Archive for the ‘Love and Dating’ Category

Mar
21

Fabcast: The Heartbroken Letter Sender (Part 1)

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Twenty-seven-year-old guy sends a letter harping on his first foray into gay love, and it’s a letter of heartbreak. The Fabcasters and their peanut gallery attempt to analyze and cross-analyze Mr. Letter Sender’s situation, and as usual, blended with their nuggets of advice you can sense how the folks are there to enjoy themselves as well. So have fun listening!

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Jan
17

Holding Hands in Public

Love and Dating 88 comments

Two very butch (straight-acting, “walang bahid”) gay guys holding hands in public. Sa Starbucks ko kinunan ang dalawang napaka-sweet na couple. They are my friends Jay and Jojo (refer to the last Fabcast on “Gray Areas” for their love story). I’m interested to hear your thoughts about gay couples who are into public display of affection. What do you think?

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Jan
16

Love, my Love, he’s still out there.

Cute Boys, Love and Dating, Migs Speaks 21 comments

I can still feel, my Love, I can still feel. Those tears I just shed are proof that this heart of mine is still capable of loving. These past days I’ve been noticing how I was repeatedly telling myself that I’m exhausted. It’s as if every fiber of my beating heart is but a pulp of dry straw, and at any moment, will snap into powdery bits. Exhausted to the point of giving up on this quest for love.

Standing on the verge of hopelessness, that abyss not unfamiliar to a lot of people like us, I remind myself, Love, my Love, he’s still out there.

And suddenly, I thought, perhaps you, my Love, are exhausted too. Exhausted because for sure, for some time, you’ve also been looking for me. For sure, you are also getting impatient as the wait gets longer, and lonelier. Perhaps, you too, are standing on the same verge of hopelessness, worn out, contemplating on jumping over to that dark, damp abyss of jadedness.

No my Love, don’t. I am here. We just haven’t met yet. Or, maybe we have, but that we haven’t realized the Grand Destiny we’re meant to live, together, as life partners. But once we do, once you recognize it’s me, once I recognize it’s you, my Love, I shall lay your head on my lap. Tell you, before anything else, to rest and regain your strength. Recharge, and be at your very best. Because our journey together will be long, arduous, maybe even more exhausting, yet because I know we’re traveling together, it shall be, I promise to make it, well worth every little f*ckin’ waiting moment we spent looking for each other.

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Original text from a previous post. Photo by Ian Felix Alquiros.

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Jan
14

Falling in Love with a Straight Buddy

Letters, Love and Dating, Migs Speaks 36 comments

Hey Migs,

Writing you this letter was actually a decision I had to make. Not that it’s hard to do but maybe I just thought of asking for a little help from you.

My name is Robert and I have been an avid reader of your blog for a long time now. I found out about your blog while I was scanning a certain magazine. And from then on, I got interested in reading your articles. The reason why I’m writing you this letter it’s because I’m having this “difficulty”, a situation where I don’t know what to do. I have never talked to anybody about this yet and hopefully I could get some piece of opinion from you. (more…)

Jan
13

Fabcast: Gray Areas In the Gay Life, Part 2

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We conclude the fabcast on gray areas in this part. We start off wrapping up the gray area between a gay guy and a straight guy. “May mga taong straight talaga!” Naman! Also, you will hear Jojo & Jay’s situation who, during the podcast recording, were sweeter than sugar to each other. They are contemplating a soon-to-be long distance relationship despite the fact that they just met each other 7 days before. This and more, in the concluding part of “Gray Areas In the Gay Life.”

Listen: (32 min 28 sec)

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Music credits: “Forbidden Love” by Madonna; “Use Somebody” by Bat For Lashes; “Bad Romance” by Lady Gaga; and “Trouble Is A Friend” by Lenka. Podcast Production by McVie.

