Comments on: Woman Writes MGG For Advice: “My husband has a rich gay lover.” http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/ I say again, "World Peace!" Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:33:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Wa http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-265433 Wa Wed, 16 Sep 2009 08:02:43 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-265433 Dear ria, im very sorry 2 ur situation.I know its very hard 2 u.My advice would be.Focus 2 ur 2 children.Who have work so you can provide der needs.Ask Ram to choose between you and andy.I think Ram already pay all his sacrifices to Andy.If Ram wil choose Andy,continue your life,focur your work.Start new life...Your sacrifices to Ram is enough.Time wil come dat Ram wil back 2 u.Accept him.Start ur family Dear ria,
im very sorry 2 ur situation.I know its very hard 2 u.My advice would be.Focus 2 ur 2 children.Who have work so you can provide der needs.Ask Ram to choose between you and andy.I think Ram already pay all his sacrifices to Andy.If Ram wil choose Andy,continue your life,focur your work.Start new life…Your sacrifices to Ram is enough.Time wil come dat Ram wil back 2 u.Accept him.Start ur family

]]> By: Dann http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-155918 Dann Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:54:50 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-155918 Dear Ria, After reading your letter to Migs, it left me thinking "what if I were in your situation?" I do feel sorry for your situation, and I do admire the fact that, even though your husband had someone else, you agreed to "share" him. That truly is love. But is it fair for you? Do you think you deserve 50% of your man? Even if it were 99.9%, why shouldn’t you have 100%? Cutting straight to the point, I do feel that you should think whether you can still continue with this situation, regardless of your current financial status. Would you be able to make your husband choose between you and Andy? I do understand that your husband might feel that Andy might look down on him since he helped him when he most needed and that he does not want to be considered an ingrate, but, again, is it fair? Your husband should have never "offered" himself as a "consolation" or "thank you" prize in the first place, but what is done, is done. Time has passed and most likely things are more stable now, that said, do you still need Andy's financial help? Don’t think whether your husband is gay, bi, straight. Sexuality is NOT the prime question in this situation. You will know in a few years what he actually wants or likes. It’s up to him to think and decide whether he wants to go forward with his sexuality. Obviously Andy is not going to give up on Ram, and neither are you... push things further, try going on a vacation, do something together, anything. Make sure you know he knows he needs you and he loves you. Make sure that he feels that you love him. Make sure that he understands that you are not happy, but don’t go ballistic. Be discreet, but precise. Remember, this is not a fight between you and Andy, it’s between you and your husband. You and Andy agreed to share him, and one of the sides is pushing more and more, and jealousy is taking over you. So elevate yourself and think about the problem itself and not about the surroundings. I also know that you worry for your children upbringing and that you would like them to have a father in their lives. Remember, as long as the children know what is happening, all questions are answered and no pressure is given to them about who they prefer or who is best and so on, your children will most likely come out fine. Probably even better. Yes, they will have to grow up a bit faster… but that’s just normal. Remember to keep yourself focused, not for you, not for Andy and not for Ram… but for your children. Whatever you’re going thru, I am sure your children might feel something. Hope things get better, Dann Dear Ria,

After reading your letter to Migs, it left me thinking “what if I were in your situation?”
I do feel sorry for your situation, and I do admire the fact that, even though your husband had someone else, you agreed to “share” him. That truly is love. But is it fair for you? Do you think you deserve 50% of your man? Even if it were 99.9%, why shouldn’t you have 100%?

Cutting straight to the point, I do feel that you should think whether you can still continue with this situation, regardless of your current financial status. Would you be able to make your husband choose between you and Andy? I do understand that your husband might feel that Andy might look down on him since he helped him when he most needed and that he does not want to be considered an ingrate, but, again, is it fair? Your husband should have never “offered” himself as a “consolation” or “thank you” prize in the first place, but what is done, is done. Time has passed and most likely things are more stable now, that said, do you still need Andy’s financial help? Don’t think whether your husband is gay, bi, straight. Sexuality is NOT the prime question in this situation. You will know in a few years what he actually wants or likes. It’s up to him to think and decide whether he wants to go forward with his sexuality.

Obviously Andy is not going to give up on Ram, and neither are you… push things further, try going on a vacation, do something together, anything. Make sure you know he knows he needs you and he loves you. Make sure that he feels that you love him. Make sure that he understands that you are not happy, but don’t go ballistic. Be discreet, but precise. Remember, this is not a fight between you and Andy, it’s between you and your husband. You and Andy agreed to share him, and one of the sides is pushing more and more, and jealousy is taking over you. So elevate yourself and think about the problem itself and not about the surroundings.

I also know that you worry for your children upbringing and that you would like them to have a father in their lives. Remember, as long as the children know what is happening, all questions are answered and no pressure is given to them about who they prefer or who is best and so on, your children will most likely come out fine. Probably even better. Yes, they will have to grow up a bit faster… but that’s just normal.
Remember to keep yourself focused, not for you, not for Andy and not for Ram… but for your children. Whatever you’re going thru, I am sure your children might feel something.

Hope things get better,

Dann

]]> By: Chuck http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-128397 Chuck Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:52:11 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-128397 Well I believe that Ram is either in denial about being gay, he's just an opportunist or he is truly bi. Some people don't believe others can be bi but I do. I have a really good friend who is bi but he is very lucky because his girlfriend not only allows it but she encourages him to have sex with guys. In fact, she likes to watch...Hmmmmmmm Well I believe that Ram is either in denial about being gay, he’s just an opportunist or he is truly bi. Some people don’t believe others can be bi but I do. I have a really good friend who is bi but he is very lucky because his girlfriend not only allows it but she encourages him to have sex with guys. In fact, she likes to watch…Hmmmmmmm

]]> By: Remembering Ria, MGG’s first woman letter sender | Manila Gay Guy http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-126042 Remembering Ria, MGG’s first woman letter sender | Manila Gay Guy Sun, 14 Jun 2009 15:51:08 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-126042 [...] (For the full letter, click here.) [...]

