One thing I’m so thankful for, being in almost constant company of other gay men, is that I can enjoy so-called “music for the culturati” and find others enjoying the same, getting even just a bit giddy over the same song otherwise unappreciated by my straight friends. Oh, I love my gay friends!
I would just like to tell you of an unbelievable misfortune that befell me. It happened to me because I was gay, It happened to me because I wanted love, It happened to me because there are so many heartless people in the world, and so many naive people (like me).
I am young and inexperienced, I have been a closeted gay guy all my life. Never had a BF (or GF), never kissed anyone, never dated anyone. My youth was completely love-less. Which is an irony because I am an extremely loving person.
I am a fresh college graduate, and I come from a considerably privileged background. I’ve had my hands in the stock market and I have made significant money for myself in my first year after college. In addition, I have concluded a big real-eastate deal as a sales agent earning a large commission. I had been both a stock market Investor and a real-estate agent in my first year after college.
I’ve made 200k on my own, on my first year after college.
It was 9 months ago from now that my unbelievable misfortune started. I was lazily browsing through a male escort blog admiring the possibilities. I’ve never had any experience, so the mere thought of seeing a guy shirtless in person fascinated me. Yeah… I was that deprived.
I recognized one guy, not because I was attracted, there was absolutely no attraction, but I recognized him… from a bikini contest album I saw on facebook. Believing most of the guys in this blog are fake, I contacted this one guy to ask him if he’s the same person from the contest. If he is genuine and a real person.
I recall him to be rude, not even entertaining my offer of a free lunch. Feeling the weight of my pocket, I irresponsibly thought of offering him 1k free goodwill money. But before I could type that, I received a text from him saying his rate was 3k. I was stunned how expensive this ‘rate’ is. But feeling dumb and bold, I told him i’d match that 3k as a goodwill money, free money, I want no service in return just his goodwill towards me. I sent the money first thing the next morning.
I’ll be in Cebu on September 22, 2012 to provide an initial briefing to potential volunteers of Love Yourself. It will be the first area of expansion of Love Yourself (TLY) outside Metro Manila. I would like to encourage those who are willing to help our gay/bisexual community to please join us and be among the pioneering members of TLY-Cebu. The only hard requirement is a big heart who wants to help — no need for previous volunteer work experience. Just the heart, that’s enough!
Join us, register here: http://www.loveyourself.ph/p/join.html
We restart the discussion with Jason, our dear idealistic peanut gallery member, challenging the “open relationship” setup of Joel & Dan — “are you not enough for each other?”
And for the rest of the fabcast, we continue building up on our collective but quite diverse understanding of gay relationships. Come join the discussion!
â€œLove Me For A Reasonâ€ by Boyzone
â€œLove Is For Singingâ€ by the Apo Hiking Society
â€œTurn Up The Radioâ€ by Madonna
â€œA Different Point Of Viewâ€ by the Pet Shop Boys
All Fabcasters have jowa at this moment and we discuss issues swirling about being “in a relationship” — this first part tackle’s McVie and Dan’s being in an open relationship. Keri ninyo bang makipag-do sa iba kahit na may jowa ka? Pakinggan!
I started this blog exactly 6 years ago, on August 28, 2006. Thank you to all who make up the community surrounding this blog. Being its blogger has changed me and the landscape of my life. Love you all, and WORLD PEACE!
For people who are yet unsure about their sexual preference, or fearing that they might be gay, it means a lot to be able to connect to someone, especially a kindred soul. Here’s an opportunity for you –
I am organizing a small group (5-7 pax) of discreet and/or closeted guys (including those who are bi-curious or questioning) for a meet-up and discussion sometime this September. If you are interested, please fill out this form: http://tinyurl.com/discreetmeet
If you have questions, feel free to email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
What this suggests is that we gay men are at a severe disadvantage for successful relationships. Can this explain why so few of us have long-term, much less lifelong relationships? What do you think?
[Text source: The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs, Ph.D.]
Queer Manila attempts to create a visual discussion around gender and sexuality within local contexts and internationalised LGBT discourse. It explores the understandings, misunderstandings, conflicts, humours, loves, eroticisms, deviances, spectacles, and dilemmas within Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual and Transgender identities.