Jan
03

Fabcast: Gray Areas In the Gay Life, Part 1

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Fabcasters The Fabcasters are on a roll! Here’s another podcast by the Fabcasters and their well-chosen peanut gallery, on gray areas in the gay life. What is a gray area? Anlabo `no? Precisely! It’s neither here nor there, neither black nor white, it’s gray. We start discussing gray areas in the realm of relationships, “situationships,” popularized among the Fabcasters by Corp Closet. We each took a shot of lambanog before recording this session — so prepare for a rowdy set of Fabcasters!

Listen (24 min 38 sec):

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Podcast production by McVie.

Jan
02

Ang Puso, Nakakatawang Nakakaasar.

Love and Dating, Migs Speaks 11 comments

Nakakatawang nakakaasar ang puso. Minsan pakiramdam ko, ang ligalig niya. Di mapakali. May gustong landiin, pero nagpapakamayumi, a la Maria Clara. Ansarap ng pakiramdam. Nakakakilig. Pero sa totoo lang, wala naman talaga yun, kasi di niya alam na gusto ko siya. Hindi niya alam na nung nakilala ko siya, may nakanti siyang damdaming — lingid man sa kanyang kaalaman — naghahanap ng mamahalin.

Balik tayo sa puso kong maligalig. Nakakatuwa, kasi may naitatagong lakas pa pala ang pusong ito. May asim pa, ika nga. Kaya pa pala niyang kiligin, kaya pa pala niyang pasayahin ang sarili niya. Kaya pa rin kaya niyang magpasaya ng iba?

Pero, nakakaasar din ang pusong ito. Bakit? Dahil alam naman niyang desedido na ako. Ayoko ng magmahal. Oo, narinig ninyo yan. Ang plano ko, na sa 2010, okay na ako. Tapos na ako. I’ve gone deep, I’ve embraced love, I’ve dived in, all the way, over my head even, experienced it fully and completely. And so I say, “Alright now, I’m done, I’ve earned my right to detach from that thing called romantic love.” And, you know what? Saying that feels like being realistic. Pero, putcha. Ayan, pumasok na naman si puso. And everything crumbles back to the same old me.

Ang puso nga naman, nakakatawang nakakaasar.

Dec
28

Fabcast: Malamig Ba Ang Pasko Mo? Part 1

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Malamig daw ang Pasko ng mga bading na walang jowa. Join the Fabcasters and their peanut gallery as they attempt to discuss how it is to be single during the season of love. Go!

Listen: (16 min 16 sec)

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Dec
18

Pasko at ang nagbalik na seaman

Letters, Love and Dating 44 comments

Dear Migs and all MGG readers,

Bunga lang ba ng malamig na temperatura sa panahon ng Pasko at may mga tao na bigla na lang gugulo ng buhay mo o sadyang mahilig lang talagang mang-asar ang tadhana?

Itong nakaraang linggo ay sunod-sunod ang mga di inaasahang pangyayari na sadyang nagpa-tambling ng isip ko’t damdamin. I have been seeing someone for almost several months now and have been quietly developing a deepening relationship with him. All the proper steps toward furthering the relationship are already there. We see each other almost every day and we still feel na kulang pa. He knows my family, I know his. We’re total opposites. I, an independent and self-employed individual in an extremely creative job and he, a pencil-pusher and is upwardly mobile in a corporate job. He’s highly-strung. I am as laid back as a feather flying freely in the soft wind. Despite the differences we’ve slowly built a good harmony. I am his ying, he’s my yang. Last week, I already gave him a copy of the keys to my apartment. (This is something I have never done before and is a huge step for me.) Things are going smoothly until… (more…)

Dec
16

Abrazos in New York City (3)

Love and Dating, Migs Speaks 23 comments

airplane Back in college, there was this one moment I particularly remember when Joseph and I was killing time in our tambayan in UP. I remember how happy we were that time, for reasons that escape me now. What made that day memorable was, as we were talking, exchanging stories, somebody called our attention.

“Huy, Migs! Joseph! Ang sweet ninyo naman, magka-holding hands pa kayo.”

And there we were, both surprised, holding our breath and wondering how it all happened unconsciously– my right hand in his left, spaces between my fingers filled by his, interlocked. (more…)