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kenji-garcia-01 Hi Migs, i discovered your blog two weeks ago when i started seeking for advise online. Please call me KUYA, i am 27 years old and working in a well-known company in ortigas, looks?not that good looking but many people find me sexy…(lol), i am into 4 1/2 years straight relationship and soon to be a loving husband.

I would like to ask something, i am seeking answers na hindi ko inakala sa gay community ko mahahanap..i mean hopefully mahanap.

I have adopted brothers they are twins actually, mula ng mamatay parents nila, kami na nag alaga, i was in grade school then (Grade 6), both are boys when their parents left them to us.Halos sa amin na sila lumaki, lahat ng merun ako merun din sila, my mom and dad treated them so well na as if tunay silang mga anak. I never wanted at first to be called as Kuya, i preferred to be called TITO instead…ewan ko bakit…time passed, halos nakikita ko na sila lumalaki…i was in highschool when one of the twins decided to move in my room, so roomates na kami nung isang adopted brother ko, i was 17 then at 9 years old na sila…the one who move into my room suddenly naging close kami, he wanna learned mga bagay ba alam ko(guitar, keyboard, drawings, etc), naging mas malambing xa sakin kesa sa isa nyang kaptid nya…we talked before going to sleep, he likes my choice of songs too…Sinamahan ko pa sila to have their ‘Tuli” and linisin ito everynight to heal.

College days na, since malayu college from our town, nagdorm nalang ako at madalang nako makauwi…bibihira na kami magusap, magkwentuhan, magbonding..pero pag umuuwi ako, i always make quality time for both of them, play station, malling etc…naging kuya ako sknila for all those years…but they call me tito as my preference.

after college, i got a job in manila, 7 days after graduation, nagwork nako, lalong naging madalang pag uwi ko ng province, never had time to communicate with them too…pero gaya ng dati, pag nakakauwi ako, i always make quality time. Tinutulungan sila sa homeworks, projects, etc..if they want anything, binibili ko nman no questions ask…what i noticed sa huling uwi ko of that month 4 years ago, parang sobrang namis ako nung isa(my roomate), na to the point nakakatulog na xa on my chest (na dati nya gngwa when he was a kid pa). I ignored it, hndi ko nilagyan ng malice yun migs kasi nga gawain nya nung bata pa siya…he was 14 years old that time.Sunday of that month 4 years ago, umuwi ako ng nakainum, inantay nya ko till 3:00am, hndi daw xa makatulog…sabi ko tabi nalang xa sa kma ko…which gnwa naman nya…i was tipsy but not drank that sunday morning, but i was totally exhausted and tired, kaya nakatulog kagad siguro ako, ng malingat ako, i felt my brother’s hand moving inside my shorts (i dont want to elaborate pa kung anu gngwa nya), pinalo ko kamay nya, yet he did not stop so i let him nalang…hindi ko na siya sinuway, maybe part of it, nagustuhan kona din…

After that, hndi na nya ako kinausap, for 4 years. 17 years old na xa ngaun, no matter how i tried to talk to him, hndi parin nya ako kiankausap, as if i dont exist. Hindi na nya kinkuha mga bagay bagay na binili ko para sknya(well i alyways buy in pairs, kasi kamabal sila), for the past four years, ganun trato nya skin… hinayaan ko lang migs…but last december of 2008,new year i tried to talk to him again and surpisingly, he responded. Signal na OK na kami…till now i always ask him why he ignored me for the past four years and what did i do to treat me that way…sagot nya?”Wala lang”…

for the past four years na hndi kami ng uusap, ni isa sa mga bday ko hndi nya ako binati, but this year, he texted me ” Happy Bday” with his name written…i asked him kung xa ba tlga nagtext nung message na un and he replied ‘yes” but he cant seem to look me in the eye…

nahihiwagaan ako migs, is my brother starting to like me???
one more thing, ngaun ok na kami ulit, napansin ko bgla akong naging sensitive sa mga nrrmdamn nya, i mean, parang lagi ko xa gusto i please…am i starting to like him too?

thanks…kahit anu maippayo mo tatanwin kong malaking utang na loob.

Kuya

Comments (88)

  1. Kakto said on 09-12-2016

    I wonder kumusta na si Kuya.

  2. budoy said on 28-11-2011

    Kuya, I was reading through the comments and you said you’ve made up your mind na? If you don’t mind, can you share what your decision was?

  3. eco said on 12-11-2011

    Kuya, feeling ko you do like your brother, but not in any romantic or sexual kind of way. Feeling ko kuya ka lang talaga, and since pinansin ka na niya after so long, gusto mo lang bumawi sa lost time.

  4. danny said on 12-11-2011

    Kuya, bakit mo biglang natanong kung anong gagawin mo to make peace with your brother after ilang years na wala kang ginawa?

  5. alexander said on 28-05-2011

    Since matagal na to, di na ako mag-aadvice. Magtatanong na lang ako kung ano na nga ba nangyari kay kuya tsaka sa bro niya? ❓

  6. Doppel said on 05-01-2011

    …and you’re getting married? You should seek closure first from your brother before you marry. You two are not talking about the matter right? It will be awkward, but I think you should talk to him about it.

  7. NONO said on 09-12-2010

    First of all don’t get married until you resolve your inner feelings, I mean your own feelings. Once you know who you are or what turns you on or what makes your heart beats like a turbo-prop then you can decide which way you want your life to go. While in search of your inner self try to talk to your adopted brother privately, be sensitive enough in discussing both your feelings, if those feelings will grow let it grow but do not discount on how your family will feel. Its a bitch of a life you are in but it can be resolve rationally. Please don’t get into a relationship with your adopted brother unless it mutual. Give it another year when he turns 18 and for all you know he might change his, but at the same time you might have a definite idea who you really are thus avoiding hurting people’s lives. Hope this is not too late. I said don’t get married yet for reason that our heart is fickle minded at least you will be able to spare your girlfriend heartache in the future.

  8. geek-o said on 13-07-2010

    shoot… hirap nyan tsong… don’t try to mess it up kasi madami kayon maapektuhan… m aybe you like him and he , you but there are things worhtier to preserve thatn just fleeting feelings… i mean ngayon mo lang yan naramdaman for him… pero yung family nyo, shit, anhirpa iexplain, ahaha… bvasta eto na lang: isipin mo kung anu yung dapat iprioritize: sya bilang kapatid mo o sya bilang jowa mo. Ayun

    God bless!

  9. rickz said on 19-07-2009

    god, sweet naman.. may gusto sya sayo kuya.. and yet you like your brother too na..

  10. kristofferson said on 13-07-2009

    THE FACT THAT YOU’RE THINKIN THAT WAY AND SEEKING ADVICED IN THIS GODDAMN SITE…..

    CONFIRMED, YOUR GAY BROTHA’… IT’S NORMAL FOR GAY PEOPLE TO FEEL SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE TO AVAILABLE MALE AROUND..

    BUT DUDE COME ON LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE..

    JUST AN ADVICE.

