Feb
24

“Dude! Pare! Chong!… do you MGG?”

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dudeprechong1

Hi Migs,

Grabe ang article on “Abrazos with Joseph” ha. Parang 24.. I am sure that many of us are anxiously waiting for the next part. But you know, parang mas happy if it will not end with Joseph admitting that he’s gay. Besides, parang it will not lead to that naman, the way you had cut it between chapters. My guess is it is about another thing. Paduda ka lang eh. Heh heh.

But whatever the outcome of the third part is, just like many of the reactions I had seen, sobrang nakakakilig the way you wrote it. (Lumabas ang pagkabading ko, promise………….). Really Migs, (and as corny as this may sound……..) I think that you had touched many of your readers’ hearts.

I really just started following through your blog on male massage but I noticed that I was getting hooked in simply reading and browsing through interesting pictures, and comments. And interestingly, the most amusing and exciting observation I made about these postings is…………..MUKHANG MALI YATA ANG TITLE NG BLOG NI MIGS. HINDI DAPAT MANILA GAY GUY. Pucha, Migs, eh parang mas madami kang blogsters and fans na “straight”, “straight-acting”, or even “straight-aspiring” ah (I myself included, so promise po, no pun intended ang statement na to……..). Can you imagine people describing themselves as “mas astig pa nga ako doon sa masseur……..” OR “parang nasarapan yung masseur sa akin at mas malambot pa kumilos”, OR “nahiya lang ako magsabi kasi lalaking-lalaki ako sa office…….”

I know that despite the apparent openness of Manila, parang madami pa din na who would rather just keep it inside. I am married (with kids) and continue to have a healthy sex life with my wife. On the other hand, sans the guilt in the beginning, over time, I had already overcome this and now live a relatively comfortable life. Yun nga lang, only one person really knows about my other side. (The funny thing is when the people I meet in MGG ask me who knows, ang usual reply ko is one person lang, but if you will add all the masseurs that had done service, eh hehehehehe, parang pwede nang mag-organize ng cocktails. hahahaha)

I kind of envy you when you say how much relief being open has brought to you. Syempre, despite the enjoyment from whatever I do, parang mas masaya if you at least share it with a few friends. The way i see it, parang madami like me who would rather just really, really keep it to themselves. After all, “manageable naman……….” In one instance in Sanctuario, I saw this ex-colleague in the lockers at sa sobrang sindak ko, hindi ko pinansin only to regret it after. He looked like he wanted to connect pa naman. And to think that we are exactly of the same feather. I know his wife and (many of his) kids. I saw him the last time and he kinda avoided me na.

I have this funny thought that one day, you will organize an event for straight-acting people who are bold enough to even slowly take the chance of opening themselves up to others. Then in the event itself, lahat ng dadating, may basket sa ulo. So parang reunion ng ku klux klan or ng hukbalahap.. :-)

Cheers Migs.
Ton

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Dear Dude, Pare, Chong, errr… Ton –

Basta’s masaya ka kung nasaan ka, kung saan mang kulay sa rainbow mo gustong magpa-slide-slide, hangga’t ika’y nasa tama’t walang inaalipusta’t inaapi, pasok ka pa rin sa banga. Mahal ka ng sangkabadingan. Sabi nga, unity in diversity.

May nag-comment dito sa MGG, pare-pareho lang naman daw ang mga bading, na ang nagbibigkis sa atin ay ang ating kagustuhang makasubo ng ari ng lalaki. I beg to disagree, mga ateh. Walang iisang hulma ang bakla. Walang nagbibigkis sa atin. Wala. Kung meron man, ito ay ang kagustuhan nating intindihin at suportahan ang bawat isa — sa bawat liko, lalim, at tarik ng ating mga pinagdadaanang bonggang-bonggang buhay. O-ha!

World Peace!

