dear migs (aaaargh!),
i am a bit confused right now and thought, well, why not get someone elseâ€™s opinion? simply put, i started going to bed (twice now) with a friend and colleague of four years. problem is, we never talk about it afterwards, pretending nothing out of the ordinary happened. and we carry on as usual â€” good friends enjoying each otherâ€™s company. and i hate the uncertainty of it. what are we? friends? fuck buddies (hardly. weâ€™ve done it twice lang)? friends with fringe benefits?
his name is josh and he was my former staff. i was attracted to him the first time we met in 2006 but i kept my feelings in check because my mantra then was â€wag magkalat sa sariling bakuranâ€. i am in my early 40s; he is 31. we quickly became good friends because we shared a lot of interests (of course it helped that he is goodlooking and funny and smart).