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Papatol ka ba sa mas matanda sa iyo ng 10+ years?
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Papatol ka ba sa mas matanda sa iyo ng 10+ years? Age gap, generation gap. Is this a barrier to a long, lasting, and loving relationship?
How about a substantial gap in social strata? Yun tipong, one partner is an executive earning a 6-digit monthly salary, while the other is a blue-collar, minimum wager? Again, is this a barrier to a long, lasting, and loving relationship?
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im kinda feeling this layout atleast may kulay blue na kesa dati na all black hehe.
10years age gap?why not.mas experienced na siya,may wisdom na kumabaga,mas matured mag isip kesa sa mga ka age mo na or younger than you,pero siympre di naman lahat,meron pa din kahit matanda sayo e isip bata pa din hehe
maccallister at Apr 5, 09 at 9:51 pm
Hi Migs. I actually just ended a 5-month relationship with a 22y.o (lets call him Drew). I am turning 34 in two weeks and have some input on your inquiry. I can’t say I’m in the six digit salary range, but can say that the gap in our income is fairly wide. I believe that it in all depends on the couple. It may work for others while it may not for some. As for me, especially during these tough economic times here in the states, it’s quite challenging to be in a relationship with a young one. Although, he can ‘carry his own weight’ at times, some of the financial weight still resides some weight on my shoulders. You may ask, what would Drew know about a relationship? I was lucky enough to have known him. A fairly mature man trapped in a young man’s body. The majore issue for me was our careers. I almost set with mine while he was starting to build his.
Joel at Apr 6, 09 at 2:36 am
been there.
last bf was 12 years older than I am.
basically, it didnt work, and he wasnt as openminded and as understanding as I “expected”
yeah, i expected.
plus he wanted an open-relationship, a threesome with a female prostitute and a whole lot more. quite traumatic, really. but yeah, we’re done and i’ve moved on. Thank God.
Santorini at Apr 6, 09 at 3:00 am
several of my closest friends have long-standing relationships with their partners/wives/husbands whose age gaps are quite considerable. my best friend in college, her husband is half her age. my closest and oldest friend from elementary, he is married to our former high school teacher. another close friend in new york, his domestic partner is twice his age. with all three pairs, their relationships are very stable and tested through the years.
having been quite close to them, i have observed some similarities. their initial years as couples were marked with upheavals. there are marked differences in personalities (all 3 couples has a type-a personality in one of the partners). professionally, one partner is an achiever (a corporate person, an education professional and a church leader); while the other has chosen a more domestic calling. even their sets of friends are different from that of the other. (i could never get along with my friend’s older partner in new york. our political beliefs and personalities are much too caustic to be placed side-by-side at the dinner table – mainit ang dugo namin sa isa’t-isa)
but one similarity that stands out the most, which i also believe is the one binding thing amongst many successful and stable relationship is the amount of “giving” that either of the partners does. the younger guy married to my older female friend, he left his own family to be with her, supporting her in every single decision she makes, and with firmness, despite of his own youth, has showed that he can make major decision for their built family. in turn, she has learned to tone down her aggressiveness, her wants to become this and that kind of leader has taken a backseat to their family. funny how things turned out that because of him (the younger husband) she has actually scaled up higher in her professional career.
the second couple, my friend from grade school (he who we touted back then to be a future gung-ho type of engineer) has become a happy househusband. he built a small business from home and has let his wife (our former high school teacher) fulfill her dream of studying further. from that union they’ve created balance. each answering the others needs and filling what the other lacks.
the third couple, the gay one, has been together for the past 15 years. my friend (the pinoy younger guy) has an mba from an ivy league school has chosen to also set up a home business to be able to take care of their adopted children (his nephews actually. left to him by a dead sibling) and be able to support his partner as the latter slowly rises in american gay politics.
methinks, it’s not a question of how much one gets out of a relationship to make it successful, but ironically, it’s how much you are willing to give of one’s self WILLINGLY give it life and to make it stand the test of time.
palma tayona at Apr 6, 09 at 6:28 am
How about a substantial gap in social strata? Yun tipong, one partner is an executive earning a 6-digit monthly salary, while the other is a blue-collar, minimum wager? Again, is this a barrier to a long, lasting, and loving relationship?
