Nutella, our featured reader-lettersender, asks Migs if it is okay to have a boypren-boyprenan, a trophy boyfriend, someone to help one get by emotionally, mentally, and physically while waiting for Mr. Right. The naturally conservative guy in me shouts “noooo!” as the idea violates the sanctity of a relationship based on true love, and therefore (in my mind), exclusivity brought about not by unbridled selfishness but by the soul’s innate need for a unique and singular focus from the other party. But because I have a healthy skepticism of my own opinion, I’d let you dear MGG readers share your own, perhaps contrary, opinion.
Greetings of love and world peace! Let me start by saying that I’m a big fan of your blog. Through it, I have gained more knowledge and a better understanding of what it’s like to be a gay man. I can safely say that I’m a well-experienced gay man myself. By well-experienced, I mean that I have, at least once in my life, tried most of the things that gay men can only imagine (or dream of) doing.
Inspite of and despite my experiences, I still consider myself a lonely man. I have been through a lot and after my promiscuity stage and 3 failed relationships, I now belong to the Tribe of the Jaded. And this is where I come to you to seek advice and ideas from you and your readers about my current state of mind.
For what seemed like an eternity, I searched for my so-called Mr. Right. I have been to places where no gay man has gone before, I have gone to uncharted waters, I have tried every single tip listed on the fictional Gay Man’s Guide to Finding Mr. Right — but none of these worked. Now I’m so jaded to the point that I’d be more than happy to have a fake boyfriend, or as my friends call it: boypren-boyprenan. Others would call it a Mr. Right Now.
Would it be wrong if I enter into a pseudo-relationship with another guy knowing that that relationship will not last for long? Is it wrong to ask for something which will help me get by emotionally, mentally, and physically while I’m waiting for Mr. Right? (And no, I’m not looking for just a fuck buddy). Is it wrong to want a trophy boyfriend — someone you play around with in a make-believe relationship?
I hope you and your readers can shed some light to me about this.
Thank you, more power and world peace!
Nutella (Not my real name of course)