  11. into the open said on 01-06-2009

    Hi Kuya.
    I admire your motivation to seek for the truth with what is going on between your non-biological brother and you. don’t let this confusion ruin the special relationship which you both forged duing the early days. I don’t call it “incest” like the other people might think for primarily you are not bloodly related. Secondly, nothing seriously sexual transpired between you and him but letting him jerked you off and maybe sucked that thing in between your legs. Thirdly, that happened only once and as you said it never happened again or you said he never let him happen by ignoring you for years.

    k, now, the beginning of your letter sounds a little disappointing to me because there was that EGO defending your self by telling us that you’ll soon be married. If you are sure of your feelings for the girl you will be tying a knot you wouldn’t seek for “counseling” over this website and asked for “precise” answers to what is boggling your mind and bothering your “stright” feeling as a man, don’t you think so? The fact that you ended here seeking for the saving answer for your TRUE identity is a give away that you know who and what you are already and it is your way of DENYING WHAT’S TRUE. Actually, you are here not to counsel for your adopted brother but FOR YOURSELF. At your age, you are still undergoing identity crisis as a result of continuously denying of your true feelings for your non-biological brother and your true identity and personality. In your mind, you have set to expect the answers that you are hoping to receive from all of us and if that answer is against what is set in your mind – the more you become frustrated and confused! So even before you sent your message here, you already know what you want as an answer. And that is -TO ADVISE YOU OF LETTING GO OF THAT TURE FEELINGS AND BE OUT OF KEEPING THAT “SPECIAL” FEELING YOU HAVE FOR YOUR ADOPTED BROTHER. Come on, it’s 21st century and don’t let that special feelings you have for him ruin that special bonding between you and him. LIFE only happens once and we are not sure if we will be given another opportunity to express our intentions to people we like and learn to love once our life is taken from us. BE YOURSELF, BE STRONG AND BE GENEROUS TO LET HIM YOUR INDEPTH FEELINGS FOR HIM. PLEASE, don’t be like me! Let your love flow between you and your non-bilogical brother. Don’t waste the chance of having TRUE HAPPINESS…What is essential is invisible to our naked eye. Love him the way you know you should love him!

  12. Christian said on 05-05-2009

    ask your brother if he wants to confide to a christian counselor… he is just confused…

    there are a lot of scientific studies that will prove that we are not born gay…

    better for you to browse the website of National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (www.narth.com) and see how people have diminished their homosexual attractions and developed heterosexual attractions by understanding the roots of their homosexuality.

    another website to visit is http://www.peoplecanchange.com

    in as much as we respect people who does not want to change, i urge anyone out there who seek change that it is possible to change!

    if you need support from us you could contact us at http://www.presentsanctuary.com

    God loves you!

  13. mona_21 said on 24-04-2009

    cute ng story, I could almost relate to it…Di nga lang kapatid…toinx!..mga pinsan(heheheh)….jowks…

    Ang sarap namang maging kuya ng letter sender…

  14. Anthony said on 21-04-2009

    i like alex and kim!!!

  15. kimy said on 21-04-2009

    kuya,

    naman gay c lil bro…. napagdaanan quh ung genun eh…. un lng way back grade 3 ata aqoh sa 1st degree cuz quh n senior highskul dt tym….. ehe… at fresh p din s icpan quh lhat lhat….. waheheheheh…

  16. MAXENNE said on 20-04-2009

    oo nman gay yung bro mo
    hndi pa bah obvious..

  17. Tim said on 16-04-2009

    Hi Kuya

    I suspect you are only confused because society tells us that we are either straight or gay – straight guys have no sexual feelings whatsoever for other guys and gay guys have no attraction to females. In reality, there is no black or white.

    I am a gay guy who has mostly straight friends. Two of my friends are definitely straight, but have had isolated sexual encounters with other guys (for one of them it was with me) – just hand jobs or receiving oral sex. I have talked to both of them about it. For them, they are still strongly atracted to females, and they only ever see themselves in a relationship with a female. Yet in certain circumstances they can get sexual pleasure from other men. One of them explained it like this – most guys masturbate, and enjoy masturbating, but that does not mean they are sexually attracted to their hand. Of course they would prefer sex with a girl, but sometimes you settle for what is available. Sex with a guy for a straight guy is like masturbation – it is purely for the physical feeling, not the emotional connection.

    The essence of sexual orientation is which gender you have an emotional attraction to. Do you dream of sharing your life with a female or a male?

    That also means that maybe your adopted brother is not gay either, but was just looking for some physical companionship. The other straight guy I talked about had his encounter after he had broken up with his long-term girlfriend. He was just feeling lonely and missed sexual contact. He is now engaged to a girl and never questioned his sexuality. He knew it was just physical. If your adopted brother is gay then great. Maybe you can just drop hints that you have no problem with gay guys and this might prompt him to open up. When my partner realised he was gay (and people started saying that he was), his older brother just said to him one day “I don’t care if you are gay or straight, you are still my brother and nothing will change that”. He really appreciated it.

  18. oliver said on 09-04-2009

    Kailangan pa bang itanong yan? Hinipuan ka while is a semi conscious state kamo. Wala ng tanong tanong. Chukchak tienes na kambal yun. Gud luck on your incestuous relationship kuya…

  19. yami said on 08-04-2009

    wla q masabi pero tama lng un ng yari lahat tlga ng bagay nsa tama panahon dapat maganap,atleast ok n kau now. GODBLESS……..

  20. skinnydipping said on 07-04-2009

    if you want be to be a reasonable person,

    then i say:

    this is a fabricated story.

    kung hindi man at kung medyo vulnerable ako, good luck na lang sa ‘yo and watch lihim ni antonio.

  21. John Paulo S. Trinidad said on 07-04-2009

    I agree with mattie.

  22. ron said on 06-04-2009

    your brother is totally gay. no such straight guy would long his sexual urges/desires with the same sex. ohhh…should i say we all have the same appetite.

  23. mattie said on 06-04-2009

    Hello I’m charles a psychology major and your blog is interesting that’s why i made a analysis
    as I read your blog there are a lot of things that i found out first that incident of your brother and you is an indication of homosexuality but take note “homosexuality is not a disorder” theirs noting to worry about the only problem is that your brother has a problem of emotional attachment that he did not feel in his real biological family that’s why he cling to you because you show care, love to him and that emotion is very important in his part. actually there are a lot of causes of homosexuality according to Sigmund Freud in his psychosexual theory is that the tendency of developing homosexuality is during the early stage of development were the child finds excitement of Oedipus stage were all male works are for male works not for female.. example instead the boy plays basketball he play barbie because all of his playmates are female… he find it that way… but there are many factors you that your are going to consider… in your part the definition of homosexuality is broad i mean your not homosexual if you engage to sexual intercourse with same sex because there are a lot who find having pleasurable in having sex with men… and try to observe your self that you have the tendency of felling like female your a homo then…

  24. Couch Potato said on 06-04-2009

    Madali lang naman malaman kung straight ka e. Kung ang porn na tinitingnan mo dito sa internet ay mga babae, ibig sabihin nun straight ka. Pag mga lalake naman ang tinitingnan mong porn sa internet edi gay ka. Kung parehong babae at lalake ang tinitingnan mo sa mga porn sites edi bi ka. Di naman ibig sabihin na kapag nagkagusto ka sa isang gay e gay ka na din. Madami kayang straight guys na nagkakagusto sa mga gays.

  25. Anton said on 03-04-2009

    based on the story you’ve shared i think you’re brother is really in love with you but not because he is in love with you. you have to love him in return even if you think you’re beginning to like him na rin. i think he is sure of what he feels for you, he loves you na nga pero pinipigil nya kase magkapatid nga kayo even if not in blood. kaya ganun ang treatment nya sayo, he’s trying to stop himself from loving you but he cant’ help it. the problem is not with you’re brother it’s with you. you said na you begin to like him na rin diba? evaluate yourself alamin mo if you really like him. IF YES, then talk to him and ask him kung nainlove ba siya sayo tapos nasa sayo na yun kung gusto mong lumalim yung pagkakagustuhan nyo kaso nga lang be rady of complications sa papasukin nyo or kung ayaw mo naman na magkaroon ng kumplikasyon sabihin mo sa kanya na ok lang na mahal ka niya naiintindihan mo and you respect him but you he can never expect something in return. IF HINDI ka naman pala nya love then good atleast nailinaw mo ang lahat!

