Sep
05

Ang Kuwento Ni Siopao At Bunwich

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Hi Migs,

First, I would like to greet your MGG Blog a Happy 3rd Anniversary. Your blog makes my monotonous work day exciting. I used to work in a call center in Makati when I discovered your blog, from then on I was addicted and always excited to check it everyday. Hanggang ngayon pwede ko nang sabihing parte na siya ng daily routine ko.

I was born and raised in Bacolod City, after graduation I went here to review for the Board Exams (ECE Board), needless to say, hindi pa kasing open ng Manila ang Bacolod as far as same-sex relationship is concern kaya nakakagulat when I first got here. Bata pa lang ako, since my mom is a teacher, I was raised to be masunurin at masipag mag-aral, in short NERD. I was a consistent honor student then, pero LONER, I never experienced the typical Barkada nung high school. Everytime may gusto ako, since I don’t have anyone to share it with, I’m making a note addressed to GOD and keep it in a box, wala pa kasing cellphone nun. It was always been my prayer to have someone I can call my own, not necessarily a lover… Bestfriend ok na. Together with that prayer, I completed the simbang gabi… novena mass at kung anu-ano pa. I am not religious but I always have my time for prayer. Siguro nasanay na din na siya lagi kausap ko dahil nga hindi ako mahilig makipag friends before. (Hindi na ngayon..lol)

Alam ko ever since that there’s something different about me compared to my male classmates. Until college, hindi ko alam kung ano talaga ako, I tried to do things straight people do, name it I’ve done it… siguro ma convince ang ibang tao na straight ako, kasabay nun ang pag convince din sa sarili ko na hindi ako ganun. Pero I was 3rd year college then when I met Francis, Freshman. He was maputi, long hair, chinito, matangkad, gwapo. (This is it!)

I began to notice him nung ang mga girl classmates ko kinikilig pag dumadaan siya sa classroom. Fate as you may call it, since member ako ng Student Government, I was asked to spearhead all the Engineering freshmen for an activity for the Sportsfest, and yes kasama siya dun. Everytime may practice sila I was there to arrange for the transportation and the food. Ako din ang taga check ng attendance nila aat dahil diyan I have to publish my number for any notification kung hindi makakapunta sa practice. Nagtagal ang practice ng mga 1 buwan, dahil na rin sa schedule ko ay hindi ako laging nakakapunta sa mga practices nila.

One night, nag text siya na hindi na daw kasing saya ang practice kasi wala ako. Migs, prior to that incident, hindi kami nag-uusap, we we’re not even introduced to each other,at wala din kaming common friends. Simula nun, we’ve been texting na, though more on about sa practices at sa school related activities. Nothing personal.

Last practice nila bago ang performance the next day, around 10p na kami umuwi, habang naka-upo ako sa pedicab naghihintay ng ibang pasahero going inside our subdivision, out of nowhere naisip kong magtxt sa cellphone ko, sabi ko “God, kung siya man ang binigay mo sa akin give me a sign, gusto ko tumawag siya pag dating ko sa bahay.” tinago ko lang sa Draft ng cellphone. Suntok sa buwan ang text na yun, hindi nga kami nag uusap ng personal, at hindi ako sigurado kung ano siya… pati sarili ko hindi din ako sigurado kung ano.

Papasok ako ng bahay, tumunog yung phone, uso pa drop call nun, nagtanong kung naka-uwi na ako. After ilang tanong at sagot, humirit siya ng “Pwede mag apply?” At first, I thought application for the org, so I replied hindi pa pwede kasi 1st year pa lang siya… sabi niya mag a-apply daw siyang bestfriend ko. Sabi ko okey, pero na weirduhan ako sa sitwasyon, at that time nalimutan ko ang sign na hiningi ko.

The next day sabay kami na nuod ng game, nag lunch, umuwi ng sabay. Naging ganun ang set-up namin for several months, minsan sinasamahan ko siya sa ibang school para manligaw sa classmate niya nung high school. Naging okey ang takbo ng sitwasyon namin, naging automatic na sa mga professor ko na pag nawawala ako, sa kanya ako hinahanap. Until one day, tinanong niya ko kung pwede daw more than friends na kami, nalaman kong tumigil na siya sa panliligaw sa girl sa kabilang school.

