“Gays should be happy society tolerates them.”

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“Gays should be happy society tolerates them.”

Mon Tulfo in his Nov. 19, 2009 PDI column writes:

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The Commission on Elections (Comelec) is right about rejecting the application of a group composed of lesbians and gays to become a party-list group. Had the poll body approved the application of Ang Ladlad, baka tinamaan ng kidlat (lightning would have struck) its commissioners. Kidding aside, gender should never be an issue in politics. If there are many gays and lesbians in our midst, fine! We should respect their rights. But they should not also go around town proclaiming their preferences as if it was a badge of honor. There is nothing honorable or normal about same-sex marriage or union, which Ang Ladlad is trying to promote. Gays and lesbians should be happy society tolerates them. They should not abuse society’s doting attitude towards them.

So, what do you think?

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67 Comments So Far

Ramon Tulfo belongs to a dying breed of old farts. Let him wallow and flop in his tar of bigoted views.

Jedd at Nov 24, 09 at 2:40 pm
Jedd couldn’t have said it any better. Mr. Tulfo should be happy society tolerates HIM.

alee at Nov 24, 09 at 2:48 pm
Well, what can I say, a very old-school and very straight pont of view.

ron at Nov 24, 09 at 3:18 pm
wag nang pag-asayahan ng opinion yan – does he really matter?!

abc at Nov 24, 09 at 3:29 pm
to #3 ron: very straight point of view? i have many straight friends who aren’t this stupid. sorry, what you said is an insult to intelligent straight people.

the bakla review at Nov 24, 09 at 7:16 pm
Yizz, I agree.. he’s kind is absolutely extinct lets just wait for all his kind to completely wipe out.. or better yet let’s not waste time on them since they CLEARLY dont want to do the same for us!

dom13 at Nov 24, 09 at 7:29 pm
“..gender should never be an issue in politics..” i don’t see his point in saying this.

tataas na naman ang kilay ni MLQ3 nito. PDI pa namn ang column na itech.

ming at Nov 24, 09 at 7:52 pm
Yun english version is very toned down pero litaw naman kung gaano ka-close-minded yan tuflo na yan. We discussed this a while ago in my class and someone read the tagalog version. You should see that one and talaga namang sobra -SOBRA- ka manggigigil sa mga isinulat ni tuflo. Ill try to acquire the tagalog version to let you judge how asinine ramon tuflo is. People like RF takes society a step backward to achieving our rights. But seeing more people who are disgusted and repulsed to RF is two steps ahead. And that’s what matters. Someday I want to be married and recognition from people or at least the government is important for me. To Tuflo – you only showed how bigoted and small-brained you are. Ooh before I forget F*** you!

blksantos at Nov 24, 09 at 8:08 pm
here’s one for you tuflo – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03PnU27cWDs!

blksantos at Nov 24, 09 at 8:13 pm
and why are heterosexuals proclaiming THEIR preference in our faces when they snog and PDA in parks, FX, and media representations as if it was a badge of honor?

*vomits*

bC at Nov 24, 09 at 8:13 pm
Ramon Tulfo’s opinion is definitely discriminating but we have to respect his opinion. I have no qualms about him but he does belong to a very rigid age of society where gaiety days are definitely a taboo but were still hidden beneath his nose and the society’s. Anyway, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Hoy! No pun intended yan! Peace!

guyrony at Nov 24, 09 at 8:28 pm
such a pathetic shithead!

Bewired at Nov 24, 09 at 8:31 pm
Who is Ramon Tulfo? Oh yeah, he used to be a famous TV personality. USED TO BE. And now he’s just an attention-seeking “straight” guy who could not even pass as a DILF (Dad I’d Like to Eff) in the age of rainbows and unicorns. Personal hallucinations aside, I think he’s a moron for having a very narrow point of view of homosexuality. I am guessing that he still believes that all gays like pink. Doink.

Tristan Tan at Nov 24, 09 at 8:46 pm
@the bakla review: I did not say all straight people think that way. I also included the words OLD SCHOOL, meaning that that is how traditional straight people think of how homosexuals are. I do have straight friends too and I know that they are open to the idea of homosexuality but what I am referring to when I said “old school and very straight point of view” is the point of view of those straight people who still think the traditional way of how gay people are. Of course there are straight people out there who are open-minded but let’s admit that the percentage of straight people who still think traditionally about gay people is still a large number that we cannot dismiss. I also did not say that Ramon Tulfo is a stupid person, what I pointed out is his perspective about gay people.

ron at Nov 24, 09 at 9:01 pm
To be honest, im not surprised that mon tulfo has this views. I mean he’s the same guy who calls ping lacson gay in order to malign him. Deadma na lang tayo sa kanya, anyway di na naman siya sikat. Let’s just direct our energy towards positive action.

