Manila Gay Guy

Migs,

I want to give my reaction to your podcast entitled Homosexuality and Religion. I am a person struggling with same-sex attraction (SSA) but I don’t consider myself gay in the sense that I’m not into the gay lifestyle now. I may have been before but that was a totally different story. And oh yes I still struggle with chastity issues right now and that’s how real it can get.

I just want to reiterate that the Catholic Church does not condemn me or you for being “gay”. In fact, the Catholic Church has an apostolate catering to people with SSA and it is called Courage. You can visit www.couragerc.net for more details. And yes I am a member of that organization.

Our group is a support group and we help each other live a chaste life. We don’t claim that sooner or later we will all become heterosexuals, etc. Nothing of that sort. Instead, we are responding to God’s call to live a life of chastity and that means for many of us turning away from the gay lifestyle and confronting our deepest issues as courageously as we can be.

Honestly that is the most difficult part for us – renouncing our sinful ways and letting the Lord take control. It’s hard and it’s real. It’s not easy but it is possible Migs.
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I was not able to stop it. I was trying to hold the topic off as long as I could but it was no longer possible. I had to give in. The podcast has been recorded. The topic: “Religion and the Gay Guys” errr… maybe this title here is better: “Homosexuality and Religion — how do you reconcile them?”

This has got to be the the podcast with the most number of people in attendance. The whole Fabcaster gang was present (Gibbs, McVie, Tony, CC, AJ, and moi) plus guests Dennis, James, and Senan (AJ’s boyfriend). Nine folks gabbing so this is indeed a riot — but because of the topic, I’d say this one is among the most substantial podcast we’ve recorded. That being said, I invite you: listen to this podcast, reflect and genuflect, and comment away answering the million-dollar question: how do you reconcile your homosexuality and your religion?

Streaming podcast and MP3 downloads after the jump.
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[Conrado de Quiros on sex outside marriage, and gay love. As usual with de Quiros -- beautiful, beautiful article. Here's an excerpt.]

“The idea of a couple, married or not, having sex in order to procreate is hilarious. It conjures the image of them hard at it (no pun intended for the male partner), enduring the ordeal, determined only like soldiers pinned down in trenches to persevere out of a sense of duty and finally to break through in one great rush. What a perverse and joyless act that is. I doubt any Christian, short of an ascetic, will fill the bill.

“Whatever happened to love? Whatever happened to ecstasy? Whatever happened to two people, straight or gay, bonded by feelings that cannot be expressed by words, needing to express themselves to each other by flinging themselves into each other’s arms and surrendering themselves into a consummation devoutly to be wished? Surely that is part of the magic of life?

“Which brings me to the argument that the Church is not proscribing against gays, it is merely proscribing against gays acting as gays, or that it is not demanding that gays do not get attracted to other gays, it is merely demanding that gays do not act on it. I don’t know about you but I found Ang Lee’s “Brokeback Mountain” to be an honest-to-goodness love story, ranking up there with “When Harry Met Sally” and “Sleepless in Seattle.” Gays do fall in love too, and what I figure is unnatural is to compel them on the ground that it is perverse or that they cannot procreate to abort it. There is nothing more natural than love in whatever form it takes. Sex is not overrated, procreation is. Demanding that gays feel but not fulfill is not Christian, it is sadistic.”

[Thanks to Mugen for the lead.]

I love OFWs. Why not naman, they are our country’s silent heroes. So when I received this letter from Tsinitoboy of the United Arab Emirates, I published it right away! It’s not a typical “I have a problem” letter, rather it is a sincere sharing of thoughts, happenings, and feelings. Pasalubungan natin ng masigabong palakpakan ang liham na ito mula sa isang kapatid na nagta-trabaho sa UAE, at kung maari, aking pakiusap po lamang, na bigyang pugay siya sa pamamagitan ng pagbati at pag-iiwan ng komento sa post na ito. Mabuhay ang mga OFW! Mahal ko kayo! I love you from the bottom of my hypothalamus!