Nagmamahal,
Migs

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50 Comments So Far

  1. Ang galing mo Pre Ton and Pre Migs, mas lalo akong nasisiyahan reading your blog, solo lang ata ako dito sa Africa na pinoy with the same case like Ton. kaya I choose to stay abroad para di maapektohan ang pamilya ko dyan sa pinas. Soon i will share my own story to you Migs. World peace!

    jake at Feb 24, 09 at 5:49 am

  2. Pre’ng Jake! Great to hear from very far Africa. Enjoy ka diyan! I am looking forward to your story Pre. :)

    migs at Feb 24, 09 at 5:52 am

  3. …lahat ng dadating, may basket sa ulo…

    ano ba yan, hanggang sa private party discreet pa rin?

    LoLz!

    ming at Feb 24, 09 at 6:26 am

  4. totoo nman.. nkakakilig talaga..

    i found myself smiling while reading the post.

    hay. you got one very nice story migs! :)

    chinky_boi at Feb 24, 09 at 6:53 am

  5. love the post
    it summed up what migs really does to his readers…
    more power…more posts…pra mas masaya mag-slide…
    hehe

    lands at Feb 24, 09 at 7:22 am

  6. I’m sorry Migs, but I’m inclined to disagree with you on this one.

    1. “hangga’t ika’y nasa tama’t walang inaalipusta’t inaapi, pasok ka pa rin sa banga.” – e, Migs, may asawa siya. And Ton admits to having sex with other men despite being married and having kids. I’d say kung mahal niya ang asawa niya, dapat panindigan niya ang pagsasama nila. If he’s gonna fool around, then I guess that’s cheating. And I suppose he owes it to his wife to be COMPLETELY honest about his sexuality.

    2. “Walang iisang hulma ang bakla. Walang nagbibigkis sa atin. Wala. Kung meron man, ito ay ang kagustuhan nating intindihin at suportahan ang bawat isa” – Motherhood statement Migs!!! Though REALLY, technically, the only thing common among gays is their love (or lust in most cases) for the same sex. tanggapin na natin, hindi ka naman magiging bakla if you don’t desire the same sex, di ba? crass man pero yun ang totoo. Although yes, as a ‘community’ I feel it is our unwritten responsibility to support those who are still conflicted with their sexuality. But not in the case of Ton.

    On one hand, my initial reaction is to feel a bit resentful of these closeted straight-wannabes. It’s just really hypocritical for them to ‘dabble and enjoy the fruits of being gay’ (in short fuck around with men) and yet walk out the bathhouse/massage/and other what-have-yous and not take part in the struggle other openly gay men are going through. It’s a classic case of ‘lacking balls’; plain cowardice!

    Yet, on the other hand, I pity the gays who are like Ton. For him to say that his life is “manageable naman………” is just so SAD. To live in hiding is just SAD. I can only imagine the agony and guilt he’s feeling.

    His so-called “aspiration” to be ’straight’ just shows how much he’s conflicted between the rules of society and himself. How can he find happiness when he himself can’t accept himself for who he truly is? How can he be satisfied with his life when he’s self-hating (whether consciously or not)?

    Yun lang Migs. I’m not hating, just sharing my thoughts. Pasintabi po sa mga nasagasaan.

    Oliver at Feb 24, 09 at 8:44 am

  7. you need help man. a good psycho analyst, pronto.

    macho at Feb 24, 09 at 9:14 am

  8. Tama yan mga dude. I agree.

    *beso*

    jedong at Feb 24, 09 at 9:55 am

  9. You said: “Walang iisang hulma ang bakla. Walang nagbibigkis sa atin. Wala. Kung meron man, ito ay ang kagustuhan nating intindihin at suportahan ang bawat isa — sa bawat liko, lalim, at tarik ng ating mga pinagdadaanang bonggang-bonggang buhay.”

    I beg to disagree with what u said. Unang-una, hindi ako naniniwala na “walang iisang hulma ang bakla.” Meron. At dapat talaga meron! Dahil hindi tayo matatawag na mga bakla kung wala tayong ‘common definition’…kahit isa lang. At sa tingin ko, ito ay ang pagkakaroon natin ng ‘romantic affection’ sa kapwa lalake.