London boy at Nov 24, 09 at 9:33 pm
He’s one big prick whom we should all censure.

Nick at Nov 24, 09 at 10:00 pm
Wag na yan pansinin. Hasbeen.

All throughout his career he has done nothing but make controvertial gestures.

Anon at Nov 24, 09 at 10:46 pm
hmmm, huwag na lang pansinin,
papampam lang yan…..
straight ba cia?
alam ko di ganyan magsalita ang mga taong tutoong straight!

I think he’s twisted, not straight huh!

edgar at Nov 24, 09 at 11:11 pm
guys, wag sana kayo magalit. sa ating mga gay at lesbian madami pa kasi tayo dapat linisin sa ating bakuran para maging katanggap tanggap sa lipunan kung sasabak man tayo sa pulitika

gian at Nov 25, 09 at 1:12 am
F u!

imladris at Nov 25, 09 at 1:25 am
what can we do? the old fart is an idiot.

cainam2002 at Nov 25, 09 at 1:47 am
FORGIVE ME in saying that i am not parallel with everyone else’s thoughts…but Tulfo has a point(not at all angles though)…I agree when he said na “gender should never be an issue in politics. If there are many gays and lesbians in our midst, fine! We should respect their rights. But they should not also go around town proclaiming their preferences”.
Why? Simple.If we’re claiming that we are like everyone else, nagmamahal,minamahal, nasasaktan, natutuwa, nagagalit, naaawa, so we should act like we belong with everyone.Straight men and women(as what we call them) are never greater than us as much as we are NOT greater than them. Bakit tayo gagawa ng exclusive na samahan kung gusto nating mapabilang.

What i dont agree with is when he said na “There is nothing honorable or normal about same-sex marriage or union, which Ang Ladlad is trying to promote.”.Every single principle has its own worth, and if someone is seeking for recognition, respect it.

Truth to be told, hindi pa tayo ganap na tanggap sa society natin. On the other hand, we have significant recognitions as well. As what i can see, both positive and bad perceptions of being gay are both extreme. Personally, i would prefer a subtle way of achieving things. Accept that to some extent we are accepted and we are not.

But to all the advocates of PLUs, no matter how different we show our advocacy to it, I SALUTE ALL OF YOU…(as what migs keep on quoting, WORLD PEACE) =)

markmercir at Nov 25, 09 at 2:02 am
Typical…a typical bigot, that’s what he is. He sounds and acts like a saint.

KD at Nov 25, 09 at 2:24 am
akala ko bakla sya..hehe

Judas at Nov 25, 09 at 2:30 am
What a lameass journalist! Really, now it is some kind of privilege that we are treated equally like straight people?!?!
And the last line is so freaking stufffffid!!! It’s as if we’re an outsider to the “society” he is talking about! We are what this society is made of… and there is no reason y we cannot proclaim our gayness and treat it as a badge of honor…
How insulting when he said there is nothing honorable with same sex marriage or union!!!!
Tulfo should come by the US congress and meet all the conservatives there so they can talk about how “straight” they are and tulfo could get some points on how he could be more conservative tutal tumatanda na rin xa….
Someday he will be a COD!!!! conservative, old, and dying…. yun lang!

The Don at Nov 25, 09 at 4:15 am
It’s pretty strange that the Philippine Daily Inquirer allows chauvinist pig like Mon Tulfo to write in their daily newspaper….perhaps, I should switch to reading to Manila Bulletin and the Philippine Star.

Nagmamaganda at Nov 25, 09 at 4:20 am
and what has he exactly contributed to society? ahh i know, he’s the ultimate contravida that makes you want to be better so that you don’t end up miserable like him.

paopaobear at Nov 25, 09 at 5:05 am
This kind of attitude is to be expected because most gays in this country are still in the closet. People don’t know and see the diverse community. You don’t have tens of thousands of gays asking and fighting for their rights out in the open. Even at the pride parade in “gay manila”, the numbers are pathetic. Gays in this country are good with their tough talk so long as they are not seen. Just have a look at the number of closeted gay pinoy blogs out their. One thing is for sure, nothing will change for gays here so long as the majority of gays are contented to stay in their dark, cold and lonely closets. This is exactly what the likes of R. Tulfo want. They want you hidden. They want you scared.
In this country, you have to admire the strength and tenacity of a handful of “out” gays fighting their lonely fight in the open. It must be frustrating when they don’t have the support that they need behind them, yet they persevere.