— why choose to frame the question in a manner that it is already posited as a hindrance? why shouldn’t it be that a marked difference between two people be posited instead simply as a challenge to be overcome?
time and time again, love as an emotion never sees the difference between two people. it just comes and is “as is”. it feels. it doesn’t qualify nor does it quantify.
i figure man’s problem when it comes to loving someone is when he lets his own ego come into play. i listened to your podcast and your views display so much ego that exists in men. questions that doubt, questions that even questions the questions themselves. WE THINK TOO MUCH and as we grow older, the questions become more. and then we start to talk. talk out loud. voice our opinions. POSIT our own posits. and yet we forget one basic thing about loving. it is the SILENCE that one feels when he or she is in love.
why can’t we just FEEL and let it go accordingly? why can’t we as persons, as humans just immerse ourselves in that wonderful emotion called LOVE and just throw the questions out of the window. don’t ask questions such as: is he good for me since he’s younger? or should i be with this older guy? what can i get out of him? can he give me more considering he’s older, wiser and more experienced? will my family/friends even approve of him if they see he’s twice my age (or I am twice his age)?
the more we talk, the more we drown the silence we feel in our hearts. the more we question, the more we let doubt seep into the recesses of minds. the more seek, the more we are lost.
i figure that one thing we have to learn as gay men, that in love… we simply have to let go and be silent. it is a precious emotion. lucky are those who feel it for they are gifted to have it. be silent. be still… be IN LOVE.
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i apologize for sounding like a preacher… but i felt the podcast drowned too much in the laughter and posturing of ego-centric questions that diluted what should have been asked – how to love and nurture a relationship with someone considering the PHYSICAL differences between them.
palma tayona at Apr 6, 09 at 6:58 am
yes, thats my weakness,. 30s to 40s men.
emaqn at Apr 6, 09 at 7:31 am
as long as the age is not over 35, (which means Im 25) okey lang yun….y’know, I might only become a caregiver to the person if the age is over 40.
joe at Apr 6, 09 at 9:03 am
When I was 18, I had a brief sexual relationship with a 28-year old guy. We dated for about a month. We were both closeted and nothing came out of it.
When I was 23, I had a 6-month relationship with a 26 year-old guy. It was hot sexually, and I was still in school and we went out a lot, but never in places where I would probably bump into people I know. The social gap was wide: I was a student and he belongs to Manila’s old mestizillo class. But I held my own, and we enjoyed each other’s company. But he had too many issues that he wanted to take out on me. Beyond the sex, I don’t think there was anything interesting in this relationship. It was a bad a falling out.
After I split up with Guy 2, one of his friends came on to me. He was 46 at that time. He looked older and was a bit on the heavy side, but I saw past that. What and how he was to me was more important. The sex was also hot (he was a power bottom and I could screw for hours). But he was married, and that in the end was what caused our relationship. We stayed friends (oddly, Guy 2 wanted to get back with me when I was going out with Guy 3) through the years but I never met his family. I saw them a number of times, but I always kept my distance.
Then there was Guy 4, and our social and academic divide was so wide that I could not relate to or with him outside of the bedroom or the moviehouse: the only times we seemed to be aligned was in bed and when watching films. We ended our “committed” relationship and became fuck buddies for a time.
Now that I’m 37, I find myself in the position of Guy 2, being in a relationship with a 25-year old guy. We’ve been together for 5 years and so far, so good. He’s done with school (no, he wasn’t my “scholar;” he comes from a well-to-do family) and is moving up in the corporate world. However, when we started out, there was the income/age gap to deal with. Or not deal with. We looked past the superficial and focused on what matter in a relationship: attraction, commitment, trust, understanding, communication, and yes, love.
The romantic will say: let your heart speak. The pragmatic will say: let your head rule your heart. But having gone through all these relationships, I can say that one has to both use head and heart when it comes to relationships. There will always be issues – beyond age, class, income – and there will always be ways to deal with these. There will always be challenges, and these are not defined by the superficial, but by character.
JY at Apr 6, 09 at 9:18 am
“The sex was also hot (he was a power bottom and I could screw for hours). But he was married, and that in the end was what caused the end of our relationship.”
Sorry. I’m OC.
