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Hi migs! Happy 2010 nga pala! With that being said, I wish you, and your avid readers a prosperous 2010 ahead. Maraming beses kong pinag-isipan ang pagsulat ko sayo dahil baka isipin ng iba na wala namang kwenta ang problema ko. I know for one that it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to answer my questions. Pero I also believe na sometimes we still ask the questions to the answers we already know, because I think in reality, those are the answers hard for us to bare in ourselves. Anyways, simple lang naman talaga ang problema ko. Gusto ko lang din malaman kung meron bang ibang mga gay o bisexual ang gumagawa ng ginagawa ko.. ( eto na yun! lol. )

I travel a lot everyday, kasi I live almost a couple of hours away from our school, which is in the city. Minsan ginagabi na ako sa pag-uwi, minsan late na talaga, o kaya naman madaling araw lalo na kung galing sa inuman with friends sa city. Ang problema ko is nagkakaroon ako ng lakas ng loob na makipagkilala sa mga strangers na nakakasalubong ko on my way home. Basta medyo type ko ang guy, at wala syang kasamang iba, lalo na pag wala nang tao sa paligid, kinikilala ko agad sya at inaaya na mag-sex kami. Gustong gusto ko siyang gawin dahil sa excitement na nararamdaman ko. Pero kapag nakaraos na ako at nawala na ang libog ko, nanliliit ako. Naiisip ko kung gaano ako ka dumi dahil sa ginagawa ko. Hindi naman talaga natutuloy sa sex ang pakikigpakilala ko, madalas nauuwi ito sa pagjajakol ko in public places na tago. Bilang na bilang lang din talaga ang encounters ko with those people na nakilala ko na nauuwi sa hipoan lang. Ang gusto ko lang malaman kong ginagawa din ba ito nga ibang PLUs. Normal ba to sa mga taong katulad natin? OK lang ba talaga ang mag-CRUISE para makakilala ng lalaking mapagbubuntunan ng libog? Sana po malaman ko ang opinyon ng ibang PLUs sa situation kong ito. I would really appreciate any attention given to my concern. SALAMAT PO TALAGA! God bless you always. From Cebu Wanderer

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Dear Cebu Wanderer,

Sigurado maraming opinyon ang mababasa mo bilang comments sa liham mong ito; kahit pa karamihan sa mga magbibigay ng kanilang opinyon ay mga PLU rin tulad natin, sigurado ako, iba’t iba ang opinyon nila. May mga sang-ayon, meron din kontra. May okay lang, di mo matanto kung ano ba talaga ang stand nila. Pero ang suma total, siguradong walang iisang sagot sa katanungan mong “Okay lang ba ang cruising?”

I’m sure you yourself asked the same question to yourself. And perhaps you’re confused, kaya napag-isipan mong magtanong. Kung ang pagbabasehan mo ng sagot ay iyong dami ng tatango sa iyo, hmmm… ito ba ay isang popularity contest? Kapag ba ang isang bagay ay popular (tinatanguan ng karamihan) ang ibig bang sabihin ay tama ito?

Ang punto ko lang, ukol sa katanungan mo, ay ganito. Ito ay isa sa mga katanungang mas mainam na ikaw ang sumagot at may pansarili kang paninindigan. Siguro makakatulong sa iyong pagsagot ay ang pagtatanong ng iba pang katanungan tulad ng:

Masaya ba ako pag nagcu-cruise ako? Safe ba ako?
Ano ba talaga ang hanap ko sa pagcu-cruise?
Ano ba ang iba pang paraan na makukuha ko ang hinahanap kong bagay sa pagcu-cruise?

Pag-isipan mo ang mga tanong na iyan. Pero, gusto ko rin sanang bigyan ka ng kung ano ang naiisip ko. Nasabi mo na ang pagcu-cruise para sa iyo ay para makahanap ng lalakeng mapagbubuntunan ng libog. Walang masama sa pagiging malibog. Ano naman ang kaso kung talagang active ang hormones mo, kung malakas ang sexual drive mo? Okay lang yun. Wala ka namang inaabala o inaagrabyado di ba? Pero may nasabi ka rin na pagkatapos ng inyong sexual encounter ay pakiramdam mo, nanliliit ka. Tipo bang may halong hiya sa sarili. Pakiramdam mo ba ay madumi ang sex? Madumi ang pakikipag-sex sa isang taong di gaanong kakilala? O dahil sa kapwa lalake ito?