Mark at Nov 25, 09 at 9:32 am
itey ang masarap.
masarap itali sa balkonahe at muk-apan at i-cold wave ang at mga tutsang sa nyilong.
harharharharharharhar!!!
for someone who’s straight, mejo me na-over-an sa butangera factor at awayera points si koyah. davah associated yan sa mga miyembro ng parlorista chapter ng kafatiran? hmmmmm…………nakakalokah!

v at Nov 25, 09 at 11:51 am
i agree when he(Mon Tulfo) said that gender should never be an issue in politics, may point naman sya dun, but natawa lang ako when he said that we(GAYS/BI/WHATEVER) should be happy that society tolerates us? wtf!!! excuse me lang Mr. Tulfo, but we, DON’T owe anything to society!!! If there’s anyone who should be thankful, kayong mga straight kuno ang dapat maging thankful sa mga gays for making life colorful!!! Just imagine the world without gays at puro narrow minded, repressed, at closeted homosexuals like you ang, Im sure, it will be such an awful boring place!!!

carl at Nov 25, 09 at 12:16 pm
@V – napatawa mo ako nang bonggang bongga super bongga! salamat!

migs at Nov 25, 09 at 12:16 pm
WTF?? ano naman tingin nya sa homosexuality? parang disease ang tingin nya na dapat apala thankful pa tayo na hindi tayo pinapatay sa kalsada dahil sa orientation natin..

homosexuality is NOT a CHOICE! it is developed or inborn.. and there is nothing ABnormal about being gay.. it is not something na dapat talagang ikahiya.. ang society ang may problema for not accepting the fact that a vast portion of the population is composed of gay people!

markd at Nov 25, 09 at 12:26 pm
with this it just goes to show, and i am 101% sure of it, that he has come across a gay lover, a gay benefactor, a gay competitor, a gay relative, a gay friend, and a gay employer, even a gay bodyguard one way or another in his otherwise un-gay life.

Err at Nov 25, 09 at 12:36 pm
Will never be able to get what we want if will just talk and talk without doing some action – maraming bakla sa Pilipinas but still Gays are still not accepted nor tolerated…
We cannot do anything unless we do something…

Kabul Guy at Nov 25, 09 at 12:39 pm
tama lang yang sinabi ni Tulfo mga neng…

dapat alam natin kung hanggang saan lang tayong mga vaklah…pasalamat nga tayo at pinakikisamahan pa tayong mabuti ng lipunan. makuntento na tayo dun.

malaking utang na loob nating mga vaklah sa society ang ating existence. pasalamat tayo sa mga tunay na lalaki at babae; kung tutuusin, sila lang ang may karapatang mabuhay dito sa mundo. tayong mga vaklah, wala kasi abnormal tayo.

peace mga neng!

Byutichenezchorvachezz at Nov 25, 09 at 2:02 pm
I could only spare one sentence to mr. tulfo’s “point of view”…….Sir, “galit po ang magnanakaw sa kapwa magnanakaw!”
And so, bekimbels……..kayo na ang bahalang humusga!

tuklaw218 at Nov 25, 09 at 2:49 pm
@ #5 – ei, it doesn’t litertally mean na dahil gusto natin na magkaroon ng representante ang LGBT’s as party list would mean na lalabag na tayo sa norms ng society publicly?! Duhhhh……….!!!
As a party list, LADLAD will definitely be govern and go with the rules. And whatever our agenda might be will still be under strict and guided perusal before it’ll be passed.
Why should we be thankful that society is accepting us? It is the society that should be thankful for having us, kasi kung kayong mga “straight” guys lang ang nasa society, 101% puro bastardo at kerida na ang laman ng society na ito!
Worst, baka puro buwayang pulitiko?!

tuklaw218 at Nov 25, 09 at 3:07 pm
Sorry – its supposed to be # 35 and not # 5.
Thanks.

