Comments on: Scared That The World Would Know http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/ I say again, "World Peace!" Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:48:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Noey http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-232452 Noey Mon, 24 Aug 2009 03:28:01 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-232452 Eh panu kung tatay mo militar? Umaasa na bibigyan mo sya ng apo? Bubuo ka ng pamilya? Pano mo hahahrapin ang isang takot na baka maging katpusan at pagtigil ng iyong panaginip. Eh panu kung tatay mo militar? Umaasa na bibigyan mo sya ng apo? Bubuo ka ng pamilya? Pano mo hahahrapin ang isang takot na baka maging katpusan at pagtigil ng iyong panaginip.

]]> By: boy's friend http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-107729 boy's friend Mon, 22 Dec 2008 11:57:16 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-107729 It's great to hear from you boy (on the phone) a couple of days ago. Now I understand what you said about "basahin mo na lang yung letter ko online sa site na..." It's typically easy to give advices but since we know each other on a personal level, it seems more difficult what and what not to say on my part. I guess you're not obliged to admit your sexuality to anyone though this doesn't mean hiding that part of you. If someone trustworthy enough would ask about it then it should be fine to briefly respond without sounding defensive. Breeze through it as if it was just a side topic then move forward to your usual discussion to gradually fade away from that sensitive issue. People's notion won't matter as long as you're not giving them a reason to make a big deal out of it. My friend, you don't have to pressure yourself to post a mark on your forehead labeling who you are. Your sexual preference is just a part of you, it does not dictate who you are nor does it degrade your identity in general. Take away the paranoia that will just eat up your sanity. Keep a positive outlook by thinking that you're gaining new friends instead of considering them as new possible threats that might uncover things you're trying to conceal. People have lives to ponder about so your concerns regarding their thoughts on you is for sure of least importance to them. Clear your thoughts and just smile to ease your worries. Reflect on this message and read back on the blogger's response on top. You know my digits so your friend's just here on the other end of the line. Kudos by the way to Migs for the highly objective statement in response to my friend's queries. It’s great to hear from you boy (on the phone) a couple of days ago. Now I understand what you said about “basahin mo na lang yung letter ko online sa site na…” It’s typically easy to give advices but since we know each other on a personal level, it seems more difficult what and what not to say on my part. I guess you’re not obliged to admit your sexuality to anyone though this doesn’t mean hiding that part of you. If someone trustworthy enough would ask about it then it should be fine to briefly respond without sounding defensive. Breeze through it as if it was just a side topic then move forward to your usual discussion to gradually fade away from that sensitive issue.
People’s notion won’t matter as long as you’re not giving them a reason to make a big deal out of it. My friend, you don’t have to pressure yourself to post a mark on your forehead labeling who you are. Your sexual preference is just a part of you, it does not dictate who you are nor does it degrade your identity in general. Take away the paranoia that will just eat up your sanity. Keep a positive outlook by thinking that you’re gaining new friends instead of considering them as new possible threats that might uncover things you’re trying to conceal.
People have lives to ponder about so your concerns regarding their thoughts on you is for sure of least importance to them. Clear your thoughts and just smile to ease your worries. Reflect on this message and read back on the blogger’s response on top.
You know my digits so your friend’s just here on the other end of the line. Kudos by the way to Migs for the highly objective statement in response to my friend’s queries.