JY at Apr 6, 09 at 9:20 am
Masyadong mataas ang respeto ko sa elders na maiilang akong tawagin silang kabiyak. I would rather keep them as confidants and friends.
Mugen at Apr 6, 09 at 9:28 am
Hi JY, thanks for sharing. I appreciate the fact that your comment comes from head, heart, and experience. Makes the issue real and human. Salamat!
migs at Apr 6, 09 at 2:47 pm
Hey Palma, as always, a thoughtful comment from you – thanks! I welcome your perspective, and I would say it is rich with idealism, which is not bad at all. Watch out for the 3rd part of this podcast. I’ll be very interested to hear your thoughts as well.
migs at Apr 6, 09 at 2:54 pm
not all over 40 look really old di pa namin kailangan ang caregiver. I am almost 48 but most of my encounters are in their early 20’s and never had a problem because they said i could be mistaken at 29 or 30.
Janndy at Apr 6, 09 at 2:56 pm
When I was younger I always would look down on partners whose age gap is quite big wether they are staight or not. I also despice seeing pedophiles with a harem of young boys and told myself I will never be one. But alas no one is exempt from aging, now the only thing one can do is to do it gracefully.Now that I am in that position wherein every one else is younger then me still leaves me rattled,it takes a lot of getting used too.Even if most people say I don’t look my age but once I say the numbers there will be a bit of reluctance from the young person I am attracted too.
I hope my maturity and experience can see me through this aging process and still get to enjoy a relationship with a guy much younger then myself,the sex drive is still there and viagra is still not needed in the menu plus growing older makes one more patient,understanding and forgiving of the ways of the youth for we have been there and done that. Aging gracefully is my hope of keeping up with every body else younger then me.
elmer encinas at Apr 6, 09 at 3:28 pm
Ah very well said.Thank you.
elmer encinas at Apr 6, 09 at 3:43 pm
hi.. i
I’m new hir.. but i want to post a comment narin about the issue…
i just turned 20 and i never commit a serious relationship at all.. mejo feeling ko kasi immature ang mga nagpakita ng interest sakin.. at mas prefer ko ang 6-10 years older than me… siguro i live a life na independent ako, kaya mature narin ang pananaw ko sa buhay…
work, doesnt matter as long as everything is fair. at hindi naman magmamatter sa kanila na sila e wyt colar at ako e blu colar…
its sometimes a barrier for few, pero for some people like me.. mas barrier sakin ang same age… or younger..
Salamat
Lance at Apr 6, 09 at 6:19 pm
I’m 20 he’s 35. Pero last March 25 tinapos ko relationship namin. Nasakal ako masyado sa ginagawa nya although wala naman ako marereklamo sa pag aalaga nya sakin. hays…
Naka 1 year din kami muntik ng 1 year and a month.
whocares at Apr 6, 09 at 7:51 pm
age gap? for me it was not a problem before. only now. i have been into a same kind of relationship before. i was 22 and he was 33. we lasted for almost 3 years. it’s just came into a point where i feel i almost given up everything for him. for him to be happy and to let him fill satisfied. but there are things that we don’t agree on. until now i keep on wondering if its my problem or his problem for us to end up this way. financially we don’t have a problem but sometimes i get offended when he give me some for my needs. i have no choice. i will just accept it just to please him. i have listen to your conversation with your group and i suddenly feel why am i being alone. i miss my friends that i have when i still don’t have my past. i have given them up for him and now i have a hard time looking for them.
looking forward to talk with you guys. hope you can drop by a message for me. a piece of advice perhaps.. thanks in advance.. god bless..