Sana mas malinawan ka kung saan nanggagaling yung “shame” o guilt feelings mo. Normal na maramdaman yan, pero mas mabuti kung naiintindihan mo upang mas malaman mo kung mayroon ka bang dapat gawin, baguhin, o i-adjust sa iyong ginagawa, o sa iyong paniniwala.

Salamat sa iyong sulat, Cebu Wanderer. I wish you clarity and strength of character.

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Comments (61)

  1. mp said on 17-11-2010

    i am not so into cruising and i don’t look down to anyone who’s hard on it because i know that i myself is capable of falling into such things- like hormones ravaging into haywire, especially i’m just a teenager. however, whenever i get to experience situations like yours (bumping into cute guys and feeling like having to get their number, or border extremity by going straight to the point that you actually want to screw them or be screwed) i just think of one thing to tamper my tendencies- that we, as persons, are different from animals. this is because we are rational, we have will and intellect. what does this mean? this only means that as persons, we have the innate capacity to fall into temptations, BUT, we also have the built-in power to control our sexual urge.
    i think, one of the reasons why you feel sad or depressed after doing it is because you degraded the kind of being you are. you are a person, but, as you venture into such things, you think less as a rational being and rely on your tendencies. the problem with this is that you end up being used or using somebody. note that only things are supposed to be used, not persons, who are supposed to be loved.
    nothing beats a sexual experience with at least, some taste of love.

  2. geek-o said on 08-07-2010

    like ko yung sinabi ni tito migs, “okay lang kung active tlaga ang hormones mo”, hindi namin natin pwede na icastrate ka, lol.

    just be safe, sexual promiscutiy could lead to lot of awful problems STD included, so better bring a rubber with you everywhere you go para kung mapalaban, e go lang, lol

  3. Piolo said on 20-02-2010

    Cruising is not a good thing to do if you are committed to someone. Unfair sa kanya. Sobrang unfair.

  4. John said on 14-02-2010

    I am new in Manila. Where do you go to meet discreet people aside from bathhouses. Are their any bars, coffee shop. I am kind of hesitant to go to bathhouses as they are located in unpleasant neighborhood.

  5. dynonel said on 08-02-2010

    i love cruising, ngayon ko lang nalaman na yun pala ang term para dun sa mga acts na yun. hehe

    naliwanagan ako dito ah. i thought ako lang ang na aadik sa ganito. i find a different me when i cruise, or bitch around. ganun lang eh, although not really crusing for sex. mga pa libog libog lang naman. but then in the end, pag nawala na ang libog, nawawala talaga ang heat of emotions. i begin to set back and feel reality… so i think i should in a way take control.

    salamat dito, super saya! atleast di ako nag iisa. yuhooo!

  6. Luvkou said on 03-02-2010

    Conrad and the rest, I was once in such a difficult situation too in a different setting. A cousin was migrating to the US and was invited to a party which was more of drinking. To avoid getting too much too soon, I went around Cubao area. But found a young, very handsome guy, so friendly that I was not able to resist getting into his trap. Of course no signs of bad things coming around. We drank a few bottles of beer in a Chinese restaurant until 7:30 PM. I was a heavy drinker then so I never expected sooner to get tipsy. I surmised some addictive was mixed in my drinks. Only to realize after being awakened by the driver, I was already bound alone as a passenger at dawn to Muntinglupa.
    To my total dismay, I lost everything, wallet, some pieces of jewelry and a watch I saved a lot for while in France, including some amount placed in both my socks
    I was practically left for dead. Fortunately, a friend driver, very often a drinking partner, saw, took pity and brought me home. It took me weeks to overcome the effects of the drug.
    Looking back, I have no one to thank but Him. Why I am here is a lease of life.
    That was my very few cruising experiences, very disastrous, humiliating as such. I am sharing this to everyone to underline the fact that life has a deeper meaning. And we should do well to pursue more for goodness sake in thoughts, inwords and in deeds.