  26. kiddoeSoo said on 01-04-2009

    kuya,

    uhm.. why don’t you try to test your self if you’re gay.? uhm.. no nid to know if your brother is gay. coz he done such things that is sOo gay.
    i’ll get to the point. are you gay.?
    try to test your sexuality. why don’t you try to watch a gay porn.?
    and see if you got arroused.? sounds funny but it’s a way to see your sexuality without having physical contact with other guys that may seem not good to you.
    so yea. just try it. nothing will be gone.

  27. oxana said on 01-04-2009

    among the comments,I agree with carl..

    gudluck!

  28. Vic said on 30-03-2009

    Thanks for sharing your story Kuya. By sharing your story you have started your own healing process.

    I felt the intensity of your emotions when you were reliving your story.
    In your case, being the older person, you were probably thinking you could have done something to prevent it from happening. And much that you like to wind back time, you are faced with the reality that years ago, when you were drunk, your brother, did take advantage of you, and somewhere along the way, you did try to stop him, but eventually allowed him to touch you. I think I have to ask you of your personal values and you alone can answer this – did you feel that after what happened between you and your brother, your personal values were violated? I think you need to ponder on this. Is it enough for you not to discuss this with your brother and treat this as part of life’s diverse experience? Or are you going to discsuss this with him seriously and tell him that it is never okay to touch anyone against his will? I think a clear line has to be drawn – how close can brothers/siblings be? I think your brother has the maturity to understand your points if you intend to discuss this with him. And it is also a sign of maturity on your part to tell him how you felt when he touched you against your volition, and he may tell you that he has regretted what he had done to you, and both of you can move on.

    For your feelings towards your brother, I think you need to reflect on this further. You alone can really discover your own sexuality by being open, honest and intimate to your self.

    Warm regards… and thanks for sharing.

  29. kalachuchi said on 29-03-2009

    Bro, “Am I starting to like him too?” – you are clearly in a confuse state. you’re the only person who can tell about your emotions. adding to ‘as i am getting married soon’, meaning you also love your other half, and don’t want to hurt her?

    I’m assuming you’re going to marry her, and now you need to talk to your brother and ask some things that are going through his mind. I can see that he really looks up to you, and yet feel safe for being there. Try to open up what happened in the past few years, but be careful for the words you are going to use, he might be avoiding “that” topic but it will help him to face his fears, as well to protect your bond.

    Hope this helps..

  30. dan said on 29-03-2009

    I think your brother likes you, he ignored you for four years for the probable reason that he was guilty of being attracted to you,…

  31. thought in a nutshel said on 29-03-2009

    clearly, your adopted brother has feelings for you, mister.

  32. Boyet Fajardo said on 29-03-2009

    Sino gusto ako maging kuya? LUHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  33. rustcell said on 28-03-2009

    Is the Pope homophobic? I totally am a big fan of this site but the way this article is featured is a little ridiculous. It’s like posting somebody’s experience of being sexually abused by a priest and headlining it with “Is our parish priest gay?” The adopted bro being gay is now beside the point because a much bigger issue–incest (whether it’s blood-related or it’s still incest because they’re officially brothers–has taken center stage.

  34. clemence said on 28-03-2009

    you are great kuya! mapagbigay sa mga nangangailangan! lol! peace!

  35. Rocky(09089294844) said on 28-03-2009

    Kuya, dear,

    KAPATID mo sya. Maybe not by consanguinity, but that’s how you’ve been treating him since you were in grade 6. Your parents adopted him, with his twin brother, to be a part of your family – specifically, to be your younger brother, not to be your lover (he’s obviously a gay, and I hope you’re not).

    What happened once between you and him was a part of this chaotic humankind. It maybe “masarap”, pero hindi lahat ng masarap ay dapat kainin o ipakain. Hindi lahat ng gustong lumigaya ay dapat nating pagbigyan. At sa oras na gusto nating lumigaya ay hidi natin pwedeng gawing “outlet” ang kahit sino nalang.

    Take it from those who are behind bars – the thief, the criminal, etc. They started small time, but when they enjoyed committing their crimes they went big time. And that’s when they were PUNISHED. Submerging yourself into this almost incestuous relationship will never put you behind bars, the worse – it will situate you in public scrutiny and humiliation. The taste of ANXIETY and AGONY is even more VENOMOUS.

    You’re much older than your little brother, Kuya. And on your shoulders lays the moral responsibility to bring to a halt the unhealthy affiliation that may sprout between you and your little brother.

    You’re getting married soon. Huwag mong problemahin at seryosohin ang nangyari sa inyo, LALAKI ka. Sya ang dapat mamroblema – sya ang bading. Nag-iisip tuloy ako na gay ka rin. But I hope I’m WRONG. Love, Love, Love, Love! Marami tayo nyan, pero ang iba ay hindi totoo. SO, DOON NA TAYO SA TOTOO! I wish you peace of mind! GODSPEED!

    • KUYA said on 30-03-2009

      If i am gay why i am not attracted to other guys sexually and physically?? and why i only care about my feelings bro??they are identical twin, if im gay, supposedly i should be attracted to both of them sexually or physically…
      find it weird..i myself starting to question my sequality too..

      • carl said on 30-03-2009

        not because, you’re gay, you’ll be attracted to all the guys you’ll meet… same as if you’re a straight guy or girl, you won’t be attracted to all the opposite sex you’ll meet. don’t equate homosexuality, or sexuality, simply with the levels of attraction, its much deeper than that. with regards to being attracted to just one of the twins, I had a girlfriend who has an identical twin sister, but I never got attracted to her twin, like I’ve been attracted to her, and why is that? maybe the attraction is more than the physical, most of my straight friends would tell me that the reason they courted a particular girl is because of the way she smiled or stared at them. sometimes the connection or attraction we feel for someone is due to how that person made us feel. maybe only that adopted twin brother of yours made you feel special, or showed interest in you, that’s why. and I wont say you’re gay, thats your call, but i think you have the tendency to become one, if you’re purely straight, you should’ve diffused his feelings towards you right from the begining, but you didn’t, you even allowed it to linger.

  36. matt said on 28-03-2009

    galing ng comments, di ko mapigiling matawa…

  37. Derek R. said on 28-03-2009

    Hi Kuya,

    We have parallel experiences, to make my story short: I was college-age when my uncle last visited us in our home and it scared the hell out of me. But am getting ahead of my story.

    Yes, I gave my uncle BJ when he was asleep when I was 7 and I was 19 when I last saw him again. The details of that unfortunate encounter is unimportant now but our “reunion” was one for the books because I threw a tantrum and refused to see him that time. There was no dialogue, no closures, no nothing. I’m now in my 30s and I have not seen him again since he moved to the States with his family after that visit. Distance meant no contact whatsoever.

    Bottomline: I am now a very happy gay man and well-adjusted at that. My uncle knows I’m gay, of course. But whatever effect that experience had on him was unknown to me. But as things go, he probably just laughed it off from day one and is now living happily in the US. That I’d like to think so. Somethings are not meant for me to know.

    I am not your adopted brother nor you my uncle. But what I’m trying to point at is: don’t think too much of it. You both have a sort of trauma by the looks of it, you questioning things and he, withdrawing into himself.

    You need not address the situation now. Let it ride for some time. Your adopted brother is in the cusp of his puberty and your “addressing” the situation may prove to be detrimental. Let it ride and let him approach you in his own time.