tuklaw218 at Nov 25, 09 at 3:08 pm
Or best to say, ramon tulfo is a “dahon sa alon” and just merely riding on with the issue?
Have anyone of you read or been reading his articles? Or when was the last time you heard of his name and his career? Any?
None.
Not until this one, wherein he knew he can get a small portion of the publicity just to make his name and gloomy career be heard once he berate the LGBT community.
As simple as that.

tuklaw at Nov 25, 09 at 5:10 pm
what is it with these old filipinos and their ideas of what is proper and not proper. modern day psychologists will tell them adhering to these old and passe notions don’t help cultivate a peaceful and loving community. his concept of “tolerance” is skewed and outdated. if he reads academic literature recently and on a regular basis, as those in his field ought to, then shame on him for not understanding what he read. ignorance is not bliss, people; read intelligently, not this opinionated prejudiced and sensationalist crap old fart writers dish out just because then can. the idea of hating a group of people just because they are different or hold different beliefs are outright medieval; haven’t we evolved beyond this yet? i honestly thought the filipino people had

chris22 at Nov 25, 09 at 6:21 pm
Sometimes I wonder what is the real agenda of all these people who are proponents of gay rights … equal rights? like where … in the workplace? we do have that already… pareho naman yata ang sahod ng mga tuwid at bading. kung di siguro na promote yung bading na maging boss eh because of his ability and not because of his orientation.

saan pa? sa gay marriage? so what about? ano naman ang ma-aachieve na mga bading kung pede silang magpakasal? most guys cant even practice monogamy… im sure kapag kinasal sila eh ganon pa rin.. makati pa sa higad. at di na uso ang marriage among straight people. most of them end up in divorce anyway. yung iba live-in na lang. so ano naman ang benefits sa mga gays kung magpapakasal sila… lalo na sa pinas?

sa politics? so gusto niyo tumakbo? pede naman kayo mag-parehistro. di naman kasama ang sexual orientation as grounds for disqualification. yun nga lang baka di kayo manalo kasi baka ang issues na ipaglalaban niyo eh para lang sa mga gays which is kinda selfish.

well i think most of the people who posted their comments totally missed the point and it became a personal attack to the ‘old man’.

btw .. im gay and i am not a big fan of mr tulfo.

yun lang…

zoo at Nov 25, 09 at 11:18 pm
Panget xa at wala xang kwenta… yun lang ang masasabi ko.

Fritz at Nov 26, 09 at 1:15 am
number 37-38, I think number 35 is just being sarcastic… hahaha…

carl at Nov 26, 09 at 1:31 am
i don’t think kasama sa pinopromote ng LADLAD ang same sex marriage.

and if so, ano naman sa kanya? bat sya affected? eh di wag sya magpakasal sa bading. ganun lang yun.. to each his own lang yan.

khri sy at Nov 26, 09 at 4:32 am
In a way, he has point and everyone who says that we should respect Tulfo is right as well. We should be thankful that society has tolerated and respected us. Though it is our right for equality, let us not force everyone to accept us. It is always good that we take one step at a time. Waiting wouldn’t hurt anyway. This simple issue is just an indication that the society has not fully accepted the presence of gays and lesbians yet. Forcing something into the society would just create an inevitable war where no one will benefit.
From this time onwards, it is necessary for us to show them that they should respect us and give us the same right as other gender have.
I have one comment on how the LADLAD lobbied their application though. They never asked someone politically powerful to support the party. If you wanna win something, you should be ready to have something that will make you win. Otherwise, the efforts will just be wasted however strong your idealism is. You see, idealism and principles couldn’t stand alon, without that someone popular.

gulo-gulo at Nov 26, 09 at 6:28 am
Somehow I agree with Tulfo. Society does tolerate homosexuals, faggots, gays, badings, mga bakla etc. And maybe that’s why we need to be seen as equals, not special people ( or special children) we need to be seen as if not builders, sustainers and visionaries of society. I frankly understand the point of view of someone older. Many men have left families, left responsibilities just to be with other men. True. But what were their choices at the time? Herein we do have the question do we cede from society? or do we become the ghosts of their closets? There must be a third option, the option that we are seen as people, responsible, worthy, loving, and able to give back to someone, to some society to the world the beauty and the strength that we are given.
Ramon Tulfo speaks only from what he knows, if he ever loved a man as we do, he’d know that there are users and fakers and haters and losers out there. But people who love, find love. And that is what Ramon may have to learn from us, we love you Mon Tulfo, even if you can’t imagine it.
I’ve been to the emptiness and have found that if only we connect, refuse the knee jerk reactions of hate and exclusion, then maybe, just maybe we would have built a better present for each other.

