I have this friend, hes’ a priest. And still is a priest.
Recently, he shared with me that on the day of his ordination, he had a boyfriend, a then-fellow seminarian. He continued to relate how they were, as lovers, and as brothers in the faith, as future leaders of their Catholic community, and as gay men loving each other. While many others may raise their eyebrows, I felt nothing but–how should I call it?–love for them.
Months after his ordination, the boyfriend just vanished, not literally, but he just disappeared from his life. Did not answer calls, no messages, no nothing. Perhaps the guy was thinking that since my friend has been ordained, it would serve them best not to continue on with their relationship. And maybe the guy is right. Now, my friend is a very good and upright priest. He knows he is gay, and he is open about it. He says he has been practicing his vows (most notably celibacy) and has not broken any of them since his ordination.
Gay, celibate, priest, and a good human being. Those words can mix in one sentence, as it can be in one person. I bless you, Father.