  7. Luvkou said on 03-02-2010

    Helios, don’t take matters against yourself. I appreciate very much your humility, admission of something taken at face value.
    The inner self to me is the message and stuff of all what each of us is doing or about to do particulalrly us, PLUs.
    Again, it boils down to discreetness and, along side, decency.
    Let us not go down to a level that we will continue to appear and be taken as second class human beings. Uphold our own tribe.
    Let’s start a movement for a better us – for a different and more understanding and human rights conscious environment – not only in thoughts but most important our words and actions..
    Cruising is but one manifestation of any thing going wrong to others. Or to us , a normal process if done with certain degree of serious concern to provide ourselves, our ego, a way out in harder times (lust), to our families and friends and the community we are part of.
    Remember, no man is an island!

  8. ric said on 02-02-2010

    @conrad, its true, lam mo ba naranasan ko na yan same story with james, wayback 1999, nasa kadalagahan pa ako nun, may pinick up ako in sa may morning breez-mcu, tapos nagpunta kami sa may malapit sa araneta university, kaloka, ayun after sex, hol up pala, bigla na lang me sinakal, tapos tinira lang sa akin is brief and short! hay, uwi talaga ako nangingig, takbo ako, naku pagdating ko sa house, yung mother ko galing pa sa province, sinurprize ako,, ay naku sila ang an surpize, pag uwi ko naka short lang ako, bigla na lang akong napayakap sa mother ko, at umiyak, di na lang nila tinanung kung anung nagyari sa akin! ngayon sa abroad na me, tama, darating din yung araw na amgsasawa ka sa ganyan…

  9. indeed said on 02-02-2010

    dont be guilt as long as msaya k at gnusto ng partner mo ok lang, like you, mdami rin aq kranasan dyan, s LRT, MRT public toilet, movie houses, mall at kng saan saan. pero tama cla n drating din ung time magsasawa k s ganun o mgiging matured enough k sumday. basta do it safely and pkiramdaman mo muna ung prospect mo b4 u continue to ur business.

  10. helios said on 01-02-2010

    @Luvkuo: I sincerely apologize if I did find your 1st comment here quite difficult to understand and gave it a laugh. I read it again and I turned out to be the idiot here. In truth, you made use of a syntax which is quite complex, and after going through your entry thoroughly, your thought made perfect sense. It greatly reminds me of reading JRR Tolkien but in a less dramatic and more relevant context. 🙂

  11. Luvkou said on 31-01-2010

    Thanks Kiro! I might have been overwhelmed by the issue at bar as I tried to provide in context my experiences. If you’ve been following up my comments, I always wanted to share the message of discreetness and, above all, a certain degree of decency. PLUs, Bis, Heteros, straights are no different from one another as far as human rights are concerned. But what makes us totally different is the stigma inflicted on us by society. We continue to look for a space where we can openly express our feelings and for that matter, get rid of the urge when it attacks our system. That is what cruising is all about. Practically, some especially self-proclaimed straights, as also masseurs and similarly emotionally situated people like us, are prone to look at cruising as an outlet. But we should be aware that more and more people are likewise taking advantage of our situation. Be careful …again… my advocacy for discreetness and maintaining a degree of decency so that others will get the message that PLUs can also uphold their human rights concerns.

  12. auxis64 said on 31-01-2010

    Kung walang homophobia, walang cruising. Gays will be able to look for partners freely like heteros. But, this is not a reason for gays to endanger themselves. My dear PLU’s, for our education, let’s read more about homophobia. It is not only hatred of the society for gays but more importantly, internal homophobia is the gays hatred of himself which society has imposed on him even while he was still young. And this self hatred leads to acting out, which in endangering yourself at the expense of safety. So, okay lang ba ang cruising? Pag-isipan mo. Ikabubuti mo ba ito bilang bakla? Gawin mo. Walang ibang mag rerespeto sa iyo kung hindi mo sisimulan sa sarili mo.