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]]> By: KIKO http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-123919 KIKO Wed, 27 May 2009 07:33:35 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-123919 Homosexual relationship is good only and only if..."walang nasasagasaan..." In this case,it is selfish. Homosexual relationship is good only and only if…”walang nasasagasaan…” In this case,it is selfish.

]]> By: jm http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-123550 jm Mon, 25 May 2009 05:38:33 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-123550 at least alam mo... at least alam mo…

]]> By: renzie http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-121371 renzie Mon, 11 May 2009 09:53:36 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-121371 It's been almost a year when this story was posted in this blog. I just recently read this article, and i have to say that it has made me deeply sympathetic to the letter sender and i was really touched with her story more than any other stories being shared in this blog. It really made an impact into my mind and i was thinking almost every now and then about Ria's story. what made me more curious now, what happened then? since it's been a long time after sharing her story.... almost 2 years now. To the owner of this blog, is there any update to Ria's situation? Did Ram and Andy still together? Or did Ram finally went to work overseas? Or what are the actions of Ria regarding her situation after sending her reply letter in this blog? This is a very interesting story and you can learn a lot from it. I have a suspicion who is the real Ram... With all the descriptions and personal infos about Ram written here really made me think who is this person. Ram, could be just a short cut of his surname. And I think the letter sender purposely gave a different name of his husband. It’s been almost a year when this story was posted in this blog. I just recently read this article, and i have to say that it has made me deeply sympathetic to the letter sender and i was really touched with her story more than any other stories being shared in this blog. It really made an impact into my mind and i was thinking almost every now and then about Ria’s story.

what made me more curious now, what happened then? since it’s been a long time after sharing her story…. almost 2 years now.

To the owner of this blog, is there any update to Ria’s situation? Did Ram and Andy still together? Or did Ram finally went to work overseas? Or what are the actions of Ria regarding her situation after sending her reply letter in this blog? This is a very interesting story and you can learn a lot from it.

I have a suspicion who is the real Ram… With all the descriptions and personal infos about Ram written here really made me think who is this person. Ram, could be just a short cut of his surname. And I think the letter sender purposely gave a different name of his husband.

]]> By: jazzy http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-108493 jazzy Sun, 04 Jan 2009 23:19:14 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-108493 >>>>>to ria: leave ram!with your 2 kids,show to him that you can live without him. If bubuntot sya sayo, it means he still loves you. Give a breakthrough on martyrdom! Tama na pagiging martyr! & besides, The're many fish in the sea,di lang ang gagong RAM na yan ang lalaki sa mundo na magmamahal sayo! Go Ria! >>>>>to ria: leave ram!with your 2 kids,show to him that you can live without him.
If bubuntot sya sayo, it means he still loves you. Give a breakthrough on martyrdom!
Tama na pagiging martyr! & besides, The’re many fish in the sea,di lang ang gagong RAM na yan ang lalaki sa mundo na magmamahal sayo!
Go Ria!

]]> By: raymond http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-108045 raymond Sun, 28 Dec 2008 17:13:40 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-108045 ria love knows no boundary, alam mo yan dahil kahit ala mong may kahati ka, since mahal mo si ram you agree with the situation what you only need is prayer, For Gods knows your pain at di nya yun hahayaan magtagal sa yo, just be patient, i agree na what you are feeling right now, ganun din nararamadaman ni andy at ni ram, just leave it to Him, walang imposible sa Kanya ria

love knows no boundary, alam mo yan dahil kahit ala mong may kahati ka, since mahal mo si ram you agree with the situation

what you only need is prayer, For Gods knows your pain at di nya yun hahayaan magtagal sa yo, just be patient, i agree na what you are feeling right now, ganun din nararamadaman ni andy at ni ram, just leave it to Him,

walang imposible sa Kanya

]]> By: kz http://manilagayguy.net/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-106880 kz Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:03:26 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/2007/11/25/woman-writes-mgg-for-advice-my-husband-has-a-rich-gay-lover/#comment-106880 isang napakatapang na babae..unang una..ng post u at nagtiwala sa site kahit alam mo at iniisip u at first na lahat papanig sa magiging kagustuhan ni andy..pero dito ko rin napatunayan na lahat me mga puso di lang sa dahil mga bading karamihan kundi PUSO para sa TAMA at katotohanan..

pangalawa matapang ka dahil alam ko na kaya di mo rin kayang basta basta sumoko dahil alam mo na minamahal lang ng iba ang asawa mo na siyang mahal na mahal  mo…ibig sabihin MALAKI ANG ESPASYO NG PUSO MO SA PAG UNAWA AT PAGMAMAHAL…

pero hindi PANGHABANGBUHAY..magiging masaya at panatag ang kalooban mo sa sitwasyon..isipin mo higit ang magsasakripisyo pagdating ng araw ang mga ANAK  MO…mahirap pagsabayin ang IPAGLALABAN MO AT PABIBIGAY NG KONSIDERASYON…AT PAGWAWALANG BAHALA SA ALAM MO MAY MAHIHIRAPAN…HINDI SAPAT ANG ALAM MO NA MAHAL MO LANG SIYA AT ME MGA ANAK KA KUNG BAKIT MO SIYA IPAGLALABAN…..ANG PAGIGING TAMA….

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