    Pangalawa, lalung hindi ako naniniwala na ang posibleng nagbibigkis sa atin ay “ang kagustuhan nating intindihin at suportahan ang bawat isa.” Kung totoo ito, wala na sana akong nakikitang komento sa mga chatrooms kagaya ng ‘no to effems’! At wala na rin sana akong naririnig na komento mula sa mga pamintang bakling na ayaw nilang maugnay at makisalamuha sa binabaeng mga kauri! Totoo, may mga bakling (kagaya ko) talaga na nais “intindihin at suportahan ang bawat isa.” Kaya nga siguro, ganun na lamang karami ang nag-komento sa iyong post tungkol sa mga ‘naturally straight acting gay guys.” Subalit walang duda na may mga bakling din na walang inatupag kundi ang mang-husga, mangmata at mang-alipusta ng mga kauri nila. Sa tingin ko pa nga, iyan ang dominanteng kultura sa sangkabaklingan sa ngayon.

    Anong masasabi mo ukol dito, mareng Migs? :)

    Mimi at Feb 24, 09 at 11:10 am

  10. “Abrazos with Joseph” ending or chapter nth, is very predictable…lahat nag-iisip, Joseph is gay or perhaps Joseph have/had an affair/fling with other men. syempre naman gay-related and sites na ito. I just wonder, paano kaya tatapusin ni Miggz ang kwentong ito with a blast.

    Anyway, naturally-straight-acting gays ROCKS!

    Little Fish at Feb 24, 09 at 12:09 pm

  11. I would be very excited to read your story Jake! Where po kau sa africa? Maybe we’ll be there on April for a medical mission! Hope to meet you in person!

    jed at Feb 24, 09 at 12:31 pm

  12. Wish ko lang mag-organize ang MGG readers ng party na eksklusib lang sa atin.

    jed at Feb 24, 09 at 12:34 pm

  13. i know right,pre?hehe

    spunky at Feb 24, 09 at 12:39 pm

  14. MEOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW!

    Catfight ito!

    Ares in UAE at Feb 24, 09 at 1:17 pm

  15. Amen sistah!

    Ares in UAE at Feb 24, 09 at 1:21 pm

  16. I agree..just accept the fact that being gay doesnt necessarily mean acting like one…..I dont know I like men yes but I dont see myself telling the whole world that I am gay. Im so happy the way it is…I dont go to gay bars massage parlors…but I know I like men that meets my criteria…so live and let live…

    ILoveAlec at Feb 24, 09 at 2:56 pm

  17. for me it ok..well marami nman tlagang may asawa n pero still they want to explore there other side..we cannot blame them..i met alot off them you want a story miggs.convince me!..halooben from riyadh

    halooben at Feb 24, 09 at 3:05 pm

  18. “Subalit walang duda na may mga bakling din na walang inatupag kundi ang mang-husga, mangmata at mang-alipusta ng mga kauri nila.” – I couldn’t agree more!!!

    It is somewhat unfortunate that “straight-ness” or the quality of looking and acting “straight” is such a ‘high-priced’ commodity in the gay community to the point that the effeminate kind are treated like they are BELOW the former.

    And this is REALLY sad coz the truth of the matter is, most (not all) of the straight acting gays (at least those that I know) are CLOSETED; people who cannot accept themselves and their sexuality.

    SO sino ngayon ang mas mababang uri? ang mga bakling na effem pero mas tapang at lakas ng loob na harapin ang mapanghusga at mapangalpustang mundo? o ang mga paminta na nais lang makipagsex sa lalake pero hindi kayang panindigan ang sarili nilang sekswalidad?

    Oliver at Feb 24, 09 at 5:14 pm

  19. Bakit ba ang dami nating issues? It’s like it’s always a question of who’s the better gay specie.

    To each his own and respect each other na lang sana.

    Peace.

    pao-pao bear at Feb 24, 09 at 10:05 pm

  20. well, it all boils down to this: masaya ka ba? if you can answer that straight from the heart without any hesitations and all, then yun na. Life’s too short for drama. carpe diem.