  13. - Conrad - said on 31-01-2010

    Di ko alam kung tama ang i-aadvise ko sau, kaya idaan ko nalang sa kwento…

    2006, nagboboard ako sa Cubao kasama ng kaibigan kong si James. Every weekends, umuuwi si James sa Bulacan, while ako, pumupunta sa tita ko sa Mandaluyong.

    One night, pauwi si James sa Bulacan, may nakita syang cute na lalake. Nakipagkilala at naghanap ng place para mag-sex. sa isang madilim na lugar sa may malapit sa bhaus namin sila nakakuha. Ayun, nagsex sila,…

    Nung makaraos yung guy, bumunot ng icepick, tinutok sa lalamunan ni James at nagdeklara ng Holdap.. Tinangay lahat ng pera ni james, pati damit at sapatos nya..iniwan lang sa kanya, brief at socks.. Ang kawawang James, hinintay hanggang madaling araw para lang makauwi sa bhaus…

    It’s a good thing na inde rin ako pumunta sa Tita ko that time para gumimick kasama ng mga opismeyts ko.. around 4am, nadatnan ko si James nasa pinto ng bhaus namin, nanginginig sa lamig at umiiyak sa nerbyos…

    Hope you Learn from his mistake..

  14. Winterking said on 30-01-2010

    AY. careful careful… AIDS is just a around the corner.

  15. Philip said on 30-01-2010

    i agree with maccallister.
    though to some siguro its all fun and junk pero think about it..
    strangers ung nakakaengage m sa ganung act, and you really trust them with yourself as a whole?
    i know it may spund cheesy pero you have dignity right?
    isn’nt it much more rewarding if you spend that act with the one oyu(cheesy part ahead) love?
    sa isa pang perspective, kung hanap mo lang sa cruising eh ung pagpaparaos ng libog mo at hindi nmn tlga to know a person, then hell, anong tingin mo satin???? parausan lang????

  16. helios said on 30-01-2010

    What are you doing here, Candy? If you are homophobic then bakit ka naligaw sa http://www.manilagayguy.com? Para lang ba manlait?

  17. Candy said on 29-01-2010

    yucks.. kadiri yung picture.. nakakasuka…

  18. Warwick Avenue said on 27-01-2010

    ..hmm… kakuyaw ana gud.. bsta amping lng jud… ug dili palabi…

  19. maccallister said on 27-01-2010

    maghanap ka nalang ng FUBU mo or friend with benefits mas safe pa yun at anytime pwde kayo magkamot ng mga kati sa katawan LOL

    what ur doin is careless and scary,baka one time makatagpo ka ng psycho or sadista mahirap na

  20. dom13 said on 26-01-2010

    galing talga ni Migs! Very well said! hahahaha!

  21. etof said on 23-01-2010

    cruising is chaleging but also is risky. what important i guess is that when you felt guilt after doing it. Meaning you have chance to change for good. Don’t worry, everybody sins. So long you’re sorry about you’re misdeeds God will surely understand and forgive you. Just keep discerning and be repentant as i do. Have a nice day to all.

  22. leween said on 23-01-2010

    i used to that pero ako ang nagpapagamit sa kanila, pero,,, ang gusto ko lang gumamit sakin ay mga discreet. mas na eenjoy ako kung nakikita ko sila na lalaking lalaki tapos gnagawa nila sakin un until the time na nagsawa na rin ako, nakaka guilty. after ng sexual act nandidiri ka sa partner mo at lalo na sa sarili mo. i used to hang out lang namn sa mga first class na movie houses before hindi sa kung saan saan. time will come mr cebu wanderer na magsasawa ka din pag di na magkasya ang guilt feelings sa kaluluwa mo. good luck.

