom, versa?
Of course not all hook ups end up in one’s top-ping or bottom-ing. Sometimes it can be just mutual JO, or oral, etc. (Wow this post is getting to be really for mature audience ha!) Sometimes, the “top, bottom, versa” concept gets unnecessarily extended here too (not that I agree with it). Some people associate being top as the dominant one, the “Laila Dee” kind of guy (he’ll just lie there and enjoy getting sucked); being bottom as the giving, more feminine one, the one who enjoys singing with a meaty microphone. I don’t really subscribe to these stereotypes/caricatures but for some people these labels and concepts work, and it makes their hooking up conversations more efficient. As long as people acknowledge that such labels can change (I believe our preferences can be dynamic), then all is well and good.
For some exciting exchange, let’s see how MGG readers fare — nothing official, just a fun survey. Do answer honestly so we can get a glimpse of the group’s preference:
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i met this guy in puerto galera..
hes from singapore..
he shared this trivia to me…hope it will be followed here in the philippines.
in singapore, if youre in a sauna (i.e. hadahan) and if your top you put your towel around your waist. if your bottom you carry your towel together with an array of (carry at array daw oh!!)condoms, lube etc…
if youre in a bar there is a hand signal…
if your were asked and you want to say your top just stick 1 finger up (not fuck you ha!!!)
if you bottom do the peace sign. o divah!!! informative!!!
eric at Apr 23, 07 at 2:18 pm
ai teka lang ha at sa 229 visiotrs ni isang salita wala….hmmmmmmmmmmmm…
hahhahahahhah,.,.,.,., dinadagadagadagadaga ba kayo?!?!?!hahahhahahahah
o sya bottom ako
jholou at Apr 23, 07 at 3:25 pm
Top here. Parating top. I don’t even give oral. Sabi nga ng mga naging partners ko medyo selfish ako kaso di ko talaga gusto/di ko pa kaya.
chad at Apr 23, 07 at 5:23 pm
Bottom! 4 Life!
L.A at Apr 23, 07 at 6:09 pm
100% bottom
drew at Apr 23, 07 at 6:14 pm
None of the above.
Misterhubs at Apr 23, 07 at 7:40 pm
no experience yet. may mga coach ba dyan? ;P
josh at Apr 23, 07 at 8:21 pm
versa but i prefer top.. i don’t do oral as well.. not now!
bleiz at Apr 23, 07 at 8:31 pm
i’m top but don’t penetrate, just allowing friction, lengua y lengua, sword over sword….never been a bottom….
peak fantasy at Apr 23, 07 at 9:11 pm
actually am neither both. am more into oral sex, tho i have experienced before na nagdare ako magpabottom and the experience was quite uncomfortable buti na lang very gentle yung partner ko in penetrating my anus. he told me na half lang daw ang napasok but he cum inside of me. sa susunod daw eh talagang ipapasok niya na talaga. ang problema nga lang talagang masakit. is there anyway to lessen to the pain? sorry for the word, but parang ma-eebak talaga while he was inserting his dick. normal ba ang ganoon?
ciao at Apr 23, 07 at 9:44 pm
sa mga bottom jan:
hindi ba masakit? (yeah i know i sound sooo cliche) but i cannot imagine enjoying gaysex if i am a bottom ( which means i’m top)
then again kung walang mga nag eenjoy as bottom hindi rin ako mag eenjoy as top o divah!!!!
eric at Apr 23, 07 at 10:41 pm
Versa with preference to be bottom.
@Eric: It is painful at first, pero magiging tolerable and pleasurable din sa huli. Haha!
Jhed at Apr 23, 07 at 11:59 pm
i dont do sex … im a querida therefore i shop – for shoes, clothes, bags, isama na ang condo at carumba but never sex!
haba yata ng buhok ko!
ps. hindi ako frigid. nandidiri lang talaga ako sa amoy ng puwet na may … pardon the word … ‘ebak’. i cant imagine my dick napapahiran ng ‘ebak’ kahit pa may condom! TURN-OFF kaya!
anton maton at Apr 24, 07 at 12:18 am
giver
effie at Apr 24, 07 at 12:34 am
the last two choices have a.k.a.’s
So you’re a versa…
Are you a versatop or a versabot?
hihihi
fried_ika at Apr 24, 07 at 12:50 am
I’m top. Para namang OA kung married ako eh bottom. hehehe.
hustlingmind at Apr 24, 07 at 3:05 am
Fucking feels good, but being bottom is also pleasurable esp if ur partner knows how to do it right. Well, of course there are routines and procedures para malinis ng husto ang inyong behind; and veterans know how to do that perfectly. And as I have said. “kapag may partner ka na, dapat PH Care”.