    micko at Feb 24, 09 at 10:37 pm

  21. Para sa akin lang maging bakla ka man, lantad oh di lantad, may pusong babae or nagpapakalalake lahat yan di mahalaga — ang tunay na kaligayahan ay ang katahimikan ng kaisipan. Ako wala pa sa estadong ito, di ko pa kayang kamtan sagpagkat dadayain ko lamang ang aking sarili. Subalit ang tunay na kaligayahan, ano mang uri ng pagkatao ay nasa isipan lamang —sa aking palagay magiging masaya at kuntento lang ang tao maging straight man oh bading, bakla, effem, paminta or kung ano pa man, kung ikaw tanggap mo kung sino ka na walang second thought, walang pandaraya lalo na sa sarili —mahirap gawin ito pero sa aking palagay ang makakatulong lang sa atin ay ang pangtanggap mismo natin sa sarili natin—tama ang nakakarami as long as walang kang nasasaktan and you believe na tama ang iyong ginagawa, yan ang tunay na kaligayahan – because of the peace of mind.

    –arthur—

    arthur Becker at Feb 24, 09 at 11:38 pm

  22. Pasabat na rin.

    Tama ka MIGS.

    Kanya kanyang buhay na lang. pero what i abhor most, ung mga GAY ACTIVISTS, (Yung mga maiingay na gays na gusto lahat ay magpaka OUT na at magslide slide sa RED and Yellow side ng rainbow). Mga TEH, kanya kanyang color preference na lang. Yung mga RED and Yellow group, wag kayo maawa sa mga pamintang durog sa BLUE group. Ginusto nila yun. at dun sila masaya. Kung may mga echoz BLUE members man, abangan nyo na lang sa red group nyo, for sure lilipat din mga yun. Kaya parati ihanda ang banda, mga ati-atihan costumes, at ang choir, to welcome transferees. Pero always bear in mind, kung may Fake, meron din True BLUE members. BLue pinili nila, at sa BLUE group sila masaya.

    We belong in one rainbow. but we differ in the color spectrum. Just imagine, kung RED and yellow lang ang rainbow, parang napkin sa sky na may mens na, may nana pa. (kadiri LOL). Kaya dapat kumpleto ang COLORS. Yun ang purpose ng rainbow, ang magbigay ng kulay sa boring, gloomy and dark gray skies. =D

    ricardo baruto at Feb 25, 09 at 12:15 am

  23. Hayyy, ang sarap makipag-argue. :)

    Maganda ang ganitong usapan, test of wits. Making an argument about what you believe in, and making other people understand you..
    All are hard things to do.

    Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
    Lumalabas ang pangitl ng iba’t ibang uri ng mga bakla. :)

    |jeph| at Feb 25, 09 at 1:09 am

  24. I think I am gay but naturally straight acting and i am NOT in the closet. I am open about my sexuality with my family and friends. Not all gay are effeminate. I believe I still have some of masculinity because I still feel some sexual urges to the opposite sex.

    Luolan at Feb 25, 09 at 1:46 am

  25. It’s not really who’s the better ‘gay specie’ that is the issue here..
    The issue is ung ‘peace’ at ‘happiness’ na talagang nararamdaman ng isang bakla. Para sa kin yung ‘managable naman’ eh hindi tlaga un equivalent sa masaya kasi nagtitiis ka ngang i manage d ba? Ibang-iba sya dun sa peace na nararamdaman mo kapag tanggap ka ng ibang tao, or kahit ng pamilya mo lang na bading ka. Although hindi ko pa un nararamdaman ><

    Banjo at Feb 25, 09 at 2:09 am

  26. enough of this straight-acting vs effem thing already people. it is not a contest. IT IS NOT AN ISSUE. it makes no difference because you are all gay, homo, bakla, whatever. no need to point it out, ever. evolve already. get a hobby. help a charity. do something but enough of this pointless debate because there is nothing to debate about. you don’t get an OSCAR for being straight-acting because it means absolutely nothing. you are all Bakla. get it.
    the issue here is about honesty, morality and decency. just because you are gay doesn’t mean, anything goes. being a moral, honest, decent and civilized human being is still the norm. you are a married man with a wife and children. where is your honesty and fidelity? you are lying to your family and cheating on your wife. what does that make you? why do we have to approve or cheer your behavior. being gay doesn’t mean you need to sink this low as human being. hurting your wife and children is not something that you should feel good about, ever.

    boguy at Feb 25, 09 at 9:51 am

  27. asus…kayo talaga..tama na yan mga kafatid..tayo pa ba naman ang magsisiraan sa isa’t isa? eh wala na nga kakampi kundo tayu-tayo na lang…CHEERS…
    WORLD PEACE…

    mellicious at Feb 25, 09 at 10:33 am

  28. it shoud have been “who’s the better gay species?” – you dont remove the ’s’ whether its singular or plural.

