hi migs. i’ve read one of your posts…and the comments regarding bi married man having relationship with other man. i myself is married with 2 kids and is now in a relationship with an 18 yr old guy with a lot of gf’s… this is my first relationship with another man after 12 yrs of marriage..i am his first. It isnt easy for both of us…we argue a lot… because we dont know how to handle this kind of relationship. There are lots of risk for both of us. i dont want to destroy my family and jeopardize the future of my kids. and he doesn’t want to break his 5-yr relationship with one of his gf. But more than anything we are really best of friends and we don’t want to break the bond between us… we have separated a lot of times but we keep on coming back to save the relationship… sometimes i make the first move most of the time he would say sorry and try to win me back… ron
hi ron. friendship is a wonderful, wonderful thing. but if it really stands in the way of a beautiful family life, of honor, of dignity, of loyalty, i wouldn’t think twice smashing it into pieces. on the other hand, if you feel keeping that relationship with your 18-year-old will make you a better person, then go ahead, yet it is not an excuse to continue the deceit, the flimflam with your family. your family can, in the long run, be better off without a philandering father. in short, a choice has to be made here.
a lot of times we use the excuse of confusion when we do not want to make a decision. you know what to do, even if you’re confused. it’s a matter of making a decision, and being the honorable person (that you can still be) to stand by it. i pray for your fortitude. be well.