Manila Gay Guy

Now, an update from Migs

migs — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:24:45 +0000

It’s been exactly 2 weeks since I arrived here in the US. Dalawang linggo na pag-a-adjust (maulan ang Bay Area these past weeks), sa bagong bahay, bagong trabaho, bagong workplace, bagong environment, and yes, bagong set of friends din. I treasure all these new things, even those that make me a bit uncomfortable, because they give me that diversity of experiences I need so I can better prepare myself to be the person I want to be in the future. On the other hand, there is joy in swimming with the current, going with the flow, and riding the tide. Hindi man kumportable na magpaanod sa mga bagong daloy ng aking kinaroroonan, may sayang mapapala sa pakikipaglaro sa bawat nitong liko’t ligwak.

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Last Friday, I met someone.

Isa sa mga na-resolve ko na gawin sa aking pagtuntong dito sa Amerika ay ang magkaroon ng mga bagong kaibigan. Marami akong iniwang mga mahal na kaibigan sa Pilipinas, at sa aking pag-alis, noon ko naramdaman ang labis na ligayang naidudulot ng pagkakaroon ng marami, sari-sari, at mga tapat na kaibigan, iyong may pagkakaibigang walang pag-iimbot, buong pusong pagtanggap sa isa’t isa. Kaya naman, sabi ko sa sarili ko, dito sa Amerika, magkakaroon ako muli ng mga ganoong kaibigan.

Last Friday, I met Raffy. Pinoy din, US citizen, pero sa Pilipinas nag-aral. Unang-una kita ko pa lang sa kanya, pansin ko na ang tamis ng ngiti niya. His smile can light up the whole Philippines (siyempre ine-exag ko lang). Pero seriously, that was my first impression of him — such a sunny, carefree personality. (At siyempre it helps na tisoy siya, guwapo, at matangkad – LOL) We went to a Starbucks near his house, and after the usual intro chit-chat, we discovered we knew common friends, which was a really good thing. Tipo bang di kami naubusan ng topics to talk about. He asked that we continue our conversation while walking the streets of downtown because he wanted to show me around as well. As early as that time I was beginning to feel na may paroroonan kaming dalawa ni Raffy.

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Madaldal si Raffy, in a good way. In a very good way. While walking around downtown, naikuwento na yata niya sa akin ang bawat miyembro ng pamilya niya, mga kaibigan niyang iniwan din sa Pilipinas, at marami pang iba. Habang nagkukuwento siya, taimtim lang akong nakikinig. Ansarap ng may kausap ng tagalog, isip-isip ko. Pero more than that, ramdam ko ang sincerity ng friendship ni Raf. Parang tiwalang-tiwala na siya sa akin. It feels good to be the recipient of such trust. So willingly, without even being so conscious about it, I also shared with him some aspects of my life. And no, not the melodramatic kind of sharing. But really those deep things that you don’t just share right away to acquaintances.

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As we continued our walk and our talk, he suggested to change location –

“Tara, Migs, let’s go to this park I know. Maganda dun, at malapit lang. Tahimik, surrounded by nature. Dun tayo magkuwentuhan pa.”

And so we went. It turned out, you’ll later find out, it was a key step we took.

[to be continued]

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The Mesmerizing Men of Marino

migs — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:56:12 +0000

Kayod marino? Hagod marino? Well, just enjoy these masculine marine men — all featured in a new film by Paul Sta. Ana, “Marino.”

Premiere night is scheduled on February 16; regular showing starts on February 17 in select theaters.

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Busy Preparing the First Draft of MGG the book

migs — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 03:04:48 +0000

Saturday afternoon till evening… busy, busy on my laptop, preparing the first draft of MGG the book… I’m excited how it will turn out! Your suggestions are welcome!

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Caption This

migs — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:17:15 +0000

Crank your brain up… Poke your creativity… Caption this photo!

(Photo found in John Logic’s Facebook Album.)

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Presenting… Farzam Nasirian

migs — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:29:02 +0000

Enjoy these photos of FARZAM NASIRIAN, Mister International Philippines 2009 – 2nd Runner Up.