    You are the adult here, the cards are with you. Don’t force it and be patient. But continue being the good brother you have always been. But let him be for now. Things will fall into place before you know it.

    Good luck to your impending wedding and more power!

    Derek

  38. anton maton said on 28-03-2009

    YES! yan ang sagot sa tanong mo!

  39. aries said on 28-03-2009

    late na ba ako magreply? to those who think it’s funny, well, it’s not. KUYA, confused ka man o hindi, HE is your brother adopted man o hindi, Follow your heart? Maybe yes or no, Following heart is too complicated & confusing, akala mo you’re following your heart pero hindi pala, when you follow your heart, don’t decide base on what you & your brother feel, remember, part ng heart mo ang family mo at isa mo pang adopted brother. Talk with him as Kuya pero dapat bukas din ang isipan mo sa mga sasabihin nya. Don’t say what do you think won’t hurt him, or don’t be afraid na baka hindi ka nya pansinin ulit kapag hindi nya nagustuhan sasabihin mo. This is only my opinion & this what I will do if I were in your shoes, take note nakarelate ako sa story pero in a different way, tragic… tnx

  40. Anonymous said on 28-03-2009

    lovethisguy218… Being true doesn’t mean it’s true… Kapatid niya yun tao… Normal lang sa isang tao na makalimot if maarouse pero it’s not normal to have a relationship with you brother even if it’s only adopted it’s still abnormal… Love is not always a right thing!

  41. mellicious said on 28-03-2009

    you know what?, i agree with BEm and CARL and the rest of the people above who have the same opinions/point therewith… i would just like to enumerate something that really triggers me also:

    1st: the heading itself “is my adopted brother gay?”..of course..why ask the so obvious??..carl is korek..alangan namang lesbian?…hala..
    2nd: tanong mo bakit parang naiilang adopted bro. sa iyo after that incident??..KUNG WALA LANG TALAGA SA IYO YUN?, BAKIT KA NAGHAHANAP NG ADVICE??..WHY ARE YOU MAKING IT A BIG DEAL??..IKAW LANG ATA NAGPAPALAKI SA ISYU…korek na naman si bem….KUNG TUNAY KANG LALAKE BALEWALA LANG SA IYO YUN??..ANG TANONG KO….
    3RD: “OK KA LANG??”….PARANG MALI MALI ATAH ANG SENSE NG STORYLINE NA ETECH..sana pi-noofread talaga ito ng maigi…anyways…
    “WORLD PEACE PA RIN AKETCH”

    MWAHHHH…..

    • KUYA said on 30-03-2009

      Hi mellicious..
      thanks for the comment..
      first, i am seeking advice coz i really dont know, i am seeking not to make the issue big deal, i am seeking because there is an issue on which i want to re-solve…
      i am seeking because this is the 1st time na ngyari sakin to, and its not easy on my part coz we live under one roof, we grew up together…and i dont know whos the right person to ask thats why i am seeking here…
      about the storyline, maybe some typo and grammar errors oo, but basically, most readers, nakuha nila gusto ko ipabatid…which is my goal…
      thanks for comments…appreciated ko lahat…thanks

  42. fernado said on 27-03-2009

    ang hirap ng pinag dadaanan mo kuya. siguro kung may na raram daman ka sa adopted mo kapatid mo gayon young ayaw na mahiwala ka sa kanya.

    mag musap ulit kayo dalawa at kung hindi ka niya pakingan as long na masabi mo ang iyo nararamdaman bilang kuya niya. and malapit kana mag aasawa at siya naman maging tito ng anak mo.

  43. aburido said on 27-03-2009

    one thing for sure, this is a sign of love with lust,

    go for it kung kaya mong panindigan or else stay focus on your gf and learned to be happy, after all kapag nag asawa ka na at bumukod maiiwasan mo na kahit papano adopted brother mo

    ingats

  44. kyle said on 27-03-2009

    hay naku, ka lurky nman mga acheng ko. at my incest pa pala dito, what d f*ck! ok lang sana pag 5th degree relatives…keri pa!sayo naman kuya. dun ka nlng sa kasing age mo…kung BIyabas ka o confused at nga pala obvious ba na bakla yung jampon nyo. eh di gamitin mo ang gaydar!!!haller

  45. bem said on 27-03-2009

    alam mo, baka ikaw mismo in love ka rin sa adopted brother mo…..hinahanap hanap mo din paglalambing nya sau nung bata pa sya….kung wala kang feelings sa kania babaliwalain mo lang lahat ng nangyari noon, bata pa xa eh, ……hindi ka mag aaksaya ng panahon humingi ng advice kahit kaninuman……ang tunay na lalaki hindi dinidibdib ang gay experiences nila…….

  46. SUPER TWINS said on 27-03-2009

    KUYA? KUYA, IKAW BA YAN? HUHUHUH, ADOPTED PALA AKO… HUHUHUHU… KUYA OO, GAY AKO, AT MATAGAL NA KITANG LIHIM NA MINAMAHAL, MULA PA NUNG IWAN AKO SA INYO, ALAM KO NG IKAW ANG GUSTO KO MAKASAMA HABANG BUHAY KUYA… HANGANG NGAYUN DI KO PA HINUGASAN ANG KAMAY KO NA GINAMIT KO SA YO… HUHU… I LOVE YOU KUYAAA!!! HUWAG PO KUYA, HUWAG PO, HUWAG KA PO MAGPAKASAL KAY ATEHHH!!! MAS MAGANDA AKO SA KANYA, AT MAS MAGALING AKO MAG-DEEPTHROAT SA KANYA, GUSTO MO I-TRY? HUHUHU… AKO NA LANG MAHALIN MO KUYA, AKO NA LANG, AKO NA LANG ULI… HUHUHU…

    CHAROT!!! HEHEHE….

  47. carl said on 27-03-2009

    ang ganda ng question, is my adopted bro gay? haha, after giving you a handjob, nakuha mo pa magtanong… well siguro lesbian ang brother mo… haha… but seriously, parang mas magandang tanong sa sarili mo is, am i gay? coz if you’re not, ikaw ang unang lilimot sa nangyari sa inyo… ikaw ang pipiling wag na lang pagusapan ito, at the fact na naguguluhan kuno ka, is a sign na you enjoy the attention that you got from him, and most of all, you enjoyed the encounter… kahit pa sabihin mo na mag-aasawa ka, another lame excuse galing sa mga straight kuno, you know that you have feelings for him, more than what a brother should… so what if you’re able to confirm that he’s gay? what will your actions be then? those are the questions that you need to answer for yourself…

    • KUYA said on 27-03-2009

      thanks carl…u have a point..
      but right now, i am still confused, reason why am here..to seek advise, not to be judged…but thats ur opinion..which i am conisdering..
      thanks

      • SUPER TWINS said on 28-03-2009

        hey kuya, i know, nobody likes being judged, but lets face it, a good advice usually springs out from judging, a person’s character, his actions and his motives… as much as i or others who have read your post does not want to pass judgement on you, we have no choice but to do so… we want to give you an opinion based on what YOU have written here, and in doing so, its unavoidable that we make some conclusions… one example would be what you said earlier, and i quote, “I tried to contest the “ACT”, but am only human, may pakiramdam, alam ang masarap sa hindi…reason why i gave in”, yeah, we all know SEX feels good, but it only does if you LIKE the person you’re doing it with, otherwise you would be repulsed by it! so based on that it is safe to assume that you like him more than a brother should, sorry, but that’s how I see it…

        anyway, in addition to that, you said that he’s starting to talk to you again and he even texted you on your birthday, but don’t you think, you should STOP taking it as HIM starting to LIKE you, but rather you should think of it as HIM having moved on from that experience? and bro, the fact that you’re having a dillemma is enough to answer you’re last question, yes, you do like him, for it is you who can’t let go of the past, for all you know he’s probably enjoying his life now as a teenager, so why complicate it? just think of what happened as him experimenting on his sexuality, and you’re the “UNLUCKY” victim. so what do you do next? NOTHING. LET YOUR BROTHER BE!!! he’s young, sooner or later he’ll meet other people, other guys whom he could experiment with, and he’ll totally forget what happend to you and him… if you now have homosexual urges, i suppose you just explore it with someone else, someone LEGAL!!! let go of that experience and just live your life.