Pumayag ako, pero hindi ko alam kung tama nga yung ginawa ko. Dumaan ang ilang araw na masaya kaming pareho, we agreed not to have sex yet, because we need to prove kung LUST ba o LOVE ang nararamdaman namin, we agreed to go to church every Wednesday after school for novena, simba every Sunday at every lunch break sa school… Sabi namin pambawi kay Lord.. Lahat ng ginagawa namin naka plano, wala kaming sinabihang friends for fear na we’re both known sa school at baka ma kick-out kami. We prioritized our studies for fear na if ever malaman ng family namin na kami na, hindi pwedeng gawing dahilan na pinabayaan namin ang school namin. Para walang maisumbat. From then on, naging confident ako sa sitwasyon namin, I introduced him sa family as a “friend” and gusto naman siya ng family ko. Ganun din ako sa family niya.

This coming September 12, we will be celebrating our 80th month as a couple. At some point your blog has been and is still an inspiration for the both of us.. nahawa na din siya kakabasa ng blog mo dahil sa akin. Through your blog, from the stories shared by other readers and your advice that comes after, we realized that what we have right now is something that not most PLU have and that we have to take care and appreciate it. Dahil nga never namin na experience magka ex-boyfriend, kung paano makipag eye ball o makipag date sa ibang tao… through your blog we get to learn something, na hindi na dapat umabot sa kailangan naming maranasan yun para ma realize ang importance ng isa’t isa.

Gusto ko lang magpasalamat sa’yo at sa iyong blog. Hindi ko man kayang i-express siya sa paraang karapat-dapat, gusto kong malaman mo na parte ng buhay namin ang blog mo… and we all know that any relationship will never be better without the help of friends, family and the things that inspire and teach you… at isa ka dun.

Thank you.

Siopao & Bunwich

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Dear Siopao & Bunwich,

Maraming salamat sa inyong email. Sa totoo lang, kinilig ako (at naihi ng three-and-a-half drops!) habang binabasa ang inyong napakagandang story. Being together in a loving, same-sex relationship for 80 months is no small accomplishment. You are right, you have something that many of us fervently wish for, and your resolve to always cherish and appreciate it is so refreshing and inspiring. Your story gives us a sliver of shimmer of a glimmer of hope, that we too can find our other half, just like both of you. Tila ba kayo isang baso ng malamig na tubig sa aming mahabang, nakakauhaw na paglalakbay sa kasukalan ng buhay. Maraming salamat!

To more months and more years of loving companionship! Cheers!

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66 Comments So Far

  1. i wanna root for you guys, but the cynic in me wants to sing , “some good things never last” … well, maybe just prove everybody wrong. carry on.

    denciopadilla.blogspot.com at Sep 5, 09 at 9:09 am

  2. see migs… sabi ko sa iyo eh… you have the voice to influence and create change. i hope with it you can create world peace

    and for the guys you are lucky to find love because honest to goodness its difficult to find one here in bacolod.

    yue at Sep 5, 09 at 10:57 am

  3. Im happy and I hope many of us find the same sincere relationship u guys have

    walp at Sep 5, 09 at 11:49 am

  4. I can relate to this.. I’ve been with my partner for 14 years! We have challenges but overall we have a great relationship. Sayan lang we do not have friends in the same situation to learn things and swap best practices…

    Jay at Sep 5, 09 at 12:26 pm

  5. catholic guilt is so hot :)

    Ian at Sep 5, 09 at 1:46 pm

  6. Sana Siopao at Iced Tea ang title, nakakabusog at sagot sa uhaw. Complete meal, like the love story.

    weng at Sep 5, 09 at 2:05 pm

  7. i’ve always wanted that kind of relationship…sayang i’m get myself to someone who is married and we are 4 years now :)

    ynoid at Sep 5, 09 at 2:09 pm

  8. hayz, nkakatuwa na nakakalungkot. how I wish I have the same fate as yours…kaso palikero aq and I can’t help it kaya di ngtatagal relasyon ko.huhu

    twink at Sep 5, 09 at 2:24 pm

  9. daming PLUs sa bacolod. Taga-Manila ako pero may mga friends ako dun, madalas binibisita ko. Ibang PLUs may asawa, may gf, karamihan straight acting. gwa-gwapo pa ng mga taga bcd.

    mewtong at Sep 5, 09 at 2:33 pm

  10. congrats sa 80 months! sana hahaba pa ang yung pagsasama. pati na rin sa lahat na dapat hahaba. hahaha =)

    mksurf8 at Sep 5, 09 at 2:36 pm

  11. cheers for another 80 months!
    i noticed 80 months is longer than 6 years and 8 months…

    ming at Sep 5, 09 at 2:48 pm

  12. what’s PLU?