    World Peace!!!
    :)

    jedong at Feb 25, 09 at 12:25 pm

  29. *clap*clap*clap*

    Bulls eye!

    oliver at Feb 25, 09 at 12:26 pm

  30. kuya migs, why dont you compile all your stories in one book? una ako sa pila pag nagawa mo yun. hehehe

    markerik at Feb 25, 09 at 2:02 pm

  31. ang saya sobra….

    na miss ko to!

    matt at Feb 25, 09 at 3:31 pm

  32. Mga baklang ito, magsitigil nga kayo sa kaka-argumento, para tayong nasa senado na nagbabangayan araw-araw,lahat tayo sa site na ito ay iisa ang kulay ng dugo natin BERDE and once a Berde always a Berde. Baket meron bang bakla dito na di nakaranas humada, kaloka kayo.

    Para sa letter sender, naloka ako sayo pare kasi ako ang pinatatamaan mo dahil ako si Dave na nagcomment sa malambot at mas astig pa ako sa massuer, pati ba naman yung sinabi ko quinote mo pa, pero ok lang pare koy world peace hehehehe.Pero sa totoo lang hirap na hirap na akong magtago sa closet, nagka gf ako ng apat pero wala ring nangyari and worse pa nga yung last gf ko nagwala ng husto ng hiniwalayan ko dahil wala syang maisip na rason kung bakit ko sya hihiwalayan, diko naman masabi sa kanya na “SISTER PAREHO TAYONG GIRL”, OMG baka atakehin pa sya at masuka sa akin dahil di lang lips to lips ang natikman nya sa akin hahahahha, umalis din ako ng pilipinas para lang maitago ko ang pagiging berde ko sa pamilya ko dahil naloloka na ako sa kakakulit nila na mag asawa na raw ako dahil sabik na silang magka apo sa akin, “HALER IM JUST 26″, diko rin masabi sa kanila na BOY ang gusto ko(Mabugbog pa ako ng tatay ko). Kaya heto TOTOY BATO ang drama ng lolo nyo sa sangkatauhan.

    Ang masasabi ko lang RESPETO ang kailangan ng bawat isa sa atin, kung gusto mong mag cry out loud sa kalye na kekembot kembot na mala rustom padilla or maging pamintang buo or durog, or straight kuning kuning ay okey lang walang pakialamanan dahil unang una CHOICE mo yan, panagalawa di naman sila ang nagpapakain sayo o gumagastos sa gusto mong gawin, in short LETS JUST RESPECT EACH OTHER PARA PEACE ON EARTH.

    Lastly, agree ako sa suggestion ni letter sender gusto kong magkaroon ng pagtitipon-tipon ang lahat ng readers sa site na ito, kaya pareng migs sana mag organise ka ng isang event to unite us all.

    dave at Feb 25, 09 at 3:36 pm

  33. korekek!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Mark at Feb 25, 09 at 4:11 pm

  34. i couldn’t agree more senior ricardo!!! very well said!

    blue raven at Feb 25, 09 at 4:39 pm

  35. BRAVO !! Well said Dave, just live it the way you want it. Its our choice, its our game. Chill . . .

    Edison at Feb 25, 09 at 5:25 pm

  36. pasensya na pareng dave. huminga lang naman ako kay migs kasi talaga namang nakatutuwa ang mga nababasa natin dito sa MGG: makabuluhan, nakatutulong, nakapagpapasaya at higit sa lahat, and despite how much (or little) we know about each other, nakatataba ng puso to know that there are many of us, free, suppressed, closeted, afraid, happy,and gay, who are simply living our lives they way we are.

    hindi kita pinatatamaan. ako nga din yun eh. hehehe.

    i told migs how much i appreciated first, the volume of reaction, and second, the diversity.