For project offers to Farzam, you may contact Mell Navarro at 09267342286. Photo credits: Ian Felix Alquiros.

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Today

migs — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 11:24:34 +0000

Today, I fly to my new home in California. I am very excited with all the new possibilities this move will afford me, yet I am also overwhelmed by the outpouring of expressions of love from friends who I will be leaving behind here in the Philippines. It is amazing how the human heart can hold opposing emotions at the same time! Rather than harping on the sadness of leaving my beloved friends behind, I am focusing on being totally blown away by their love. Friendship is such a wonderful gift. Thank you, thank you, thank you. May our bonds get stronger, may our friendships be forever.

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Suspend the Disbelief, Savor the Experience

migs — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:00:15 +0000

When you kissed me, for whatever reason, you did it as if it were real. As if we waited a thousand years and travelled a million miles to finally connect. As if your very life was caused by the vision of this magical moment, when our lips touched and caressed each other. Suspend whatever disbelief you may have, let all eyes staring at us dissolve in the darkest of nights, and make this kiss as intense as when the universe started from an infinitesimal singularity. And when finally our mouths meet, feel the power of twenty thousand horses charging, barging, rolling, exploding; and then gradually, like multi-colored ribbon swirling in the air slowly descending into the grays of a dry, windless evening, it tapers into a tender touch at my nape, crawling to my cheeks, eyes slowly waking to the reality of an empty, meaningless kiss. Life moves on as if nothing happened, yet my spirit is bursting with a wonderful memory of an experience savored to the last drop.

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This post is dedicated to everyone in my send off party last night. Soju (the Korean rice wine) is to blame for the thousand-and-one kisses that were given and received that evening. Enjoy!

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“Okay lang ba ang cruising?”

migs — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 17:11:52 +0000

Hi migs! Happy 2010 nga pala! With that being said, I wish you, and your avid readers a prosperous 2010 ahead. Maraming beses kong pinag-isipan ang pagsulat ko sayo dahil baka isipin ng iba na wala namang kwenta ang problema ko. I know for one that it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to answer my questions. Pero I also believe na sometimes we still ask the questions to the answers we already know, because I think in reality, those are the answers hard for us to bare in ourselves. Anyways, simple lang naman talaga ang problema ko. Gusto ko lang din malaman kung meron bang ibang mga gay o bisexual ang gumagawa ng ginagawa ko.. ( eto na yun! lol. )

I travel a lot everyday, kasi I live almost a couple of hours away from our school, which is in the city. Minsan ginagabi na ako sa pag-uwi, minsan late na talaga, o kaya naman madaling araw lalo na kung galing sa inuman with friends sa city. Ang problema ko is nagkakaroon ako ng lakas ng loob na makipagkilala sa mga strangers na nakakasalubong ko on my way home. Basta medyo type ko ang guy, at wala syang kasamang iba, lalo na pag wala nang tao sa paligid, kinikilala ko agad sya at inaaya na mag-sex kami. Gustong gusto ko siyang gawin dahil sa excitement na nararamdaman ko. Pero kapag nakaraos na ako at nawala na ang libog ko, nanliliit ako. Naiisip ko kung gaano ako ka dumi dahil sa ginagawa ko. Hindi naman talaga natutuloy sa sex ang pakikigpakilala ko, madalas nauuwi ito sa pagjajakol ko in public places na tago. Bilang na bilang lang din talaga ang encounters ko with those people na nakilala ko na nauuwi sa hipoan lang. Ang gusto ko lang malaman kong ginagawa din ba ito nga ibang PLUs. Normal ba to sa mga taong katulad natin? OK lang ba talaga ang mag-CRUISE para makakilala ng lalaking mapagbubuntunan ng libog? Sana po malaman ko ang opinyon ng ibang PLUs sa situation kong ito. I would really appreciate any attention given to my concern. SALAMAT PO TALAGA! God bless you always. From Cebu Wanderer

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Dear Cebu Wanderer,

Sigurado maraming opinyon ang mababasa mo bilang comments sa liham mong ito; kahit pa karamihan sa mga magbibigay ng kanilang opinyon ay mga PLU rin tulad natin, sigurado ako, iba’t iba ang opinyon nila. May mga sang-ayon, meron din kontra. May okay lang, di mo matanto kung ano ba talaga ang stand nila. Pero ang suma total, siguradong walang iisang sagot sa katanungan mong “Okay lang ba ang cruising?”