    Lloydy at Sep 5, 09 at 2:54 pm

  13. kakakilig :)
    me and my partner is going strong. 3 years na. nad both going to graduate college next year. grabe. highschool friends kami and never kong naimagine na magiging kami. :)

    areyoukiddingme19 at Sep 5, 09 at 2:59 pm

  14. How do i start towards that journey from where I am now? I had a 5 year relationship before but it ended with his words: “sorry, hindi na kita mahal…”

    Nelson at Sep 5, 09 at 3:14 pm

  15. PLU= People Like Us

    ken at Sep 5, 09 at 3:57 pm

  16. I am n d same relati0nship as u.. Pero mas mahirap ksi we cnt go out 2gethr.. Im older than my partner by few years..but we both share d same interests.. We wer known b4 as best frnds pro 1 of his friends heard a rumor bout us.. To b safe we try not to b seen 2gether.. Even n casual way.. We nid 2 go 2 d 3rd city jst 2 b 2gethr..

    Aldred at Sep 5, 09 at 4:01 pm

  17. ahw! that’s so sweet! inggit aq! ahaha more power to both of you..=) p.s, please drop by sa blog q if you wanna know bout my adventures in life. lol http://mickeyscloset.blogspot.com and dont forget to comment! =)

    mickeyscloset at Sep 5, 09 at 4:10 pm

  18. I knw u guys.. My bf shared me ur notes sa facebuk.. Kakainggit nga e.. U r lucky 2 b n a well-off clan.. Asyd frm that u r both good looking.. Congrats!

    Aldred at Sep 5, 09 at 4:11 pm

  19. naiyak ako ng 3 and a half drops dahil sa tuwa, lungkot at galak sa mga susunod pang mangyayari…

    i appreciate so much couple holding hands together on their senior citizen age… sana may makita rin akong PLU na gagawa nun.

    a fan from dubai…

    MrCens at Sep 5, 09 at 5:09 pm

  20. @Llody PLU means People Like Us (i hope im tama). Hay what a cute story. Inggit aq.

    Rexy the Sexy at Sep 5, 09 at 6:50 pm

  21. this story made my day

    tulad nila, wala rin akong alam sa buhay ex, eyeball, and everything ive learned here

    n-b-s-b ang drama ko eh

    panahon na sigurong maghanap ako

    after all, hindi na bata ang edad kong 25

    ahihihi

    period at Sep 5, 09 at 7:16 pm

  22. why can’t i have something like this?! :(

    skye at Sep 5, 09 at 7:28 pm

  23. jealous.

    Broken_Heart at Sep 5, 09 at 8:43 pm

  24. Good for you! Nakakilig!!! 28mos pa lang kami ng partner hopeully maka 80mos and more din! Gudluck Siops and Bunny!

    Roy at Sep 5, 09 at 9:21 pm

  25. wala pa akong nakikinig na istori na hindi gwapo ang boyfriend. wala. biased hahahaha.

    herbs at Sep 5, 09 at 9:25 pm

  26. guys, thanks for the wonderful comments… and thanks to migs too for posting it.

    bunwich at Sep 5, 09 at 9:37 pm

  27. giggling :)

    NYO at Sep 5, 09 at 9:45 pm

  28. wahhh…a nice story

    bilogboy at Sep 5, 09 at 10:17 pm

  29. i am from bacolod and indeed marami nga kaming vecky dun noon. but marami din closeta gaya ko na pumunta sa malayo para lumadlad…buti na lang last time na umuwi ako sa amin ay medyo okay na at parami ng parami ang mga Out ng mga kafatid.

    great post migs!

    ALVIN at Sep 5, 09 at 11:19 pm

  30. nakakainggit nman..i hope ill find my better half soon..really a very nice story..

    francis at Sep 5, 09 at 11:27 pm

  31. congrats guys!

    francis at Sep 5, 09 at 11:30 pm

  32. congrats…a feat to last a month now adays in homorelationships, im a fan of long term relationship and im proud to say im on my 4th year with my hubby…its good that God is prioritized in ur relationship, i beleive everyone has the right to love and be loved…in our life there are 2 roads the long and winding road and the straight road, both leads to happiness but the other one is harder….im glad u chose the easier part and waited for the love u deserved…

    butterflyrhai at Sep 6, 09 at 2:15 am

  33. 80 months :)

    bluelightninglad at Sep 6, 09 at 3:04 am

  34. thank god light yun story… :)
    kengratulations. :)

    don at Sep 6, 09 at 4:12 am

  35. Sweet!Ü

    Markin.Gomez at Sep 6, 09 at 5:54 am

  36. paka conservative ng story mo ‘te. panalo! sana ako din my ganung destiny.