    tama din ang marami na hindi naman hangad ninuman na makipag-away. i guess freedom of expression is really most creatively manifested in writing. kaya hayan, ang daming na-challenge.

    maraming salamat sa mga sumagot. peace please.

    ton at Feb 25, 09 at 7:40 pm

  37. Agree ako sa iyo Mr. Arthur Becker :-)

    Kenzo at Feb 26, 09 at 11:53 am

  38. Hi Ton, DONT WORRY IM NOT MAD at you, bilog ang mundo pare malay mo in the future magkasalubong tayo sa daan or we get the chance of knowing each other ay baka maging best of friends pa tayo or maging ninong ako ng isa sa mga magiging baby mo pa or vice versa kunin kitang ninong ng magiging anak ko(im planning to have a baby din kasi) heheheeheh, infact natutuwa nga ako kasi na mention mo yung comment ko sa nakakalokang karanasan ko sa masseur na ipinadala sa akin, siguro kung diko pinatulan yung advertisement sa news paper e di sana di ako gumastos kasi yung original price is 2,500 sana kaso ang hitad na masseur ay 1k lang kinuha. We are free to express ourselves, we are in a democratic country, although minsan di natin maiwasan na meron talagang mga ipokritong tao, anyway thats life ang pikon laging talo, kaya ang kapatid na BOY aBUNDA, cry to death.

    Speaking closeted, happy na ako sa pagiging closet, although its hard to pretend all the time but it was my choice and i have to stand firm for it and face all the consequences that may arise in the future. As they say “Walang lihim na di nabubunyag”. Im ready for that day to come however, not this time diko pa talaga kayang mag Out.

    May chika ako sayo pare, alam mo ba nung nagbakasyon ako sa atinng bayang magiliw may naka one night stand ako na diko naman alam kung sino sya basta parang HIT AND RUN ang nangyari sa amin, i did not know him and i never ask for his name and vice versa. Basta nagka titigan lang kami sa isang bar sa makati knowing me feel na feel ko ang mga semi-cal at matangkad, ewan ko basta type ko lang sya at sinundan ko sya sa parking lot, sumakay kami sa car nya at pumunta kami sa isang madilim at malawak na lupain sa the fort sa taguig. We did the usual thing (SEX,after the big event we left and never talk with each other, basta nung bumaba ako sabi ko lang THANKS. Kagabi i watch the TFC OMG i saw him on national television habang iniinterview sya ng isang tv reporter. Nangingiti at napapaisip ako hanggang ngayon dahil life is full of surprises, the way he talk and act habang sya ay iniinterview ay walang bahid ng pagka bading sa kanyang pagkatao. Now I know marami talaga sa atin PLU na mas gustong manatiling Macho ang image sa madlang people. Maybe, given the chance na mag meet kami ulit, i will just give him a smile. PEACE TO ALL

    dave at Feb 26, 09 at 12:56 pm

  39. it is really battle of the brain in here,,, grabe, philosophically complexicated
    its this part of my daily online routine in the office to actually discover,,, and still discovering new updates evry time i read the post and comments….
    the mere fact that you guys are battling of the ideas and thoughts are something to be commended of.
    hail to our specie and keep sliding in to the rainbow connection

    jason

    jason romero at Feb 26, 09 at 6:37 pm

  40. hi dave,
    please send a note to my email address (tonmgg@yahoo.com) . may chika din ako. nakakahiya naman gumamit ng site ni migs for private matters. thanks.hehehe.

    ton at Feb 26, 09 at 10:55 pm

  41. Kudos to boguy!!!!

    tsinitoboy at Feb 28, 09 at 2:44 pm

  42. Kudos for Boguy!!!!

    tsinitoboy at Feb 28, 09 at 2:48 pm

  43. nakakatuwang isipin na kadiri man ang sa tingin ng ibang tao ang mga bading pero hayun at interesado pa rin sila sa kanila…