      • gbic said on 28-03-2009

        “…we all know SEX feels good, but it only does if you LIKE the person you’re doing it with, otherwise you would be repulsed by it!”

        i’d have to disagree. prime example yung masseuse who really pushed me to agree to let her give me a handjob. i suppose may iba sa atin na kung babae yung kasama eh hindi titigasan. but sex is sex, and you don’t necessarily have to LIKE the person to enjoy what happened. in fact, that handjob with the woman was my first and only one with a woman, but still the best =)

      • SUPER TWINS said on 28-03-2009

        GBIC… SO SIGURO PO YUNG MGA NARA-RAPE, SEX FEELS GOOD TO THEM PA RIN? BUT ANYWAY, YOU’RE RIGHT, BUT YOU’RE OPINION COMES FROM A PURELY PHYSICAL POINT OF VIEW, WHICH I WOULD HAVE TO AGREE THAT SEX DOES FEEL GOOD, ORGASM IS ORGASM PERIOD! SO SA DILIM, KAHIT AYAW MO ANG KASEX MO, SINCE DI MO SIYA KITA, IM SURE MAG-EENJOY KA RIN! BUT NOT EVRYTHING OR EVERYONE IS PURELY PHYSICAL! YOU SAID THAT THE “HANDJOB” YOU GOT FROM THE MASSEUSE WAS THE BEST, SO WHERE IS SHE NOW? DID YOU GO BACK TO HER? DID IT HAPPEN AGAIN? APPARENTLY NOT, CAUSE YOU SAID THAT WAS YOU’RE FIRST AND LAST WITH A WOMAN. DON’T YOU THINK THATS A BIT CONTRADICTING? IF YOU ENJOYED IT WITH HER SO MUCH FOR YOU TO CONSIDER IT THE “BEST”, HOW COME YOU NEVER WENT BACK TO HER, SHE’S A MASSEUSE, IM SURE YOU CAN GO TO HER IF YOU WANT TO GET ANOTHER GREAT HANDJOB, JUST LIKE ORDERING YOU’RE FAVORITE DISH FROM A RESTO! HEHE… BUT THAT’S BESIDE THE POINT, ANYWAY, BOTH YOU AND “KUYA”, ARE IN A POSITION WHERE YOU COULD HAVE STOPPED THE PERSON DOING IT TO YOU, LALO NA IN YOUR CASE! SHE’S JUST A FREAKING MASSEUSE FOR GOD’S SAKE! HELLO! KUNG AYAW MO TALAGA, YOU COULD HAVE EASILY SAID NO!!! DONT TELL ME YOU’RE SOME WIMPY PUSH OVER WHO CANT STAND UP AND SAY NO TO MASSEUSE!!! SO AMININ MO MAN O HINDI, AT SOME POINT DURING YOUR EXPERIENCE, E, YOU LIKED HER SEXUALLY NA RIN AT SOME LEVELS, OR ELSE, KUNG TOTOONG AYAW MO SA KANYA AT ALL, THEN YOU WOULD NEVER HAD GONE THRU WITH IT!!! PERIOD!!! NOW, GOING BACK TO “KUYA” THE STAKES ARE EVEN HIGHER FOR HIM, KASI NGA HE’S EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED DUN SA ADOPTED BRO NYA, SO IT MEANS KUNG AYAW NIYA TALAGA, THE DESIRE TO SAY NO SHOULD HAVE BEEN MUCH MUCH STRONGER, BUT THE FACT NA HE ALLOWED IT TO HAPPEN GOES TO SHOW NA HE MAY HAVE LIKED HIM MORE THAN A BROTHER SHOULD!!! AND SINCE HE NOTICES SMALL NUANCES THIS PARTICULAR TWIN IS MAKING COMPARED TO THE OTHER(LIKE HOW HE IS MORE MALAMBING… ETC)SUGGESTS THAT PRIOR TO THE “ACT” THEY MAY HAVE HAD SOME KIND OF EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION TOWARDS EACH OTHER NA NAUWI LANG SA SEX! AND LASTLY, HE DIDN’T JUST ALLOWED IT TO HAPPEN, BUT HE GOT TO ENJOY IT PA! SO MENTALLY, HE PROBABLY KNOW IT IS WRONG, BUT EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY, IT’S WHAT HE MAY HAVE WANTED.

  48. jonathan said on 27-03-2009

    a similar thing happened to me and my cousin. i was 12 and he was 7 years older than me. at first i probed for his tool while he was asleep when i went for a sleep over at their place (we ended sharing the same bed). i stopped when i he stirred from sleep. the following day it was as if nothing happened. but i was tempted again the second and i gave him a handjob and bj. i think he knew what i was doing since after more than half an hour he started to get hard. he had pre-cum but moved side ways so i stopped. the following day it felt really awkward. he still talked to me but i became suspicious he would make sumbong to my auntie or worse to my parents. so i didnt talk to him since then even when he left for the US. we only started talking when he came back from abroad to get married. he even asked me to sing during his wedding.

    things i realized:
    1. i was scared. not so much that he would hit me or et mad at me but that he would tell my parents.
    2. he seemed to liked it but i dont think he’s gay. he just enjoyed it im sure.

  49. efrain said on 27-03-2009

    so touching naman ng article nato so cute ng story..i guess d lang nya matanggap kung panu ka bumigay sa mag oras na un ….im so happy to both of u na ok na kau ngaun..hop wla ng conflicst God Speed guys..mwahh

  50. eloy15 said on 27-03-2009

    i liked the story very much since it happened to me also but it was with my cousin,he allowed me also to ______ him. we were intoxicated but things were clear on my mind….All i can say is u have a feeling to ur brother more than being a brother and u enjoyed the encounter.. i salute u for being understanding to people like us…. Sana marami pang kuya na tulad mo…I LUV U..LOL

  51. doller said on 27-03-2009

    kapatid mo cya…
    khit na sabihin pa ntin na adopted brother mo cya still kapatid m parin cya,,
    hindi normal na magkagus2 sau ung kapatid mo, wag m n man cyang iwasan kausapin mo baka”call of “LUSt” lng yan..
    makakahanap din cya ng sakanya…
    lalo na may fiancee ka…

  52. xzena said on 27-03-2009

    kuya, ask urself if your starting to like him?! i guess your BI! based on what I’ve read here b4…some men has the tendency to be attached with similar sex, so baka like mo na din ung kapatid mo. or it’s just a LUST. well, just tell him upfront what you feel diba. but I think ang prob lang e, parang he’s 1 of d member of ur family na kaya panget tignan diba… so better treat him nalang the same way u did when your both young. hi naalala ko 2loy ung crush ko na relative ko, pero di ako nag attempt na i-flirrrt xa kc lam ko n baka mawala yung respect nya skin(wish ko lang sna xa nlng ang nag seduce skin.JK It’s all up 2u kuya matanda kana>>GO!!!

