Would you, in the name of pure and pristine love, share your house with your lover, and his wife?
Erine, fellow ka-MGG, is a nurse based in London. His lover of 7 years, Nevin, also works as a nurse in London and shares the same house as Erine. Nevin has a wife and kid back in the Philippines. Trouble starts when one day, Nevine suggests to bring his wife and kid to London, and create a triumvirate union out of Erine, the wife, and him. What do you think? Read Erine’s letter to get his side.
hi migs…
first of all i want to give credits sa blog mo for nice contents. im writing this letter bcoz lately medyo bothered ako and i think i need some sort of payo from u as well as for your avid readers.
im erine who works here in london as nurse and proud to be gay. my story starts when i met this guy who is my present ka-relasyon way back 7 yrs ago pa while i was on my holiday sa manila, lets just call him nevin. presently kasama ko na sya dto sa london works as nurse like me. i know i had a big part on his success sa buhay ksi the time na nkilala ko sya financially problematic sya kc ang lola nya lng nagpaparal sa knya that time, illegitimate child si nevin and wlang support tlga from his parents so ang lola nya ang nagpalaki sa knya. We start of being friends and sympre later on nagkaroon kmi ng relasyon more than friends. I know the fact na stop nga sya i offered him to continue pagaaral nya sa nursing course and willingly tinulungan ko sya kc he’s on 2nd year na nmn and syang. And alam ko din he has a bright future and sort of helping him pra maayos future nya. While i was abroad i supported him all the way sa studies nya till he graduated in 2004.
One day habang naguusap kmi sa fone he told me something na halos maiyak ako knowing na nbuntis nya gf nya which he luvs so much so nagpakasal cla sa judge. I know he had a girl nmn and ok nmn skin un kc napaguusapan nmin un. Although it hurts wla ko mgawa kc lalaki si nevin and for sure maghahanap sya tlga ng girl and build his own family. Despite that, we still good na prang wlang nangyari at ako pa nging ninong ng anak nya. I met his girl last 2005 holiday ko sa Manila and were ok nmn, openly pinakilala ako ni nevin sa wife nya and wla syang tinago sa girl bout us. So after gaining experience locally i asked nevin kng gusto nya work dto sa london and he say yes, i did my best to get him an employer pra mka work sa london. So lucky so un nga nkapnta sya dito last Feb 2007. We lived happy nmn kumbga abot langit na ang saya ko at least sa tgal ng pnahon nagkasama kmi sa isang bubong. Wla nmn nging problema for the first year nmin dito.
after nagbkasyon sya last xmas sa pinas dun nagsimula ang worries ko. while were hving our dinner last week he mentioned to me na he wants to bring his family dto sa london, as in his wife and kid. I know its possible to nmn to get his family and be his dependents while staying here in UK. Although nbigla ako bka isip ko lng bka homesick sya since kbabalik nya lng from pinas so i told him he can go for another holiday nxt month ako pa ang bibili ng plane ticket nya or if he wants mag european tour kmi just to ease his homesickness. Halos lht ng discouragement ginawa ko pra wag nya ituloy plan nya, but almost everyday ay binabangit nya if ok lng daw ba skin ung plan nya. i dont know kng ano ang isasagot ko sa knya migs. I dont know kng ano mangyayari skin, how to lived with my lover together with his wife, dhil for sure dto sa bhay tutuloy sila. Kasi nevin wants us to be together ayaw nya ko mwala din , gusto nya forever na daw kmi till tumanda, ayaw nya kmi mag say goodbye dont know is that bcoz he luvs me or bcoz of utang na loob. I love nevin migz but then i love my self and respect din myself. I just felt ksi im getting to my limits.
Cguro ito na pinakagrabe desicion i have to make pgdting smin kay nevin. Naiisip ko nga itanong kay nevin ung line ni claudine sa milan ‘Mahal mo ba ko dhil kailangan mko,,, or kailangan mko kya mahal mko’ but then ayoko mrinig ang isasagot nya. Hope u can give me some sort of advice gnon din mga readers mo. Thanks and more power….
- erine of London
Dear Erine,
You said it, “I love nevin migz but then i love my self and respect din myself. I just felt ksi im getting to my limits.”
Respect yourself. If you don’t, how can you expect others to respect, much less love, you?
Migs
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