Comments on: On being an honorable gay man

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 20:46:27 +0000

After reading some of the comments here, I can’t help but feel FEAR.� Sa ‘Pinas, it’s almost impossible to be talking about being gay, that alone being gay and straightfully married.� It’s not a question of fearing ridicule of being lover’s of men, it’s being unable to uphold the duties of being a man.� If you’re not married and then they would say “Eh kasi bakla”.� I don’t know�but just by thinking how these words are spoken, sends chills along my spine.� I never spoke about my sexuality and I felt I never had to.� It might be difficult for people to discern that I am gay, due to the fact that I act straight, speak straight and do things like�a straight man should but that doesn’t mean I’m stiff as a ruler.� But I never had to deny.� It just so happens that I’m a gay man, who acts straight.� The letter above sort of side-winds this topic.� Jim probably got side-winded by a choice he could not pass off easily.� We have heard all of the stories regarding people in the closet and that’s just it–they are� just people who spend time in the closet, with coat hangers and mothballs.� When, in fact, there are complications that go along with it than the fear of unfurling the cape.� I firmly believe that we should, as gay people, be responsible enough to be considerate to those people who we aspire to be, namely the women (Even as a gay-straighter, I must admit, I am drawn closer to women.� I regard them as my eternal friends).� We should spare them the pain of deceit.� Likewise, it is also the responsibility of the straight community to spare us from the pain that being gay brings.� I am not saying they should reform us, make us sleep with women, thinking with like it even more than sleeping with Adam.� That’s just doesn’t work like that.� I happen to have read an article regarding a openly gay mixed-martial artist and how he treats his situation admiringly.� More admiringly was the writer of the article who said it was the responsibility of the straight community to give ample recognition, rights and opportunities to those who are gay.� This is very inspiring and sort of losens the knot of stigmatizing gay people as either weak, unable to love as straight people do and generally–well hot blooded animals (which is entirely untrue).� Jim can love, we can give credit to that.� He is gay–another credit for that.� But can we dictate how�he should work out his life–errr…well…I’m at a lost for words.� There is no concrete set of rules that we should follow.� As individuals, I guess it would depend upon the strength of how we are able emphatize Jim’s situation or any other people for that matter.� The bottom line is there is no correct suggestion he should follow.� Sure a lot of people get hurt a long the way but they are stronger than that–the strong should help the weak.

By: Carl

Carl — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 05:57:41 +0000

its hard to live alone, but its a lot harder to live with someone and still feel lonely… life is not fair whether you’re gay or straight, if you live in fear of being old alone, you hinder yourself from being really happy, and you end up making your life and OTHERS’ equally miserable… instead of fooling yourself and others by having all the ideals of a straight life(wife, kids, etc.), why not fill your life with friends who understands you no matter what, and find that special someone whom you would really want to spend your life with…

By: raffy M

raffy M — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 06:27:09 +0000

I understand about jim’s situation, he was in the critical situation, facing the fact he’s confused. As we go deeper and analyze the situation its realy hard and all of the negative thinking will lead on it.

Lets make things be simple for jim. Of course we ourselves would like to know more about this and one of a kind homosexual problem although lots of different problems comes along the way. Lets take this as a lesson and this will give us a moral advice very essential and become aware of it. Learn the lesson of others.

What im saying is simplify the problem. Meaning, we dont know if jim has a immediate family to rely and confide his problem. Let Jim allow himself to release all the pressure, pain, heartache,confusion by himself. After all jim will be the one can solve his problem.

By: hannsen

hannsen — Wed, 28 May 2008 07:37:14 +0000

It’s not right and it will never be right to destroy someone’s life just because he can’t make up his mind. Spare the women, please lang ha.

By: Mystey man

Mystey man — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 07:34:24 +0000

Once gay will forever be gay

By: perfida limpin

perfida limpin — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 13:08:54 +0000

gud for u mgay! way to go baby…ummm keep it up?

By: Mgay

Mgay — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 09:21:36 +0000

It’s not unfair to the girl as long as honest ka sa kanya sa umpisa pa lang> I told my wife before we got married about me and my past and she understands. Sabi lang niya Sana wag ka ng makipag relasyon sa lalaki which I said yes. I never do it with guys anymore at 5 years na kami and I can say na I am a happily married gay. I can see naman she is happy also. What is very hard is to be alone and lonely lalo pang mahirap pag wala kang ipon, lagot ka na.

By: michaela

michaela — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 02:53:53 +0000

gays can be civilly liable if they get married and not perform their marital duties including regular sex with their wives. they can also be liable for torts and damages arising from failure to comply from marital duties.

By: dark_phoenix

dark_phoenix — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 20:29:56 +0000

Point taken Migs!

By: josh

josh — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 11:58:36 +0000

talaga, kaya nga i did not get married kc i do believe its very unfair to d girl, unless she knows and understands d whole situation.