Identity and gender have always been in processes of flux, subjected to numerous influences and social behaviours that change over time, creating different sites for cultures, politics, psychologies, spiritualities and biologies to define who we are. The show, therefore, is about activating and including multiple audiences in a visual conversation about how we look, exchange ideas and comment on gender and sexuality within LGBT communities. It is about processes of othering and reclaiming, through contemporary artâ€™s ability to share, question, and develop these identities. As such, artists have been invited to contribute personal stories, as well as comment on the notion of body politics, activism and culture across generations through various media.
To compliment the exhibition and diversify this conversation, a programme of performances, films, talks and events has been organised that will take place in the gallery over the duration of the exhibition. For a summary of this program, see the schedule below:
25 August, 2-9PM
Performances by Maya Munoz in collaboration with Julie Tolentino, Jef Carnay, Martin Lorenzo de Mesa and Roselle Pineda, with a poetry reading by Danton Remoto, Chairman Emeritus of Ang Ladlad
FILM PROGRAMME (Upstairs Gallery)
Pagdadalaga ni Maximo Oliveros (2005)
Directed by Aureus Solito and written by Michiko Yamamoto. Produced by UFO Pictures.
September 9 and 16, 1PM
Directed by Jade Castro, also co-written with Raymond Lee, Michiko Yamamoto.
September 9 and 16, 3PM
EVENTS AND TALKS
Book signing by J. Neil C. Garcia (Editor) of â€œAuraâ€: The Gay Theme in Philippine Fiction in English
A collection of gay-themed short stories and novel excerpts from Philippine fictionists in English. Featuring the works of Jose Garcia Villa, Bienvenido N. Santos, NVM Gonzalez, Nick Joaquin, and Edith L. Tiempo etc.
September 1, 5PM
Talk by Enzo Camacho + Amy Lien
Sharing their processes as creative partners and performers
September 8, 12NN
Hubad: Mga Kwento ng Kalayaan
Guerilla theater event by LeAP! (Lesbian Activists Philippines)
Venue is Whitespace in Pasong Tamo Ext., Makati: MAP HERE
Gusto mo bang makatulong? As long as you have the heart, come join us. Love Yourself is expanding in Metro Manila, Cebu, and Davao. Tara, join! Trainings start in September.
The Love Yourself (TLY) group is a community-based organization that propagates ideas, attitudes, and practices that encourage loving oneself as a way of life, now specifically as a way to prevent the spread of HIV/AIDS among the MSM community (men who have sex with men), the youth, and other key, most at-risk populations in the Philippines.
â€œFacilitatorâ€ is our general term for people who volunteer with us as peer counselor or peer educator.Â We believe that the best behavior influencers are our own peers, and that is why we are growing our network of volunteers who are willing to be just that.
Here at Love Yourself, we greatly value volunteer work.Â While given for free, volunteer work need not be shoddy, â€œpuwede na,â€ and half-hearted. In fact, Love Yourself facilitators are known to be energetic, warm, and very competent! All facilitators of Love Yourself are given continual training, coaching, and mentoring so they can in turn provide professional, topnotch service to the community.
Our groupâ€™s success during its first year of operation has created great trust, cooperation, and strategic partnerships with other HIV prevention groups.Â Thus, Love Yourself is now preparing to go on a national scale.Â Starting September 2012, we will be expanding our reach and focus to 5 metropolitan cities in the country â€“ Manila, Makati, Quezon City, Cebu, and Davao. Hence the call for facilitators.
For those who are interested to join, following are the required qualifications:
- Sincere, courageous heart to actively help in HIV education and prevention;
- Gay, bisexual, or self-identifies as part of the MSM community;
- Well-educated professional who is able (or willing to learn) to lead others in learning sessions and other similar activities.
You do not need to be an experienced facilitator, educator, or counselor — we will train you for the job. Facilitator candidates who have their own source of income are preferred, given that the work we do as Love Yourself Facilitators doesnâ€™t provide any financial remuneration. There is no minimum number of hours to render, but do expect to volunteer about 8 hours of your time, once or twice a month, particularly during weekends.
To express your intent to join the Love Yourself Facilitator Network, fill out the application form at http://loveyourself.ph/join