paolo angelo alcantara at Apr 7, 09 at 9:14 am
10 years? Excuse me, I’m 45 and I have a relationship with a 22 year old guy. I don’t know, we’ve been on for 8 months only but its doing fine. Of course I earn more, so I spend for almost everything. I harbor no illusion or expectation here, and I take things one day at a time. The sex of course is great. I guess for as long as I keep myself grounded, there will be no heartaches. But let’s see, sisters, I’ll keep you all posted. In the meantime, let me enjoy this kagagahan of mine…
santanaya at Apr 7, 09 at 1:30 pm
When i was in college i must say na although may konting identity crisis na ako nuon, nagkaroon ako ng gf na doctor which is 15 years older than me, ang katwiran ko mas ok na mas matanda ang isa sa amin hoping na she can guide and handle our relationhip but i was wrong pala ang daming dapat isakripisyo, nariyan na kantyawan ako ng mga kaibigan ko about our age gap, bawal makipag kwentuhan kung kani-kaninong girl etc…. basta marami syang demands na bandang huli ay ako rin ang sumuko sa kadahilanang halos dina ako makahinga sa pagka selosa at nugger nya, ang Pera never na naging issue sa amin dahil i never ask money from her basta pag kumakain kami sa labas ay iniipon ko yung allowance ko nuon para may panggastos kami pag lumalabas kami. Sex ako ang madalas sumuko, knowing ang mga lady doctors na nagkaka edad masyadong high ang libido nila, nakakatawa minsan kasi nakakatlo kami nuon. however wala ring nagyari sa relationship namin,nagbreak kami ng wala sa oras, that was 2 days before my graduation nuon, kinukulit nya akong mag secret marriage kami after my graduation, at that time im not yet ready for a marriage life, dahil wala pa akong trabaho(ayaw kong sya ang magpalamon sa akin), plano ko ring mag abogasya nuon, although nakakarinig na ako ng di magagandang salita at biruan from her doctor friends deadma lang ako kasi katwiran ko hindi pera ang hinabol ko sa kanya may kaya ang pamilya ko at ni minsan diko naging problema ang pera. Basta we broke up 2 days before my graduation malaking eskandalo ang nangyari nuon kasi magkatabi lang aming apartments, halos gabi gabi nagwawala sya minsan iisipin mo pa na is she really a doctor kasi nga laging lasing at nagwawala na bandang huli sa kalasingan nya binanagga nya ang regalong kotse ng tatay ko sa akin nung graduation ko. Dina kami nag reconcile pa sa kadahilanang marami ang hadlang para amgkabati kami.
Nagpunta ako ng Manila para makalimot and to pursue my studies, im lucky enough na pumasa ako sa entrance exam ng school of the elite hehehehe. Dito na ako nabinyagan ng kapwa ko lalake at marami pa sila. This time same sex naman ang nakarelasyon ko i was 22 and he was 32, he is a lawyer at graduate din sya sa school namin, nakilala ko sya sa makati trial court ng minsang sumama ako sa pinasan kong lawyer din at may hearing sya that day sa makati, Gwapo at Matikas ang abogado ng depensa, sa totoo lang nacutan at nanginig ang laman ko sa kanya, weakness ko ang semi-cal na matatangakd at first i never thought na PLU din sya hanggang sa maging instant txtmates ko sya, kapareho ko rin syang galing sa pamilya ng mga politiko sa probinsya kaya may chemistry talaga kami. Kung pano kami naging mag Asawa diko alam basta nag live in nalang kami, nung una masarap at laging masaya ang aming pagsasama, pero habang tumatagal ang aming pagsasama marami akong nadidiskobreng diko pala gusto, lahat ng income, amoy, baho nya ay alam ko. Ang pinaka worse na ayaw ko sa kanya na diko manlang nadiskubre nuon ay ang pagiging gastador at lalakero nya, ilokano ako at sanay akong mag impok ng pera sa bangko pag diko naman talaga kelangan diko binibili or kesa gagastos ng malaki sa restaurant sa bahay nalang kakain, kaya ko namang mag luto di rin ako mahilig sa branded na damit nasa pagdadala lang naman yan, marami syang luho na diko masakyan. Marami syang ka txtmate din na diko pinakikialaman i always give him the space baka kliyente nya lang kausap nya. Ako naman open minded din, ok lang sa akin na manlalaki o tumikim sya ng ibang putahe but just make sure na diko sya mahuhuli dahil ibang usapan na yun, ang nangyari dina talaga mapigilan ang pagka lalakero nya na kahit kasama nya ako ay gumagawa sya ng milagro. Hindi ako martir para magpaka gagu sa relasyon namin, basta ang sabi ko ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, i broke up with him, nanghihinayang ako sa relasyon namin dahil tumagal din kami pero mas maigi ng maghiwalay kami ng landas kaysa patuloy syang nagtataksil sa akin. Sa ngayon nagwowork na ko sa legal dept ng isang international company at minsan nakakasalubong at nakikita ko sya sa malls or sa ibang lugar sa metro manila, simpleng kamustahan lang ang batian namin.