    xzna at Sep 6, 09 at 7:34 am

  37. Nice love story, a good heart deserves that. I got a complicated love story. Migs knew this. But this September 13, one year na kami. Not a fairy-tale material instead intense and love-driven affair. Yung tipong, pag nadadampi ang balat niya sa balat ko parang nakukuryente ako ng libo-libong boltahe. Napagdaanan na namin ang mga 3rd-party issue, he has a lot, I have one permanent fixture but nalampasan namin. Alam namin na sa mundo natin, mahirap ang tumagal ng ganito pero bahala na. We give love and let the chip fall where it may.

    mike at Sep 6, 09 at 10:36 am

  38. Hay naku! Nagkaroon din ako ng “relationship” sa isang sexy actor. 4 months lang kami. Puro naman kasi pera at material na bagay ang hinihingi.

    Eugene at Sep 6, 09 at 11:30 am

  39. Kakakilig naman at kaka-inspire ng entry na to! Here’s hoping for the best for you both, Siopao and Bunwich!

    Lasher at Sep 6, 09 at 3:54 pm

  40. wow,,,,,nakakaingit,,,, kinilig ako ng husto,,, may the lord god bless ur relationship

    jhay at Sep 6, 09 at 9:49 pm

  41. OMG super kinilig naman ako dun!! Grabe 80 months.. Nakakainspire naman. You’re both lucky to have each other and I hope and pray that what you have right now would last forever. =)

    carmigz at Sep 6, 09 at 10:06 pm

  42. Inspirational!

    James at Sep 6, 09 at 11:10 pm

  43. pansin ko lang….yung signature ni migs, pareho nung signature ni reyna elena? nagkataon?

    diwata at Sep 7, 09 at 12:56 am

  44. mga immoral! hahahaha!

    abcd at Sep 7, 09 at 3:09 am

  45. hay katuwa naman yan! sana umabot din kami ng 80th months ng partner ko, pero sad to say baka di na kasi may feeling ako na may iba na siya, nahook siya masyado sa gym……

    Alfred at Sep 7, 09 at 5:57 am

  46. shocks!!! super kinilig ako dun ah….hmmmmm…wishone day…ill be like him and find one true love…hahay

    bounce at Sep 7, 09 at 3:31 pm

  47. wow! this is so great! kasi karamihan ng nababasa kong mga shared stories dito pero sad ang ending.. buti ito happy…

    ron at Sep 7, 09 at 4:45 pm

  48. Haayyy…kanami sang feeling. Ambi ko sa sine kag sa libro lang ni gakatabo…Sorry guys, can’t help to state them in Ilonnggo…good comment yun ha!
    Curious

    Curious at Sep 7, 09 at 7:35 pm

  49. in love, everything is equal regardless of faith, race or gender. spread it! in d end, we all wished to find that one-elusive-thing called happiness. .a toast for both of u siopao at bunwich for imparting ur share of happiness ‘us’. .. .

    ram at Sep 7, 09 at 9:02 pm

  50. hope does springs eternal…:)

    pao-pao bear at Sep 7, 09 at 9:29 pm

  51. Naiyak aq0. .jekjekjek. .buti p keo umab0t 80, sa kin 80 sec.nagpupunas na. .jejeje. .kiddin!! Pahisa hisa ah. .tak an qo ah. .jejeje. .lasakan naman iban da!! Tga lasalle nah c francis??uhmm. .francis recaforte??jejeje. .

    Rapidfire at Sep 7, 09 at 11:53 pm

  52. @Rapidfire..hoy wala bukuhay..sssshhhhh…aton2 lang na nga taga la salle…

    Curious at Sep 8, 09 at 6:50 am

  53. congrats to siopao and bunwich, may this post inspire all of us in waiting and finding “the one” we have all been waiting for, and may we keep that relationship as long (or longer) as we can. sigh, ok. i’m back at waiting mode for my own “the one” :)

    karl at Sep 8, 09 at 1:55 pm

  54. …hmm… This story Made my day jud!!! ambot bsta ni gaan jud akong feeling… made me hopeful again.. Brava!!!

    warwickAvenue at Sep 8, 09 at 4:50 pm

  55. Ewan ko ba qng bakit me selected few ata bc god na me kapares, pagdating s mga katulad ntin. I mean, c’mon Lord, pde idukdok mo n po s face nmin c destined person.

