better for you to browse the website of National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (www.narth.com) and see how people have diminished their homosexual attractions and developed heterosexual attractions by understanding the roots of their homosexuality.

another website to visit is http://www.peoplecanchange.com

in as much as we respect people who does not want to change, i urge anyone out there who seek change that it is possible to change!

if you need support from us you could contact us at http://www.presentsanctuary.com

God loves you!

Everyday is a choice! From the time you wake up (if you “will/want” [volition] to wake up 6am,7am or 8am) till you eat breakfast, choice of clothes to wear…it’s all your choice!

Being a Gay or Act like a Gay/lesbi is a choice! You can’t control other people. You can’t control someone to love you–you can persuade, but not totally control. The only one you can control is yourself! Emotion isn’t controllable–anger, love, hate, attractions, etc. BUT… you can control your REACTION or RESPONSE to these feelings or emotions.

The reason behind this homosexuality issue is until now has not been explaine by Science. Science has no absolute proof for homosexuality cause. Some assumed that family upbringing, environment, media have caused this–although these are factors to consider. But it isn’t! Yes history plays important role as to where and when it happened.

To act “soft” doesn’t mean one is gay. To be so creative and picky/meticulous on things does not mean one is a gay. To be attracted with opposite sex doesn’t necessarily one is gay. What makes gay a gay is when he/she crosses the line. The act of being a gay/lesbi (having sexual activities with same sex) is what makes one a gay/lesbi, and it isn’t accepted by our society, nor the Maker (God) of people. Those who oppose in this idea, activity based their principle from the Bible that says “And God created Adam and Eve. He created them according to His likeness…” We will see here that God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. No she-male! The premise of this point of view is: Original design for Man is for the Woman! God’s design that no one should alter!

Now, my opinion about “gay-ness” and “lesbi-ness” is all boil down to “feelings/emotions”. Again, to feel something wrong ISN’T WRONG. I can feel like killing someone bec of my emotion, but if i rebuke, fight against this feeling, i wont end up doing something wrong.  It’s our RESPONSE/REACTION to what we feel, is what matters. I can be attracted to a man, but if i fight this feeling i wouldn’t end up in trouble or doing something that is wrong. Why is it wrong to have relation (sexual) to same sex? It is wrong to have sexual relationship with same sex (even with opposite sex if illicit/illegal–that’s why there’s called bigamy, adultery in the law of the land/Government bec they acknowledge the sovereignity of righteousness) because of the STANDARD given (Bible/God’s design). This design/law is even above the law of the land/Government (law of the land is only based from the Torah–God’s law called Ten Commandments).

But…….. again, all these issue will boil down to “WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH WHAT YOU FEEL?” Are you going to give-in to it or divert it? I didn’t say fight it bec the more you fight it, the more it pushes down to your senses. Divertion is the most effective one and a bit easier one (not so hurtful). NOT ALL FEELINGS or EMOTIONS are to be obeyed! Like me, i am fascinated with cars, gadgets, nice clothes, shoes and the urge is so strong especially during SALE!!! (my goodness!) Plus the fact that BPI offers 0% interest for 12 months during BPI Madness… The feeelings and emotions are so strong that i couldn’t almost resist…What should i do? SHould i just give in? We have brain to use and the brain is placed above so that it can balance things with truth and reality! It maybe true that i need those stuff, it maybe true that it will look good and feel good if i have those things, but reality says I maybe cant afford it. I maybe don’t need it. So, I should balance the truth (what I feel) with reality (what should be done—right thing to do based on the Standard). If I feel like having sex with someone who is not my legal wife (wife of someone else, or daughter of someone else, or boyfriend of someone else) should I give in? I don’t think so. If there’s no standard, then a gay shouldn’t be angry if another gay is fooling around with his/her partner. A gay/lesbi is angry when he/she is violated, when his/her rights are violated. Where did he/she got the standard that was violated if there’s no standard?
 
In conclusion, our reactions to our emotions, feelings, wants and desires should be submitted to the governing standard which is the standard of the Maker. If it’s the righteous thing to do (WWJD) then let’s go for it—whether you are a “soft” man or a “hard” woman!!! We must CHOOSE the right thing to do because we have a CHOICE! Little decisions we do each day will either make or unmake our character!

maton na maton si anton…

ang topic na to ay babalik na naman sa isyung nature vs nurture na walang katapusan…

but for me, no one in his right mind will choose to be the object of ridicule, harassment and abuse. I dont agree it’s by choice