  23. Julio said on 23-01-2010

    siguro ganun talaga …no wonder don halos lahat nag start…cruise cruise… like sa mga spa spa…gym gym…

    http://www.greenbodytalk.com/forums/gay-talk-discussion-b166.0/

  24. pablo said on 23-01-2010

    ok ra na…
    ayaw lang palabi.
    Daghan rba mga maldito sad ana. They will get your stuff. Be extra careful. Excitement is a spice of life.
    That’s absolutely fine.
    Ayaw lang padjakol sa public uy, ngilo.bwahahhaa…

    And be safe.
    You do it with strangers (and that’s absolutely fine since majority are doing it). Be REALLY safe: protection and all. Okay kiddo?

  25. zaldy said on 22-01-2010

    i believe many of us PLUs go through different phases in our lives as a result of trying to find ourselves . After all one coming to terms with being gay is traumatic in itself. The excitement and danger of cruising is one of those phases. Heck even straight people do it. Just be careful you don’t get yourself into any dangerous situations – and don’t put anyone at risk as well

  26. pacer150 said on 22-01-2010

    thanks shut up..ewan ko ba dyan kay judas, nag comment lang naman ako ng first tapos nag apologize ako na 2nd na pala eh nagreact..i’m alwasy trying to be cool..in fact i sometimes describe myself as a pacifist =)..sorry po 😉

  27. Aliping Sagigilid said on 22-01-2010

    Ang worry ko lang, baka biglang holdaper or mandurukot ang matapatan mo. Kaya ingat na lang!

  28. Shut-up! said on 22-01-2010

    Ming: I know what you’re talkin about,…actually I’ve been there.hahaha….but I stopped na din..I messed up once and can’t afford for another!….

    —-and hey guys (judas & pacer150)…take it easy!
    remember the World Peace? ….keep a cool head.!:)

  29. pacer150 said on 22-01-2010

    @ judas: si migz nga hindi ako pinapaalis ikaw pa kaya? hudas ka talaga..wala kang pakialam kung ano gusto ko isulat at wala rin ako pakialam kung ano gusto mo isulat ano..nakiki comment ka rin lang…at bakit? sugurado ka ba na normal ka?

  30. Kiro said on 22-01-2010

    Na lost ako sa comment ni Luvkou but I’m sure he meant well. I think promiscuity is part of our nature. Cruising gives excitement but after everything there’s that feeling of emptiness and loneliness. I would say focus on meeting new friends in the right places and the possibilty of finding real love and life partner. God bless.

  31. Luvkou said on 22-01-2010

    Perfect that my comments ellicited some negative reactions… love it!

  32. konrad said on 22-01-2010

    taga-Cebu ka?… hehe.. I was addicted with cruising before, I met my xbf nga dahil sa cruising… hehe… I eventually got unhooked with it when I had by bf before, kasi I promised to myself na di na ako magcruising… it worked naman… for awhile… hehe… siguro dala ng libog and siguro rin dahil gusto mong makawala sa “normal” na buhay parang adventure… yon yong rason bakit pabalik-balik ako (pero hndi na frequent) sa cruising kahit committed na ako. Siguro ang ipapayo kalang is to be safe… I know some of my friends na nagkasakit dahil sa papalit-palit ng sexual partner… I heard stories rin hinoldap… basta be safe always…

  33. axe said on 22-01-2010

    Ako naman since closet queen ako, i have a lot of experience with regards to cruising, infact sa dami nila ay diko na mabilang mostly ay sa malls at bars ko sila nakikilala, most of them are closet din kaya its a no big deal for me. Di ako nagmamalinis dahil para sa akin mas challenging ang cruising. Sa dami ng pekeng pangalan na ginamit ko to protect my identity kapag may nakikilala ako along the way ay natatawa nalang ako sa kagagahan ko dahil minsan nakakasalubong ko lang sila sa kung saan-saan hahahaahha. Ang latest nga ay yung naka one night stand ko 2 weeks ago, sabi ko call center agent ako, pero wagka dahil pareho kaming nagulat ng magkabukingan na kaming dalawa. Pareho pala kaming nasa legal etits lols…. hahaha at ang nakakatawa pa ay sa iisang court room pa kami nagkita, nagkagulatan man ay naging professional naman kami sa isat-isa as if walang intimate na nangyari sa amin. Alam nyo naman siguro ang drama ng mga pamachohan.