]]> By: dave http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-107682 dave Sun, 21 Dec 2008 06:07:49 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-107682 i can relate to you Boy,nung nasa 20's to 25 p aang age ko ok lang sa akin na ganito ako pero ngayong nagkakapangalan na ako sa propesyong napili ko ay nandun na FEAR OF REJECTION, although kahit anong gawin kong pagpapa macho image infact nagkaroon ako ng maraming retionship with Girls but one thing is for sure yung GUILT KO KEEPS ON HAUNTING ME, i feel sorry my x gf dahil ginamit ko sila para maitago ang tunay kong pagkatao lalo na sa pamilya ko. Pero in the end ako pala ang talo kasi bat ko itatago ang tunay kong pagtao, i realize na being a gay is not a CRIME, it becomes a CRIME when you go beyond the limits of being a gay at alam mo na siguro kung ano ng mga kababuyang pinaggagawa ng ibang kabaro natin gaya ng pagkuha ng bayarang call boys or pagpatol sa menor de edad. Sa ngayon im proud of being a GAY, isang bading na hindi palengkera o balahura sa katawan kasi macho parin naman akong kumilos infact napagkakamalan pa nga akong pulis minsan dahil sa tindig ko. Wag kang matakot sa sasabihin ng iba dahil sarili mong buhay yan at di naman sila ang nagpapalamon sayo. Alam mo tol nung umamin ako sa family ko akal ako isususmpa nila ako pero hindi pala, sinabihan lang ako ng PAMILYA KO NG KUNG SAAN KA MASAYA SUPORTAHNA KA NAMIN, naalala ko pa ang biro ng nanay ko nuon ng mag ala RUSTOM PADILLA ang drama ko sabi ng nanay ko "BRUHA KA BAT NGAYON KA LANG UMAMIN E MATAGAL KO NG NAAMOY NA ISA KANG GOLD FISH" hehehehe, ang tatay ko naman natawa nalang sya, basta ang last word nya "i admire you son for being true to your self, i accept you for what you are kasi anak kita and were always here for you" naiyak nalang ako nuon sa sobrang kasiyahan ko. Just be true to your self boy. i can relate to you Boy,nung nasa 20’s to 25 p aang age ko ok lang sa akin na ganito ako pero ngayong nagkakapangalan na ako sa propesyong napili ko ay nandun na FEAR OF REJECTION, although kahit anong gawin kong pagpapa macho image infact nagkaroon ako ng maraming retionship with Girls but one thing is for sure yung GUILT KO KEEPS ON HAUNTING ME, i feel sorry my x gf dahil ginamit ko sila para maitago ang tunay kong pagkatao lalo na sa pamilya ko.

Pero in the end ako pala ang talo kasi bat ko itatago ang tunay kong pagtao, i realize na being a gay is not a CRIME, it becomes a CRIME when you go beyond the limits of being a gay at alam mo na siguro kung ano ng mga kababuyang pinaggagawa ng ibang kabaro natin gaya ng pagkuha ng bayarang call boys or pagpatol sa menor de edad. Sa ngayon im proud of being a GAY, isang bading na hindi palengkera o balahura sa katawan kasi macho parin naman akong kumilos infact napagkakamalan pa nga akong pulis minsan dahil sa tindig ko. Wag kang matakot sa sasabihin ng iba dahil sarili mong buhay yan at di naman sila ang nagpapalamon sayo. Alam mo tol nung umamin ako sa family ko akal ako isususmpa nila ako pero hindi pala, sinabihan lang ako ng PAMILYA KO NG KUNG SAAN KA MASAYA SUPORTAHNA KA NAMIN, naalala ko pa ang biro ng nanay ko nuon ng mag ala RUSTOM PADILLA ang drama ko sabi ng nanay ko “BRUHA KA BAT NGAYON KA LANG UMAMIN E MATAGAL KO NG NAAMOY NA ISA KANG GOLD FISH” hehehehe, ang tatay ko naman natawa nalang sya, basta ang last word nya “i admire you son for being true to your self, i accept you for what you are kasi anak kita and were always here for you” naiyak nalang ako nuon sa sobrang kasiyahan ko. Just be true to your self boy.

]]> By: pinoycontests http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-107063 pinoycontests Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:31:32 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-107063 “That’s where the spike came… bakit may rumors? Then deep inside naapektuhan ako talaga ako.”

Use the rumor as a springboard to understand yourself more. Cut out the drama and know theyself!

]]> By: rEiEr http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-107048 rEiEr Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:40:20 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-107048 so KEBS! I know it's hard keeping it real but don't mind what other people would say or do. And to quote Jack McFarland: "I'm here, I'm Queer. They better get used to it!" so KEBS! I know it’s hard keeping it real but don’t mind what other people would say or do. And to quote Jack McFarland: “I’m here, I’m Queer. They better get used to it!”

]]> By: Ed Garcellano http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-106970 Ed Garcellano Fri, 21 Nov 2008 04:38:50 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-106970 magpakatotoo ka lang sa mundong iyong ginagalawan, magpaliwanag kung kinakailangan. malalaman mo na sa pagtakbo ng panahon ang mga bagay bagay ay kusa ring magkakatugma. Parang puzzle na may proseso at di pwedeng mag short cut. Seguro may mararanasang kang pagkutya at panglalait pero di ba sa mga ganitong pagkakataon nga halos nasusukat kung sino talaga ang totoo mong kaibigan at kung may hangganan ba ang unconditional love. magdasal ka rang sa kapayapaan ng iyong isipan at gawin mo ang mga bagay na magpapasaya sa iyo at iyong gusto. So long na wala kang inaagrabyadong tao e okay ka lang. Wala naman sa seksuwaledad ang pag alam kung ikaw ay mabuting tao. Good luck. magpakatotoo ka lang sa mundong iyong ginagalawan, magpaliwanag kung kinakailangan. malalaman mo na sa pagtakbo ng panahon ang mga bagay bagay ay kusa ring magkakatugma. Parang puzzle na may proseso at di pwedeng mag short cut. Seguro may mararanasang kang pagkutya at panglalait pero di ba sa mga ganitong pagkakataon nga halos nasusukat kung sino talaga ang totoo mong kaibigan at kung may hangganan ba ang unconditional love. magdasal ka rang sa kapayapaan ng iyong isipan at gawin mo ang mga bagay na magpapasaya sa iyo at iyong gusto. So long na wala kang inaagrabyadong tao e okay ka lang. Wala naman sa seksuwaledad ang pag alam kung ikaw ay mabuting tao. Good luck.