    Takot na rin ako. 34 months of love-war relationship, then iniwanan ko siya, kc mxdo xang seloso. Now I know that qng dla q ang ideas ko ngayon dti, e bka npagbago q xa….mahal q p nmn un….

    May the god/s bless your love, bunwich and siopao, and always understand the other one’s heart, pra always kaung on the clouds…

    Ace at Sep 12, 09 at 4:26 am

  56. thanks for all the comments… we really appreciate it. I’ll add you all in my prayers for “the one” to come.

    bunwich at Sep 12, 09 at 5:46 pm

  57. AW! ang sweet! hehehe… nice story… CONGRATS bunwich and siopao!

    Isaribi at Sep 13, 09 at 4:46 pm

  58. hehehe…nice story tlga….sana, mkatagpo na rin ako..hehehe….good luck sa inyo!

    chris at Sep 13, 09 at 8:31 pm

  59. love this.
    superb.
    pagpatuloy nyo.
    malapit nakame jan, ehe

    lesson learned: experience is the best teacher.

    quote: “Dahil nga never namin na experience magka ex-boyfriend, kung paano makipag eye ball o makipag date sa ibang tao… through your blog we get to learn something, na hindi na dapat umabot sa kailangan naming maranasan yun para ma realize ang importance ng isa’t isa.”

    i may now consider this one. theories need application pero i think what either siopao or bunwich said is something to think about too.

    i think you both are blessed.
    endless blessings.ü

    kyle at Sep 19, 09 at 12:16 am

  60. nice story pal sana nga totoo ang kwento mo….me and my partner are happy together sa lahat ng pagsubok na dinaanan namin…we started our relationship at young age and so far after a decade, cant imagine na umabot kami ng 10 years, mas naging matibay ang pagsasama namin….sekreto? well isa lang…. totoong pagmamahal ang ipadama sa isat isa at di lang sa makamundong pagnanasa ang nakapaloob sa isang relasyon…at syempre nagkakaintindihan kami sa lahat ng bagay….good luck sa inyo and wish na magsama pa kayo ng matagal na panahon….kung ayaw nyong maniwala sa sinabi ko you can reach me at poisonbraveheart@ yahoo. com….

    ice at Sep 20, 09 at 12:13 am

  61. awwwwwwwwwww.
    ang sweeeeeeeeeeeeeet!
    I’m happy for both of you.

    LOLA Migs, sana mahanap mo na din ang iyong ONE TRUE LOVE :)

    rod at Sep 21, 09 at 3:35 am

  62. wow! now i know your story…the best ang story mo… i always go to church every wed. and sunday so i have to wait nalang for simbang gabi para makahanap na din ng TL (True Love) wahehe… eyeeeeloveeeettt!

    Will at Sep 22, 09 at 11:28 pm

  63. A very nice story indeed.
    I have witnessed 20% for this story. Yes, 20% because I was a part of this story, at least 2%. And I have known this story before this article was published. The one narrating this story knows that. :)

    I am happy for bunwich because he achieved what most of us would want in life. A partner for a long time. A true love story. A true and an ideal love story.

    Kudos!

    And to bunwich, remember that whatever happens, you deserve to be happy with each other. I thank you for all the love, joy and wonderful memories you shared to me. I wish I am the siopao in your life but that’s it. The purpose of you being part of my life was to open my eyes about the truth in having a relationship with the same sex. It was like 2 weeks only that I was given a chance to be with him. A trip to Disneyland, that’s what I called it. It was like 90% fantasy and 10% tragic.

    Well…that’s my story and I am not ready to share it yet.So for now… I would like everyone to know how proud I am!

    MJ at Nov 12, 09 at 9:16 pm

  64. i love the story…

    we are on our 36 months and counting…

    don’t lose hope guys…

    just keep on searching for those who are single…

    just keep on loving for those in a relationship…

    just keep on..☺

    ben_andrew... at Nov 17, 09 at 7:59 pm

  65. ang sarap mag back read sa blog mo haha dami ko pala na missed nun unang mga buwan ko dito sa doha.

    kinilig ako sa story nila…hayyy kainggit!

    maccallister at Jan 27, 10 at 3:25 pm

  66. nakakainlove naman.

    Jasper Cortez at Jan 27, 10 at 10:39 pm

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