Comments on: Monalisa, Happy Wife of a Gay Man

By: Klaatu

Klaatu — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 10:36:54 +0000

This lady surely has a good head in her shoulder. That is why their relationship works! Ang problema kasi sa atin eh masyado tayong de kahon ang utak. Our thought patterns are so much dictated by social norms. We are always thinking na dapat ganito, dapat ganon, kasi yun yong nakikita natin sa karamihan. So we pattern our lives and decisions to this sets of standards and rules. Katulad na lang ni Mimosa na nagconclude na kaagad na women who marries gay me will end up being sad and unfulfilled.

I think kaya nag-work yung relationship nila is 1st because they did not hide any secrets from each other from the very start. 2nd, they have learned to love and respect and understand each other to the point na they are so secure with the relationship that occasional flings are no big deals. They’ve come to a point in their relationship that they understand their partner’s other needs that they can’t provide. So bakit kelangan sirain ang maayos at magandang relationship dahil lang don? Kung kinakailangan paminsanminsan e ipakamot sa iba, e di ipakamot sa iba.

Sa totoo lang. The biggest treat sa isang relationship is the feeling that you’ve been cheated. Yun yung laging problema. I’ve seen and heard so many good relationship destroyed by just a single incident where they felt they were cheated. When that happens, the common reaction would be to feel betrayed and mag-dialog ng “niloko mo ako!”. Yun kasi yung nabaon sa consciousness natin na dapat na maging reaction natin. So since cliche yung reaction and decision natin sa situation, we end up being cliche sad and unfulfilled individuals.

I don’t claim to be an expert in human psyche and relationships. Observation ko lang ito through the years of living in this planet. Ilang libong taon na ba ang human civilization and but the way we think and react to situations are still stuck in the middle ages. We should be more progressive in our thinking and be more creative in dealing and responding to these situations and problems in our lives.

Hats off ako kay Monalisa and her Gay husband! These world could be a better place if we can be more like them. Masyado kasi tayong uptight!

By: Mimosa

Mimosa — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:58:39 +0000

Duff,your husband is gay. That’s not good since you have a child. I don’t think women should commit to married relationships with gay or bi men. It leads to unhappiness for both parties. Even a bi man is usually more physically attracted to other men. They may not stray or cheat but they will be able to sustain a satisfying sexual relationship with a female partner. So she may end up being sad and unfulfilled.

By: duff

duff — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 03:11:13 +0000

hi! i’ve been maried for five years and we have a 2 years old boy. after i gave birth we stop having sex, when i wan’t to show my affection to him i noticed that my husband wast’n enterested. how many time i found out on the computer history that hes into a gay website, a lot of naked guys and both guys having sex. i think my husband is a homosexual. can pls. someone tell me why hes doing this.

By: locomotor

locomotor — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:34:40 +0000

i really hope that my girlfriend would think the same way as the author.

By: dvoice

dvoice — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 15:16:07 +0000

“i should say that gays are better than real men��” Ibig sabihin ni Monalisa mabuti nakapag asawa sya kahit gay responsable at maalaga naman sa pamilya, kesa nag asawa sya ng maton at lalaking lalaki pero ginagawa naman syang punching bag at wala pang trabaho kundi babae ang magbubuhay sa pamilya. Ang masasabi ko lang Monalisa, pag minahal mo na ang isang tao, kahit ano pa sya, dadating ang time na ikaw na lang ang tititigan nya sa buong araw at sasabihin sayo ng buong giliw “I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH”. Napakalaking bagay sa mag asawa ang understanding, Acceptance, care, minsan pag wala pang love nadedevelope yon, lahat ng bagay napag uusapan, maliit man o malaki. Sa mga napag daanan kong sitwasyon katulad nina fratboyinthecloset at jmarc_blueboy, masasabi kong tama ang naging desisyon ko. Mas masaya ako ngayon at kumpleto, and soon, few months na lang daddy na rin ako. Sobrang love ko ang wife ko (my GF for 10 yrs) at wala akong pinagsisisihan although nandon pa rin yong guilty feelings dahil naging unfaithful ako sa kanya noon.
Kaunting pang unawa pa at haba ng pasensya Monalisa, pasasaan bat magiging 100% iyong iyo husband mo kung may doubt man ang iba dito and I pray for that. Email address ko dvoice1225@yahoo.com kung may gusto kang itanong o e share pa. Mabuhay ka at sana dumami pa mga tulad mo. God Bless Your Family.

By: Reneboy

Reneboy — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 11:14:35 +0000

@jmarc_blueboy…..the fact that you like guyz makes you gay but you like girls as well that makes you straight but awful…lol u don’t know what you want, are you the so-called bisexual? but ur not fair, u want to hook up with two genders, does it mean ur a winner? ur confused coz u don’t know what u really like, it will be unfair if u gonna have two relations from both sexes, so straighten urself up and ask who and where i am happy with…that will gonna answer all ur questions…..take care

By: jmarc_blueboy@yahoo.com

jmarc_blueboy@yahoo.com — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 10:18:07 +0000

OMG!!what a beautiful story!!I admit that I’m a gay and everyone thinks that I am but I’m not into that “lad-lad” thing.It disgusts me. I’m gay but I never had a personal relationship with a guy,instead, to a girl I already had 4 ex-gf’s. I love them but I don’t know why. I love guys more but how can I fall in love with a girl???am I really a gay or straight???….haaaaahh..i’m tired

By: Rene

Rene — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:49:52 +0000

Just go for it Monalisa, be the happy wife to a husband who’s trying to change his real personality by being a family man and a big credit for him for doing this in which very few gays like me want to gamble with this kind of situations nevertheless, that gays will be gays and there will come a time that he will go back to the old habits of being in the closet and i wish you strength to forgive and courage to move on inspite of this and continue life with him and your kids till the two of you grows old…..:-)God bless

By: trebs72

trebs72 — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 12:25:10 +0000

ganda ni ate

By: Carmelo L. Fabella

Carmelo L. Fabella — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 05:43:28 +0000

Migs,

How can I be a subscriber to blog if you call this blog. Can I get your contact number, both landline and cellphone, please. I want to know you more and be a close acquaintance to you. Thanks.