]]> By: ditto_dapitz http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-106965 ditto_dapitz Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:18:02 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-106965 Tama ka jan Matthew. Sa akin din, months before my friends kept on asking me why still don’t have girlfriend.  And I just kept quiet and told them that I still have a lot of goals in my life and being in one is not my priority at that time. But the truth is, I was in a relathionship… same sex relationship, that is. And i just didn’t want them to know.  Sigh.

]]> By: matthew http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-106931 matthew Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:48:19 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-106931 hehe pareho tau..sabi ng friends ko na nakaka alam na “gay” ako..pag pinagkalat daw nila na bading ako…sasabhin sa knila ng mga tao na sinisiraan lang nila ako..kc..walang walang bahid daw ako ng kabadingan…when i came out to them na ganito ako ( 3 cla )..ayaw pa nila maniwala…

One thing lng na tlagang pagsisimulan ng “rumor ” about me is baket until now wla pa akong asawa..I am in my late 30s na…un lng ang laging tinatanong saken…

Pero ang totoo..i dont really care what people may think about me.  Ayoko nman manloko ng babae para ipantakip lang sa tunay na sexuality ko.

]]> By: jason romero http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-106916 jason romero Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:30:32 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-106916 hello to all, its my first time to comment iv been reading this since a couple of weeks ago,

well, the situation is typical, and the advises and comment of course from different mould of personality, are explicit
 for me as long as you dont do bad things to others, happy, true to yourself or well versed for your ownself, its not a question to answer, we will spend the rest of life searching answer?,,, find happiness instead.

 you chose your path, its a decision and underlies with it are circumstances, it may be unknown but for sure you have anticipated for some of it. this will lead now to preparation after the “what if’s” , you do the decision, then action, a strong and smart defense mechanism…

as filipinos we are greatly influenced on values and virtues special with regards to family… (this really affects decisions)
but we are more likely educated and open to what the current issues are taking place. hence why not turn to more productive lifestyle and the fears and anxieties leave it behind,,,,, its the people who truly loves you (take in consideration, open minded people) that will stick around and the people we can say,, neccessary for travelling this lifetime…..

i have stick to my beliefs of staying discreet (even if  i am obvious to some pipz), and everything are just working fine… the closest friends are worthy of confiding for so there is a support system.

family is family… i mean i want to give them grand children, and  children of my own too.. it is not a prerequisite to tell them  or the people around everything

cheers

]]> By: Oliver http://manilagayguy.net/2008/11/19/scared-that-the-world-would-know/#comment-106914 Oliver Thu, 20 Nov 2008 12:56:56 +0000 http://manilagayguy.com/?p=6037#comment-106914 Life is to short to be afraid - especially if it's rumors we're afraid of. There will always be rumors until you confront them. In your case, Boy, the rumors about your sexuality will never stop until you actually come out and put an end to it. You can't expect people to stop talking if you will give them somethng to talk about. So just come out of the closet and embrace the world. SURE there are a lotta haters out there. But again, why waste time on people like that? As Migs and the fabcasters menitoned in one of their fabcasts, "Find your niche" There will always be people who will love and accept you for who you are. And that's all you need. For the meantime, If you've realy acepted yourself. Then coming out will be easy. Best of luck Life is to short to be afraid – especially if it’s rumors we’re afraid of. There will always be rumors until you confront them. In your case, Boy, the rumors about your sexuality will never stop until you actually come out and put an end to it. You can’t expect people to stop talking if you will give them somethng to talk about.

So just come out of the closet and embrace the world.

SURE there are a lotta haters out there. But again, why waste time on people like that? As Migs and the fabcasters menitoned in one of their fabcasts, “Find your niche” There will always be people who will love and accept you for who you are. And that’s all you need.

For the meantime, If you’ve realy acepted yourself. Then coming out will be easy.

Best of luck

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