Ang pakikipag relasyon sa mas matanda or mas bata sa atin si a choice, hindi porke mas matanda ang isa ay kaya nyang dalhin ang isang relasyon, dapat lagi nating tandaan na kung gusto nating tumagal ang isang relasyon kailangang magkaroon ng RESPETO AT PAGMAMAHAL nag bawat isa. Sa ngayon ayaw ko na ng mas matanda sa akin, nag eenjoy ako sa pagiging single hehhehe
tj at Apr 7, 09 at 1:31 pm
I’m very much open to having a relationship with someone way older, 10++ years, but somehow the guys I’m attracting are younger than me. I just turned thirty and looking back at the guys I’ve dated, those who are older, 35 and above, are surprisingly the ones who are less open-minded, they are kinda cynical too and wouldn’t trust you unless you prove yourself to them first. I think it was their bad experience in loving someone that made them a little jaded. My worst relationship came from someone older too… It didn’t cross my mind that conscience fades away with age, that was until I met him… hehe. But anyway, given the choice, I’d still want to be with an older guy, it would be great to grow old with them… hehe…
carl at Apr 7, 09 at 3:00 pm
for me i think it would be better… at least mas seryoso sa buhay ang 10 yearsgap..
i just dont know kung halimbawang 100,000 a month ang sweldo nung isa and the other one is 8000 lang.. i think magkakaroon ng problema sa ego nung isa..
codeblue2187 at Apr 7, 09 at 3:50 pm
to be honest for me.. walang problema un cause age really doesnt go with maturity. im a 21 year old guy and i really do prefer 5 to 10 years age gap guy from me cause somehow i think na mature n ung mga ganung tao cause im serious when it comes to relationship i dont take it for granted so i’d rather go sa mas matanda sakin. but like i say wala sa age ung maturity..
my previous relationship was with a guy na 5 years ang gap nmin.. we lasted 2 years and somehow it’s a good relationship experience.. when it comes to interest..oo medyo kakaiba nga cause i was 18 that time and sya mag 24 na..so iba nga talga ang takbo ng utak nila..lol
i love to go sa masayang place but cya nmn sa medyo calm and steady places..weird ryt..so that time kung san gusto nya i go with him.. e mahal mo e.lol
and thats my whole life promise which to be with someone way older than me.
Dennis at Apr 7, 09 at 5:21 pm
Well as long as….walang sakit at sabit!
I guess that would be ok!
Mr. Unpredictable at Apr 7, 09 at 5:58 pm
at kelan naman naging issue ito? wala na bang ibang article?
anton maton at Apr 7, 09 at 7:16 pm
Hayst, i can relate to that, actually i am legally married to a guy 10 years my senior…im 22 and he’s 32 so ok lang naman..
charles at Apr 8, 09 at 12:36 pm
i dont think there’s something wrong with getting into a relationship where in your partner is 10 years older than you. i’ve been to 3 relationships and 2 of which were into such kind and it has been better. right now i’m with my long time partner who is 10 years older than me and the relationship gets stronger everyday! and i actually prefer older partner because of their maturity.
Anton at Apr 8, 09 at 1:17 pm
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Love Against All Gaps | Manila Gay Guy at Apr 8, 09 at 3:46 pm
well, I’m in a relationship right now with a 21 year old guy.At present I’m 27. There was a time when I ask him about our age gap, he just replied this way” huwag na natin pag usapan yan ang mahalaga nagmamahalan tayo”. For me I don’t see any reason for age to be that matter in terms of LOve. No one is too old or young to fall inlove.
Jhie Valles at Apr 8, 09 at 9:27 pm
once my 18 year old niece ask me if ill be falling for someone who is double my age, i resaponded to her like this ” honey , i dont see any reason why not, if i really love the person then i will go for it. age shouldnt be a barrier when it comes to a relationship. what is important is that you both love each other no matter what.” 2 days after, she brought a 30 year old guy and introduce me to him, Tito this is pier my boyfriend.” ME AND MY BIG MOUTH!