Celebrity Endorser at Apr 24, 07 at 8:04 am
i’m versatile.. but i’ve only bottomed so far.. so i wouldn’t know which i’d really prefer.. pero feeling ko di naman magiging ganung kalaki yung difference.. para sa akin moderation is best.. XDDD
versatop at versabot.. ok yun ah.. (n_n)
David at Apr 24, 07 at 10:05 am
versa with preference to top.
however, I prefer oral, pinaka gusto kong position 69, lalo na pag L na L kayong dalawa.
mickey at Apr 24, 07 at 10:11 am
100% bottom!
sushi77 at Apr 24, 07 at 3:53 pm
versa. leaning… depende sa mood and/or personality ng partner. pag passive sya, well top na ako. pag aggressive sya, wish ko lang versatile sya. heheh… nothing’s sexier than an agressive versatile guy. imagine the combinations!
antonsg at Apr 24, 07 at 4:10 pm
100% top…pero wish ng bf na magpabottom din ako
cuterecruiter at Apr 24, 07 at 6:39 pm
uhm… uhm… uhm… Versatop? Bottom by request? hahahahaha
Baklang AJ at Apr 25, 07 at 9:02 am
i don’t really know yet… hehehe.
ian at Apr 25, 07 at 9:38 am
versabottom! hahaha!
vinvin at Apr 25, 07 at 10:14 am
bottom… but i won’t mind being a top if my partner insists on being the bottom…
leo at Apr 25, 07 at 4:09 pm
im versatile, pero more into top..
robbie at Apr 25, 07 at 10:48 pm
hehe bottom (pero never been penetrated). I just like giving head. natuturnoff nga ako if my partner sucks me (weird).
Q at Apr 26, 07 at 9:20 pm
looks like a lot of my kababayans in the island are still “uninformed” about anal sex. First hygiene and cleanliness are #1. Douching is vital prior to penetration. Once cleaned, the ass provides a pleasurable experience to the top guy. Properly douched-ass is cleaner than a vagina. Penetration if done slowly and w/ proper lubrication in the initial stage can be extremely pleasurable. The ass slowly adjusts to the cock size. But when it finally adjusts to it, the top guy can start rocking the bottom’s world. And everything feels like heaven. Good luck!!!
josh-denver at Apr 26, 07 at 10:30 pm
share nyo naman guys your best practices.
kinkon at Apr 27, 07 at 9:52 pm
ako versa pero mas preferred ko maging bottom… naging top ako just once or twice…
jazzie at Apr 30, 07 at 6:58 pm
i have really handsome arab guys which i had relation with and ull be surprise how far their knowledge are in terms of this topic…their great in both top or bottom i enjoy’em too…miss those guys no pretentions if they like u, they will come forward and tell you and better, will really took time to court you. here our brothers are still u know like in grade 1.
elfisthunter at May 3, 07 at 12:38 am
amen for the versabottom!
really, being bottom does not equate to being feminine/effeminate
and being a top does not mean you’re a bisexual already…
geez…
jay at May 3, 07 at 2:11 am
versatile…i enjoy being bottom as much as being top!
cleaning is really a must! it would be alot pleasurable since both wont have any hesitations on whatever on their minds…got it? grrrrr….
harley at Sep 18, 07 at 4:24 pm
i’m versa..
personally, i don’t understand the point people are trying to prove by being a top or a bottom.. several guys i’ve had sex with say they’re top, and by the time we get at it, they ask me to fuck them..
what the hell?!
xyz at Sep 20, 07 at 9:03 pm
versatile here…
well it really depends on your partner, but hey some guys really likes to pretend that theyre top, yeah right! but just as i am they wanna get fucked…lately ive been a top, and my boyfriend’s enjoying the way i am fucking his brains out hehe
u dont have to pretend that ur a top or bot. doesnt matter really, as long as you and your partner are having fun…
-drew
andrace at Sep 30, 07 at 10:18 pm
versabot = versarobot.
lmao
troyax at Oct 19, 08 at 2:58 am
ako both, im not selfish and i must say anything happens in bed, masarap sila pareho, pero my first bottom experience was very expensive naospital po ako ng tatlong araw, nagpa bottom po ako sa long time crush ko na isang MAKATI SWAT, im a discreet person, with a good job in makati at ang balak ko lang nuon ay matikman si SWAT pero nag iba ang ihip ng hangin dahil nabola nya akong i bottom nya, malinis ako sa katawan kaya pumayag na ako, ang sakit at dumugo talaga, nakakahiya mang aminin pero late bloomer po ako, i was 25 when i experience that memorable night. Until now may nangyayari parin sa amin pero sa kanya lang talaga ako nagpapa bottom at diko na talaga sya makakalimutan sa buong buhay ko.
dave at Oct 21, 08 at 8:27 pm
TOP!!!…. =)
but I also want to experience being d BOTTOm….
may plano na kami ng “ex” ko nun….na ako yung bottom nxt time…
pero nag break kami eh…di ko tuloy na try!! hahahaha!!!
name at Oct 28, 08 at 11:58 pm
whatever that pleases me and my partner…
but anyway, with my present relationship, i’am always bottom..
i hate to suck kasi… parang madumi kasi heheh
dave23 at Apr 18, 09 at 4:44 pm