  34. tongueburner said on 22-01-2010

    happy ang cruising, just bring an emergency kit palagi (condoms + lubes) haha… although to be honest it’s not just about lust, but partly vanity. it feels exhilarating to be found ‘physically’ attractive that someone agrees to do you, even if he doesn’t know you personality-wise. (mag-agree kayo, kung medyo chaka or fatty wala masyadong sex life unless with his boyfriend haha) so well, ego boost lang din; just to enlighten other people about the other motivations behind cruising.

  35. AHA said on 22-01-2010

    Natural lang yan nasa stage ka na malakas ang libido mo. Siguro nasa age 18 to 40 ka. Pero ingat kasi nakaka adik yan. The more you tolerate yourself, the more na maghahanap pa ng mas intense na activity kasi feeling mo di ka na nasatisfy sa dati. kailangan mas gwapo, mas exciting. After every encounter, feeling of guilt and emptiness is there. Palaging may kulang. Kasi di mo naman pagaari yung ginamit mo. Lumilipas lang. Parang bula. Para kang nymphomaniac. Walang kapaguran. Walang satisfaction. Until you reach 40 ayan, unti unti mong marealize na hindi ka na bata. Na meron ka nang hinahanap maliban sa sex. You begin to search until you find na flings, and sexual fantasies are passing moments. You will start to develop fear, uncertainty. Maghahanap ka ng kakampi, ibang opinyon, until you find yourself searching for the truth. Something that nourishes your soul and spiritual being. And finally you will find God which is your ultimate joy. Whenever you are receptive to his call, you will find out na hindi pa huli. AMEN

  36. pot said on 21-01-2010

    Mag-ingat ka. although current statistics show na mababa pa ang incidence ng AIDS sa pinas, well, hindi na yun ang current…. mabagal pa kasi ang updating ng cases sa san lazaro. Pero mind you, sa san lazaro alone, tumaas na dramatically yung incidence ng AIDS per month…. i can’t give you the figures but trust me on this…

  37. helios said on 21-01-2010

    @tom cat: LOL. Ako rin walang naintindihan kay luvkuo. Nahilo ako sa kanya.

    @Cebu Wanderer: Pang-ilan na ako sa magsasabi nito pero uulitin ko pa rin para di mo makalimutan. Minsan may mga bagay na hindi mapipigilan ng marami sa atin (gay or straight man yan). And if you have to do what you have to do, Mag-INGAT. I know there’ll come a time na magsasawa ka rin.

  38. roel said on 21-01-2010

    just be safe( in every sense of the word)

  39. ram said on 21-01-2010

    kapatid, just be safe. condoms and everything.

  40. judas said on 21-01-2010

    @pacer150: abnormal ka. posting “first” is very immature. alis!

  41. hikki said on 21-01-2010

    1. keep/play safe… for sure no AIDS right?

    2. hmm… ano ba ang interest/hobbies mo? do it na lang para malihis ung sexual activities mo. Honestly, I am sexually active ei haha… para hindi ko lage gawin yun pinagtutuunan ko ng pansin yung interest ko like sketching, cooking blah blah… hobbies like skating or travel around mag muni-muni or mag shopping with friends or hang-out. Iwas tag-libog haha. xenxa na!

    3. “bonding moments” with your family or friends

    4. so u’r still studying pala? hmm… study first haha lumang palaka na haha

    thats all!

  42. tom cat said on 20-01-2010

    yong advice ni luvkuo ang haba pero wala akong naintindihan….hehehe

  43. MaXX said on 20-01-2010

    I think cruising is dangerous since you really dont know the person whom you gonnna do it with. Just be safe and maybe limit the places that you cruise. Bring a condom with you always!

  44. promdiboy said on 20-01-2010

    hhmmmm….parang gusto ko rin gawin yan nuon pa. pero natatakot ako.. baka saksakin ako bigla..hahahahaha! ingat lang pare.

