Comments on: That One Emotional Memory That Held Me Imprisoned

By: ano naman an

ano naman an — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 07:38:18 +0000

to ryen and arby, ako nga 25 na, lol.

its not the matter of stressing the obvious but how the stressing of the obvious validates him… it will always be [a] case to case basis, may it be a lighter predicament or not…cos a period doesn’t mean that everything stops after it. how we accept ourselves is dependent on how our surrounding validates and accepts us… sabi niya nga “… the memory that held him captive”. so there’s nothing wrong if the obvious makes him validated… he may be lucky compared to other as you said but the remark made a dent on his being.. being questioned at that stage in your life is very detrimental. fixations might happen. so good job migs for doing the best you can and thank you for sharing. atleast applaud him for being a better person

By: kwai

kwai — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 11:17:23 +0000

well, he has the tongue of somebody from up. let it go.

By: Meri

Meri — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 20:31:05 +0000

Migs, sorry to say I somewhat agree with Maximo Katakutan above. We can see just by visiting and reading Manila Gay Guy that you are indeed a very accomplished person. Kumbaga OA na kung state pa ang obvious.

Don’t tell me after all your your accomplishments, you’re still looking for your Aunt’s approval? My God, you don’t need it. You should be proud and be secure of yourself.

And sana wag kang ma-offend, but, if an Aunt saying �Bakla ba yang batang yan? Bakit parang ang lamya yata?!� is the most painful memory of your childhood, I will say that you are luckier than most of us.

By: Dean

Dean — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:20:58 +0000

I can’t help but wonder if your aunt didn’t made that comment or remark you won’t be able to attain the prestige and achivements that you did?� It seems to me you were so hurt that you set to prove to them�that�”yeah I’m gay but look at me now”!� I also wonder if�that’s the reason that gave you the�strength to come out?� What about those gays who had nothing to prove?� Who didn’t�enter to any famous or prestigious? Who’s not the bread�winner of the family?� I was so moved by the speaker’s question Lord knows�I had lots, but for your reaction was…I dunno….it sounded….bitter? angry?� I’m sorry�I don’t mean to offend or anything, but�I sure want to know how’s your relationship with your aunt today?��

By: sapphire

sapphire — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:40:45 +0000

ganyang ganyan din ang driving force, to prove other people wrong from belittling our kind……….� sa akin nga worse, imagine waking up each day and hear, “bakla bakla bakla!” fromyour brother instead of goooooooood morning. kaya masasabi ko lang. GOOD MORNING mga bakla

By: ricric

ricric — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:00:06 +0000

We know who we are.� We knew who we were. We grew up according to what we wanted and the experiences we had contibuted to the person we wanted to be and who we are now. �This is a lesson of being sensible to the needs of others. In my life,�I always�thnk of the repercussions of what�I say because words are very powerful. “Say only the good things men need to hear”.� I would rather praise a person than criticize him. I And if there’s a need to correct somebody, I would either approach him or her individually or say the words positively or say them in another way. We are persons – when others prick us, we bleed. When people least seem to deserve friendship, affection and respect – that’s when they need it most.�Peace to all.

By: Arby

Arby — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 17:34:17 +0000

sa akin naman uncle ko. sabi nya mga “mahinhing” bata ay dapat i-flush sa toilet. sino ba namang bata ang hindi matraumatize? haaaays…

@ryen—super same ating situation NBSB parin ako. and im turning 22 na.

By: Chase

Chase — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 11:57:35 +0000

Probably, all of us experienced such an encounter during our growing up years(nag dadalaga? haha) And I believed that’s why most of us have a bitter and sad�childhood. Meron din�ako experience sa mga aunt and relatives ko na gnyan.. mga classmates.. neigbors etc. Pero yung di ko malilimutan eh yung tinawag ako ng bakla ng classmate ko around grd3 di nya alam eh andun� sa tabi yung tatay ko.. I was deeply humilaited and di ako nkapag salita or naka move, since that moment eh medyo cold saken yung father ko… siga siga pa nman sya samen. Meron din moment ako with my Dad and Mom na talagang kinausap nila ko kung bakla ba daw ako.. nalimutan ko na lahat ng details about sa usapan na yun cguro nga im blocking it kya di ko ma na�remember, pero la ako nasabi sa knila.. im just silent and crying (girl haha) Actually malambot talaga ko nung bata ako.. mas madami kasi kmi relatives na females kesa males so sa early age eh cguro sila yung nagaya ko tapos yung father ko eh lagi wala kasi sa work nya. Bitter pa din ako till now because la ako choice.. Cguro everybody nman would agree sa sasabihin ko na di naten ginusto maging bkla di ba?? I mean ngyong adults na tayo of course we can decide kung mag ladlad ba tayo or mag tago, pero nung bata tyo eh di nman naten pinili maging malamya or maging malambot and other traits di bah?

dun ako bitter till now… kasi its not my choice… it just happen! But since andyan na yan eh ano pa ba magagawa naten di bah? so the only choice is to accept oneself which is what im doing till now. Im still in the closet and cguro I’ll leave it that way. Believe me im happy this way and I cant see myself being a full pledge gay di ako magiging masaya dun. �Wala ako bad things about people na nag out.. choice nila yun�and Im happy for them pero yung mga�full pledge gays nman eh dapat din unawain yung mga closeted sisters kasi decision nila yun kaya naiinis ako sa mga tsismosang bakla. Its their private lives and people should�respect it. Nkaranas na tayo being rediculed and pointed at during childhood and ang sama ng feeling di bah? so wag na naten ulitin sa iba. Cguro nga culture na sa pinas ang mangi -alam kasi im working no abroad and totally eh la pki alaman which is much better. Kung la ka nman mganda sasabihin eh manahimik ka na lang. cguro yun ang dapat matutunan ng mga pinoy. World Peace!

Right now eh.. di ko masasabi na happy ako kasi still may kulang and�may void sa life ko and im on the road to find it whatever it cost me. Right now eh Im enjoying both worlds… I dont consider myself as gay because na attract pa din me sa opposite sex and I have lots of gf nung college. I dont wanna brag pero I got looks and straight yung kilos. Kaya nagkaka gf pa din. Meron ako plans mag asawa in the future and meron ako mga kakilala na happily married nman sila and cguro it is the path that i will choose.. but then the path is still unclear.

By: broken_heart

broken_heart — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:54:56 +0000

Migs, you wrote this as one of your goals: “to give of myself”… You havent done this. Manila Gay Guy has. But anybody could be Manila Gay Guy. Hell, I could say im Manila Gay Guy. Up until you reveal your identity, thats only when u fulfill this. Your aunt took notice of a part of who you really are. As you said, you compensated with measures. One of the measures I think is that you kept and is keeping your identity a secret. You are not your aunt’s prisoner. She may have given you the lock to a cage by saying those words but golly, she didnt imprison you by saying those words. You were the master of your actions. You turned the key to the lock of the cage your aunt placed you in. You are your own prisoner. You locked yourself in.�

By: hello

hello — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:17:05 +0000

I am not putting him down. My point is, it could have been said better.