yellowshirt askance at Nov 26, 09 at 10:11 am
@Byutichenezchorvachezz: cguro nabubuhay ka sa mundo ng pagigng kuntetnto sa kung anong meron ka ngaun..wlang pangarap..wlang goals at gusong maachieve.at higit sa lhat, hinhayaan mo n mabuhay ka sa statement na: magpasalamat nlng tau kasi ganito, ganyan..” what a loser nman.. laban tayo.
@15 and 26…i agree with you guys..

brix at Nov 26, 09 at 10:25 am
I think that Mr Tulfo’s opinion is a slap to the face of what our current society really is —- decaying…. amidst horrors of mass killings in Maguindanao or the unstoppable inflation of basic commodities, ours is a society not worth living for. Rotten with the mindset of people like Tulfo, we can never achieve a society that is non discriminatory. I think that LADLAD’s fight for same-sex union if not marriage is part of their agenda is definitely not the issue here. The bottomline is that the group should not be discriminated politically and COMELEC amidst all the anomalies in the past should be dispersed and disbanded since previous elections have shown they are the cause of unacceptable add-ons, right Garci?

mAxX at Nov 26, 09 at 1:24 pm
the only erroneous thing about Tulfo’s statement is the operative term “tolerate”

had he said, “gays should be happy society appreciates them,” he could have sounded miles better or less infuriating at least.

tolerate is most associable with a thing u want to live without but u cannot.

really bad, tulfo. real bad.

well, who knows what’s old and what do they think bad of the “new”?
what do you know, Alexander The Great is considered “old”

=)

my point is, this is not a matter of who’s thinking old or who’s straight or not but in which ways the “society” thinks of gay people in a collective manner.

if, as Tulfo put it, the society thinks of us as some sector to “tolerate” then a commotion as a consequence isn’t a far-fetched possibility. but, if, as most of us would prefer, the society treats us as any other groupable people, like Ang Laban ng Indiginong Filipino, One Cebu, Veterans Freedom Party, Luzon Farmers Party, or Gabriela Women’s Party (see, even women have to be represented a “minority”!), then we wouldn’t even have an irate thread as this

just thinking aloud.

Err at Nov 26, 09 at 4:35 pm
well im proud that our MAYOR DUTERTE is on ladlad side CONTRARY TO WHAT BOY ABUNDA said last day on snn…..DUTERTE SAID THAT if only he is a lawyer then he would defend and file a case against comelec…

dave_davao at Nov 26, 09 at 10:21 pm
If gender shouldn’t be an issue in politics, then why are there feminist partylists? Check your facts.

Chris Anthony at Nov 27, 09 at 1:43 am
ganon pala kababaw ang pagiisip ni tulfo…

marky at Nov 28, 09 at 3:07 am
i have said this before and i will say it again. kung mayroong dapat tamaan ng KIDLAT, ikaw yon TULFO, sana bumuka rin ang lupa at lamunin ka ng buhay!

toybee at Nov 28, 09 at 1:13 pm
he is an a**h***. yea, its his opinion and i respect it. but that doesnt make him NOT an a**h***!

ray at Nov 30, 09 at 11:37 am
ang tanga tanga naman ni tulfo.

but i think kaya ganun nalang siya makasulat ay dahil may reputatation siya na toughie kuno. masayado siyang subsumed sa mainstream thinking na pag sinabing tough ay straight talaga. at ang pina extreme naman nito ay maging bading. to begin with, the general thinking about ‘straights’ is also a product of the general, straight, and conventional stereotypes.

ang bobo. hindi naman kaya siya mukhang tough. minsan nga sa show niya, naglaro siya ng basketball. girly kung maka dribble. tough ba yun? hehe

momo at Nov 30, 09 at 3:46 pm
@ #65 – Yeah, you’re right, he’s just showing what a perfect camouflaging is. Lol!!!

And, “it takes one to know one!”

Perfect depense ang “katarayan” para iwas ang sino man na siya’y pagbintangan!