JEUNE at Apr 9, 09 at 4:41 am
I dont mind being with someone who’s in his 40’s as long as he looks (and feels) like he’s 30. Brad Pitt so easily comes to mind.
shannen at Apr 10, 09 at 3:24 am
during my younger years i’m always attracted to older mens ung mukhang daddy na lakas ng dating nila sa akin especially the married men but now i’m already 38 and still sila pa rin ang tipo ko never ako na attract sa mga bagets i don’t know why? my last relationship lasted for 3 years i was 37 and the guy is 33 and married
barang at Apr 10, 09 at 11:41 pm
I’ve been in this kind of relationship for 4 years and we are still growing as a couple. he’s 33 and he’s 10 yrs older that me, I’d say we balance out each other. My only issue is after we lived together, i had issues with our sex life. but that was already settled.
koki_motok at Apr 11, 09 at 12:38 am
i like older guys. they are more matured and i’m into pampering them. coz that’s my way of making them feel they have somebody to take care of them. My guy is a German national here in Kuala Lumpur. he’s a banking consultant. we’re just starting. i’m not even sure he’s into me yet but we constantly meet and date. Tomorow Easter Sunda, we’ll have breakfats together after the Mass.
man_eater11 at Apr 11, 09 at 4:43 pm
by the way i’m 31 and he’s 48.
man_eater11 at Apr 11, 09 at 4:44 pm
If sex lang naman.. If he is oozingly and unexceptionally hot and very well experienced na sa kama, why not? Type ko older guys and I’m 22. Sarap kaya nila magromansa haha! Landi talaga! But in terms of relationship, problema yan lalo na sa interest compatibilities. Mahihirapan magadjust both parties dahil masyado malaki gap especially finances. May mga friends akong older, gusto nila but they opted not to partner younger guys same as my age bracket dahil mauubos “daw” ang kayamanan nila haha! For me its not much of a problem kasi may work ako eh yung iba? We’ll it’s still up to different circumstances and situations.
mediaprince at Apr 12, 09 at 1:33 am
I’m 33 now.. can’t see myself with a 23 .. with a 43 baka pwede pa .. I suppose its not so much on the age gap but on the maturity of the person and how serious he is on getting in a relationship.
Im with my guy who’s 4 years my junior.. been together for 3 and a half years now. Its not perfect.. What’s making this work if you ask me is that we, in our own merits, have chosen to make it work.
Good luck guys.. choose to be happy
Maximus at Apr 12, 09 at 10:25 pm
10 years is not that big for a gap. In fact, age does not create a gap much but cultural/social background, looks, and size do. The last two (looks and size) may be shallow, but they prevail. Ironic eh? The very things that do not last are the ones creating the gap…
Cris at Apr 13, 09 at 10:10 pm
Here’s a short dialog from the Big Fish. It is not a direct answer to whether age is really important in a relationship. Ed Bloom (played by Ewan McGregor)said, nevertheless, what matters in love.
Sandra Bloom: You don’t even know me.
Young Ed Bloom: I have the rest of my life to find out.
In our context…
Older by ten years: You haven’t lived the ten years of your life to know who you want to love.
Younger by ten years: So be with me… I have more than ten – the rest of my life, I bet – to get to know you.
Cris at Apr 13, 09 at 10:28 pm
ang alam ko age lang ang tumatanada im only 23y/o i feel nothings is changed now parang im still feel as young as when i am 17 y/o, ang alam ko lang mas attractive/ted ako sa older than me ksi mafefel mo na serious na sila income of relation sa mga younger namn parang anytime malingat ka lang iba na cguro ka sex nila and ung kaya go for older lol..
about gap age, money and etc if u really love someone u need to accept all good and bad things for what he or she is…
all i can say young people is not good and bed hahahahaha mas masarap ang 30’s yun lang
age dsnt matter at Apr 14, 09 at 1:30 pm
i am now 27 but still young at heart… i watch cartoon network and love action figures… yes i am so immature and inexperience (so does jennifer aniston in her 40’s…)
this is a bit complicated in choosing a partner… so for me it does not really matter if the person is older or younger because for me what i actually need is someone who will help me to become mature because i cannot do it alone…
Amir at Apr 14, 09 at 1:40 pm
masarap magmahal ang mas may edad keysa sa u.would you beleive im 35 and my partner is 47 but happy to tell u guys that we’ve been 8 years in a relationship and so far going strong pa rin.were both financially stable so walang problema.
and 4 me age gap and financial status is not hindrance to a long lasting relationship.what’s important is you love and trust each other….
musclehunk at Apr 14, 09 at 1:43 pm
definitely yes…pero depende naman sa attitude nya!
jed at Apr 15, 09 at 2:16 pm
Interesting.