  45. jeff said on 20-01-2010

    well tingin ko panget kasi you’re risking your life. siguro if eyeball ok pa but to have sex with a complete stranger??????? nako baka serial killer ang sunod na makilala mo… ingat lang.

  46. Jasper Cortez said on 20-01-2010

    Lantad ka ba sa pamilya mo at mga kaibigan bilang gay? Kung hindi, maaaring yong kinikimkim mong berdeng dugo ang nagbibigay sayo ng lakas ng loob na maging daring sa mga sexcapades mo with strangers. Dahil kung lantad ka, may chance ka na magkaroon ng isang hayag na relationship that could tame down your sexual urges. Kung lantad ka na nga pero promiscuous ka pa rin, ibig sabihin nun sex maniac ka lang talaga! You’ll be in big trouble eventually.

  47. Luvkou said on 20-01-2010

    For most PLUs, cruising has been and will remain part of the “knowing thyself” stage.
    I don’t fully support the notion that doing it in the safe way is an excuse. I tend somehow to support the view that guilt is more of a concern. But why has one to feel guilty if he knows very well who he is in the first place.
    Libog or allow me to use the word “lust” is also a spur of the moment. I am reminded of friends especially the straight ones, gays friends were most of them though, who usually banter around that taking a bath, once or twice, or more could be a better way of lowering one’s urge.
    On my part, I tended to have learned keenly my libido cycle. And that it comes towards last week of each month. Thus, to avoid these “unholy” practices as others dare to confuse who they are, provides me time to get rid or to avoid or minimize getting into the whole process over and over.
    Honestly, I have been to the same stage. And the heck of it ended quite early.
    Perhaps, it was really a good thing that I got some relationships that were longer than I could imagine. And that really prevented me from an extended cruising period.
    If it can’t be helped, search and be sure of yourself first. Be discreet in some ways and have a sense of decency especially in doing this openly. Well, spas are likewise a fad for sometime now. And it is acceptable particulalrly the legitimate ones.
    Gay bars are also an option. But whether you like it or not, there are risks as well. Also, I don’t go for married people or teenage fathers. Thus, an standard that limits or dampens the urge.
    In short, try to make yourself at ease in ways that don’t hurt other parties, including your family if members haven’t yet openly accepted who you are. In the case of friends, true and genuine friends will stick it out with you through thick and thin. Get those onion-skinned ones waylaid in your quest for happiness. They don’t deserve to be counted as real friends. That is my simple way of looking at things.

  48. ming said on 20-01-2010

    cruising sa cebu? hehe, baka suki ka na sa 4th floor ng mango square mall. 🙂

  49. guyrony said on 20-01-2010

    Cruising? It’s a natural thing to do, it’s an instinct. It’s a need but it will fade, in due time. Don’t worry, we do it most of the time. It’s exciting and thrilling.

  50. goofck said on 20-01-2010

    ingat lng kapatid..

  51. dockie said on 20-01-2010

    I have been cruising cinemas, bath houses and searching for hook ups in the internet for many years now. I haven’t tried doing it in the streets though. Nakakatakot! Yung libog, lumilipas din yan sa pagdaan ng panahon and we learn our lessons from experiences. Just keep it safe.

  52. Cruiser Dude said on 20-01-2010

    I seldom comment on MGG, but I’d love to visit this site and maki connect sa mundong kinagagalawan ng mga kapatid. Subalit sa isyung kinakahap ni Cebu Wanderer ay dinaanan na rin ng mga kagaya natin. I am super discreet guy at minsanan na sinubukan ko na rin ang bagay na ito, just for the thrill of trying everytime I am in the Philippines for vacation dahil sa workplace ko, wala akong time for this.