  53. dennis said on 27-03-2009

    from the story above.. dont fall sa infatuation.. just like what u said.. ull have a straight relationship and malapit k n magasawa.. so what will happen if u fall into that curiosity and paano ung fiancee mo? it’s natural sa mga bata to feel that way cause of their hormone. adventurous and careless. But the thing here too is bat mo nagustuhan ung alam mo na.. ure just thinking on it so seriously and total ok n kayo kahit papano so thats the first sign na pede n kayong magusap at paliwanagan mo sya. Naghahanap lang ng father image at pagmamahal ng matanda ang batang yun and i cant blame him cause i feel that way too till now. im just 21 but i prefer 30-year-old one. weird but thats true. ok go back sa issue mo, its great cause u reacted sa bagay n un nang nagiisip at mahinahon at caring parin. u two will be just fine bastat magusap lng kau and ikau stick k sa fiancee mo.

  54. Luigi said on 27-03-2009

    The fact that u asked the question “Am I starting to like him, too?” may nararamdaman ka na rin para sa kanya…

    • gelmark said on 01-04-2009

      The fact that you’re confused, may nararamdaman ka sa kanya. You will not be bothered like that if you don’t feel something. And about your brother, Im not being judgmental but “brotherly love” is not applicable to this kasi may lust eh.. So there’s a big possibility that one of your adopted brothers is gay. ^-^

  55. RAFFY said on 27-03-2009

    NAPAKARAMING RASON PARA NAG ANG ISANG TAO AY MAINLOVE. SA CSE NG IYONG ADOPTED BROTHER COUD IT BE THAT HE FOUND A VERY CARING PERSON IN YOU.YES MAY TENDENCY ANG ADOPTED BROTHER MO TO BE EITHER GAY OR BISEXUAL ,DEFINITELY BASED SA YONG STORY. AND IN YOUR CASE,COULD IT BE THAT YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE CLOSETED GAYS NA NGAYON LANG NAGKAKAINTERES TO FIND YOUR TRUE SEXUAL ORIENTATION. MY ADVICE IS DON’T OVER ANALYZE THE SITUATION. THERE ARE SOME ISSUES IN LIFE THAT RESOLVE BY ITSELF. AT THIS POINT I CAN SENSE THAT IT’S THE SEXUAL TENSION BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU THAT IS BUILDING UP. IF YOU ARE BOTH PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND SEXUALLY ATTRACTED WITH EACH OTHER,WHY NOT GIVE IN.HAVE SEX AND AFTER THAT DISCOVER FOR YOURSELF THE MYSTERY ENVELOPING UR DILEMMA. IF IT’S TRUE LOVE ,THEN YOU WILL FEEL IT RIGHT AFTER YOU HAVE SEX WITH HIM. BUT IF IT’S JUST LUST OR MERE LONGING TO HAVE SOMEONE SHARE THE JOY OF SEX,THEN YOU CAN EASILY MOVE ON.BOTTOMLINE, LIFE IS SHORT. DO WHATEVER IT IS THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY.NEVER REGRET FOR A SINGLE MOMENT WAHTEVER DECISIONS IN LIFE THAT YOU MAKE.WETHER THE OUTCOME IS GOOD OR BAD,IT’S YOUR LIFE MAKE THE MOST OUT OF IT. CHEERS.

  56. Fishy said on 27-03-2009

    the long silence was of shame. and around that time he could be totally confused and was thinking that he may have hurt you or caused irreparable damage. it was only time that somewhat healed it. i suggest you take that opportunity to initiate some worthwhile conversation.

    also note behavioral changes from the other twin if you see any. were there any similar and dissimilar patterns as to the demeanor and attitude of the twin which you stayed with in you bedroom? they may be going thru some chapter in their lives which doesnt have anything to do with what happened to you on that particular night, if both seem to share patterns. but if the affected twin was the one demonstrating somewhat disconcerting manifestations specially towards you, then you may conclude as to the nature of this behavior.

    like some of the suggestions mentioned, just keep an open mind and dont confuse your feelings for your twin. you’ve treated him all your life as a brother and perhaps it is in order that you keep it that way.

    if he knows he’s gay, just acknowledge it.

    now, perhaps you may have missed on the opportunity to bond better with the other twin which you also consider your brother. try to catch up on that too. you may discover things about these twins that will help you become more informed about the issues that plague gay siblings… or simply just to get to know the other twin as another person whom you should get to know a little more. para wala silang maramdamang favoritism at hindi mapagiwanan yung isa as being left out.

  57. helios said on 27-03-2009

    whatever it was, it happened but once … quite a while past at that. at this point perhaps it is no longer relevant to ask, “is my adopted bro gay?”. it’s quite established. ang tanong, will you still allow it to happen again? i won’t go preaching what is right or wrong because but there are certain things you have to decide on. and i do believe that – as cliche as it may seem – your heart will tell you exactly what you need to know. all you have to do is be still and listen.

  58. ryan said on 26-03-2009

    just wrong!!!!

  59. teeguzzin said on 26-03-2009

    Kuya,
    Parang nakikinita ko ang aking sarili sa sitwasyon ng iyong adopted brother. One thing for sure, he is gay. Kaya niya nagawang pagnasaan ka dahil di kayo magkadugo. He was curious at ikaw ang manly figure na nandoon at nagbigay ng pagpapahalaga at intimacy kung baga. On your part, maaring silakbo ng damdamin lang sayo. Sabi nga, libog lang yun at kung nagustuhan mo man, ikaw na rin ang makapagsasabi kung hanggang saan ang sarap ng inyong pagniniig.
    Mga dose anyos ako noong nakikitulog ang malayong kamag-anak naming lalaki lalo nat pag lasing at nanggugulo ang kanilang ama. Nagawa ko rin ang ginawa ng iyong adopted brother. Siyempre nahuli din ako, pero hanggang kamay lang noon yun. Nagustuhan niya rin. At siyempre tuwing nakikitulog siya sa bahay, me nangyayari. Hay! Pero siyempre sa araw, parang nagkakahiyaan. Pero noong mga unang lang yun. Okay na kami.
    Me iba pang lalaki sa buhay ko, pero ibang kuwento na yun. :) Opps wala pala akong adbays… ah basta.

  60. Kara Krus said on 26-03-2009

    siguro na-inlove na sya sayo dahil nga sa sobrang bait mo sa kanya. at OO maaari ka ring mainlab sa kanya… hahaha!

  61. TIYA DELY MAGPAYO said on 26-03-2009

    well to you KUYA ,,,

    una sa lahat parang bitin ang kwento at parang may tinatago ka pa siguro dahil nahihiya ka or something may pinoprotektahan ka pang mga individual….

    i like to know kung ano ang ginawa sa yo nung gabing umuwi ka ?is he only give you handjob or bj?what kind of sex does he do to you?o bka naman may penetration? sorry for may question ha kuya,, nung gabing yun may ginawa ka din ba sa kanya or what?

    kung mailalahad mo ang mga katanungan ko sa kwento mo dun natin makikita ang buong istorya at makakapag bigay ako ng payo…

    pero nais ko pa rin makagbigay sa yo ng payo ,,,una- sa ibang bansa pag ikaw pumatol sa kapwa mo lalaki matatawag na homosexual ka pero dito satin karamihan sa mga straight pumapatol sa gay or bi ay dahil sa pera or anything that in favor with…sa iyong karanasan KUYA lasing ka ng gabing maganap ang di dapat maganap pero my nagyari nga at hinayaan mo na nga lang dahil siguro may kakaibang sensation ka ng nararamdaman kaya hinayaan mo na lang sia…baligtarin natin ang pangyayari kunyari tunay mo siang kapatid o kaya biological relatives kayo as in magkadugo kayo ng sinumang nakitulog sa yo ng gabing yun….DAPAT BA NATING HAYAAN MAY MANGYARING DI MAGANDA AT PAGSISIHIN NATIN SA HABANG PANAHON KUNG MAY GANOONG PAGKAKATAON NA DAHIL LAMANG SA LASING KA AT PAGOD?