    Isaribi at Mar 5, 09 at 1:37 pm

  44. Is there such thing as Closeted Straight guy? Ive been feeling that right now… tsk,tsk…

    mykeyohann at Mar 8, 09 at 9:46 pm

  45. agree ako iba iba tayo kung pano natin patakbuhin at i drive ang atign buhay nilang bading,although lahat tayo hanap e happy ending ,yun ang iisa ang hanap…

    maccallister at Mar 10, 09 at 11:20 pm

  46. I came across this site by chance, I was really looking for write-ups regarding how we have progressed in terms of living as a people in our country but turns out, all the reading I did was on this website. Well not that it wasn’t worth it, it actually is pretty good to be quite honest, and you absolutely have heaps of interesting stuff in here Migs. Props to you, they’re very well-written. 8)

    Anyhow, I was initially not going to comment on the issue but I guess there’s no helping it. Personally, I think it really all boils down to respect as one commenter already pointed out. Although we belong in the same community and are bound by our preference for the same sex, we still are after all, a very diverse group and take different places in the broad rainbow color spectrum. I admire people who able to live out in the open as not everyone are able to do so, but that does not necessarily give you the higher ground. It does not warrant any resentment towards the closeted ones.

    I do not actually concur with Ton’s activities, the point I’m just making here is that while we try so hard to gain acceptance from everyone else, we cannot even get that within ourselves. We are not the enemy here, we are still fighting the same fight.

    Chill!!

    Greetings from the Queen City of the South. 8D

    Francis at Mar 11, 09 at 12:02 pm

  47. Salamat kapatid :)

    migs at Mar 11, 09 at 12:40 pm

  48. Ako naman i don’t really anticipate acceptance from anyone. Di ako galet hehe. I’m a positive thinking person it’s just that, what I do secretly i dont want anybody i love who knows me otherwise to know. if a guy i had sex with becomes my bf in secret then i normally keep him as a friend in the eyes of my loved ones. i dont’t prejudice din naman sa mga out. ang pinaka interaction ko na with them in public is normal na friendly. pero if by chance maka sex ko sila during one of my trips, no problem din bsta regardless kung out or not, bsta in secret with me. kasi one thing led to another na eh. i just can’t do a rustom just coz i want to. i still don’t need to i guess. besides sabi ko nga earlier, i dont want to be accepted naman for this. i’m currently accepting the fact na i’m in between worlds. maybe soon i’ll want another thing… tignan na lng natin.

    Alexander Calma at Mar 19, 09 at 4:09 pm

  49. Pareng Migs,

    This is my first time to join this site. I find this site very interesting. Although i seldom join groups like this because of too much hesitation at mahiyain ako due to the fact na hindi rin ako obvious. I have been here in the middle east for 4 years.

    Pero bago ako pumunta dito, i was able to admit to myself kung ano ba talaga ako and i was able to reveal my true color among my closest friends na alam kong mapagkakatiwalaan at matatanggap ako…at the very late (hope its not so late,) age of 32. But i cannot say na late bloomer ako kasi meron na rin naman akong karanasan with other men during my earlier age, but the thing is, my friends know but my parents did not. Only my younger sister knows and i told her to promise to keep it to herself for the meantime.

    I could not find the courage to let them know but at the back of my mind sooner or later malalaman din nila because paminsan-minsan nagtatanong na sila kung may balak ba akong magkaroon ng sariling pamilya, and i always find myself grasping for so many believable answers.

    Basta katwiran ko they dont need to know at the moment, ok na sa akin na nag-out na ako sa mga kaibigan ko pero i assured them na hindi nila ako ikakahiya whenever kasama nila ako (hindi ko rin kasi kayang gawin na kumembot at maging limp-wristed) masyado nga daw “mapanlinlang” ang itsura ko.

    But im not complaining, im still proud that i was born a male. I am so thankful to God that He gave me the strength to bear this identity, and im into a happy relationship with someone i really love, closeted din sya. Basta ang importante alam natin kung paano ilagay sa lugar ang sarili at kung paano magbigay ng respeto sa sarili at sa kapwa and the rest will follow.

    I would like to say kudos to this site and more power to you pare! God bless.

    chad at May 20, 09 at 12:10 am

  50. hi to everybody, sa palagay ko basta umayos lang kayo, anuman ang secret nyo ay magiging masaya kayo. dave ton. could we be friends. add me salvadoralvin29@yahoo.com

    alvin at Dec 26, 09 at 5:11 am

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