I’m sure you yourself asked the same question to yourself. And perhaps you’re confused, kaya napag-isipan mong magtanong. Kung ang pagbabasehan mo ng sagot ay iyong dami ng tatango sa iyo, hmmm… ito ba ay isang popularity contest? Kapag ba ang isang bagay ay popular (tinatanguan ng karamihan) ang ibig bang sabihin ay tama ito?

Ang punto ko lang, ukol sa katanungan mo, ay ganito. Ito ay isa sa mga katanungang mas mainam na ikaw ang sumagot at may pansarili kang paninindigan. Siguro makakatulong sa iyong pagsagot ay ang pagtatanong ng iba pang katanungan tulad ng:

Masaya ba ako pag nagcu-cruise ako? Safe ba ako?
Ano ba talaga ang hanap ko sa pagcu-cruise?
Ano ba ang iba pang paraan na makukuha ko ang hinahanap kong bagay sa pagcu-cruise?

Pag-isipan mo ang mga tanong na iyan. Pero, gusto ko rin sanang bigyan ka ng kung ano ang naiisip ko. Nasabi mo na ang pagcu-cruise para sa iyo ay para makahanap ng lalakeng mapagbubuntunan ng libog. Walang masama sa pagiging malibog. Ano naman ang kaso kung talagang active ang hormones mo, kung malakas ang sexual drive mo? Okay lang yun. Wala ka namang inaabala o inaagrabyado di ba? Pero may nasabi ka rin na pagkatapos ng inyong sexual encounter ay pakiramdam mo, nanliliit ka. Tipo bang may halong hiya sa sarili. Pakiramdam mo ba ay madumi ang sex? Madumi ang pakikipag-sex sa isang taong di gaanong kakilala? O dahil sa kapwa lalake ito?

Sana mas malinawan ka kung saan nanggagaling yung “shame” o guilt feelings mo. Normal na maramdaman yan, pero mas mabuti kung naiintindihan mo upang mas malaman mo kung mayroon ka bang dapat gawin, baguhin, o i-adjust sa iyong ginagawa, o sa iyong paniniwala.

Salamat sa iyong sulat, Cebu Wanderer. I wish you clarity and strength of character.

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Fabcast: The Fabcasters’ New Year Party

migs — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:27:57 +0000

Instead of throwing a Christmas Party, the Fabcasters decided to throw a New Year Party for our friends (and readers/listeners who have become friends) and it was a BLAST! We got a beautiful, old house tucked in a neighborhood in Sampaloc and turned it into the most fabulous party venue ever. In this podcast, the Fabcasters regrouped to say thanks to everyone who graced the event. You will also be able to hear audio clips recorded by McVie during the party proper. Listen (33 min), and virtually join us in reliving that fabulous, fabulous party. Perhaps, join us next year? Tara!

Download this fabcast (right click and save – 30.4 MB)

PLUS: we also debut in this Fabcast our new opening music, created by DJ Brian Cua and Joel McVie. Truly fab! Music credits: “Saturday Night” by Ned’s Atomic Dustbin; “Kiss Me” by Sixpence None The Richer; “Don’t Stop Believing (Brian Cua Goodnight Tribal Mix)” by the Glee! Cast

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Holding Hands in Public

migs — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 06:37:04 +0000

Two very butch (straight-acting, “walang bahid”) gay guys holding hands in public. Sa Starbucks ko kinunan ang dalawang napaka-sweet na couple. They are my friends Jay and Jojo (refer to the last Fabcast on “Gray Areas” for their love story). I’m interested to hear your thoughts about gay couples who are into public display of affection. What do you think?

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