    ALALAHANIN NATIN KARANIWAN NA NATIN NAPAPANAOOD ANG MGA GANOONG EKSENA SA MGA PENIKULA…. SI TATAY LAsING GINAHASA SI INENG NA ANAK NYA……. SI KUYA LASING AT BANGAG SA DROGA GINAHASA ANG KAPATID O DI KAYA ANG INAY NYA….

    sayong karanasan maihahalintulad ko sa penikulang ANG LIHIM NI ANTONIO ang nangyari sa yo…ang iyong kapatid ang nag move para gawin ang di mo inaasahan… sa aking palagay matagal na ang pagnanasa sa yo ng kapatid mo,,, at dapat mong alamin ang kanyang pagkatao kung ano talaga sia? once is enough at wag na sanag maulit pa ang ganoong pangyayari….kung talagang ang pagtingin mo sa kanya ay isa lamang kapatid .. pero kung nag enjoy ka why not hehehehehe

    kung mauulit ang pangyayring iyon,,,, well walang dugong namamagitan sa inyo dahil nga ampon lamang sia ng iyong mga magulang…..kung maligaya ka sa piling nya at maligaya ka sa ginagawa nya sa yo,,, di masama para sakin yun…ang malaking problema ay iyong mga magulang paaao kung malaman?kung hanggang ngayon ay nasa isip mo pa rin sia at parang hinahanap mo sia well ang masasabi ko lang continue your happiness……pero kung alam mong masama at di dapat,,, ang nararamdaman mo lang ay pagmamahal ng isang kapatid…..

    di lang kaw ang may ganyan sitwasyon o experiencia karaniwan sa mga filipino may nagyayari ganoon pero takot lamang silang lumantad dahil sa kahihiyan….buti nga ikaw di mo kadugo yung iba talaga kadugo pa…….. let me share the story of my friend…..apat silang magkakapatid, pangalawa sia mula sa bunso, ang nanay nya parating umaaalis dahil may tindahan sa palengke at ang father nya ay isang seaman which is parati din wala,,,,,minsan nahuhuli nyang maryang p_l_d and panganay nila,,,,at minsan binobosohan nya raw ang kapatid din nyan lalaki..isang gabi wala tao sa kanila at sia lang nasa kuwarto ayun may nagyari di maganda yung kapatid nya pa ang nagbigay motibo,,,, ay sinunggaban naman nya kasi that was 16 pa lang sia,, the irony is yung 2nd brother ganun din may nangyari din,,, mga ilan beses din daw sa panganay nila na may nangyari,, pero nung naglakihan na sila,,,, parang wala na at nagkaron na ng mga asawa… as in parang WALA LANG… HEHEHEHEHEHEHEH sabi nga nila charge to experience..

    well … sa yo KUYA,,, sana masagot mo ang mga katanungan ko at sa susunod mabibigyan pa kita ng payo…… UNA SA LAHAT ALAMIN MO ANG IYONG PAGKATAO AT ALAMIN MO DIN ANG PAGKATAO NG IYONG KAPATID,,, pero sa aking palagay isa siang sirena……

    eto po ang inyong lingkod at nagmamahal,
    tia dely

    • KUYA said on 27-03-2009

      Tiya Dely thanks..
      Would like to answer some of your questions
      (1) Its purely handjob
      (2) I tried to contest the “ACT”, but am only human, may pakiramdam, alam ang masarap sa hindi…reason why i gave in
      (3) Wala ko ginawa sknyan in return, after that night, parang walang nangyari samin
      (4)i think i need to figure out what i feel about him..i;ll let you know..but i’ll make it sure that it will not end up to ‘Gay-Relationship’..as i am getting married soon

      Thanks..well appreciated..

  62. Moon River said on 26-03-2009

    Hello Kuya,

    Hindi naman weird ang story. Kumbaga, talagang pede itong mangyari, since hindi naman tunay kayong magkapatid at alam nila ito. Isa kang mabuting tao at Kuya, sa totoo lang, dahil na rin sa sabik ka sa kapatid kaya ka ganito. Magpasalamat ka dahil maganda ang upbring ng parents mo sa inyo. I could not help but your parents remind me dahil napalaki din nila kami na mabubuting tao.

    Your brother has the tendency of becoming a bi sa pagkakakwento mo. ‘Yung mga panahon na hindi ka niya kinausap ay pede nating tawagin na “sense of guilt” dahil sa maaring napahiya siya. It is good dahil maayos na muli kayo at huwag mong hayaan na magkaroon pa muli kayo ng misunderstanding dahil ang ganda ng inyong samahan.

    Let me asses more and ask, bakit sinabi mo na “nagustuhan ko na din”. ‘Yung mga comments namin could be cleared kung naging specific ka sa nangyari noong gabi na ‘yun. Nagkaroon ba ng sex like blow job? Kung nangyari ito Kuya, guilt feelings ang nangyari sa kapatid mo.

    You also said na parang nagiging sensitive ako sa feelings niya. Kuya, this is due to the fact na hindi ka niya kinausap ng 4 years at aminin mo man o hindi, natatakot ka na magkaroon muli kayo ng gap dahil minahal mo nga siya bilang kapatid, ‘yun ‘yon Kuya. At kaya gusto mo siayng laging i-please.

    Moving forward, Kuya, naitanong mo din na, “Am I starting to like him too?” Kuya, sa tanong mong ito hindi ko tuwirang sasabihin na bi ka rin, SUBALIT, dito nagpapakita na ikaw ay confused sa emotion mo (I can sense a weakness of feelings in you) at kung mauulit ang nangyari sa inyo noong gabing ‘yun, na huwag sanang mangyari muli, pwede at maaari kayong magkaroon ng isang gay relationship, Una, dahil alam n’yong hindi kayo tunay na magkapatid, hahayaan n’yong mangyari ito. Pangalawa, ‘yung closeness mo sa kanya at sensitivity mo sa mga nararamdaman niya, p’wede at p’wede kang bumigay Kuya.

    Kuya, magpatalino ka, huwag mong hayaan na masira ng inyong samahan bilang magkapatid kung maggi-give way ka at magkakaroon kayo ng relasyon. Isipin mo na rin, sino rin ba ang p’wedeng maapektuhan?….ang mga parents n’yo na nagpalaki sa inyo bilang mga mabubuting tao.

    Keep it up Kuya, kung bibigyan ako ng chance gusto kitang maging Kuya dahil mabait ka at inari mong tunay silang mga kapatid bagamat di kayo tunay na magkadugo. Keep up the good work….Kuya.(solteroaqui@yahoo,com)

  63. jed said on 26-03-2009

    madrama…parang Lihim ni Antonio ang mga eksena…in fairness, ang ganda ng choice of picture…good jod kuya migs…

  64. yue said on 26-03-2009

    Hiya!!!!