I just had a relationship with someone 10 years older – I was the open-minded and uber-ready one.
He chickened-out in the end and turns out I was the mature one.
I guess it depends on the person – and the situation.
James at Apr 22, 09 at 11:03 am
got me there.
my first and only relationship was with a guy 9 years my senior.
i was 20, he was 29.
it didnt work.
and yes, it was maturity issues.
i couldnt take it that he was the one who should be always right just because he was older.
maybe im just hard to be with but i dont know
i think im finally ready for a new one
ivan1 at Apr 22, 09 at 1:20 pm
I was 13 yr older than him. And our relationship lasts for 9yrs. I think, pwede. Bsta may love and respect. Ganun kasimple. Namimiss ko sya pag nakikita ko si richard gutierrez. haay…!
Joshua at Apr 26, 09 at 3:37 am
he’s 49 then me 21, me? the usual kapit sa patalim story stuff, me? from the province na usual wafu poor boy na lomuwas sa maynila stuff, he swooned and won among those who have noticed me there, me? the usual baguhan na “attendant” sa GB stuff, he’s the must frequent costumer stuff, me? i have to choose, kasi the usual nandidiri ka na sa GB stints stuff, me? NOW i have STOPPED at the GB and me? now being STUFFED with care, me? being financed in studying just by the exchange of his wanton of my STAFF, ALL RECIPROCATED !!! and US? going strong… WE? i hope this will last
THANK YOU
frazzy at May 6, 09 at 11:53 am
I just broke up with my partner for 1 1/2 years. He is twice my age. At first everything was ok. But later on in the relationship, we realized that ours just won’t work. He says that i’m so childish (i’m 25 yrs old, btw). Our interests also don’t match. So in the end, we decided to part ways.
If asked, would i still get into a relationship with an older guy, i’d still say yes. But this time i’ll make sure our age gap is not too big that we can’t appreciate each other’s interests.
Ampf, english… Sakit sa ilong
Aliping binabahay at May 23, 09 at 1:37 pm
i guess depende sa itsura, meron kc na matanda as in age pero young looking, meron naman matanda ang age pero di pa naman matured mag-isip, depende rin sa makakarelasyon, kung serious na ba or may sex! ano ba ang importante, ang real relationship o sexual relationship…
saka minsan yun mas bata pa nga ang nag dadala!
mtv at May 26, 09 at 6:54 pm
I’m a bit uncertain of venturing into a relationship with another man who is younger than me.. That has always been an issue bugging my head since I turned 25… There are a number of contentions that always find their way to surface on instances that you least expect them.. like wala kayong common interests, bad ‘bed’ manners, immaturity… and then ultimately money matters.
I’m 28 now, a professional and earning an above-average sum and lately, there is this impulsive urge for me to seek comfort in the arms of men working white-collared jobs, who are 10 or so-so years my senior.. Di ko alam kung ano yung ‘driving force’that pushed me to be head-over-heels with this type of guys but to make the case worse, they always end up being married or with children.. argghhh..life is unfair…pero that’s another matter.
Maybe the security you feel with an older guy is much more solid than dating a young twink.. hehe And older men tend to be more caring, thoughtful and i guess when you’re in bed, they are one hell of a cuddler.. Di sila nagmamadali..
I had an encounter with an 18-year old who came after a 2-minute poor performance.. he was like a rabbit with a “pang-pang-pang and I’m done” trip and most of the time didn’t know what he was doing ..and he didn’t even consider the fact that well, my willy was left limp and unsatisfied..
An older guy would be considerate and would never make that mistake…
world peace everyone.. ciao
park_ER (park_ER81@yahoo.com)
park_ER at May 27, 09 at 8:59 pm
ngiti nalang ako
HAHAHA
herbs at Dec 23, 09 at 1:22 pm