    Mr. Cebu Wanderer, unang punto ay ang guilt feeling na nararamdaman mo after doing this. Dahil konsyensya, nanliliit ka afterwards. Hindi ka masaya na gawin ito, honestly, libog ang nauuna sa iyo natural at thrill of doing this. Dahil kung wala kang guilt feelings okay lang pero hindi ito ang talagang gusto mo dude. Pangalawa, for safety reasons – kung hindi mo kilala ang guy, di mo alam kung may sakit yun at sa saglit na happiness mo later eh magkasakit ka, di ba’t pagsisisi lamang ang mangyayari? and for another safety reasons, paano kung saktan ka ng guy, holdapin at mapatay ka. Is it still worth doing it?

    Darating din ang time na magsasawa ka sa mga bagay na ito at makikita mo rin ang tunay mong interes sa buhay. Keep it up. Ingat lang lagi dahil mas precious ang buhay kesa libog ng katawan.

  53. RICHTER said on 20-01-2010

    its either you’ll get a dreadful disease , public humiliation or worst case scenario…. murder!!!

  54. Shut-up! said on 20-01-2010

    -> mayi: PLU (people like us)!

    …Sender: It’s ok,….nowadays your situation is not a big thing any longer….advice lang siguro as much as possible always keep your guards up! 🙂

  55. Broken_Heart said on 20-01-2010

    What you’re doing is normal. You are just gutsier, braver, bolder. We all do it…. most of us just do it online. But if we think about, its all the same. Search and hook-up.

  56. MrCens said on 20-01-2010

    ilang taon na ba si letter sender?

    dumaan din ako dyan, kahit na nahold-up na ay di pa rin ako natigil: sa sinehan, sa toilet, sa eskinita, sa park. pero eventually, napagod rin.

    dapat mong isipin yung seguridad mo, hindi lang sa kutsilyong itutok sau kapag may gusto syang kunin pati na rin sa sakit na maaari mong makuha. at panghuli, wag mong sobrahan ang sex life mo dahil baka di ka na aabutin ng 30 at aayawan ka na ng partner mo dahil wala ka ng ibubuga.

  57. mayi said on 20-01-2010

    anu ung PLU? 😀

  58. pacer150 said on 20-01-2010

    2nd na pala ako may nauna na..apologies lol

  59. keeiko said on 20-01-2010

    basta hindi ka namimilit… at malayo sa form ng sexual harrasment ang ginagawa mo, i think it’s ok…

  60. pacer150 said on 20-01-2010

    i am the first to comment..migs is right, you will get different opinions..merong honest at merong nagmamalinis..i seldom comment here but i thought, let me tell you what i think..una, masaya ka ba sa ginagawa mo? the fact na sinabi mo na may guilt feelings ka after, palagay ko hindi ka masaya..kung eto naman eh pansamantala lang, then ok rin lang basta ba safe..im sure the last thing you want to happen eh malaman mo na may sakit ka ng dahil lamang sa ilang minutong ligaya..i have done cruising once d2 sa abroad..mero ditong lugar na talagng known for that..park sya at old building…i was with my friends, natipuhan ko yung lalake kasi arab looking at balbon which is my weakness..pero alam mo yun na habang nakaluhod ako sa kanya eh maraning nanonood..i felt really small, nag apologize ako sa lalaki then i left..i asked my friends if we can leave the place..i thought hindi para sa akin yun..alam mo, 90% of gay guys are promiscous..tsaka karamihan eh gwapo ang hanap at malaki ang nota..i must admit na isa na ako dun pero ano nga ba ang kagwapuhan kasi iba’t iba naman tayo ng panlasa..since then, hindi na ako nag cruising..although loveless ako ngayon, naghahanap na lang ako ng potential bf na magiging partner ko for long term..iniisip ko as long as mahal namin ang isa’t isa, hindi na ako hahanap ng iba pang putahe..at the end of the day pag nilabasan ka, tapos na rin yung libog mo eh di sa mahal mo na lang..mas safe pa kung kayo lang talagang dalawa..nagyon mr cebu wanderer, tama si migs..wlanag ibang makaksagot ng tanong mo..yun lang 😉

  61. herbs said on 20-01-2010

    as long as you do it safe, its okay 🙂
    i think people should learn to spice up their life every once in a while.

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