    Maybe i can help you understand what your brother is going through. See i also have the same experience yun ngalang ako ang nasa lugar ng brother mo. Now this happened with my uncle (not the same uncle-nephew relationship you have), anyways at that time i was 15, the age of exploration and confusion. I wanna find out what it feels like to hold another organ of our gender. Curious kasi ako and i wanna know. so when he came home drunk one day, i did the deed. At first he did not find out. but after doing it several times i got caught. he said nothing, (i knew i got caught kasi he wouldn’t want to sleep in my room kasi raw malikot ang mga lamok). walang hiya siya tinawag ba naman akong lamok!!! hehehe anyways. after getting caught i felt embarrased, syempre i did a bad deed tapos na huli pa ako. pagkatapos natatakot ako na mapagalitan at the same time i feared that he’s going to HATE me. so i thought before nya gawin yun unahan ko na siya. and like you nagtaka siya sa change ng ugali ko. hindi ko na siya kinakausap and i ignored him. and mind you i ignored him like plague. but unliked you he did not approach me and talk to me. hinayaan nya lang ako. which was a bad thing by the way!!! because he did not attempt to talk to me, i was anxious for 3 years whenever he is around. akala ko i-a-out nya ako sa family. ang hirap talaga having that secret and fear burdening me for 3 years. nung ika 3 year i was tired of being afraid i decided that bahala na kung ano ang mangyari basta ayoko na matakot and i have enough problems without unecessary anxiety. after that i started talking to him again as if nothing happened. This could probably what your brother has felt. in addition your brother does have feelings for you. and your hunch is right if its more than brotherly love. and this feelings of his for you ay matagal na. it all began with his admiration for you at the time he decided to move into your room. it just developed into a different kind of love as he grew and matured. sadly you cannot return this kind of love to him because what you feel is brotherly love and not the romantic/intimate kind of love. you have to talk to him regarding his feelings and your feelings for each other. but you must remember this: YOU are straight & BROTHER probably bi or gay, so most likely you are going to be confuse with what he’s going to say and feel. so i suggest you try to be completely open, para maka talk sya sayo without holding back, listen and let him do more of the talking this way you would find out the answers that you need, kids this age tends to beat around the bush before reaching the point, lastly be honest, if he’s going to ask you something be honest, if you LOVE him you owe him HONESTY. it might hurt but its going to hurt more if you lied and he finds out. and besides you could always tell the truth by just saying it nicely and choosing words that are less harsh, right?

    I hope you save this relationship you have. Its seldom, actually its more close to never, for a straight brother to go out of his way to help a gay brother. its good to know there are accepting people like you.

  65. Marco Jordan said on 26-03-2009

    I think it’s only natural that you yearn for the attention and approval of a loved one who has been ignoring you for four years. Don’t mistake that for gay love. You are not sexually attracted to him.

    Your poor brother must be so confused. I think you really need to talk to him. If he didn’t talk to you because he thinks he’s gay, then you should be able to tell him that it’s okay to be gay. If he didn’t talk to you because he ISN’T gay and is just embarrassed about what happened, then you should tell him that it’s no big deal. Either way, the boy needs counseling. Not talking to a brother for four years is a sign that something is wrong, and it’s best to fix it.

  66. herbs said on 26-03-2009

    incest issss soo 1960s lol. ching!

    andami talagang ganyan. lol.

  67. ming said on 26-03-2009

    sana maging kuya din kita. LoLz!

  68. sandwich.spy said on 26-03-2009

    i am soooo loving the choice of pic, hehehe

  69. lovethisguy218 said on 26-03-2009

    Honestly, kuya, walang ibang makaka-alam ng damdamin niyo para sa isa’t isa kundi ikaw at siya mismo.
    Confused ka, kasi ikaw mismo sa sarili mo ay di alam kung ano ang pinagkakaganyan mo. If you really intend not to have any kind of “especial relationship” with your adopted brother, why being that too affected? I mean, baka masyado mo lang ine-entertain sa isipan mo ang alam mong pwedeng maganap na maaaring magustuhan mo or gusto mo talagang maganap?
    Being true to yourself would set you free from all your worries…..
    Goodluck and live free………..!!!

    • Joshua said on 27-03-2009

      true! I agree to this kind of perspective. For you kuya,I would like to share something.. this happened to me when I was still in High School until I reached college. I had a crush with someone so close to me who is a year older than myself. Nung nasa HS, his kindness and attention made me feel he has special feelings for me yet I know he is in relationship with a girl. He hugs me while sleeping everytime I spend the night over at their place, he treats me with care, he doesn’t forget my birthday and always have surprises for me.

      To make the long story short, nung nasa college na kami and he is graduating from his course, we had a thanksgiving and that night, something happened to us. I won’t ellaborate what it is but the situation is the same, he is STILL in relationship with his GF in HS. That time I realised, he has feelings for me and he is confused. Aside from that, he’s the eldest of the family and his father is already asking him about plans of getting married with his GF. ako naman, I’m sure that I like him so much. Pagkatapos nung nangyari samin, medyo nagkailangan na, di na ako pumupunta sa bahay nila at madalang na rin syang bumibisita sa school. di na rin kami nagttxt to each other at never na rin akong nagpakita sa kanya until one time, he sent me a message that he plans of marrying his GF and asks me if I would let him. Sabi ko sa kanya, I love him and I want him to be happy. And sinabi ko rin na sana magdesisyon sya ng tama at sundin kung ano ang sinasabi ng puso.

      After that, I left the country and haven’t met him until now. Last time I heard, di pa rin sya kinakasal at nagtatanung-tanong kung may balita sakin….

      Payo ko lang, sundin mo ang tinitibok ng puso mo. May it cause problems between you and your adopted younger brother or the other way, ang importante, masaya ka at di mo pagsisisihan ang desisyon mo.

  70. pauley said on 26-03-2009

    INLOVE SAYO ANG ADOFTED ANG ISA SA ADOFTED TWIN BROTHERS MO. OK NAMAN AT PINABIGYAN MO SIYA SA KANYANG SEXUAL PREFERENCE. AT LEAST HINDI MO SIYA INAAWAY OR HINIYA.

    TYPE KITANG TAO.

  71. anthony said on 26-03-2009

    Brotherly Love.

    wala ako masyado masasabi. kasi ang weird ng story eh. hehehe.

    siguro nga, after nung ginawa nya sayo, nailang sya at na guilty sya, imagine, sarili mong kapatid ginawa yan sayo? then again, by blood hindi nga kayo magkapatid pero since your parents adopted him, kapatid na kayo, and KUYA, do kapatid’s treat each other like that?

    i suggest you to talk to him now. yun seryosohan. to clear things out.
    you got nothing to loose naman. :)

    nasan na pala yun guy ngayon? diba 17 na sya? did he turn out to be gay/bi?

    sabi nga nila age doesnt matter but…
    this is just tooo way different…
    pano nalang kung malamn ng parents mo about this?
    corrupting minors ka kuya! :)

  72. shikon_boy015 said on 26-03-2009

    hhmm… cguro sa tingin ko may feelings na sayo ang kapatid mo at kaya di ka niya pinapansin dati ay dahil naiilang cya sayo dahil nga dun sa nangyari sa inyong dalawa. pero sa side mo sa tingin ko brotherly love lang ang nadarama mo sa kanya at normal lng yun dahil itinuturing mo siya bilang tunay mong kapatid. 17 lng kc aq kya wala pa aq gaano maipa2yo sayo pero ang masa2bi ko lang alamin mo kung anu ba tlga ang nangyyri sa inyong dalawa. tandaan mo na maaring mag-ugat ng problema sa pamilya niyo kpag nagkamali ka ng desisyon. kunsabagay 17 lng kc cya kaya rumbled pa ang emotions niya at nakasanayan lng niya cguro ung mga bagay na ginagawa mo for him. dont worry lilipas din yan… gudluck..hayyss

  73. bro said on 26-03-2009

    may relevance sa last podcast?

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