Nakuuuu, wag na nga pag-usapan iyang si tulfo, umaamoy name niya dahil pinag-uusapan natin!

tuklaw at Dec 1, 09 at 3:38 pm
oh well, he has conflicting opinions for one. how could he say that sexuality should not be an issue in politics when he goes sermoning about how we PLUs be thankful for a tolerating society! this society does not tolerate us fully, which is mainly the reason why most of the PLUs like me are still hidden in the closets.

papakarl at Dec 2, 09 at 9:15 am
who is he anyway?… it is lucky he is not running coz we dont need in our society someone who is not gender sensitive…he should struck by lightning first then the commisioner…well… he only knows how to comment but actually those didnt materialize to himself personally…dont listen to him….ISA SYANG TAENG TUBOL!!! i-flush na yan sa inodoro!!!!

mojojojo at Dec 3, 09 at 8:30 am
fact is, legit ang concerns ng ANG LADLAD partylist.

kahit na may mga arguments around the contention that we should never differentiate ourselves from the rest of the mainstream society – meaning, the straights – if we are to push for equality, fact is, there are several localised concerns and grievances na collectively na naeexperience ng mga conventionally rejected people sa macho society natin, ie, PLUs.

halimbawa nalang, kahit na may mga laws na dapat tumutugon sa usapang diskriminasyon sa workplace, eating establishments, and what-not, ay patuloy pa din ang pangkukutya at pagdidiscriminate against sa atin. may mga restaurants na hindi nagpapapasok ng mga cross-dressers, may mga bading na ginagawan ng mga nakakademean na video kapag naoospital (think canister scandal), may mga bading na nadidiscriminate sa workplace, etcetera etcetera.

fact is, kahit na napakasarap isiping tayo ay kumakawala na sa kultura ng machismo sa bansa natin, at (tayo ay) liberalising na kuno, ay repulsive pa din ang status quo, at ang consensual majority sa mga gains towards sexual liberation.

kung ang mga inutil na mga organisasyong tulad ng butil, etcetera etcetera, na halata namang front lang ng mga messianic religious groups na nais humakot ng political leverage sa pilipinas (kahit na halata namang walang klarong advocacy) ay pinagbibigyan ng comelec ng pagkakataong sumali sa party list race, bakit hindi Ang Ladlad?

mas halata at mas progresibo ang maibibigay ng Ang Ladlad sa pagmamature ng antas ng pulitika sa bansa natin, di hamak, lalo na sa pagbabasag ng mito na ang mga straights lang ang may karapatang humulma ng tadhana nating lahat — at dapat di tayo tumigil sa pagsusulong nito.

hindi tayo mga aswang na kailang i-exorcise, at lalong hindi tayo mga masasamang ehemplo sa mga kabataan. kabaliktaran ang propagandang kanilang isinusulong at bilang mga mulat na mga mamamayan, dapat nating ipagpatuloy ang laban ng Ang Ladlad — sapagkat simula pa lamang ito ng mas mahaba, mas komprehensibo, at mas makabuluhang pakikibaka laban sa mga elementong tulad ni tulfo, ni commisioner, at mga mamayang tulad nila, na pilit nagbubulag bulagan sa mga lehitimung isyung ito.

momo at Dec 3, 09 at 4:40 pm
One of Ramon Tulfo’s sons is obviously very gay. Check it out.

barachiel at Dec 4, 09 at 12:46 am
how infuriating.. it sounded like we should be grateful that we are ‘tolerated’. he said it already its our right NOT a privilege.

JD at Dec 6, 09 at 1:49 am
I don’t wan’t to be in a society who thinks that I’m not normal. That I’m a walking disease.

To the homosexuals who think that we are in any way abnormal (Yes, I’m talking to you #35). You can’t agree to people who think you’re a disease! You just can’t let people treat you like crap! This is why fighting for our right to coexist leads to nowhere, because of people like you!!! Please, it’s 2009… wake-up people! Get out of your closets!

So what if gays are going to marry?! It’s not gonna ruin your life…it’s not like war is going to happen. It’s not going to ruin the country!

Fight for your right! I dare you to do so!

popsyturvee at Dec 12, 09 at 9:34 am
Well, quite obviously he’s talking from his “straight” egoistic, homophobic point of view. He’s just stating his opinion as we do ours in this post. Whether we agree on this or not, there will always be the pro side and the con side. Whether gay marriage got legalized or not, it still won’t be backed up 100%.