Hi Migs,

I’m an OFW working in the UAE and I’m an avid reader of blog. Ever since I discovered your site, no day seems to past without me checking on your site. It has become a habit of mine to start my daily routine by looking at your site if there are any updates or comments. What I find amusing is actually the comment section on each of your post (I also like the way you tastefully present naked men & other mind tickling topics). Wherein some of your readers engage in a battle of wits through debates (I’ve been into one just lately on the topic of “Gays go to Hell”) or just plainly taunting each other like a bunch of gay kids. I would like to share to you our lives here working in the desert sands.
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If we believe what the traditional Catholic teachings say about people who engage in homosexual acts, then we can conclude that sexually active gays go to hell. (Aba, ang hell pala ay parang isang napakalaking Malate, or Puerto Galera during Holy Week! Hehehe!). Well, here’s a sharing by a young MGG reader about his reflections on sprituality and homosexuality. Read on and feel free to share your thoughts as well.

Hi Migs,

Before proceeding to the real purpose of this email, I would like to begin by introducing myself as Drew. I am a junior at the Ateneo de Manila University. Though I’ve probably known about my homosexuality since I could remember, I have only come to a deeper acceptance and understanding of it over the past 2 years. You see, I come from a religious and spiritual family which is probably why I gave, and am still giving, a great importance to dealing and coming into terms with my issues about being homosexual vis-a-vis my religion, more so, my relationship with God.

Introductions aside, I emailed you because it has come to my attention how the topic of the homosexual act being viewed as a sin is touched, discussed, and reacted to by many of your subscribers and our fellow gay brothers/ sisters.
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Gibbs, McVie, and AJ have all written about it, and I am writing about it too, so you dear MGG readers can share your intelligent opinions here.

“Real issue in video is gay sex.” – Cebu Priest

The article (excerpt only, copied from McVie): For an official of the Roman Catholic Church, the commission of a homosexual act is the real issue behind the rectal surgery in Cebu City that exploded into a scandal on YouTube.

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Lots of people doubt my dear Enchong Dee’s sexuality. According to him though, he’s straight. He attests to it, and yet people don’t stop talking. They say dear Enchong’s homosexuality is dormant, sleeping, just like him in the above picture.

But… just like Enchong in this pic, if they are correct, that homosexuality will eventually wake up. If not now, in the future. Or has it already? Before you answer, be sure check out the following pics.
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Late bloomer – that’s the term we usually use to describe those people who explored their homosexuality a little later than usual. This is the case of JC, our letter sender for today. JC is set to get married to his girlfriend of 4 years early next year, when he recently met the to-be-wife’s gorgeous hunky cousin Daryl. In short, Daryl turned JC’s world upside down, and the to-be-husband is naturally confused. The question: should he risk his wedding plans to give himself a chance to explore his dormant homosexual tendencies? Or should he shut the feelings up, and go straight on with his heterosexual plans?

Hi Migs,

I chance upon your site while surfing today. Wonderful site for gay people. I feel so comfortable with your site. I was able to read the letter of fatboyslim and some of the advices that were given to him by your readers (some are rude) that I decided to share to you my problem and hopefully I will be able to get some advice from you and your readers.

I am John, friends call me JC, 29 years old and currently connected with a call center here in Ortigas. I have a girlfriend for 4 years now, and we’re planning to get married early next year. I love her for God knows how long, (we’ve been together since high school) and I know she will be the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.

The problem started last December.
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If you feel attracted to members of the same sex, or both sexes, but need to feel like you have accepted it within yourself, here is a guide to help you. You have found out your sexual orientation, and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are – and being proud of who you are – is the next step on the road to coming out of the closet, and eventually to having a successful gay or lesbian relationship. Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person.

In this guide, the term gay has been used to include all forms of homosexuality and bisexuality, whether that be people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or pansexual.
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(Puerto Galera, 22 March 2008.) Whiling away the time before partying last night here in what seems to be the gay ghetto this time of year, gay friends and I were talking about random stuff over spiked Four Seasons. Then, Jim (not his real name), a newcomer to the group decided to open up to us his newfound gay friends. His was an amazing story —
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