Pride might be considered one of the 7 deadly sins, but has anyone never ever went through this one? I must admit that once, I was one of those who thinks\ that if someone’s gay, at all cost you should hide it in order for you not to be the freak of the society we all live in. Then I realized that, a life in denial is a living torture. So is it a sin to fight for something that means your life to you? Is it a sin to fight for something that should be equal and open to everyone?

And another thing…I have to agree with #62 on #35′s comment. the very thought of yourself, agreeing to something that go against what your whole being is all about, I guess that’s the disease you should fight against… Marriage, no matter how you put it, is a symbol of unity and oneness. In the Catholic context, the sanctity of marriage means fidelity, trust, making a healthy and loving family. But all of these, we should all strive to have, no matter how different the setup of a family to another. Gay or Straight, there’s always the chance of destruction of one’s union. That’s why when you’re in a marriage, no matter what it takes, you’re put responsible for whatever’s gonna happen. It is after all a risk that you have a choice to take or not.

To Mr. Tulfo, it is not just the tolerance we are aiming for sir. More than anything, it is respect. Secondly, equality. We’d rather talk about our kind of relationships than all the violence and foul mouth that you were known for. I guess it is more important for you to understand, which I don’t think even in a million years you would ever do, that our kind of people have had our own struggles to be accepted in a society that rejected us long before. You have to be one, to know one, and understand one. Thanks to you though for writing such a commentary for this article of yours makes the other closeted ones and to those who’re almost petrified to speak up to make their first move towards the person who they’re meant to be.

yeoj at Dec 15, 09 at 8:17 am
ako proud to be gay but im not infavor of having LADLAD to represent us in congress dahil matagal ng tanggap sa komunidad ang mga joklas, imagine pati pag rereyna elena na dapat ay exclusive for girls lang dahil its a religious tradition pero kinarir parin ng mga sangkabaklaan at sa tingin nyo dipa ba sapat na basehan yan na tanggap na tayo ng constituents naten. charing lang ni lola remoto ang ladlad in congress, way lang nya yan para makakuha ng malaking pork barrel sa congress, jusko imagine kung sakaling makapasok ang LADLAD sa congress, winner ang lola remoto dahil ang daming datung na pambayad ng mga boylets, gagamitin lang nya ang pera sa pagbabayad ng boys, magkaka sore-throat ang lola sa kaka hitit ng yosi boys haahahaha. magsitigil na tayo sa kaartehan naten dahil di naman tayo dinidiskriminate ng constituents naten infact tayong mga joklas ang umaabuso sa community, imagine isang jokla, bugaw, prosti, tulak sa droga, nang abuso ng menor de edad etc….. gumawa nalang tayo ng mga bagay bagay na makakatulong sa community natin kesa makipag balitaktakan pa sa ladlad bruhahahahah na yan. GAGAMITIN LANG NI MISS. REMOTO ANG PORK BARREL NA PAMBAYAD SA BOYLETS NYA AT SA LAKI NG PORK BARREL MAGKAKA SORE-THROAT SYA KAKA-KAIN NG HOTDOG.

dick at Dec 19, 09 at 12:15 pm
First, we don’t “go around town” proclaiming our preferences as if they were a badge of honor. We live. Next, homosexuality is an IDENTITY. Not only our preferences define us. Third, we’re capable of living in deep commitment, loyalty, and fidelity with our partners just as you are with your wife. To say then that there’s nothing honorable or normal about same sex marriage or union is an insult. Fourth, we’re not “abusing” the doting attitude of the society toward us; we’re taking it as an opportunity to enjoy our rights and to educate those who are mis-educated about us. Finally, we DESERVE acceptance, not only tolerance.

Cris at Dec 26, 09 at 1:27 am
gender is not an issue in politics? i remember once in an early year 2000, there was an official (a mayor or sort of) in a town or a city in the philippines who discriminates gays. he once ordered one gay person to be imprisoned in a mausoleum of their cemetery. his reason why he’s not allowing gays in his domain, it’s because of a past experience, he was molested by gays when he was young. this was reported long ago in TV Patrol.
with this kind of issue, Ladlad could be of help.

Anakaris at Dec 26, 09 at 2:57 pm
Mon Tulfo is Mon Tulfo. He thinks morality as a one-way traffic. No more, no less. Let him stay that way. Why waste your time on people, their views, that are no longer sync(ed) to the down-to-earth reality. Happy New Year!

Luvkou at Dec 26, 09 at 5:16 pm